Eli Roe

Eli Roe obituary

Eli Roe

Eli Roe Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Feb. 2, 2016.
Eli Roe January 22, 1994 January 29, 2016 Eli Roe (also known as Miriam), a gifted and loving person who courageously endured great distress, is now at peace. Eli, beloved child of John and Liane Roe, was born in Oxford, England and moved with parents and older brother Nathan to State College at the age of four. Eli graduated from State College Area High School in 2012, and was studying Rehabilitation and Human Services at The Pennsylvania State University. Eli's life was marked by compassion for others and love of justice. He worked for the Arc of Centre County supporting the needs of clients with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Eli was gifted with creativity and loved making historical costumes and helping fellow students to sew garb for the high school Renaissance Faire. He enjoyed playing the piano and expressing himself in poetry and song. He also excelled at designing interactive role-playing events for friends and enjoyed hiking and being outdoors. During high school, Eli came to recognize that he was transgender. At a time when the concept was relatively unknown, Eli worked to educate others about gender identity in order to reduce the misunderstanding and discrimination experienced by transgender individuals. Eli had a deep yearning for God and longed for others to experience the love of Jesus. He was instrumental in founding "Receiving With Thanksgiving", a Penn State network that welcomes and affirms people of any gender identity or sexual orientation who seek to worship Christ. Eli used his dry and intelligent wit to laugh at himself, even as he suffered through bouts of crippling depression. Eli thought deeply about the sources of contentment, the often unreliable pathways of the mind, and the reasons for his mental illness. Last week, weakened by a viral infection, Eli suddenly found his condition too overwhelming to bear, and he ended his life. Eli often said how grateful he was for the unconditional love of his parents and brother - "no-one could have had a better family". Eli was thankful for the acceptance and encouragement of his British grandmother, Judy Roe; his American grandmother, Donna Stevens; and his five aunts and uncles and four cousins. Many friends and teachers also supported Eli in his struggle. He will be greatly missed. A memorial service will be held Friday February 5, 2016, at 2:00 p.m. in the Eisenhower Chapel on the Penn State campus. Donations in memory of Eli or Miriam can be made to The Trevor Project (www.thetrevorproject.org) or to The Arc of Centre County (www.taocc.org).

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April 21, 2016

Catherine Augustine posted to the memorial.

February 15, 2016

Katie Fisher posted to the memorial.

February 8, 2016

Margot posted to the memorial.

Catherine Augustine

April 21, 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. Eli had a voice and important message that we will all miss greatly.

Katie Fisher

February 15, 2016

Dear John and Liane,
I am so very sorry and sad for the loss of your son. He sounds like a light and a blessing to the people lucky enough to know him. For the ways that you touched my life and cared for me in my undergrad days, I am so very grateful.
Praying for comfort and peace in this devastating time.
Katie Fisher

Margot

February 8, 2016

Eli, I will never forget your pure compassion for others and your selflessness. You helped me greatly my freshman year at Penn State.Your contributions to the community were never unnoticed, neither was your art. Your costumes were incredible. You are forever in my heart and my memories.

February 7, 2016

Dear John & Family, I am sorry I didn't know until tonight. Please accept my deepest sympathy. May you stay strong and have all the love & support you need for as long as it takes to see you through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry, Michele Chernega

Richard Weygint

February 6, 2016

RIP Beautiful soul

Ben

February 6, 2016

God Bless

Jennifer White

February 6, 2016

I wish I had known Eli in person, I would have loved to spend time with him. Liane, all the moms' hearts are broken at his loss, may you feel our love and arms around you. Every Mama Bear's child is as our own, and we are all grieving for this beautiful soul.

February 6, 2016

Broken hearted for your family. What a beautiful soul your child had ... I will hold those dear to me even tighter now ....
Colleen Kane

February 5, 2016

Godspeed

Marianne, Chris and Emma Fivek

February 5, 2016

With heartfelt sadness from the Fivek Family of Sowards place. Emma and Eli went on the HS trip to France. What a remarkable individual who touched so many as you shared in his legacy ......our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very very difficult time....

Eva Tomashefski

February 4, 2016

So sorry I am not able to attend his service. Kya and I both send our love and prayers to the family.

February 4, 2016

May care and love of those around you provide comfort and peace to get you through the days ahead. Our sincere condolences.

Sasie & Sarath Fernando

Jamie Featherer

February 4, 2016

I did not know Eli, but was touched by his story. My heart breaks for his family and loved ones, and I hope that you all find comfort and peace in the memories you've gathered with Eli in his too-short life. My greatest hope is that Eli has found the peace that this world and society were not yet ready to afford him.

John Poorman

February 3, 2016

I was on a panel with Eli a number of years ago. We were addressing a church youth group about LGBTQA concerns. I found him loving and caring in regard to all the questions from the kids. My heart goes out to his family.

Nancy Dreschel

February 3, 2016

Dear Liane, John and Nathan-
I was so sad to hear about Eli. Though I only met him when he spoke at church, I was impressed by his sweet demeanor and courage. My thoughts are with you all in this difficult time.
-Nancy

Elizabeth Paiste

February 3, 2016

My heart goes out to the loving family of Eli. I know there are no words that can be said over the loss of such a precious child. I am grateful that his tender and compassionate soul is now at peace in the arms of Christ. Thank you for all you did to encourage and love Eli during his struggles here on earth.

February 3, 2016

What a beautiful life. May God bless you eternally, Eli.

Cleo Kesidis

February 3, 2016

My deepest condolences to Eli's loved ones. I didn't know him well, but I remember him fondly from high school and wish I could have known him better. I admired his talent and kindness.

February 3, 2016

R.I.P. YOu will be sadly missed..

Zachary McGowan

February 2, 2016

Eli (or Miriam) was a monolith in my high school days to me, one who was an integral part of my experience there and helped me make it through a very difficult time. He was an incredible influence and was a kindly, beautiful soul who, in the limited capacity I have to pray, do so that he is now finally in rest. I do not really expect you to remember who I was, Roe family, but just know you are in my thoughts and reflections.

Eric and Kathy Brazelton

February 2, 2016

John, Liane, Nathan,
We are so deeply saddened to hear of the passing of Eli, and our thoughts and prayers will be with you. Eli's obituary is a beautiful testament to his caring, loving nature, and the joys as well as the struggles of his life. May God's love and peace embrace and uphold each one you during this time.

Marcia Heitzmann

February 2, 2016

I am so deeply sadden. I have such fond memories from kindergarten and Radio Park. Always a favorite of mine, putting a smile to my lips each time we would cross paths. I feel fortunate to have had the privilege of being touched by such a life. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Mark robbins

February 2, 2016

Eli melted away the boundaries of being trans. My son billy and I saw him as a full and complete person. I know he was embraced by family so I assume it was depression that took him down. I honestly didn't perceive him as a trans person. He was wonderful. So very sad.

Aimee Senott

February 2, 2016

I believe the world was, and would have continued to be, a better place with Miriam/Eli in it... This is truly a sad loss. Miriam...I hope you have found all the joy and peace you have always deserved.

Kyra Schwartz

February 2, 2016

I'm so sorry to hear about Eli, a strong, caring person in all respects. I wish I had gotten to know him better beyond our brief conversations.

Carolyn Muller

February 2, 2016

I know a friend of a friend of Eli, not Eli personally. I wanted to say I am so sorry for this terrible loss. I have been touched by his life through the periphery, and I hope that there is peace, love, and healing surrounding Eli now, and that the same healing and love surrounds those he left behind.

Bridget Waltz, The Arc

February 2, 2016

What a beautiful testimony to Eli! He was so profoundly sweet and incredibly gracious; I feel so fortunate to have known him. I hope and pray that your family finds peace and comfort in these difficult times.

Kevin Henline

February 2, 2016

Eli made such an impact on us at The Arc of Centre County in such a short amount of time, I cannot imagine the grief his loving and supportive family and friends are feeling. He was a gentle soul, and your words encapsulated that perfectly. We are all better people for having known him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, and please let me know if you need anything.

Don and Jet Schneider

February 2, 2016

Dear Roe family,

Our hearts go out to you.With our deepest condolences, Don & Jet Schneider

Deb (Bland) Hamilton

February 2, 2016

Dear John, Liane, and Nathan- my heart breaks for all of you at this time. Wish I could have known Miriam as Eli. I remember Miriam as such as sweet person and I am sure that Eli was even more so once he was able to discover himself. What a wonderful tribute to him that he spent so much of his time and energy reaching out to help others even as he was struggling. May he be at peace now forever in the arm's of Christ. Know that we are praying for you without ceasing.

Lisa Daly

February 2, 2016

Dear Roe Family,
Love, light and peace. News of your loss was devastating to those who knew and loved Eli/Miriam. He made a difference. Period. The things that he accomplished in a very short lifetime were significant to so many people. Smart, talented, and so very sweet. I know you were proud of this child and the young adult he had become. I was so blessed to have known him. This special angel will be with you in your hearts forever.

SJ Young

February 2, 2016

What a wonderful tribute to Eli. I don't know anyone personally, but I am greatly moved by his life. I wish you all the best.

Kasha

February 2, 2016

Dear John, I am so sorry to hear this. Please accept my deepest condolence for your family's loss.

February 2, 2016

Thinking of you all during this heartbreaking time. Prayers, Deannine Shipman

Erika Smith

February 2, 2016

Eli was an amazing young man with all he contributed. The impact he had on others will live on in the lived he touched. Sorry for your loss.

Jessica Herzing

February 2, 2016

Dear Roe Family,
Eli will be missed by many. He touched the lives of everyone he met, and made a profound impact on the world. I feel very fortunate to have known him and I know that everyone here at The Arc feels the same. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Erika Smith

February 2, 2016

Eli was an amazing young man and the impact he had on others will live on in those lives he touched

February 2, 2016

Dear Roe Family. My thoughts and Prayers go to you. RIP sweet Eli.

Paul Winkler

February 2, 2016

A kind heart. At Radio Park Elementary, our daughter suffered one of those swinging climbing accidents *What if we tie a hoolahoop to the swing and hang upside down?" Lauren came out of that with an injury and Miriam stuck with her and saw that Lauren got the care she needed. Always a kind and compassionate soul as a classmate through the years. God's peace to the Roe family.

Amy Stover

February 2, 2016

Sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Becky Cunningham The Arc

February 2, 2016

What a beautifully written tribute. Our hearts go out to you during this difficult time.

Laura Robinson

February 2, 2016

I was Eli's advisor in the School of Theatre. Although he was with us for only a semester, I was so impressed with his beautiful soul. Eli was a loving and open individual and I had hoped he would find a home in our area. I was so sad to lose him as a student, and am now deeply shocked and sorrowful at his passing. The world needed more Eli's.

February 2, 2016

Dear Roe Family:
My heart breaks for you. Eli sounds like a wonderful person who brought much good to this world. He was a friend of a friend, and I never met him, but wish I had. Blessings to you and your family.

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