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GARDNER, M. Robert, Beloved husband, father, grandfather, and uncle passed away peacefully at the age of 93 on June 11, 2018. He was born on August 7, 1924 in Manhattan, son of Max and Blanche Lustgarten, and was raised in Brooklyn. Bob received his undergraduate degree from Cornell University and his medical degree from the Columbia School of Physicians and Surgeons. He did his psychoanalytic training at the Boston Psychoanalytic Society and Institute (BPSI) and worked at the Boston Psychopathic Hospital, Harvard Medical School (where he started a new psychiatric training program), and the Harvard University Health Services. Bob was stationed in San Antonio from 1951-1952 during the Korean War as a captain in the Air Force. He subsequently taught at BPSI and at the Psychoanalytic Institute of New England, East (PINE), whose foundation he spearheaded in 1975. PINE's educational program was designed to teach psychoanalysis in a workshop atmosphere and was an "institute without walls." Bob was a highly-esteemed psychoanalyst and teacher of psychiatry and psychoanalysis for over five decades and a legendary training analyst, inspiring students and colleagues throughout the world. He was also the author of several books, including Self-Inquiry; Hidden Questions, Clinical Musings; On Trying to Teach; Cher Pierre: A Guide to Paris, Its People, and Their Language; and On Trying to Paint. Moreover, he wrote and lectured extensively about the life and art of Vincent van Gogh. One critic wrote that "Bob Gardner is that rarest of birds. He embodies a fine intelligence, the voice and pen of a poet, the eye and hand of an artist, an imagination that flies without effort between the profound and the everyday, the curiosity of a cat, and the imaginings about human beings of a born psychoanalyst. He is a constructive skeptic who breathes integrity. And thank God for his sense of humor!" Another wrote that "Bob Gardner has a spaciousness of mind and generosity of spirit that has set many free to pursue their own talents. His magic might just change you!" Bob was not only a poet of the pen but a devoted artist. Inspired by the subtle and shifting light of Paris during a trip with his family to Europe in 1969, he began a fifty-year love affair with watercolor. He painted still lifes, landscapes, nudes, buildings, flowers, portraits, and whatever struck his fancy. Bob had numerous public exhibitions and donated the proceeds to health-related charities around the globe. Raising six children in Cambridge with Betsy, his cherished wife of 60 years, Bob instilled a sense of independence, passion, compassion, and wonder. From summers in Wellfleet, to camping trips in North Carolina, Nova Scotia, and France, he and Betsy led their intrepid troops on marvelous adventures and misadventures. Lover of nature, raconteur exemplar, playful humorist, and irreverent rebel, Bob shone a light on life and helped us to be the best version of ourselves. He is survived by his daughter Lyn and her husband Alain; his daughter Annie; his son Peter and his wife Clotilde; his son Bill and his wife Joan; his son George and his wife Margot; his son John; nine grandchildren, Erica, Matthew, Claire, Renee, David, Sarah, Laura, Molly, and Danny; and nieces and nephews. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in memory of M. Robert Gardner to the American Heart Association: donatenow.heart.org. A memorial service will be scheduled at a later date.

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Published in Boston Globe from Jun. 13 to Jun. 14, 2018.
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July 25, 2018
Dear Gardners all, Although saddened by the news that Bob had left this world, I am smiling at the beautiful obituary written by Peter, which so beautifully captures so many of the gifts Bob shared with us all. His incredible array of interests and ability to make each of us feel we could also understand and share in them was heart-warming. His biggest gift is an incredible family created by Betsy and him.
With love to all,
Katrina Hering
June 19, 2018
May the Transcsendent welcome you to the zone of piece and absolute joy and give Peter Garnder, your beloved son the longevity which you enjoyed.
teodros kiros
June 14, 2018
May your memories of the wonderful times you shared with your loved one comfort you and your family, today and always.
American Heart Association
June 14, 2018
Jan Donley
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