ROBERT F. "BOBY" BEAR
1955 - 2020
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BEAR, Robert F. "Boby" Died of cancer peacefully in his sleep, and went to be with the Lord on November 12, 2020. If you are lucky in your lifetime, you get to meet someone like Boby who is larger than life and so dynamic that his presence is felt the moment he enters a room. Boby was born in Carlisle, Pennsylvania and raised in Harrisburg. He graduated from John Harris High School, and gave up several art school scholarships to pursue a music career in Boston as a drummer. Boby's involvement in the music community spanned decades and he played, recorded, toured, and won awards with many highly regarded bands and artists. Boby also had an immense talent and passion for calligraphy and custom sign-painting and lettering, and his work can be seen in many storefronts in the Boston area. Boby's friendships with others were sacrosanct, and he leaves behind friendships that go back decades. Boby's ability to empathize with others on a deep and personal level, both in happy and sad times, touched all who knew him. It was Boby's sense of humor that made him stand out in a crowd. He could captivate any group with incredibly funny and detailed stories and leave everyone laughing until it hurt.  Nothing made Boby happier than to be with his Anya, the love of his life. He and Anya referred to each other as "my rock." They were crazy about one another, and relished their time together and with friends and family, especially when travelling near or far, and gardening. Always the stylish dresser with a collection of Beatle boots, Boby also loved the Three Stooges (he was friends with them as a kid), Queen (one of his bands opened for them on their first North American tour), vintage drums, writing short stories, fixing and building things around the house and the garden, classic monster movies, painting Aurora monster models, and creating art that was displayed all over the home he and Anya shared and gifted to friends and family. His knowledge of pop culture was encyclopedic. His wisdom as an old soul and his youthful enthusiasm for life, his smile, his magnetic effect on people, and his love for everything were truly one of a kind and enriched the lives of everyone lucky enough to meet Boby. Memories of Boby will live in his beloved wife Anya, his mother-in-law Tamara, sister Rosemary, nephews Jeffrey, Brian, Fred, and Trevor, and nieces Tracey, Robin, and Lisa. His parents George and Agnes, brother Tim, and sister Elaine predeceased him. He is also survived by relatives in Saint Petersburg, Russia, a place he loved. Funeral services are private. The family would like you to find something beautiful to look at or hold on to, and do it in Boby's honor.

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Published in Boston Globe from Nov. 12 to Nov. 13, 2020.
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November 16, 2020
So Sorry to hear about Boby , my condolences to the family . So many memories of the days of The Atlantics. RIP Boby
Anne Keddy
Friend
November 16, 2020
Boby was the kind of person that even if you hadn’t seen him in a long time he still talked to you like a good friend. He was kind and immensely talented. I knew him from a previous job and he worked on a couple of my film projects. One was a short documentary where he talked about his experiences in the music industry. He also shared many of his wonderfully weird stories that I loved and could have listened to for hours on end. He was a good soul! He will be missed here on earth but I know if anyone is having a great time in the afterlife it is Boby!

My condolences to his family.
AK Henry
Friend
November 16, 2020
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived. I only knew Boby for a short time on FaceBook but his personality shone through like a light! Quick with a witty story and helpful in the times when people’s opinions turned nasty...I felt like he was a guardian Angel. I’ll miss him.
Rebecca Harrold
Friend
November 15, 2020
What cannot be said, will be wept. Rest in eternal peace BB.
Maria Banchick
Friend
November 14, 2020
Boby and I shared a love for the Beatles. Nearly 30 years ago he made this cassette for me of the Beatles, and how lucky I am to have one of Boby's sketches of the famous four on the cover of this cassette. I will always treasure it. He really enjoyed life and lifted the spirits of others.
My condolences to Boby's family and friends.
Josie Guarino
Friend
November 14, 2020
Sleep well my friend
Chris Lannon
Coworker
November 13, 2020
Boby, you were so nice to me when I first met you, when you worked at Goods...I worked a few shops down, and I would sneak down to Goods just to talk to you about music. I remember your apartment one time, when I visited you with Adam, and you were taking care of all of these kittens running through your apartment, your huge collection of cowboy boots, etc. I loved every minute of it. I would run into you over the years, at clubs or at parties, and you always had time to talk to me. I will always remember that. I will miss our chats on Facebook, we had great conversations. I was lucky to have known you. You always had good advice and kindness in your heart. And you were true to your beliefs. Rest easy, Bear. Ginny x
Virginia Lee Stenquist
Friend
November 13, 2020
My sincere condolences to Boby's family and friends on his passing.
THOMAS HAUCK
Friend
November 13, 2020
In loving memory of a talented, generous and loving friend. He will be missed.
Andre Delbos
Friend
November 12, 2020
I’m so sorry. He was indeed larger than life. He was also funny and sweet. Rest in peace, Boby.
Leslie Boisset-Dell’Elce
Acquaintance
November 12, 2020
I am so sorry to hear of Boby’s passing. Anya, you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God watch over you during this difficult time.
Tammy Caristo
Friend
November 12, 2020
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
Jean Berard
November 12, 2020
My heart is broken to hear this news. Anya, my love, prayers and condolences are with you. So many wonderful memories of Boby Bear. One of the most beautiful souls to ever have entered my life. You will be sorely missed. I will treasure those memories dearly my friend. May you be at ease and rest peacefully ❤
LuLu
Friend
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