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RALEIGH, N.C. (AP) — North Carolina State's Kay Yow, the Hall of Fame women's basketball coach who won more than 700 games while earning fans with her decades-long fight against breast cancer, died on Saturday. She was 66.

Yow, first diagnosed with the disease in 1987, died Saturday morning at WakeMed Cary Hospital after being admitted there last week, university spokeswoman Annabelle Myers said.

"I think she understood that keeping going was inspirational to other people who were in the same boat she was in," Dr. Mark Graham, Yow's longtime oncologist, said Saturday.

Yow won more than 700 games in a career filled with milestones. She coached the U.S. Olympic team to a gold medal in 1988, won four Atlantic Coast Conference tournament championships, earned 20 NCAA tournament bids and reached the Final Four in 1998.

She also was inducted into the Naismith Hall of Fame in 2002, while the school dedicated "Kay Yow Court" in Reynolds Coliseum in 2007.

But for many fans, Yow was best defined by her unwavering resolve while fighting cancer, from raising awareness and money for research to staying with her team through the debilitating effects of the disease and chemotherapy treatments.

She served on the board of the V Foundation for Cancer Research, which was founded by ESPN and her friend and colleague, former N.C. State men's coach Jim Valvano, who died of cancer in 1993.

"Kay taught us all to live life with passion and to never give up," said fellow board member George Bodenheimer, president of ESPN and ABC Sports. He said the network would remain committed to a research fund established in Yow's name.

"She's a driving force for what's going on today in the battle against cancer," ESPN commentator and former Notre Dame men's coach Digger Phelps said.

At Duke — one of N.C. State's closest ACC rivals — there was a moment of silence to honor Yow before the men's basketball game against Maryland on Saturday.

In her final months, Yow was on hormonal therapy as the cancer spread to her liver and bone. But she never flinched or complained, relying on her faith as the disease progressed. She commonly noted there were other patients with "harder battles than I'm fighting" and said it was inspiring for her to stay with her team.

"We're all faced with a lot of tough issues that we're dealing with," she said in a 2006 interview. "We know we need to just come to the court and let that be our catharsis in a way. You can't bring it on the court with you, but we can all just think of basketball as an escape for a few hours."

Yow announced earlier this month that she would not return to the team this season after she missed four games because of what was described as an extremely low energy level.

The team visited Yow in the hospital before leaving Wednesday for a game at Miami. Associate head coach Stephanie Glance — who led the team in Yow's absences — met with the team Saturday morning to inform them Yow had died, Myers said.

Her doctor remembered how Yow always took time to talk to other patients when she came in for treatments in recent years.

"She could have tried to come into the clinic and be completely anonymous," Graham said. "She just wanted to be another patient. She was very open to sharing her experiences with others and being encouraging to others.

Yow's fight was never more public than when she took a 16-game leave to focus on her treatments during the 2006-07 season. After her return, her inspired Wolfpack won 12 of its final 15 games with wins against highly ranked rivals Duke and North Carolina in a run that attracted plenty of fans wearing pink — the color of breast-cancer awareness.

Her players also wore pink shoelaces for their coach.

"There were so many times I felt like giving up," forward Khadijah Whittington said after the Wolfpack's loss to Connecticut in the 2007 NCAA tournament's round of 16, "and then I see Coach Yow and she never gives up."

Yow always found ways to keep coaching even as she fought the disease. She spent most of games during that emotional 2007 run sitting on the bench while Glance stood to shout instructions at players or to help a weakened Yow to her feet.

"She's the Iron Woman, with the Lord's help," Glance said.

Yow was quick to embrace her role as an example for others battling the disease. She often found herself going about her daily activities in Raleigh only to have someone stop her and say they were praying for her or that she was an inspiration to them.

"When they say that, it really gives me a lift because it's at that time I know for sure that I'm not going through it for nothing," Yow said in 2007. "That means a lot to me. I have to go through it. I accept that, and I'm not panicked about it because the Lord is in control. But it just would be so saddening if I had to go through it and I couldn't help people.

Born March 14, 1942, Sandra Kay Yow originally took up coaching to secure a job teaching high school English at Allen Jay High School in High Point in the 1960s. Her boss, along with the boys' coach, agreed to help her plan practices and to sit on the bench with her during games. Midway through the season, Yow was on her own.

"Really, it was like love at first sight," she said in 2004.

She spent four years there followed by another year in her hometown at Gibsonville High, compiling a 92-27 record. She moved on to Elon, going 57-19 in four seasons before being hired at N.C. State in 1975.

Her original cancer diagnosis came the year before coaching the United States to the gold in the Seoul Olympics. She had a mastectomy as part of her treatment, then discovered a lump in November 2004 close to where cancer was first discovered. She had surgery that December and started on a regimen of radiation and daily hormone therapy. Still, the cancer came back again and again.

She missed two games of the 2004-05 season while attending an eight-day nutritional modification program, which called on her to eat an organic-food diet free of meat, dairy products and sugar. She stayed on the diet for eight months, losing 40 pounds by keeping junk food and Southern favorites like biscuits and gravy off her menu.

Still, she cheated on her organic diet during home recruiting visits because she didn't want to offend anyone by passing on a home-cooked meal.

Over the years, Yow never lost her folksy, easygoing manner and refused to dwell on her health issues, though they colored everything she did almost as much as basketball. Ultimately, her philosophy on both were the same.

"If you start to dwell on the wrong things, it'll take you down fast," Yow said in '07. "Every morning, I wake up and the first thing I think of is I'm thankful. I'm thankful for another day."

Copyright © 2009 The Associated Press
Published in Charlotte Observer on Jan. 24, 2009.
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January 26, 2018
Godspeed Kay, and thank you for sharing a part of your life with us.
Harry Simpson
December 2, 2016
Ann Marie S
August 18, 2015
Miss u Coach!
Dean Taylor
October 10, 2011
Coach Yow was a professor of mine at Elon in 1972. She was an inspiration then and now. A GREAT human being. I was blessed to know her.
Mark Jones
February 14, 2011
My sympathy to all who knew and loved Kay Yow. I was saddened to hear of this great woman's passing. What a legacy she leaves. Her strength and faith are a source of inspiration to so many of us who never met this beautiful, courageous woman. Clearly you are resting in the Peace of Our Lord. Thank you for your gifts.
February 2, 2011
May 20, 2010
The years may come and go, but the memories of our love ones, will live on forever in our hearts.

God is for us a refuge and strength, a help that is readily to be found during distresses.
August 13, 2009
Dear Camille,
I was saddened to read of Lawson's passing. While it was many years ago, I still fondly remember the enjoyable time we had together at our house reminiscing about our alma mater. To you and your fine family I send my heartfelt sympathy. Joe Quarles
Joseph Quarles
July 8, 2009
What a wonderful coach and fighter.God Bless you and rest in peace.no one call feel your shoes as a coach.
May 26, 2009
Thank you for bringing so much attention to Breast Cancer Awareness. You were an inspiration to others. God Bless you. Our deepest sympathy to your family.
McBride Family
February 16, 2009
As a breast cancer survivor I am always inspired by Kay. Because of her faith she survived 22 years with breast cancer. Thank You Kay! God Bless
Laurie King
February 15, 2009
Kay Yow,

We never knew each other personally, however, I feel inspired to write this to you. I too have battled breast cancer and have gone through the dark desperate feelings that one goes through during this disease. Luckily, I was lucky enough to make it through, somehow.

I am humbled when I see how many people love and respect you for not only your battle with cancer, but the overall love that you give to every one you have met. You are truly an inspiration to me and I will always strive to be somebody like you. I made a promise to God that if I made it through cancer, I would do my best to give of myself to others and to give as much love as I can to all those around me. And I see you as the perfect role model to be that kind of person.

Thank You for being a beacon of light to everyone you have touched.
Desiree Marinas
February 8, 2009
After watching the videos from Kay Yow's service I am inspired to write here in the guest book. I worked FCA basketball camp with Kay Yow in Marshall, IN for several years in the early 80's. It was incredible to me then (and still is) that she would stop everything to drive more than 10 hours to work a small basketball camp in Indiana. She was SO humble and SO funny. I would practice my Kay Yow accent so that I could imitate her at camp each summer. She was a very special person and I'm so honored to have known her.
Carla Eades-Krebs
February 6, 2009
God bless you.
February 5, 2009
Jerry Herrera
I just heard of Kay Yow today on the 700 Club TBN. I admire her for encouraging us here in this life to keep serving Jesus, as she was saying her good bye's to all fellow believers. I believe she is in the arms of her and our Savior Jesus Christ.
Jerry Herrera
February 4, 2009
As a new Campus Crusade for Christ staff member at NC State, it was thrilling to attend a State/UNC football game in the fall of 1975. In the game program, all the NCSU coaches were pictured. Kay Yow was (I recall) the only woman coach on the page. I bowed right then and asked God to use me in her life and to use her to influence others. The next week I walked into her office...and that is where her testimony begins.

Although it was uncomfortable to hear my name in her video testimony, the whole service was such a glorious celebration of what God can do in and through the life of one who truly loves Him. There she was: ALREADY IN HEAVEN and making an extraordinary effort to bring as many people with her as possible.

I am a breast cancer survivor and greatly appreciate all Kay's efforts to cure 'the beast'. Those efforts will continue and one day...it will be Cancer that dies.

This website reminds me that Kay doesn't have to imagine anymore what Heaven will be like.

Well done, good and faithful servant.
Laurie Moore Skinner
February 1, 2009
I always admired Kay Yow as the NC State Girls Basketball Coach. She brought great honor to our US Olympic game as well.

I was so touched by her determination to live her life to the fullest each and every day until her last. It was so obvious she gave so much of herself to others and her causes.

I watched her Memorial service today on TV and was so touched by her message to us all. Hearing her wonderful stories, her words of wisdom and the spiritual message she sent to us all in her last words.

I for one felt God in my heart today like never before. Kay's own words she videoed for her memorial was so powerful!! Her message will remain with me and be in my heart for the rest of the days of my life.

God Bless and R.I.P. Coach!
January 31, 2009
God bless you and give all your loved ones strength to go on without your physical presents
Patricia Booker
January 31, 2009
To Susan and your family-I am so very sorry for your deep, personal loss. I will keep you in my prayers as the days go on. Please let me know of any other way I can help.
May God bless and keep you in his peace.
Sandra Williams
January 30, 2009
Great coach-what she did for women's bb can never be measured.My memories of our games early in our careers are priceless. My sympathy goes to Debbie, Susan, & Ronnie. Rest in peace Kay---
Marilyn Christoph
January 30, 2009
May god be with you always! Rest in peace.
joe estrada
January 29, 2009
Dear Family of Coach Yow,

Having lived in Rhode Island my entire life, I knew nothing about NC State and Coach Yow until two years ago when I happened to tune in to one of the womens' basketball games. During a break in the action, the announcers spoke about the recurrence of Coach Yow's illness. Since then I have followed Coach Yow's progress and the team. I feel as though I have lost a member of my family. May she rest in peace.
January 29, 2009
What a great trooper through all this. I enjoyed watching her coach and lead her ladies on the basketball court. She is not suffering anymore and will be continuing to coach from above. God must have needed a women's coach in heaven. Kay, we will miss you.
Jody Skipworth
January 29, 2009
Kay was a true steel magnolia. Both she & Jimmy V. were inspirations to young & old alike.
Coach Pat Gilligan
January 29, 2009
I am very inspired by the way Kay lived her life on and off the court. What an inspiration for others who are fighting the battle of cancer ! You will never be forgotten !! Go Wolfpack !!
Lori Kennedy
January 29, 2009
I would have liked to have known her...she sounds like an amazing woman!
Sharon Santelli
January 29, 2009
Wow. I'm so sorry the world has lost a legend. She made such a contribution to history through her career and battle with cancer. We see she never allowed her fight get in her way of helping. Her example should have some impact on all of our lives, especially for those of us who are women. Her courage through her battle will help Kay's influence be that much greater. Even though she lost this one, she will not be forgotten. John 5:28,29/Acts 24:15. May we await the day when we will see her again. I hope that her family is so very proud of her and that they will take care of one another in this difficult time. May you throw your grief and sadness upon God because he cares for you (1Peter 5:7) and lean on the strength he supplys (2Corinthians 4:7). I am so sorry for your loss.
Your Friends and Family at the Stevenson Road K.H.of JWs
January 29, 2009
The Lord know she had fought a good fight so he told this precious angel on home with him. I will keep the family in my prayers.
Mattie P. Dodson
January 29, 2009
I have followed articles about the Coach for awhile now. I lost my Mom in 1987 after a 13 year battle with breast cancer. Our oldest daughter went to Montana State to play basketball. Coach Yow had incredible courage and perserverance and she left that mark, it is clear, on everyone she touched. Thank you for sharing her with us.
sherrie goff
January 29, 2009
January 29, 2009
It occurred to me that the inscription on Francis(Aunt Bea) Bavier's tombstone would be very appropriate for Coach Kay Yow. It reads, "To live in the hearts of those left behind is not to die". Coach Yow certainly lives on in the hearts of many! She was a teacher and teachers "touch the future", as the saying goes. Her lessons will be passed on to many future generations. May she rest in peace but her work go on.
Raymond Groseclose
January 29, 2009
I never met Coach Kay Yow, but I love her for all she did for young people. She will be missed by all.
May GOD bless hes family.
Lois Ingram
January 28, 2009
You were one of the most courageous people in the world, and also one of the most humble. You put a positive spin on something as devastating as cancer, and made the world a better place. Thank you for all of the triumphs on the court and for all the little things in life that you reminded us to notice, and not take forgranted. Rest now, Coach Yow. You deserve it!
January 28, 2009
Coach Yow,
YOU WILL BE MISSED GREATLY BY EVERYONE!! God Bless you for fighting cancer and showing us that there is HOPE!!

The Larson's
Gregg, Joni and Darby Larson
January 28, 2009
lillie ponder
January 28, 2009
I was a student at the University of South Carolina from 1976-80, During the 1978-79 season, I announced Lady Gamecocks Basketball games on the campus radio station. It was my desire to do this professionally, so I took the role very seriously.

In those days, the regional tournaments to get to the nationals were by invitation. I recall the one in Tennessee, when I got to interview Pat Head (later Summitt)and Kay Yow, who had the title of "co-coach".

Not sure who that was, but it was Kay who came to my table at halftime for a nice interview. It did not matter that it was a college radio station. She treated me like she did everybody - with respect.

We talked about the rise of women's college basketball, which was just starting to explode. Now that I look back, it was major highlight n my radio career, though I did not get paid for doing the game.

I now do a volunteer all-night DJ for a local Relay for Life, supporting the continued quest for a cure to Breast Cancer.

This year (Mother's Day Weekend) will be an extra special event for me. I will tell Kay's story from my perspective.
Greg Davie
January 28, 2009
Coach Yow showed us all how to have a meaningful life. She lived each day with faith and hope, strength and courage, grace and dignity, and a love and respect for the many lives she touched. NC State, and the world, has lost a wonderful lady.
Susan (Yelton) Lane
January 28, 2009
Sorry for the loss of your loved one. May you find comfort in the promise that God makes when he says he will do away with all sickness, pain, suffering and even death,
Wth Sympathy,
Ivy Faber
January 28, 2009
To the Yow Family:

May God bless you in your time of sorrow.
Joyce Green
January 27, 2009
Kay Yow is an inspiration to a generation that came of age in the 1970s. I am among many students who were fortunate to have benefited from her good grace on campus.

Kay created real teams from an array of disparate and exceptional athletes. Kay also remained true to her roots as a good teacher, displaying a knack for recognizing the good things that can be coaxed out of each student.

Through this good work, she presented all of us with a glimpse of what we could become if we pull together for the common good.

Congratulations on a life well lived, dangers well met. And thank you for all that you have shared with us.
david pendered
January 27, 2009
I have had the honor and good fortune to know Kay and her family for many years. The Hilton Yow family has to be one of the most remarkable in ways beyond the usual.

Kay's parents were like parents to me. They were the kind of parents we would all want if we had a choice. I mourned deeply when they died.

Kay's brother, Ronnie, her sisters, Debbie and Susan, each are no less remarkable in their own way.

I am deeply saddened by this family's loss but I know their collective strength and spiritual base will see them through this difficult time. My prayers and love are with them always.

Kay was a remarkable human being, well beyond the ordinary, even well beyond the extraordinary.
Jackie (Tinnin) Gray
January 27, 2009
vivian harrington
January 27, 2009
sorry for the the lost i know she was a great person may god be with you all my thoughts and prayers are with each one of you may god bless you all
michelle hill
January 27, 2009
As a 1965 graduate of Allen Jay HS in High Point NC, I had the honor of being one of her first students. She was our senior English teacher and basketball coach. She was an inspiration then and as I followed her career, she meant even more to me. What a lady, if we only had more like her.
Sandra Swaney McGhee
January 27, 2009
Coach Kay Yow touched lives she does not even know. I was blessed to have crossed paths as few times as I have due to the impact she could make on your life in an instant. She has an impact on my life. She was one of those people in life that you may not have known at the time the impact they have later in your life, but somehow cross paths again later and it makes more sense. Do you know what I mean?

Coach Yow had such an influence on my life, first at Allen Jay High School and then when old enough, as the camp director in which I attended as a student athlete. Kay exemplified the model for what we want in high school and the college coaches. She was a pioneer and role model in a man’s world for young girls and a later became the inspiring factor to cultivate the belief that women could prevail with faith and perseverance.

As a first year basketball student athlete, I carried a tape recorder to the Kay Yow basketball camps at NC State so I could tape her motivational speeches. I remember feeling so inspired and overwhelmed by her speeches, that I wanted to hear them every day. They actually increased my heart rate as I would sit and listen to her and felt as a young girl, feeling that I could do anything I set my mind to. I simply could not remember everything at once and needed to hear it over and over!! I played those cassette tapes all the time in my room to drive it into my being, so I could be the best I could be. I did this throughout my high school basketball career and now cherish those words even today. Recently, Allen Jay sold their 50-year annual, which has a special focus on a first year coach Kay Yow (she looks so funny with her beehive hair - and I mean this in a very loving way!) I love that I am in the same annual with her, even though I was not old enough to be on her team yet. Yet as mentioned in the first paragraph, sometimes we do not know these subtle “occurrences” for such a good spirit to be in your life.

In 2007, I was humbly awarded the Triad YWCA Woman of the Year in Exercise and Sport Science category and Kay Yow was the first to win this award in the same Exercise Science category. She was also the co-chair of the committee that year; therefore, she is on my DVD sharing the same motivational speech as she has always and I will cherish this always. Subtle occurrences.

Her eternal belief in determination, drive, and courage persevere in my life today just as strong today as they were then. I can feel an increased heart rate just thinking about the power of determination that radiated from those in her presence. This kind of power comes from motivation and belief that cannot be imagined or created, but that which is lived.

While I did not walk in the same path as Kay and gave up coaching for State Government service, I can feel her presence in the person that I am today. Kay helped me to unlock my mind and never give up. I remember her saying that a winner was not the one with the most points at the end of the game, but the one who acquired the most out of it. I remember my first losing season as a basketball coach as one of the hardest times of my life. We had moved into a conference twice our size with lots of talent and I had a handful of freshmen, one senior and one sophomore. That year, I knew we were “under construction”. I had to find a way to keep these girls determined night after night of losing. I went to listen to my tapes. Then it hit me, we would develop a plan for the next several years and we would find a way to win even without having the most points and our team shirts were “under construction”. We had awards for the small things (reaching a goal for a certain number of rebounds, assists, accurate play execution, and positive comments to others. I provided awards for disguised challenges until they could master the skill, just like I learned in camp. This, overall, emerged for me to pay it forward to these girls, was taught to me by Kay Yow. We improved and we believed no matter what and while we may not have had the most points at the end of the night, we won when we accomplished our goals.

I work still today on the motto “where there is a will there is a way” or moreover, “where there is a will there is a spirit of Kay”. While some may not understand my method or madness to how and why I do what I do and how I get things done, Kay was an inspiration to me and helped shape me into the determined person I am today. I will never forget what she has meant to girls in sport and the inspiring message to never quit.

My heart hurts yet sings, Kay will be missed, but her life lessons are embedded forever. It is our responsibility now to continue that total strength of mind and belief to others.
Kymm Ballard
January 27, 2009
I remember when Kay played girl's basketball at Gibsonville HS (six on six) with her two sisters. I attended Nathaniel Greene School (a union school like Gibsonville) and we had the Arrington triplets. The first time I met Kay was when I lead team devotions and she rembembered the Arrington Triplets. In another "its a small world", I did my student teaching at Allen Jay when Kay was there. She truly lived out her deep faith in the love and faithfulness of God in Christ.
Gary Stewart
January 27, 2009
Thanks for your contributions to women's basketball and your undying faith.

I enjoyed watching you play softball back in the day.
Carolyn Landreth
January 27, 2009
little did i know 20 years after starting to follow this program,Even in death Kay would gently affect me at the worst most tragic moment of my life, the sudden death of my spouse this past sunday of a heart attack.One moment my spouse wa ok the next...Gone . To say I am in shock and grief is a understatement, However in these few days I find my self remembering things she said,like it will get easyer at some piont it won't be your every waking thought.or perservere always,when life kicks you make sure it is foward. Thanks Coach for once again influenceing my life
June Galbraith
January 27, 2009
I can only imagine what heaven must be like now that such a lady as Kay Yow, has entered the gates with her Lord. May we all take lessons and try to live with the "attitude" and love as Coach Yow.
Thanks Coach for sharing and giving each of us so much of your life.
Mary Lee Bass (Red Oak, NC)
January 27, 2009
we love
Tammy Jekins
January 27, 2009
May Jehovah God be with you and your family during this time of grief. He is the God of comfort, He will wipe out all of our tears and pain. Revelation 21:4, Isaiah 57:15, 2Corinthians 1:4, Psalms 55:22
Loretta Washington
January 27, 2009
Coach Kay yow I feel like I was a part of you're team you will not be forgotten
Marcella Austin
January 27, 2009
January 27, 2009
To the Family of Coach Kay...

Please accept my condolence in the loss of Coach Kay. Soon there will be a time, when none of us will have to experience the pain of losing our family and friends to death (Rev. 21:3, 4).

Please find comfort in knowing Coach Kay will rise (Luke 11:23).


Crystal M Wortham
Baltimore, MD
January 27, 2009
In the 1980s, I met Coach Yow while I worked at UNC-TV. She asked my assistance in arranging to broadcast the women's ACC Basketball Tournament on public TV. We did so for a few years, and then -- at last -- commercial broadcasters began to understand the appeal of women's sports. Some years later, my daughter attended her beginning basketball camp and, thanks to a charity auction, shared a private luncheon with Coach Yow. As she gave the tour of the women's locker room, Coach Yow told my daughter and another young friend, "You are responsible for making yourself better. You have to work at it, every day, and then you'll get where you want to be." Around the same time, my husband and I took our daughter to an early-round NCAA women's tournament game in which NC State whupped up on Maine. The UNC and Duke women were also playing that weekend, and I think they were all at home. As we walked into Reynolds with the band playing, the cheerleaders shouting and the pom-poms waving, I stopped to chat with TV friends of mine free-lancing for ESPN. All of a sudden, I choked up with the realization that ESPN was at Coach Yow's game and would be at two other women's games in the Triangle within 24 hours, and that the brave woman in there -- already a breast cancer survivor -- had done so much to make it happen. My daughter noticed the tears. I tried to explain to her the enormous change, and she said, "What change? Hasn't it always been like this?" Thanks to Kay Yow and other women like her, generations of young women now EXPECT to have the chance to compete, to wave at the camera operators and to hear the pep band play for them. I'm glad that they don't know any other world, and I want them to know about the great ladies who helped make it so.
Chancy Kapp
January 27, 2009
To Kay's family, we are so sorry for your loss. May Almighty God comfort you in your time of tribulation.
Jackson family
January 27, 2009
I am a UNC graduate and didn't have the pleasure of meeting Coach Yow. But she has influenced my life and made me so much more aware of women's health issues. I send my sympathy to her family and NC State friends. You are in a much better place now, Coach Yow! God bless!
Wanda McArn
January 27, 2009
Coach Yow was an inspiration. She exemplified dignity and honor. May she rest in peace. Obviously the Lord needed a Basketball coach in heaven. He got the best!! May God wrap His arms around her family and NC State family and friends at this difficult time.
CJ, Roberta and Corey Atkins
January 27, 2009
Coach Yow, You were an inspiration to many and a truly extraordinary person to those who came into contact with you. May you rest in peace with our Lord!
Jennifer Paul
January 27, 2009
Kay Yow was a hero of mind. She was a sweet and knid women. She never let cancer get her down. Rest In Peace. We will never forget you.
Tristan Tinsley
January 27, 2009
What an inspiration!! I will never forget the first autograph I received from Coach Kay Yow: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!" I received that quote as a child and I will always remember the wonderful woman that touched by life with her kind words and faith in the Lord. May you rest peacefully...you are Home!
Kristina Hobby
January 27, 2009
jerad gibbs
January 27, 2009
What a fireball ! You will be missed. Rest in peace. And, thank you.
Henryk Zaleski USN (Ret)
January 26, 2009
Coach Yow! what a fighter, so much strength, faith and determination. God's blessing be with her family. She was our Angel for a long time and now Heaven gets their Angel back ,she is there with her Father and with Jimmy V and I am sure they are talking Wolfpack basketball
Debbie McMullen
January 26, 2009
We are 2nd cousins but I will always remember the reunions that was for your family!!! The Good Lord is always the answere for all our lives!!! The World was Blessed to have had You in their Lives and thank the Good Lord for That!!!
Katie Hudson Ozment
January 26, 2009
Coach KAY YOW-what a wonderful lady-there are no words to describe what you have done for all people not only on the court but off the court-this world is a better place because of you and what you stood for and for letting us be more educated with this terrible disease that you shared with everyone-i know you will be watching from above and seeing how many lives you have touched and the many more lives you will continue to touch-may you rest in peace Coach Yow--My thoughts and Prayers are with you and your entire Family and Friends
January 26, 2009
In 1967 I had the honor of being coached by Kay at Allen Jay High School in High Point, NC. I made her varsity team during my sopomore year. I wasn't very good. I was really surprised! During a game with one of our biggest rivals, Ragsdale High School, the game was tied. Most of our good players had fouled out. She pointed at me and motioned me in. I thought my heart would stop. I was a great bench warmer! As the game continued, I took a "wild shot" at the hoop and much to everyone's amazement, I made it. It didn't look like it was anywhere near the hoop from where I was standing. I looked at Kay. Her mouth was wide open and her face was frozen. That shot was definately made by devine intervention! I looked at her again, so proud of myself. She had the biggest grin on her face. I know that in her heart she knew she had given me my "15 minutes of fame". I am proud to have been on her team during her first coaching position. She is still a legend among those at Allen Jay that knew her.

God motioned her in. It's her turn to play. God bless her.
Beverly Snider-McCarter
January 26, 2009
Coach Yow was an excellent coach and a real class act. She represented all the good qualities of NCSU and college athletics. My thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family.
James Johnson
January 26, 2009
Some of us leave indelible footprints on this earth when we depart. Kay Yow is one of those blessed souls! Her courage, faith, and the desire to reach out to others endeared her to thousands and will inspire others to do the same.

She is finally free of that horrible disease and is basking in that realm of joy, peace and eternal love beyond measure.

You will be missed, Ms. Yow. God bless you and keep you near.

Yvonne Fair
Stockbridge, GA
Yvonne Fair
January 26, 2009
What a sweet spirit. She will and forever more be missed. The pleasure was all mine.
Wolfpack forever
January 26, 2009
My heartfelt condolences go out to the family and friends of Kay Yow. I had the pleasure of competing with her on the sports field. She was a strong competitor, a fair coach and an honorable lady. Her strong faith and love of others made her the wonderful person she was. Having followed her career, like many others, I grew to respect the person she was and admired her for such a courageous battle she fought so publicly. She is at peace now, and she is no longer in pain. God has blessed us all by giving us the pleasure and priviledge of knowing such a wonderful person in Kay Yow.
Lynn McLean
January 26, 2009
I got to meet Coah Yow one time and that was all that was needed for this Tarheel fan to have respect and admire her forever. She was a great lady who did a lot for the game of womens basketball...Thanks!! Rest in Peace Kay Yow!
J Wilson
January 26, 2009
Richard H. Herrick
January 26, 2009
January 26, 2009
may god bless your family.you were a gift to us all.the ones who knew you and the ones that not, take your rest. thank god you touched so many livesand made a difference in the world
victor gilchrist
January 26, 2009
Coach, You have completed your game of life with dignity, character, and love for all. As we continue our game of life, we are assured of an easier game because of your inspiration and faith that you have shown to all.
Barb Tool
January 26, 2009
Im a big tarheel fan but I really cared about coach kay yow a few years ago she came to mcdowell high and I recieved an autograph from her and she was so nice I care alot for her and I just want everyone to know that she is afine christian lady and she is not having to suffer anymore
carey woody
January 26, 2009
May God Bless You in your journey. You are not suffering any more and you have done your best to fight cancer.
Fern Spencer
January 26, 2009
We just want to say how sorry we were to learn of Coach Yow's passing. We met her when they retired Jennifer Howard jersey at her high school. She is now in a better place and coaching God's basketball team.
Karen Mayes
January 26, 2009
Thank Coach Yow.You were not only a great coach, but a great human being also.Your courageous battle with cancer is an inspiration to everyone.Rest in peace, you did a whale of a job.
louis carwell
January 26, 2009
Kay, we will miss you. A woman of dignity, strength, character and faith. A true inspiration to all who knew you in any way.
Thomas Soyars
January 26, 2009
I am a devoted Tarheel fan who has a lot of respect and admiration for Coach Yow and Coach Jim V. The love and compassion that they demonstrated before the Wolfpack players and fans is unmeasurable. she was truly an inspiration to all women. She never gave up and taught us all a very valuable lesson in life. To her family, you were so blessed to have such a remarkable woman in your family. Thank you for sharing her with NCSU and the world. May God grant you strength, peace and comfort as you face these difficult days ahead.
Karen Howell
January 26, 2009
i like to offer my prayers to the family of Mrs. Yow and the students, players and faculity at North Carolina State. she was a Bright star to look up to and she will be missed.God has brought another coach on home to be with Jim Valvano and the two of them will shime own in our heart and souls .
Kendall Meeks Sr.
January 26, 2009
As a long time fan of Women's basketball, I have admired Coach Yow since I first heard of her. I am a huge fan of the Univ of TN and have followed Pat Head Summit's career since she was in college..
NC State was always right up there and when Coach Yow led the US Women's Olympic team to Gold, she became my 2nd most admired Coach in the Country-Men or Women's!!
I am very saddened to learn of Coach Yow's passing, I know that she is leaving a big hole in the heart's of many. May those holes be filled with the memory of this lovely lady... She was one of the few people who get a lot of media attention whom I admire greatly.
God Speed to your soul Coach and may those you left behing be inspired by your well lived life, to aspire to greatness.
Anne Archer
January 26, 2009
January 26, 2009
There are not many people on this planet like Coach Yow. She was and will remain an angel sent from heaven to inspire thousands. Her character was flawless and as a young girl her strength inspired me to never give up. My heart was truly broken when I read the news that she passed but I truly believe she is in God's hands. We can all learn from the life she lived and are all better people from having known her.
Kristy Gaines
January 26, 2009
My deepest sypathy to all of the Yow family. Kay meant so much to Women's Basketball, helping to bring it to the forefront and make it a popular spectator sport. But her greatest contribution to the human race was the courage she inspired in so many as she battled cancer. As I battle colorectal cancer now Kay and her memory are such inspirations to me.
Todd Morris
January 26, 2009
I'm truly sorry for your loss and may it help your family to know Kay was thought so highly of and respected by so many. The people and especially young people she touched and influenced alone is such an accomplishment, but to give so much to her beloved NCSU is huge too. She is in a far better place but will be missed here by so many. I know God blessed her with many good years and now she is in heaven where everything is glorious forever.
Susie Carter
January 26, 2009
We are so sorry to hear about your loss. We knew Kay when she was the Basketball Coach at Elon. What a fantastic job she did there too. We know all her players now and former will miss her as will all her colleagues, family and friends. She has been such an inspiration to so many. The Women's Basketball world has lost a tremendous leader and friend. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Gary and L. J. Overfelt, Elon Graduates
Gary and L. J. Overfelt
January 26, 2009
Kay, they don't make 'em like you any more. Thanks for the many gifts you gave to women's sports and the young ladies you coached over the years. Your fighting spirit lives on.
Becky Adams
January 26, 2009
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
January 26, 2009
What an inspirational person. Coach Yow fought hard and strong and she has completed her course. She is coaching now on her Savior's team and enjoying every minute of it! To those she left behind, may you be comforted by the many memories that you have of her.
Stephanie Ryder
January 26, 2009
Coach Yow fought a hard, tough fight. I am truly inspired by her willingness to Never Give Up!!! Eventhough I am a Tarheel fan, I have become a Kay Yow fan for life. She will be greatly missed.
Rejohnda Bruner Tucker
January 26, 2009
January 26, 2009
Coach Yow represented N. C. State University with dignity, grace, and emotion. Her attitudes influenced many who played for her as well as those like myself who watched her teams play. I didn't personally know her, but feel as if I have lost a true friend. May God take her in his arms and continue to bless her.
Lewis Hodges
January 26, 2009
Kay Yow's earthly loss is heaven's gain! May God bless her lovely soul!
Corey Grooms
January 26, 2009
Coach Yow:

You were an inspiration to us all. God Rest your beautiful soul and may we all live our lives by the fine example you set.
January 26, 2009
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
doris rainey
January 26, 2009
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2009

January 26, 2009
To God Be the Glory for Your Life and the way in which your served Him as you brought glory to His name. We wished you had a mulligan!!
Ronnie and Carolyn Reitz
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