Janet Tuck
1931 - 2017
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Dear Janet, I know you're feeling bad because you can't remember things. Nothing quite connects together anymore, and you can tell that something just isn't right. Every morning you wake up away from home, but you don't remember having travelled anywhere. Your mom and dad aren't there to greet you, no sisters picking on each other. There are nice people there who know you and love you though, but who are they? You're still a young girl, but who is that old woman in the mirror? You were always so strong and steady and capable, and could take whatever had stopped working and set it right again. Now you wonder what you did wrong to cause this to happen. Please don't feel at fault. Time has just decided to kick up a storm, swirling around and backwards and tangling events instead of flowing straight forward as it used to, and we can't blame ourselves for what time does, right? The good news is that because of these twists in time, I'm able to tell you something that you will like to hear. I can tell you about your future. Everything turns out fine. You will grow up to be a beautiful woman and an extraordinary artist who will paint and paint and sculpt and build, simply because that's what you do. You will be a very unusual example of someone so extremely creative and at the same time deeply practical. You will dream up new things that the world needs, and with your own hands build them into something beautiful. You'll do that so deftly, it will seem as if you had mastered the skill years ago, even though you hadn't a clue how to go about it the day before. As you go through life this way, you'll shower the world with your gifts. Not just material gifts, but as the gift of showing to others how to use their creativity, guiding and inspiring them on their own paths. One day as you are leaving a party, a man named Ed who hadn't had a chance to introduce himself will ask for your phone number. He'll be taken with your talent, your independence, and your sweet and steady nature. You'll marry three months later and he'll be your husband for 60 years. As you have done for so many others, you'll help Ed change the world. As newlyweds, you and Ed will move to the coast of Northern California and build a house with your own hands. At the same time, Ed will start his first company and you'll have a daughter Jean who will crawl around on the construction site and absorb from her parents the knowledge of how things are put together and how problems are solved. She'll continue to glean knowledge this way from every hug and kiss you give, and every stroke you make with your paint brush. Some of that knowledge and love will be packaged up as a little bit of magic that you and Ed and Jean will then pass on to your second daughter Ann. You'll be a wonderful mother. You will be close to your daughters and they will love you dearly, just like you love your mother. Your daughters will grow up to be mothers too, and will strive to do the job as well as you did but never quite master the way you did it with infinite patience and caring while standing strong and never losing your cool. You'll have five grandchildren Alec, Neil, Gram, Luke and Jill. They'll adore their Grammy just like you love yours, and whenever they come visit you they will end up helping you with a sculpture, picking lemons from a tree for lemonade, or sewing a pocket on the front of a dress that was much needed for squirreling away treasures. When you grow old and need some help for the first time in your life, your family will come and work together, just like one of your well-designed creations. Jean and her kids will take care of you and Ed, and her husband will even make delicious things for you to eat. All of this will happen because of the magic that you created when you formed this family, that formed from magic your mother and grandmother created before you. And that magic will then be passed on through the ages even after everyone has forgotten us and no matter what time decides to do. Janet Barber Tuck age 85, died on Sunday April 16th, 2017. She had Alzheimer's Disease. Born December 7th, 1931 in Aurora, Illinois to Clarence Barber and Mary Allen Barber, she lived in Aurora and Oswego IL, El Granada CA, Darien CT, Cordova TN, Westport CT, Bellevue WA, West Covina CA, and Waxhaw NC. She graduated from the American Academy of Art in Chicago Illinois and was the art director of the Lester Jacobs Advertising Agency. Janet went on to practice fine art full time, winning several first-place awards for her work. Examples of her work can be found at: www.anntuck.com/JanetTuck/JanetTuck.htm Janet is survived by her husband Edward Tuck, Daughter Jean McGregor (Michael) and Grandsons Alec, Neil, and Gram McGregor of Waxhaw, NC, Daughter Ann Tuck (Dan Baden) and Grandchildren Luke and Jill Baden of Accra Ghana. Her sisters were Mary Cummings and Joan Carlson.

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Published in Chicago Tribune from Apr. 19 to Apr. 30, 2017.
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August 10, 2017
Dear Ann,

The words you wrote about your mother brought tears to my eyes. You must have given her much joy. Her talents flow through you as you share them with your friends and family here in Ghana. I loved how you creatively wrote about your mother's future. It was so touching.

Thank you for sharing this afternoon with me and bringing your artistic talents to our color selections. So I thank your mother for sending you to me and your adding fun, happiness, and creativity to our lives in Accra.

Babs (and Rob)
Babs Jackson
July 11, 2017
Thanks to Ann and Jean for their tributes to their parents -- after Ed's passing on June 26.
Acquainted with them in their Bellevue days, and long out of communication ---
your obituary gives all of us who have lost dear people to this dreadful happening -- gives us
a way to think about them that would not have occurred without Ann's writing.
Both of them gave the world their love and talents. Mary Robson, Port Townsend, Washington
Mary Robson
Acquaintance
June 30, 2017
I didn't know Janet, but I wish that I did. This was the most beautiful and heartwarming obituary that I've ever read.
Edythe Bronston
June 11, 2017
To Ed, Jean and Ann and families: Janet was one of my best friends in high school and she was a bridesmaid in my wedding 60 years ago. We had lost touch in the last few years. It was a great shock to read that she had passed.
I never know the right thing to say in times like this except to say that I am sorry.
The obituary is very beautiful. It demonstrates how much she was loved by all who knew her.
Sincerely,
Teresa Kelly
May 31, 2017
This was beautiful. May she Rest In Peace
May 16, 2017
To Ed, Jean and Ann and families,
This is an amazing tribute to an amazing woman. I was lucky enough to be at your West Covina home and meet Mrs. Tuck in the early 1980s. I remember art on the walls of your home and being completely in awe. I'm so touched by this story and how well you care for your wife and mother in her senior years. You are all an inspiration to others. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story.
I'm so sorry for your loss,
Margaret Muller
Margaret Muller
Friend
May 7, 2017
Janet Tuck's painting of her daughter Ann
So touching to hear how you all have connected with my mother's life. Thank you so much for taking the time to write your thoughts here. We'll cherish them forever.

Ann Tuck (Author of the obituary)
Ann Tuck
May 4, 2017
My condolences to your family. I do not know your family, but I just wanted to let you know this was the most beautifully written obituary I have ever read. I have been a funeral director for 20 years, so I have read a lot. The story is beautiful, the way it was crafted was beautiful and so is the love you had for your mother. May time heal your heart and you only know happiness.
William .
May 2, 2017
To Gregory Meister,

I don't have a way to contact you, but thank you for your post in this guest book. I remember your mom when I was little and I always knew she was very special to my parents. She was the one who invited my mom to that party I mentioned in the letter.
Ann Tuck
May 1, 2017
Gregory RIP Alzheimer's 2015 and Michael
From a stranger who lived with and loved someone with Alzheimer's for over 41 years, your words and message are a beautiful tribute to a wonderful person who I wish I had known.
Michael Horvich
May 1, 2017
May 1, 2017
Dear Tuck family,
My name is Gregory A. Meister. I read of Jan's passing from the obituary in the Chicago Tribune. Please accept my sympathies. As Ed, you probably remember, my mother Stella and my father Ralph were friends of the Tucks when they lived in Aurora and I vaguely remember visiting you in California once with my daughter. Jan painted a portrait of my sister Natalie in a leotard and Stella hung it in her bedroom above her bed and it is still there testifying her appreciation. Stella also died of Alzeimers after 10 years of progression in 1999. Ralph died in 2006 of is own choice, stopping his medications. He and I took care of Stella during that time at home. I personally do not remember you Tucks but I am sure you always were in my parents mind most favorably. The obituary was so nice, I wish I had written one for my parents. I did not. What you said is so true. Her influence and love will remain in her children and grand children. Now that she is at peace, may peace be with you. Gregory
May 1, 2017
I didn't know Janet Tuck, but I stumbled upon the "Mary Tyler Mom" article in the Sunday Chicago Tribune. As a former (and now sometime) artist and currently a college professor, I truly enjoyed looking at her accomplishments (paintings, sculpture, etc.)I was sorry to see that she passed from the ravages of Alzheimer's, the same disease that took my mother at age 63. It's wonderful for you to be able to see tangible evidence of her great talent. God bless your family.
Carol Sturz
April 30, 2017
As many others before me said," I never knew your dear mother," BUT, by just reading this very unique, beautifully written tribute about her amazing life, made me wish I had met her!!! Your vivid description of Janet & all that she accomplished , & the loved ones she touched, it is a perfect way to celebrate her amazing life!!! My mother Pat, also suffered & died from the horrible disease of Alzheimer's... it is a struggle sometimes to remember her vibrant personality before she lost all her memories!!! Thanks for writing & sharing this perfect obituary... so very sorry for your loss, but I will remember the story of your mothers life that you have immortalized in words not to be forgotten!!!
Martha Dupre
April 30, 2017
I was stopped by the beautiful smile on the page. Then I read the wonderful story of her life on this earth. Thank you for sharing the heartwarming story of a life so well lived. Although I have never met Janet or her lovely family, they are warming my heart. Deepest sympathy to Janet's family.
Sharon Anderson
April 30, 2017
I read this unique tribute to Janet and had to explore more into her life. Her art work is amazing. My thoughts are with all of you and your tribute to her I shall always remember.
Peter Burns
April 29, 2017
I read obituaries in 5 newspapers every day. Even tho I don't know Ms. Tuck, who ever wrote this made her seem alive in my mind. I'm sorry for your loss but thank you for bringing her to life with words.
April 28, 2017
What a touching and beautiful tribute to Janet Tuck this is! I didn't know Janet, but I have known the memory loss that took away so much of her world during her last years. My 98-year-old mother struggles with similar problems every day, and my father died with Alzheimer's. I was so touched by the way the author of this unusual obituary filled in details for Janet. This gave people like me (strangers to Janet) a chance to know this amazing lady, and it inspires me to try to provide a similar narrative for my mother as she struggles daily to remember family members, past events, and what happened moments ago. My sympathy goes out to Janet's family and friends as I thank you for sharing her with all of us.
Judith Easterly
April 27, 2017
I too did not know this incredible women. It caught my eye just like some of the others said below. What a beautifully written tribute to your wife and mother. My deepest sympathy goes out to the Tuck family.

Mary Lou Meyers
Putnam, IL
April 27, 2017

Art is forever.A few months before my Mom died of Dementia,I gave her some brushes,paints and a canvas and asked her to paint my portrait. Barely able to hold the brush,she did and its hanging on my bedroom wall,the first thing I see every morning.Sometimes I laugh at it other times I cry. God bless Janet and enjoy her art.
Lloyd Fletcher
April 25, 2017
I did not know this lovely lady but just wanted to say what a beautifully written obituary. God bless her and all loved ones.
Kathy Ewing
April 24, 2017
I too did not know your beloved wife & mother but her obituary caught my eye this morning. What a beautifully written tribute to her. May you find comfort and feel her presence in her lovely art work. My sincere sympathy.
Janet Sinibaldi
April 24, 2017
I would like to offer my sincere condolences to the Tuck family on the loss of your beloved Janet. Please find comfort in knowing God is close to the brokenhearted and keeps our loved ones in His memory.We can look forward to seeing our loved ones again because God expressed his love for all mankind in the loving ransom sacrifice of His beloved son, Jesus. May Almighty God grant you peace,strenght and hope in the days ahead (John 3:16).
GLORIA COOPER
April 23, 2017
Dear Jean and family,

My name is Pat Alston. I never knew your mother. I wish I had, although I have such a lovely "picture" of her through the words of the obit I spotted a day or two ago in the Los Angeles Times. I was drawn to it by the photos. I wanted to learn a bit more. Who was this gifted artist? Whose lives had she touched? Who loved her?

I often scan obituary names while reading the daily newspapers to see if I know anyone. Sometimes I do; often, I don't. But yours stopped me from moving on. I've never read a more unique or loving tribute.

As a daughter with such fond memories of my own parents, I was moved by the obvious love that went into your goodbye. As a retired journalist, I appreciated the form and flow. What a nice transition from "I can tell you about your future" to "Everything turns out fine"!

Many blessings to your family. May your memories fill your hearts with joy.

Pat
Pat Alston
April 23, 2017
What a beautiful tribute to a lovely, talented women! I did not know her or any of her family, but I wish I had.Whoever wrote the tribute has a talent of his/her own.My condolences to the family.What a loss!
Sheila
April 23, 2017
As My Aunt, she welcomed me into her home for a while as a young man trying to embark on life....so dearly missed....
John Swanson
April 23, 2017
I did not know you, Janet, until for some unknown reason your smile caught my attention as I quickly thumbed past the obituaries in the paper this morning. Your smile invited me to read your life story; you were introduced to me and I will never forget you. I saw my grandmother's past, my mother's present, and my future mirrored throughout your incredible life journey. Thank you for smiling at me through the pages, inviting me into your life, sharing your amazing story, for making me smile, and reminding me that loving magic will always remain. Your obituary was as unique as you. You and your family are forever in my thoughts and prayers, reminding me that everything turns out fine. God bless.
Laura Alvarado
April 22, 2017
Janet Tuck's art - Her husband Ed
Ann Tuck
April 22, 2017
Janet Tuck's art - Dogs
Ann Tuck
April 22, 2017
Janet Tuck's Art - Her daughter Jean
Ann Tuck
April 22, 2017
So taken by this beautiful tribute to a life well lived. My condolences to you all. God bless.
dana cameron
April 20, 2017
Beautiful tribute - Rest in Peace Janet .....
Pat P
April 19, 2017
Oh, my! This Obituary is a Work of Art! Janet would've loved it!
My Condolences to all,
Nancy Center
Nancy Center
April 19, 2017
A beautiful summation of a life well lived.
April 19, 2017
How beautifully written, I wish I could have met her.... very sorry for your loss.
Noreen Collins
April 19, 2017
I didn't know you or your family, but just want to say that is one of the most beautiful memorials I have ever read. God Bless all of you.
April 19, 2017
What a beautiful tribute! God bless you and your family.
Teri Collins
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