Barry Barclay Holmes
1939 - 2019
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RAYMOND - Barry Barclay Holmes, 80, of Raymond, died on August 30, 2019, after a brave battle with brain cancer. He passed away at his home on Sebago Lake with his wife by his side. Barry was born April 7, 1939 in St. Paul, Minn., where he was raised by his parents, Catherine and Robert Holmes, along with his three brothers, King, Robert and Eugene and sister, Robin. Barry was a devoted husband and father, passionate sailor and wine connoisseur, who loved tennis, golf and skiing. He and his wife, Brenda, travelled around the world on multiple adventures. He was an enthusiastic supporter of the Portland Stage Company and served on their board for many years. He was a strong advocate and active promotor for nuclear energy. Barry received his B.S. from Lehigh University and a M.S. and Ph.D. from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (M.I.T.). He taught at the University of Stuttgart in Germany before entering the business world. His distinguished career as a metals engineer and quality control expert started at Uniroyal Tire Company, continued on at Volkswagen of America, United Technologies and Allied Signal. He started his own consulting company, DCn while still a student at M.I.T. and continued to consult after he retired. Barry is survived by his wife, Brenda Pearson Holmes; and his daughters, Jessica Cardinali and Caroline Hybels, sons-in-law, Tony Cardinali and David Hybels; and four grandchildren, Lydia, Ashley, Jared and Grayson.His family will honor and celebrate his life privately. In lieu of flowers, donations to American Cancer Society and Portland State Company.

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Published in Portland Press Herald/Maine Sunday Telegram on Sep. 2, 2019.
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March 31, 2020
My wife (Roxanne) and I send our condolences to Barr's family. I was Barry's fraternity brother and fellow metallurgy student at Lehigh and later at MIT...many fond memories.
G. Tipton and Roxanne Galyon
G. Tipton Galyon
September 10, 2019
The Holmes Family 2018 - on their dock on Sebago Lake, Maine
Love you always Dad...<3
Jessica Cardinali
September 8, 2019
To the Holmes Family
Iam so glad I got to meet you, your dad, and husband was an awesome man even thru all he had to endure. Brenda you are a strong woman you and your family are forever in my mind. Whenever I think of you I will say alittle prayer,and think fondly of you all.❤
Tracy Berry
September 8, 2019
I believe that every soul traveling through this world is precious and unique. Some, however, just stand out above the rest.

For me, Barry Holmes was one of these extraordinary souls.

A man who fully embraced all that life had to offer. From his early adventures with Brenda around the world... through his career and building a family... and even through to his last days. Seemingly fearless. Always giving. Always present. Always genuinely interested in others' lives and stories.

I have three stand-out memories of Barry.

First: The man made one helluva martini. One of the first times I visited the Holmes', he offered me a martini. Being his niece's new boyfriend at the time, trying to fit in with the local customs, of course I accepted. Half way through the drink, I stood up and nearly fell over. Soon after I pulled Amanda aside and begged her to help me finish the drink.

Second: The potato cannon. I believe during that same visit, he was compelled to roll out the potato cannon. Again, having never visited the lakes and mountains people" of Maine, I went along. It was So cool! We risked life and limb to fire a potato into the side of a giant evergreen 100 feet away. Childish? Maybe. Incredibly satisfying? Absolutely.

Third: My last solo sail with him. While vacationing on Sebago, he invited me over for a sail. It was just the two of us. It's not insignificant to prepare and launch a sailboat for a trip, so I was honored that Barry was willing to do this. He was always generous like that. The weather was perfect. The beer was refreshing. The conversation was thoughtful. I sometimes regret not taking photos that day, but in a way that makes my memory of the day even better.

Barry, I will miss your presence here in our world. I feel fortunate that our paths crossed. Your soul's energy is still with those of us who were lucky enough to have you in our lives.

"It is not the ship so much as the skillful sailing that assures the prosperous voyage. George William Curtis
Ethan Kiczek
September 5, 2019
Barry was a loving and welcoming person, always with a sparkle in his eye. He loved a good debate, loved great wine, and of course loved it when they both occurred at the same time! I can think of many adjectives to describe him, but the one that comes to mind quickest is GENEROUS. He was generous with himself, generous with his fortunes, and generous with his spirit. Whether it was sailing, discussing the political issues of the day, or recounting his many wild adventures, time spent with Barry was to be savored. While sad to see him pass, I will treasure the many wonderful memories of time spent with my uncle-in-law. Thank you for making my life better Bear! - Love always, Ed
Ed Soares
September 4, 2019
Farewell sweet Bear. You leave behind a trove of beautiful memories that will continue to lift up our hearts, as you did in life. We grieve your loss, but the presence of your spirit remains with us, and consoles us, letting us know that you are sailing amongst the brightest stars in the heavens, a broad smile on your face, those twinkles in your eyes, at rest far beyond the sunsets and those peaceful shores where we shall all be together again. With love and gratitude for the great gift that you were in our lives, fair winds and following seas, Uncle Bear, always.
Elizabeth Soares
September 2, 2019
"No Regrets" was my Dad's motto (He was known to many as "The Bear")
Words simply can not express how much I love this man ... he was and always will be my hero and his incredible spirit will certainly live on though all the people who loved him and the wonderful memories we made with him. I know he his drinking a great glass of Pinot Noir and sailing into the sunset up in heaven. ❤
Jessica Holmes Cardinali
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