Roger Alan Wilkey Jr.
Roger Alan Wilkey Jr.
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A 12th-generation Cape Codder, he was the son of Marylyn Brough and the late Roger Wilkey, and the stepson of the late Allen Brough, all of Dennis.
While attending Dennis-Yarmouth Regional High School, Roger was an exceptional cross-country runner, earning two Boston Globe All-Scholastic awards and, in his senior year, the Eastern Mass. Division III state title.
He worked in construction on the Cape for many years, doing gutter replacement, roofing, and painting. Roger also worked as a preschool teacher.
A talented artist, Roger was an accomplished bluegrass musician who played the guitar and banjo. He first played with his uncle, Hank Wilkey, and the "Upper County Homesteaders." He later played with "The Remaynes" and then in a duo called "Spin Dry." He had recently lived in Tennessee to pursue his interest in music and made many friends while there.
He is survived by his daughter, Aliana Wilkey of Centerville. He also leaves his close friend, Jean Sagara of Wellfleet; a brother, Gary Wilkey of Spanaway, Wash.; six sisters, Doreen Roberts of West Valley, Utah, Sandra Wilkey-Gaus and Samantha Ellis of Yarmouth, Laura Lowe of Waterboro, Maine, Sharon Wilkey of Barnstable, and Valerie Wilkey-Farrell of Dennis; and two stepsisters, Dawn King and Cindy Maskell, both of Dennis. He is also survived by several nieces and nephews and great-nieces and great-nephews.
A memorial service will be held at 10 a.m. on Saturday, March 7, at the Trinity Lutheran Church, Route 6A, Brewster.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in his memory to Hospice & Palliative Care of Cape Cod, 765 Attucks Lane, Hyannis, 02601.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Gary WILKEY
March 11, 2009
Roger my little brother your life was
short but you touch so many people's
hearts with fond memories. Sometimes things don't happen the
way we want them to be. I always
will love you. I KNOW I will see you
in heaven.
Kenneth Merrill
March 8, 2009
Roger was one of my closest friends and living with me when he returned from Tennesse. My wife Marie and I will miss him dearly for all the laughter and kindness that he brought into our home over the many years we were friends.
Love Ya Roger,
Kenny
Josh Lowe
March 7, 2009
had fun collecting pokemon cards with you when I was young.
Dave Lowe
March 6, 2009
Roger (Butch),
Wish you could have stayed around a while longer. So glad I'll see you on the other side though! Rock on (in a bluegrass sort of way!)
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Doug Sherman
March 6, 2009
Roger was a part of my life at D-Y as a runner and a friend from 1974 through 1978. Although I have not seen him in a while, he has always been one that comes to mind as I think back on my high school running (and social) days. Since then, whenever I did see him around town, he always had a sincere happiness about him with added excitement to find out what was going on with me. I was shocked to hear of his passing and regret not being there to support him with his battle. I will always remember Roger for his unique sense of humor and concern for others. Man.........he could run!!!
Caleigh McDonald
March 6, 2009
Uncle Butch,
I love you and I will miss you forever. Your and Uncle Hank’s music was a wonderful inspiration for me, and I am glad you can be together again. You amazed people here with your music, and there is no doubt that you are now amazing angels in heaven. You were a great uncle, and you put up a courageous fight. You had to leave, but you will always be in all of our hearts. I love you. Rest in Peace!
I Miss You! Your Niece, Caleigh
candace dupuy
March 6, 2009
you have been a devoted father to your beloved daughter Aliana. You loved taking her to the beach, climbing hokum rock, and spreading your love of music to her. she has learned so many things from you that she will treasure for a lifetime. thank goodness she has acquired a fondness for music that you instilled in her that will make her life more joyous and fulfilling.
Valerie Wilkey-Farrell
March 6, 2009
Butch- my big brother-I loved you so much and will miss you so much-especially your music! I hope that your music lives on and on. I'll see you on the other side.
Thank you to all of you who have been kind enough to send along your thoughts and prayers.
Rebecca Farrell
March 6, 2009
Uncle Butch-
I let the tears roll down my eyes
when I heard you said goodbye.
You fought the cancer for as long as you could,
we all think you did very good.
We will always miss you.
You vanished so fast just like the morning dew
We all love you!!
Love, your neice, Rebecca
Laura Peterson (Wenberg)
March 6, 2009
Sharon and Family,
My sympathy to you all on the passing of your beloved Roger. I have many fond memories of you all back when we were kids. I also remember a talent show at the high school where Roger showcased his musical talents. He clearly touched many lives. He will be sadly missed but fondly remembered.
Andi, Jordan and Breanna Whitney
March 5, 2009
We will miss you Roger. Rest in peace.
Reggie & Helayne Allen
March 5, 2009
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Aliana Wilkey
March 5, 2009
I really miss you dad. You will always be my greatest hero. I wish I could see you again. I love you so much, and I really hope you're able to watch over me... I want you to see my grow up, because I know that you would always be proud. I'm so grateful for anybody who's shared memories with my dad. It's been really hard, but like he always said, "Keep Smiling."
Nancy Ady
March 5, 2009
Roger,
I am so thankful for the sovereignty of God. I almost didn't get to meet you and play music with you. Who knew you had such little time left with us but Him? I know you are in good hands now and am so glad for the memories of Christmas 2008. I hope we all have a Martin in heaven waiting for us...............Love, N
Rick Napolitan
March 5, 2009
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Roger and your family. Be at peace.
Samantha Ellis
March 5, 2009
Butch, when I was little you weren't just my big brother, you were my hero. I'll be listening in my dreams for your banjo music. I'll love and miss you always!
Laura (Wilkey) Lowe
March 5, 2009
Butch,
I will always remember all the fun times we had as kids: like building snow tunnels & caves, playing king of the mountain, and inspecting bugs. Your smile and your kind heart will not be forgotten. I miss you but will see you again someday. I am looking forward to hearing you play music in heaven with Dad and Uncle Hank. I love you.
Brian Sullivan
March 4, 2009
I'm so sorry for your loss. I was good friends with Roger back in the early nineties. We played many hours of music together. I have many of recordings of him with other musicians and myself just jamming to his songs. I have some great stuff of he and the late, great sax player, Billy Shea. I've been listening to him all evening on my recordings and recalling many great times together. He was a very gentle soul and always willing to help a friend in need. He helped me on many projects around my home. Thanks for the cherished memories, Roger. Godspeed.
Cindy (Mc Kenney) Eldredge
March 4, 2009
Dorreen and family, So sorry for your loss! Your family is in my thoughts and prayers!
Mark and Betsy Crowell
March 4, 2009
Butch--May you rest in the arms of the angels --your Dad, Tex, Gram Eldredge, Meema and Uncle Earl, Auntie Helen, Uncle Kenny, Uncle Jack, Craig and Kenny welcome you with open arms! Peace be with you in your journey----we will see you on the other side---cousins Betsy, Mark and Tom
Mark and Betsy Crowell
March 4, 2009
Auntie Myl, Dode, Sandy, Laura, Sharon, Val and Sam---I am sitting here tonight with my memory going back to the sweet time in life when we were all so close--the laughter, the fun, the picnics, dinners and sharing life---I will hold fast to all of those times as I hope you will too--our mothers were sisters and you were all like little sisters and brother to me--my heart and my love go out to all of you in the loss of Butch---stay close and comfort each other always---life is so very short, and I miss you and will always love all of you---Betsy xoox
WE WILL MISS YOU - LOVE ALL YOUR SISTERS
March 4, 2009
Robin Feckner
March 4, 2009
First of all, I want to express my heartfelt sympathy to the entire family!
My name is Robin Feckner and my maiden name was Robin Saretsky. When I was younger and lived on the Cape, I was friends with the entire family and hung out quite a bit. Mr. & Mrs. Brough ALWAYS made me feel like part of the family.
I vividly remember a time when my Mother came to pick me up. Roger was moving dirt from one area to another sweating away while Tex was telling my Mother how HE was moving the dirt and doing such a swell job when all of a sudden we heard Roger in the back saying "Who is moving the dirt?!" Tex just winked as all of us were laughing!
Hopefully, Roger isn't moving any dirt piles up in heaven!
Carol Moser
March 4, 2009
Marilyn and family. My deepest sympathy to all. Roger was a good friend to my son and we have alot of nice memories.
Sharon Wilkey
March 4, 2009
Butch,
Thanks for letting me tag along way back when. You have taught me so much. Fly free. Be at peace.
I love you, always. Sharon
Dave Moser
March 4, 2009
God bless & keep you Roger, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Christopher Hufnagel
March 4, 2009
Uncle Roger, Anyone who met you was blessed to have you in their life. Your memories will forever live on with us.
Sandra Wilkey-Gaus
March 4, 2009
BUTCH, MAY PEACE BE WITH YOU AND YOUR MUSIC FLOW THROUGH ALL OF US FOREVER.
Gayle Boudreau
March 4, 2009
Doreen, I'm very sad to hear of the passing of your brother. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days.
Ashly Gaus
March 4, 2009
Uncle Roger, It was an honor to have had you apart of my life. You will be missed dearly. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. May you rest in peace.
Stephen Roderick
March 4, 2009
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always. You will always live in our hearts and prayers.
Steve "Piggy" Roderick.
Nora Monteiro
March 4, 2009
To the Wilkey family,
I am so sorry for the loss of Roger. I used to spend a lot of time playing at your family home on Upper County Rd, in South Dennis. Lots of great memories and fun. Our families go way back. You will all be in our thoughts and prayers.
Nora Monteiro-Hunt
Previously from South Dennis
DY class of 1979
Roger, Dec 2008
March 4, 2009
March 4, 2009
REST IN PEACE!
Jean Sagara
March 4, 2009
Roger, thanks for filling our lives with your music and your friendship! Godspeed my friend!
Doreen Roberts(Wilkey)
March 4, 2009
Wow..I dan't believe you are gone. I will miss you. I love you kiddo. Keep playing that music.
Matt Reid
March 4, 2009
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Peace Rog.
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