BARRY S. HARSIP
1951 - 2020
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HARSIP, Barry S. On December 3, 2020, Barry Stephen Harsip, age 69, lost a brave and very painful battle with a terminal neurological disease. This tragic loss is exceptionally heartbreaking because of the number of lives he touched in such memorable and meaningful ways. His quick wit, unique sense of humor and generosity of spirit had an effortless way of bringing people together. Those who had the honor of knowing him would often say that they were better for having known him. As husband, father, brother, advocate, teammate, coach, mentor and friend he will be sorely missed. He leaves his beloved wife Lisa DiMarco Harsip and adult children Adam and Jamie Harsip, whom he cherished. He also leaves his sister Janice Harsip Hurwitz, brother Herbert F. Harsip, nieces, nephews, cousins and countless friends, peers and acquaintances. A gathering and Celebration of Barry's Life will be held in the spring. In lieu of flowers, Barry requested donations made either to Southern Poverty Law Center, www.splcenter.org or the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, www.ushmm.org For Barry's obituary and online guestbook, visit: www.concordfuneral.com

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Published in Boston Globe from Dec. 11 to Dec. 13, 2020.
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January 10, 2021
It's no wonder that I'll never forget Barry even though I only spent a few hours with him. That is the kind of person he was, making lasting impressions on people, no matter how small the opportunity was. In the short time we spent together, we talked about business, philosophy, sports, history, trips, paintings, and, of course, he told a few stories. He was truly special. I wish the very best to his family.
Balint Gyimesi
Acquaintance
January 9, 2021
Barry was an inspiration to everyone he touched. It was always such a pleasure working with him on a case or a project like making access to court more feasible for the people in this neck of Middlesex County. His smile and his laugh were so contagious. He brightened your day every time you saw him. As a funny note, on of my fondest memories of Barry took place years ago when I ran into him at the Concord Probate session in the attorney conference room area. He gave me a big hello and told the other lawyers that were nearby that I had "The best smelling office around." Everyone started laughing and he said, "No, No, she always has yankee candles burning." He will be sorely missed by all who new him and I extend my condolences to the Harsip family and all who were close to him.
Sheila Harrington
Friend
December 31, 2020
Barry was a kind soul. I was saddened by his passing. I was grateful for his support of our divided family.
Amory Wakefield
Acquaintance
December 28, 2020
Barry was my divorce attorney. Without him, I would have never survived it as I was traumatized by the situation. I was a nervous wreck! Barry’s guidance , sweetness and dorky sense of humor got me through it. I will always be grateful to him for that. He always spoke about his wonderful family and how he loved them so. Thank you for allowing us to share him with you!
Kathleen Shirley
Friend
December 22, 2020
Barry was a truly wonderful person - kind, funny, loving, a trusted colleague and friend. My sympathies to his family and friends, having Barry in our lives was a joy that will be deeply missed.
KAREN LEVITT
December 22, 2020
I knew Barry before I knew Barry. I played against him, and he was a real force to be reckoned with. He was always trash talking and making jokes keeping things light hearted. I would register my teams with him for Fifer's Fair and help him put up their
I knew Barry before I knew Barry. I played against him, and he was a real force to be reckoned with. He was always trash talking and making jokes keeping things light hearted. I would register my teams with him for Fifer's Fair and help him put up their nets. I never played against him at Fifer's because he was in the Elite class. I got to know Barry in 2004 when Jamie, his daughter, was on the inaugural freshman volleyball team. In the off-season he arranged for gym space for the kids to play pickup games at Blanchard. That winter he coached Jamie's volleyball team at CMASS and asked me to be his assistant. From that time on he and I coached middle school and junior kids four seasons a year until his passing.
When Barry coached, he had to be on the court interacting with the players. He was not one to coach from the sideline. He thrived on being physically involved, and so did the players. Whenever we'd split the players into groups, Barry's group was always the largest by far. They loved learning from him. He made it fun. He had so many cute and clever demonstrations for the skills that helped reinforced what he was teaching. Whenever I would ask him if he were available for something, he'd always reply, I'll have to check with Lisa first. I thought this was just his way out if he didn't want to be available. But no, it was important that Lisa be involved in his decision. I always admired Barry for this. Whenever Barry was at an ABRHS volleyball game, he'd make a point to talk to all the kids that came through his classes. Also he knew most everyone in the gym, too, and would chat with them. At the games he and Mark Starr would discuss the games making it a very interesting evening for me to say the least.
Barry, I miss you. Buddy, you were my friend. Sadly, future generation will not benefit from knowing you.
Bob Hofeldt
Friend
December 22, 2020
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Renee McManus
December 21, 2020
I had the distinct pleasure of working with Barry prior to his retirement. I truly enjoyed working towards an amicable resolution on any family law matter with Barry. Barry was a true gentleman and he had an encyclopedic knowledge of the law; even when we disagreed! My deepest condolences to the Harsip family. Barry will be missed by many of his colleagues.
Robyn Briatico
Robyn A. Briatico
December 21, 2020
Barry was a wonderful contributor to Concord-Carlisle Community Education, where he taught many workshops that helped people manage their affairs. He was a true pleasure to work with. We are grateful for his life.
Court Booth
Acquaintance
December 21, 2020
I am very sorry to hear of Barry's loss. I have know Barry for more than 20 years. We played volleyball together. He also taught my son to play volleyball in the Acton middle school program. He loved coaching those kids. Barry was Hilarious. He reminded us that he was the Natural Middle. I can't think of a kinder or more giving friend. I am better for having known Barry. My condolences to his family and friends. Dan Nguyen
Dan Nguyen
Friend
December 21, 2020
Barry had the rare gift of being an outstanding professional and a truly kind humanitarian person. His stories brought such smiles and laughter; I could listen to him for hours. I feel fortunate to have known him, and am so sorry for this tragic loss. Sending warmest wishes to Lisa and the family.
Lucinda Wright
Friend
December 21, 2020
I first met Barry 20 years ago while practicing law. Barry was the opposing party's new lawyer. He had filed a complaint to modify the terms of a divorce agreement that had been negotiated years earlier with his mentor Monroe Inker. My client and I were invited to his office in Acton for a 6 PM meeting on a brilliant summer's evening in the middle of July. My client journeyed from Nebraska for the event. As is the case with most meetings such as this, we arrived with a chip on our shoulders, filled with indignation that his client wished to revisit the settlement agreement. We expected the same from Barry, whom I had not previously met. He greeted us with his warm ear to ear smile and introduced himself, saying he was a lover and not a warrior. The effect was instantaneous. Having been disarmed, negotiations began in earnest, and two hours later everyone left his office with smiles and the satisfaction of having reached a fair agreement, such that the matter was never re-visited again. Barry and I were friends ever since, and whenever we met at the Probate Court he always made it a point to leave whatever business he had on hand, and engage me in hearty handshake and warm conversation. The news of his passing came to me today and I am saddened beyond words. Godspeed, Barry.
J. Verner Moore
Friend
December 20, 2020
My sincerest condolences to the Harsip family. I was so sad to hear that Barry passed away. I had know Barry for many many years. As a lawyer he and I would have cases against each other and when I was elevated to the bench Barry would be arguing cases and trials before me. He was the consummate professional. When working with him he always made me smile. I will cherish those days
Spencer Kagan
Friend
December 18, 2020
I tried a case against Barry as a “first year” Assistant District Attorney in Concord. It was my first trial. He was incredibly patient with my inability to ask a non leading question, among other things, but never stopped advocating appropriately for his client. It was a difficult balancing of interests for him and he pulled it off beautifully. I cherished our friendship from that day on. His passing is such a huge loss to the bar as well as Our local community. He will be greatly missed. Bill Barrett
William Barrett
Friend
December 18, 2020
My sincere condolences to the Harsip family. Barry was a great lawyer and an even better friend. He will be sorely missed.
Bob Rivers
Friend
December 17, 2020
I was at Brandeis at met Barry. Years later living in Acton, we renewed our acquaintance while we were coaching our respective children. During that time, I would reach out to Barry for legal advice. In each capacity, I saw a gentleman committed to family, his community and his profession. May his memory be a blessing.
Paul Linet
Friend
December 16, 2020
Barry was a dedicated and compassionate attorney. I worked with him on many cases over the years. He always advocated for his clients in a way that acknowledged the emotional needs of the family. I truly appreciated Barry’s dedication, his positive energy, and his desire for positive resolution of his cases. It was always a pleasure to work with him.
Jane Appell
Acquaintance
December 16, 2020
My initial reaction was shock when I learned about Barry's death, then a profound sense of loss. No matter how long it may have been since we last met, usually in court or a dinner meeting of the Academy, I was alway greeted by his broad grin. Worthy adversary and advocate, loyal friend, sincere about those matters that concerned him, he was a true mentsch. I will miss my friend and the joy that he would bring to a table of lawyers discussing their latest exploits. Barry was not embarassed to express his true love for his wife as well as his children, bringing his broad smile to a crescendo. May G-d bless you and keep you. May G-d have his countenance shine down on you and grant you peace.
Philip Byers
Friend
December 14, 2020
To Janice and Herb I'm so sorry to learn about Barry's passing. He was a great teammate and player on the soccer field. He could run forever. Also a roommate in Oak Square and friend. I have wonderful memories of playing softball on Sundays at Cabot Field. He always had your back.
Harry Nesbitt
Friend
December 14, 2020
When I was very new in the practice of family law, I had a tough case against Barry. Instead of using it as an opportunity to take advantage of and make a fool of a less-seasoned attorney, Barry demonstrated the true meaning of grace and civility, while continuing to be an advocate for his client. I was forever grateful to him. He set a high bar, one few attorneys meet and one I aspire to. Rest in peace, my friend.
Maureen Booth
Friend
December 14, 2020
He was a lawyer`s lawyer...and great professional .
CHARLIE BARRETT
Friend
December 14, 2020
Barry was always a pleasure to see in court. He always wore very humorous ties ! He made everyone he knew feel special. My condolences to the family.
Sheara Friend
Friend
December 14, 2020
Barry was a truly great guy- he genuinely wanted the best for everyone he met. I am sorry for your loss Harsip family.
Sharon Duquette
Acquaintance
December 13, 2020
The obituary is well written & captures so much about Barry. Barry & I met over twenty years ago when we were "paired" to count votes by hand - done in those days. I always enjoyed running into him & we always had delightful exchanges, including quite recently seeing each other while dog walking. Rest in peace, my special friend. I know he will be missed by his family & so many in his extended community.
Alan Rohwer
Friend
December 13, 2020
Barry touched my soul in ways few others could. I think he knew me so well because he cared about me. He cared about everyone. Now there is a hole in my life that can never be filled.
Dan Greenberg
Friend
December 13, 2020
Barry always had a smile and a positive comment. I especially liked his sense of humor and his stories dating all the way back to childhood in the 1960’s and his friendship with Mark Scheier.
Steve Levitsky
Acquaintance
December 13, 2020
I knew Barry professionally. He was a wonderful human being and a great lawyer. Never saw him without a smile on his face. One of my favorite lawyers at the Middlesex Probate and Family Court.
Dorothy Gibson
Friend
December 13, 2020
Barry, you always had a cheerful smile and something positive to say. I especially enjoyed your comments about your friendship with Mark Scheier and your memories of experiences you shared with Mark all the way back to the 1960’s.
Rest In Peace.
Steven Levitsky
Acquaintance
December 13, 2020
Barry, you always had a cheerful smile and something positive to say. I especially enjoyed your comments about your friendship with Mark Scheier and your memories of experiences you shared with Mark all the way back to the 1960’s.
Rest In Peace.
Steve Levitsky
Acquaintance
December 13, 2020
Went to Brandeis with Barry and we were very close. Unfortunately, we drifted away from each other and lost contact. Only a couple of days ago I hooked up on zoom with two other close friends from Brandies and at the end of conversation I vowed to track down Barry and a couple other guys. Seeing this in the paper just 30 minutes ago was devastating. Barry was the best!
Fred Roach
Friend
December 13, 2020
Condolences to the Harsip Family
John DiPiano
Coworker
December 12, 2020
Whenever I think of Barry, I remember laughter, talk of how he loved his family, and I remember stories. Lots of stories. How he could talk!! Never anything mean. Always witty, bright, cheerful, funny, and full of love for his dear wife and his children, and many, many friends.

He was the hub around which many spokes orbited: his family, old friends from high school and college, teammates from many soccer teams, bicycle and XC ski buddies, legal colleagues, and on and on. He touched them all with kindness and caring, and he brought them together.
David Goodman
Friend
December 12, 2020
Barry was my best friend and the brother I never had. I will miss him every day of my life.
Mark Scheier
Friend
December 12, 2020
Dear Barry,
You were the kindest, most caring best soul I had the honor to EVER meet. Please know you helped so many others in your time here. Best to you, my friend.
M. Wood
Friend
December 11, 2020
Barry guided me through one of the toughest events of my life. He will forever hold a special place in my heart. My condolences to his family, friends, and all members of Harsip- Stuart Law firm.
Amy Vogel
Acquaintance
December 11, 2020
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of Barry. I work in Middlesex probate court and he was always such a pleasant and happy person. He was so caring and was always very kind. Sending prayers and love to his family. My condolences to everyone. Anne Addonizio
Anne Addonizio
Acquaintance
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