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CHICAGO (AP) – Ann Landers, the columnist whose snappy, plainspoken and timely advice helped millions of readers deal with everything from birth to death, died Saturday. She was 83.

The death of Landers, whose real name was Esther Lederer, was announced by the Chicago Tribune, publisher of her column. She died less than two weeks before her July 4 birthday.

Landers died of multiple myeloma at her Chicago apartment.

“There was absolutely no wall between Ann Landers and her readers. It went straight from her to them,” Tribune syndicated columnist and author Bob Greene said Saturday. “I don't think there has ever been the kind of mutual trust and affection between writer and reader as there was with Eppie.”

Landers' column first appeared in print Oct. 16, 1955, in the Chicago Sun-Times. In 1993, she was the world's most widely syndicated columnist, appearing in more than 1,200 newspapers worldwide with 90 million readers daily. Her twin sister, Pauline, followed her into the profession as writer of the Dear Abby column.

The feisty, outspoken Landers was a housewife when she won the Sun-Times contest to become the second Ann Landers after the woman who created the column died.

At the end of her career, she was a with-it great-grandmother whose name often appeared on lists of the country's most influential women.

“Eppie Lederer was a great columnist and a wonderful person,” said John W. Madigan, chairman and CEO of Tribune Co. “She helped people with her advice, and made important contributions to society through the causes she supported.”

Psychology Today once gave her credit for likely having more influence on the way people work out their problems than any other person of her era.

“All the column means to me is an opportunity to do good in the world,” she said in a 1993 interview with that magazine.

She attributed her skill to sheer instinct.

“I relate to these people like they are almost sitting in the same room. I feel their pain,” she once said.

Her advice was always blunt, often sympathetic and sometimes sarcastic. But her answers, even to some of the silliest questions, were heartfelt.

In her column published in Sunday's Tribune, Landers gave advice to “Depressed in New Jersey” and “Stu in Florida.” And to “Desperate in Des Moines, Iowa,” whose husband is keeping his earnings from her, she wrote: “Edgar will not allow you to have any of his income and is planning to sell the house? Something smells rotten to me.

“See a lawyer immediately, and find out how to protect yourself and your children if Edgar leaves you and takes all his assets with him.”

When she began her column, newspaper editors forbade her from talking about homosexuality.

In later years, there were virtually no taboos: In an Oct. 24, 1993, column, for example, she endorsed masturbation or mutual masturbation as a safe, realistic alternative to abstinence for everyone from teens to the elderly.

In a letter published June 16, 1993, a man wrote of being sexually aroused by his girlfriend's young daughters. In a typically pithy response, Landers wrote: “The klinker in your thinker has a pedophile-like twist that could cause real trouble at any time. Please get counseling at once.”

She was a great believer in counseling and wasn't too big-headed to seek advice from prominent experts when a reader's problem proved too complicated.

Her column had lighthearted moments, though. Few topics excited readers more than the question of which direction the toilet paper should be hung in.

“She was like America's mother, and I'm not alone in my sadness,” Landers' daughter, Margo Howard, told the Tribune.

“She was about fixing the world. She really wanted to make things better. She really cared about the people,” said Howard, whose column, “Dear Prudence,” appears in the online magazine Slate.

In addition to Howard, Lederer is survived by her sister and competitor in the advice column business, Pauline Esther “PoPo” Phillips, also known as Abigail Van Buren, author of the Dear Abby column.

Landers made headlines and inspired countless water cooler debates in 1985 when she asked women readers whether they prefer tenderness and cuddling or sexual intercourse. Some 90,000 readers sent in responses, and 72 percent voted for cuddling, she reported.

She answered hundreds of letters a day from the office in her high-rise North Side apartment, dispensing thoroughly modern advice by typewriter because she just didn't like computers.

She was based at the Sun-Times until March 1987, when she switched syndication companies and moved to the Chicago Tribune.

The daughter of Russian immigrants, she was born Esther “Eppie” Friedman on July 4, 1918, in Sioux City, Iowa, 17 minutes before her twin sister. When Pauline became Dear Abby, her older sister was so angry they reportedly feuded several years before reconciling.

Landers married Jules Lederer, who helped found Budget-Rent-A-Car, in 1939 – in a gown matching that of her sister, who got married that same day.

The Lederers had a daughter, Margo. They divorced in 1975, a decision Landers announced in “the most difficult column I have ever tried to put together.”

“How did it happen that something so good didn't last forever? The lady with all the answers does not know the answer to this one.” Lederer died in January 1999.

Her long career was not without controversy. In 1982 she made headlines when it was revealed that she had recycled old material in her columns.

And her headstrong views got her into hot water in 1993, when she issued a national apology for adding her own inflammatory remarks to a letter from a charity watchdog group. Two years later, she apologized for calling Pope John Paul II a “polack.”

Though she wasn't shy about expressing her own opinions in her columns, Landers once said she stayed sane by distancing herself from her readers' problems.

“I learned early in this work to take the problems seriously but not to take them too personally. I have to separate myself from the readers and realize what's happening to them is not happening to me,” she told the Sun-Times in an interview marking her column's 30th anniversary.

She told readers at that time, “I intend to crank out this column as long as you find me useful and the good Lord gives me the strength to do it.”


Copyright © 2002 The Associated Press



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Published in Chicago Tribune on Jun. 23, 2002.
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November 28, 2016
MY condolences for the friends and family May the Gof comfort and love be with you as you grieve 1 Cor 1: 3,4
June 22, 2016
Thank you for sharing a part of your life with us. Godspeed.
Harry Simpson
September 30, 2014
Ann/Eppie: I miss your wit and wisdom.
Long Time Reader
June 21, 2012
I got to see your speech years ago when you came to Bolton High School in Alexandria, Louisiana. It was interesting to hear about your work and I'm glad I was there.
Pauline Hicks
July 13, 2011
Dear Ann I wish they would make a movie about You and your twin sister Dear Abbey.RIP
SINCERELY,
Jo Ann Petrosky
Jo Ann Petrosky
April 7, 2011
MAY YOUR MEMORY BE ETERNAL!
Fr. Nicholas V. Gamvas
March 22, 2011
Frankie Cheel
April 1, 2010
For Ann...The voice
of trust.

WEEP NOT FOR ME


Do not weep for me when I no longer dwell among the wonders of the earth; for my larger self is free, and my soul rejoices on the other side of pain...on the other side of darkness.

Do not weep for me, for I am a ray of sunshine that touches your skin, a tropical breeze upon your face, the hush of joy within your heart and the innocence of babes in mothers arms.

I am the hope in a darkened night. And, in your hour of need, I will be there to comfort you. I will share your tears, your joys, your fears, your disappointments and your triumphs.

Do not weep for me, for I am cradled
in the arms of God. I walk with the angels, and hear the music beyond the stars.

Do not weep for me, for I am within you;
I am peace, love, I am a soft wind that caresses the flowers. I am the calm that follows a raging storm. I am an autumns leaf that floats among the garden of God, and I am pure white snow that softly falls upon your hand.

Do not weep for me, for I shall never die, as long as you remember me...
with a smile and a sigh.


© Joe Fazio
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jfazio@gmail.com /Joe Fazio,
Beverly Hills, California
September 6, 2009
To the families of Ann Landers:

Just located the site where I am able to add my own condolences.

Ann Landers was a headful and a heartful of wisdom.

So wise and so caring, she left such a void since, that cannot never be forgotten.

She is probably offering her wisdom to those in Heaven above.

She is missed to this day, but is remembered in golden memory.

Rest in peace.

Condolences forever to her family, the loved ones she left behind.
Cheri Weiner
March 5, 2006
MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU SAFE. YOU HELPED MANY PEOPLE THROUGH THE YEARS AND WE ALL WILL MISS YOU DEARLY.
theresa tallini
January 6, 2005
May all the good that you have done for people live on in our memories.
You helped countless millions of people who relied on you for your good, sane, common sense advice!
G*d bless you.
My sympathy to the family.
You were a saint!
Helene Schmidt
January 26, 2004
Dear Jeanne;
I know that even after all this time that the open wound of the death of your dear mother has only just started to heal.

I just wanted to say that over the years she gave me such hope when I was at my lowest. I never wrote to her, but it seemed that there was always just the right bit of advice and hope in her words each day that I needed.

I still miss her, but she left behind some one worthy of continuing in her footsteps.

Gail Smith
Linda G Smith
January 18, 2004
I wrote to you as a confused young man and you gave me the courage to come out of the closet and to tell my friends and family and ever since that day my lofe as been wonderful thank you ann
Frank Gonzales
June 28, 2002
Dear Daughter of Ann Landers,
What am I going to do ? Who will guide me now with love. and care ? I come from India. Ann helped me make a lifetime decision to find happiness and peace. God rest her soul.
Love
Rupa.
Rupa Dore
June 27, 2002
On behalf of my own mother Thanks For The Memories, Ann. May You Rest In Eternal Peace, And May Your Loved Ones Who Remain Find Comfort In (Such) Knowledge..
Sherry A Daughter For Life
June 27, 2002
To the family of Ann Landers: My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I will truly miss reading such a great lady's column.
She was so full of wisdom and knowledge and willing to share it!
penny thigpen
June 26, 2002
We grew up with you. We'll miss you dearly "Eppie".
Sam Lotto and family
June 26, 2002
You will be missed by all.

JoAnn
JoAnn Roberts
June 26, 2002
Ann Landers was the first thing I read everytime I opened the paper.
Being 18 and a reader for 3 years,(everyday, might I add) there have been many times where I've found myself applying her advice to others, in my own life. Whether it be about love, appreciation, education, or something else valuable. I will truly miss opening the paper to find out what she has to say for the day. It was one of the highlights of my day.
YOUNG, DEDICATED READER
June 26, 2002
You will be greatly missed for your open mind and ability to tell it like it is.
Petia Sha w
June 26, 2002
We will miss you. You were greatly loved. Our prayers are with your family and friends.
Sarah Mingus
June 26, 2002
MAY THE FAMILY FIND COMFORT IN KNOWING THAT SO MANY CARE FOR AND WILL BE REMEMBERING THEM IN PRAYER.




GWENDOLYN CARTER
GWENDOLYN CARTER
June 26, 2002
You will be dearly missed. Your family and friends are in our prayers.
Patty Smith
June 26, 2002
Dear Ann:
So sorry to hear of your passing. I have enjoyed reading your column for many years.
My deepest sympathy and love goes out to your family. The newspaper won't be the same without you. Miss you.
Sincerely,
SAD IN SHERMAN OAKS

Mary Butchkavitz
June 26, 2002
It seems that I have been reading Ann Landers all my life. I will truly miss her column. To her family, thank you for sharing your mom, sister, aunt, grandma and great grandma with us! We loved her as you did! God Bless
Joyce Edwards
June 26, 2002
It is with sadden to hear of the death of this remarkable woman. May her family alway remember her as being a great human being, who cared about people.
Bonnie M. Smith
June 26, 2002
My deepest sympathy to her family and
fans everywhere. She supplied common sense uncommonly well. We are all better for it.
Joan Cimino
June 26, 2002
A True Legend.
She will be missed by many.
Mary Ewell
June 26, 2002
I WAS VERY SADDEN TO HEAR OF THE PASSING OF DEAR ANN.SHE WILL BE VERY MUCH MISSED,MY HEART GOES OUT TO THE FAMILY,SHE HAS BROUGHT LOT'S OF HOPE TO SO MANY PEOPLE IN HER LIFE.SHE HAS HELP THE TROUBLE SOUL'S OF ALL AGE'S .YOU WILL BE MISSED . GOD BLESS.
sheila stiller
June 26, 2002
She was a beaut! Long live Annie Landers!
dan bloom
June 26, 2002
It is the end of an era.
karen J
June 26, 2002
When I was reading Margo's words relating what her mother would say if she were writing this column herself, a huge lump came into my throat. When I reached the blank white space at the end, I really lost it. Newspapers NEVER have blank spaces. What a stupendous tribute. What a wonderful lady. I miss her and always will.
Phyllis WILSON
June 25, 2002
Ann Landers was always the first thing I looked for in the newspaper. I will miss it dearly.

She was a great lady.
Melanie
June 25, 2002
Eppie was my third cousin and my grandfather's first. They grew up together in Souix City. The last time I saw her was at our family reuinion in Omaha, NE. Our heart felt simpathy goes out to her immediate family. As for myself and the other members of our family, she will be truly missed.
Michael Simon
June 25, 2002
What a beautiful tribute you wrote to your mother and how proud she must be of you. The world has lost a beacon of love, hope, and truth. We will all miss
Dear Ann.
Anita Meinbach
June 25, 2002
I have read Ann Landers faithfully every day, and am deeply saddened by the passing of this wonderful lady. I send my thoughts and prayers to the family.
Marilyn Ross
June 25, 2002
I was surprized at the depth of my grief when I heard the news of the passing of this great lady. But after thinking about it, she was like a member of our family. I will miss her as I miss other members of my family already gone.
Tom Hagemann
June 25, 2002
The tiny lady known as Ann Landers came on board the Chicago Sun Times when I was a young married woman with two children and an errant husband more busy with his work than his family. So often I found solace and understanding as Ann answered others with much the same difficulties I was experiencing. After all, this was the Donna Reed time of life, post WWII and the house in the suburbs.

When she and husband divorced, her sorrow evoked pain for her readers and she personally wrote and thanked everyone who wrote to her.

Some years later she ran in her column the questions would we marry the same man and would we have children? I agonized over my response, to the negative on both counts, no I did not wish my children away, I simply stated that given another chance most likely I would not have married nor had children. I expected her to publish my letter, what would her readers think? She kindly advised us that she had received thousands of letters just like mine. I did not feel like a freak. What an amazing woman and God loved her as much as we did granting her almost 84 years of life. She is I am sure, giving advice to some of the younger angels,and maybe some of the older ones too come to think of it.
Dorothy F. Doherty
Chicago, Illinois
Dorothy F. Doherty
June 25, 2002
IT FEELS LIKE WE HAVE LOST A MOTHER.
I GUESS WE ALL THOUGHT SHE WOULD LIVE FOREVER. ONE THING IS TRUE HER
WISDOM WILL LIVE ON. SHE WILL BE
SADLY MISSED BY MANY.
GOD BLESS THE FAMILY OUR PRAYERS
ARE WITH YOU.
THANKS ANN FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE.
SHIRLEY
shirley
June 25, 2002
I feel like I've lost a lifelong friend. Since I was 12 years old her column was part of my day. As I grew up, marrie, and raised my children, her column made me laugh, made me think, and was one constant throughout the turbulent 60's, 70's, 80's, 90's, right into the new millenium. I admired the way she used her column to help people find their way through troubled times and how she always encouraged her readers to take responsibility for their lives. She was someone who made a difference. She will be missed. I extend heartfelt sympathy to her family.
Merrill Seal
June 25, 2002
I was surely stuck on Ann from many
years back. She will be missed to
max. So much can be said about the
works she has done for our society,
but the most important thing that matter is where she will spend eternity. I pray and believe that she was saved.
Wayne Blount
June 25, 2002
She will be missed by so many.
Deneen Stubbs
June 25, 2002
Thank you for all joy and wisdom you brought in to so many people lives.
JON VRANEY
June 25, 2002
May God bless your family at this time.
amanda
June 25, 2002
Dear Margo and Family of Ann Landers,
I send you my heartfelt sympathies. I feel that I lost a dear friend with the passing of your mother. She gave so many people advice and even when she didn't know the answer, she went to someone else who would. You have to admire someone who can admit when they don't know everything! She will be sadly missed by thousands of people.
Please know that she's in the Kingdom of God and is probably still passing on her words of wisdom there too.
Sincerely,
Juanita Turner
Middletown, Ohio
Juanita Turner
June 25, 2002
Margo & family, Two years ago I wrote a letter to your mother about my husband's ex-wife "Lola." Even though the advice about what to do when "Lola" visited appeared in the paper a week too late (April 2000) for that episode, it helped by reopening the discussion. Now it's a joke between my husband and me and "that woman" won't be setting foot in our house again.

I've been a faithful reader since I was about 10 years old in 1965. I'll miss her wit and common sense in my morning paper.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
in San Jose
June 25, 2002
My thoughts and prayers to her daughter as well as her sister. Iowa lost one of their finest treasures.
Marilyn Heck-Jolce
June 25, 2002
We will miss you and keep you in our prayers. God Bless. Steve and Brenda Bontempo, Hampton, VA
steve Bontempo
June 25, 2002
Ann Landers was happy to give me advice when my mother couldn't. I wrote to Ann as a confused teen on issues of relationships and sex. Through her knowledgable advice/wisdom, I learned that love and sex are completely separate issues. I made a wise decision with her guidance, long ago. In many ways, she helped shape my life. You were an Angel, a gift to everyone, you will be deeply missed.

Diana A.
June 25, 2002
I was so surprised when I felt tears welling up at the moment I read Ann Landers had passed.

It was at that moment that I realized the impact reading her advice had made in my lafe.

It seems like just yesterday that I was stretched out on the floor laughing at the problems adults had written in about, and it has been 40 years since.

I feel for her like a member of my family, and will miss her dearly.

JR in Chicago
Joe Redd
June 25, 2002
Ann Landers could never replace my mom, but she came pretty close to it. I started reading her when I was an adolescent, and was struggling with my homosexuality in a small town while going to a religious school. When she wrote and said people are born with their sexuality and that we were normal, I was so relieved as it was the first time I had a name for what it was I was going through, and that it was okay. Her acceptance and her educating me led me to be the happy and successful fellow that I am now ,and I am forever indebted to her for this. I will always treasure knowing this woman through her column, and for being my second mom.
Rick L.
June 25, 2002
My heartfelt sympathy goes out to Eppie's family. I have been a reader of Ann Lander's column since I was a teenager. I admire a columnist that can goes with the changing times. Eppie, Chicago and the rest of the country will truely miss you. You are a special lady.You will always be remembered and loved by your readers. God bless you!!!!
Karen Goodson
June 25, 2002
God may be invisible, but He's in touch.
You may not be able to see Him, but He is in control.
And that includes you-your circumstances. That includes what you've just lost.
That includes what you have just gained.
That includes all of life-past,present,future.
~Charles R.Swindoll~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I just lost my Twin Sister and know what you are feeling right now. May god Bless you and your's..
Joanne Brinkley
June 25, 2002
Eppie Lederer created a column of great common sense. Perhaps small books containing articles by theme - i.e. "Ann Landers on" parnet/child relations, marriage, how we met, saying I'm sorry/I Love you, MYOB, don't let anyone take advantage of you w/o your consent,the "poems", the lists, could be compiled from her articles with the proceeds going to some of her favorite charities. I'd buy them. It's been a pleasure.
Judy Beeson
June 25, 2002
The only thing I've done consistantly through 28 years and 4 states is read Ann Landers every chance I could get. Thanks for the great advice.
Margaret H
June 25, 2002
You were one of my father's favorities. He was editor for 40 years of The Daily Tribune in Royal Oak, Michigan, and introduced you to an audience in the early 1960s when you visited Royal Oak. I have phones on file of that visit. We all will miss you and your advice to millions. May God strengthen your family in this time of sorrow and grief.
--Fred Miller
Frederick W. Miller
June 25, 2002
Ann,

Thanks for all the knowledge you shared. Because of you it was easier to handle the curves life threw at me.

Dan
Daniel Goeckner
June 25, 2002
Thanks Ann for the memories and just plain common sense.

Eppie started writing the Ann Landers column withint the year I was born. My mother was a big fan of hers and somehow felt a connection.

The first year workingat the Tribune, I handed her a program for the shareholders' meeting. Within this last year I was honored to work with her office down the hall.

I guess mom knew something--but outside all of that, she knew Ann for good advice and always read her column. She would refer to it when she needed to make a point with me or the family.

Ann, you will be missed.

Melody Vasquez
June 25, 2002
I too remember "COMES THE DAWN"! I still have it, cut it out on the day it was published. Ann Landers was a part of my daily life. Always, always, always she had the answer. Never did I disagree with her. She will be missed, she gave much...how blessed she is to have this legacy. Now she will rest with The Wisest Man in the Universe.
Jeanie McCay
June 25, 2002
Dear Margo and Family,
Your Mom was a great Lady.She will be missed.I saw her on t.v. back in the fifties.Have read her in the paper ever since.
My Mom,Ollie Smith and I will miss her.But know she is in a better place where there is no more pain and suffering.May God richly Bless you and your family.
We just lost two members of the family.We are sad but rejoice knowing that they are not suffering any more.
She will be missed by all who loved her.
Loraine Lyons
June 25, 2002
May God bless the family, friends and other loved ones of Ms. Landers. She will be missed by masses who are all in a form of mourning with you. May you find peace and solace in the knowledge of how much good she truley did for all those who sought her help and and advice. Ms. Landers touched many lives and always made those in need of her halp and advice feel as if they were the most important thing(s) in the world. God bless all of you!
Joseph Sweitzer
June 25, 2002
My condolences to Ann's Family. May you find confort in the fact she was loved by many who looked to her for her wisdom and knowledge of many situations. Reading her column helped some of us realize just how minor our own problems were. You will be missed but not forgotten.
Kathleen Oatley
June 25, 2002
I will never forget the poem
"Comes the Dawn". It really helped
we get to the tough times. I am
deeply grateful for having seen it in her column. Just remember, she
is not gone, She is sleeping among the angels, all the heavens are her
bed. Bye, Dear Ann, you will be deeply missed.

Dolly Wilson
dolly wilson
June 25, 2002
Our prayers for your family and dear friends who will miss you so tremendously. You were such an inspiration to the world. Rest in peace. GOD BLESS......
Lorraine Edgerly
June 25, 2002
i wanted to only say , that ann landers will be deeply missed, i remember always looking forward to read her articles and see what kind of problems people wrote in and seeing anns answering each subject, some of them were i could relate to and some of the stories i could learn from, all and all she was a wonderful lady ...and she is loved
cynthia romero
June 25, 2002
FAMILY OF ANN LANDERS,
WORDS CANNOT EXPRESS HOW SAD I FEEL FOR THE LOST YOU HAVE ENCOUNTER...
I KNOW IT HAS BEEN OVER 30 YEARS OR MORE READING HER ADVISE ON A DAILY BASIC.
GOD WILL COMFORT YOU IN YOUR HOUR OF GRIEF...
JILL
JILL PERKINS
June 25, 2002
What a sad day!Its hard to imagine when someone who is in the spotlight,suddenly leaves this world,and we the people who would write to her or just read her columns are left saddened by her death.Its like a piece of you dies,because even tho most of us didnt know her personally and liked her,she was like family,and for those that didnt like her advice ,well it was just your opinion.I will miss seeing her reply back to those of us who looked to her to give us some advice on everyday issues.She will be missed fondly.May you rest in Peace!
Philamena Prieto
June 25, 2002
I was born the same year as her column, 1955 - and it was in that column that I learned about the world as well as a common sense way to deal with it. Next to my mother, and a couple of high school teachers, Ann Landers was the most helpful and influential woman in my life.

Thank you for being there!

JC
Nevada
Jeffrey Compton
June 25, 2002
We will miss you and all your Ahhh!! so simple advice.

I'm glad as I got older this advice made so much since and I understood "This Wonderful Lady".

My Condolesences to the family
GJA K
June 25, 2002
I am truly sorry to hear Ann Landers has passed away. She was an inspiration to us all and she never turned her listening ears away from someone who needed advice. I admit reading her column and after reading about other families and their problems, it helped me to deal with my family and my problems. She was an angel from heaven doing great things for humanity.
Antonino Spagnolo
June 25, 2002
God has picked another rose for his rose garden, because we all know that Ann Landers will be in Heaven in his Beautiful Rose Gardens, she was one of his helpers in life.. God Bless her family in this time of pain...
Elaine Todd
June 24, 2002
I am so sorry to see this wonderful woman passing. I have been a regular reader of hers for a long time.The advice she gave to people often hit home for myself and by reading it made me a better person and taught me to look at things differently.I know she helped me with her advice when going thru a divorce and i will never forget this lady and will enjoy teaching my daughter about her.She will never be forgotten.
paul mower
June 24, 2002
We have lost a great lady ,she will be miss
Bettie Walker
June 24, 2002
To a wonderful lady, we will miss you dearly. May God Bless you.
Jim & Robbie Varcados
June 24, 2002
I grew up with domestic violence, before that term was invented or widely understood. My mother wrote to Ann Landers, and received some advice from Ann herself. A few years later, my mother finally left my father to end the abuse; I am one of those children for whom divorce was the best thing that ever happened. Was this Ann's doing? No, it was my mother's, but I have no doubt Ann's caring was a great help. Years later, Ann came through again, not in a letter, but in the column, as my mother struggled mightily to accept that I am Gay. If Ann Landers said it was okay, it must be. Ann's support for the dignity and human rights of Gay people was a major turning point in our struggle for acceptance. This lady did a world of good. On behalf of millions of American families I thank her for it, and condole with her loved ones near and far.++
Josh Thomas
June 24, 2002
I've been reading Ann Landers since I was 10; I'm now 50. All of us loyal readers are better people for having attended the Ann Landers daily classroom on the human condition. We've all become more caring individuals and definitely better educated. This much is certain--newspapers will never be as enjoyable without her. What an absolute treasure she was!
Bryan Thompson
June 24, 2002
Ann Landers has been a daily part of my life for over 25 years. There were days I only bought a paper because I didn't want to miss her column, and I resented holidays because there was no paper! I cannot imagine that anyone will ever be able to fill the hole she's left... my heart and prayers go out to her family and loved ones. They shared her gladly with the world, and we were all richer because of it. God bless.
LoriAnn Houchen
June 24, 2002
Deepest sympathy to you, her daughter, as well as your whole worldwide family. How fortunate we all were to have known such a genuine person.
Esther Kahn
June 24, 2002
I LOVED ANN AND HER SISTER ABBY FOR
THE KINDNESS AND LOVE THEY SHOWED THEIR READERS EVERYDAY THEIR COLUMN
CAME OUT.THE PEOPLE (THOUSANDS AND
THOUSANDS THEY HELPED AND THE GENEROSITY WITH WHICH THEY GAVE FREE
LY.GOD SENT THOSE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE DOWN TO HELP WE LOST SOULS ON EARTH.
I WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO EXTEND MY
HEARTFELT CONDOLENCES TO ALL OF HER
FAMILY(IES).I WAS A FAITHFUL READER FOR OVER 40 YEARS.
FOREVER GRATEFUL,JIM BRICTSON
JAMES BRICTSON
June 24, 2002
I was very sad to hear that you had passed away. I enjoyed reading your column a lot. You were a great inspiration to everyone. You will be missed very much.
Lisa Lane
June 24, 2002
Ann Landers started her column twelve days after I was born. I've been reading her column since I was 10 years old. I will absolutely miss reading her and seeing her warm and lovely face. My condolences to her family.
Norma Duran
June 24, 2002
God Bless you and your family.
Deborah Bradley
June 24, 2002
you told it like it was
tara
June 24, 2002
I am sending my sincere condolence to Margo Howard from an ex Chicagoan and a graduate of Francis W. Parker (1953). May your mother rest in peace. Anna Louise Gaspar
Anna Louise Gaspar
June 24, 2002
I read Ann Landers everyday since I was 10 years old. My condolences go to her family and friends. Who is going to help us now?
Tracey
June 24, 2002
I am so sorry that I will not have Ann Landers column to start my day. I will miss that Grand Lady immensely.
Grace Weber
June 24, 2002
Such a wonderful and outstanding Lady who will be truly missed.
Angelia Burks
June 24, 2002
Ann espoused what I believe are the most beneficial "family values": tolerance and acceptance. She didn't mind rattling a few cages, and said many things that needed to be said, whether or not they reflected the popular viewpoint. I hope she changed a few minds and softened a few hearts along the way. For many years, I've read her column every morning while drying my hair. I will miss her terribly.
Margy Cassidy
June 24, 2002
I never wrote to Ann, but would read her column and look for advice she gave to other people that were in similar situations as I...and she never let me down. We'll miss you Ann.
Sharon Gold
June 24, 2002
Many years ago, while looking for "Mr. Right", I read one of Ann Landers' columns where her advice about seeing a married man was "If you marry a man who runs around on his wife, you get a man who runs around on his wife." Those words were golden for me, and I waited and looked and found not only "Mr. Right", but "Mr. (almost) Perfect". Thank you, Ann, for that advice. I will always be indebted.
Donna Beard
June 24, 2002
Like so many others, I am reeling from the loss of my "surrogate mother." Ann, you taught me so much over the years about life and love. Your wisdom helped shaped me into the woman I am today. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Missing You
June 24, 2002
Ann will never be forgotten,and never just a memory; I Look forward to meeting the wonderful person that God placed with us and the wisdom that she shared;I never had to write Ann,Cause the problems that existed she had already answered at sometime or another, Ann you will surely be missed and always remembered. I look forward to meeting you in Heaven Dear kind Lady.
Karen Smith
June 24, 2002
Ann will never be forgotten,and never just a memory; I Look forward to meeting the wonderful person that God placed with us and the wisdom that she shared;I never had to write Ann,Cause the problems that existed she had already answered at sometim or another,Ann you will surely be missed and always remembered.I look forward to meeting you in Heaven Dear kind Lady.
Karen Smith
June 24, 2002
Three generations have have read and loved you. May God bless you.
Eva, Patricia & Paula Pulaski
June 24, 2002
Farwell my Advisor:

As a young woman living in Chicago I had the opportunity to write and receive an answer from the famed Ann Landers. It was such a thrill to actually get a letter from her. I have spent all my adult life reading her great words and it saddened me to hear of her passing. My girlfriend told me that we saw Ann in person when she visited our high school in the 60's but due to those Senior Moments we get as we age "I DON'T REMEMBER".

Ann you will be missed and remembered by many.

Another transplanted illinois person who packed and moved to Florida.
Michelle Gaston
June 24, 2002
Thank you for all your advice! You made growing up a lot easier for me because you answered the questions I couldn't ask my parents!
Lus Pindarvin
June 24, 2002
It was a joy to open the paper and read her column. She made a difference to so many lives. What a wonderful legacy.
Jacxqueline Deardorff
June 24, 2002
My mom and I would read Dear Ann together every night. I learned that some had it worse then we did. Her snappy advice and words of wisdom carried me to my adult years. I have just started to share Ann with my 10 year old daughter. We'll miss you! Our Love and prayers to all.
Laura Degnan
June 24, 2002
I grew up reading your column and learned alot from it. Although you will be missed by all of us, I know in my heart that you'll always be with us as long as we keep your memory alive in our hearts. Rest in peace Ann!
Larissa Kuzyk
June 24, 2002
Dear Ann,

I will miss your column but the advice you have given over the many years of your column will stick in my mind. I admire your courage and your strength. Perhaps you can write a column while you are in Heaven.
Kay Cooper
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