David Joseph COTES
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David Joseph Cotes, age 82, of Palestine, Ohio passed away on November 14 after a short stay in the hospital. He was preceded in death by his wife, Sallie (Eidson) Cotes, his brother Douglas (Ann) Cotes, as well as his parents Albert & Ruth Cotes. He is survived by his daughter Cindie (Otis) Lanham of Moscow, Ohio, his sisters Judy (David) Lance & Jane (Kerry) Flickner, as well as his beloved companion, LaWilda (Will) Braun. He also leaves behind numerous nieces & nephews as well as many friends. He was a remarkable man, a jack of all trades and in his own words "If I don't have it, you don't need it!" The following was written by his nephew, Kerry Flickner & says more about my father than anything I could compose. If I may, I feel compelled to share just a few of thoughts and memories of your father. My heart deeply aches….for I had a special connection with him…..he was a true and important mentor to me during a tough time in my early adolescence, which I know to this day I still carry his influences….and surely over the years have passed along to my son. This is a beautiful thing, isn't it? The winter of 77…...I was in 7th grade and your dad was building the A-Frame on Palestine and I asked if I could help. He would pick me up on the weekends in his old 50's era lime green pick-up truck….no heat….and it usually broke down somewhere between my house and New Richmond. That's where I learned how to file the points on an engine to get it running again…..as well as a few creative superlatives suited for a broke down truck on the side of the road in 10 degree weather. Some kids may have been shocked or scared by these "expressions"….but I could only hold back my smile……in a strange way I felt "honored" that he was being real….and I remember feeling a sense of acceptance…..as in a coming of age. The a-frame was just a shell back then….no windows….only a plywood door….and the cold air was always filled with the smell of fresh cut saw dust and cigar smoke….a bold cologne in my opinion. If we could find a way to bottle this scent, I'm sure it would sell by the case at Cabela's or Bass Pro! Thanks to your dad, this is where I also "acquired' my taste for coffee…..but only by default. When one is borderline hypothermia….holding and sipping on a hot cup of joe…..is pure bliss. I remember there were only two things that kept me warm…..helping hold a sheet of drywall over my head…..shoulders screaming, while I patiently waited for him to sink a few nails (nails back then)……..and of course a hot black Folgers coffee. I still prefer the coffee. So…..my a-frame work days consisted of freezing my ass off…..and often, often hitting a cold finger with a cold steel hammer. When this happened, the single thing that made it feel better was letting out one of the many adult expressions for these situations (only allowed of me at the a-frame)…...and it was always followed up by one of your dads empathetic sound bite analogies….supporting my suffering in a way that would make me smile in my pain. I remember I couldn't wait for your mom to show up because that meant it was lunch time. We would go a few houses down to Mr. Ed's, where your mom would hand out the days sandwich's (peanut butter and lettuce for me…..really!?) and I would lick my wounds and try to thaw my fingers and toes. I guess your mom had something against smucker's…..either way…..I ended up looking forward to those peanut butter and lettuce samy's….amazing what taste good when you're cold, tired, and hungry! It sad to be sitting here in Denver….remembering the joy and humor Uncle Dave brought to the room…...wishing I could have/should have throughout the many years, taken him up on all those open door invitations he extended to come visit. Few men are like your father…..I'm blessed to have had him as a mentor and a friend. Kerry.0 The family requests that no flowers be sent and in lieu a donation to the Shrine Burns Institute be made. There will be no formal services, however family & friends are invited to attend a celebration of Dave's life at his residence on Sunday November 25th from 2 PM to ?

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Published in The Cincinnati Enquirer on Nov. 18, 2012.
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November 21, 2012
There will never be anyone like Dave, a kind & helpful person. We will miss him. We only wish we could thank him again for all he's done for us and the street. The daffodils will forever line the entrance way. We've lost our Mayor.
Kneeland & Cathy Wheeler
November 20, 2012
May he find that everlasting fishing hole in heaven!!! Sam & Jeffrey Jensen
Jeffrey Jensen
November 19, 2012
Dear Dave, May you rest in Peace. You were not only a special customer of Trendy's, but you became a special friend. We always enjoyed seeing you walk through the door. Not only did we know we were getting an awesome hug, but we were seeing an awesome person. You will forever be in our hearts. With love, Margie and Paula
Margie Keck
November 19, 2012
I judge a man on how hard he works (if you look up work ethic in the dictionary - there is a picture of Davey Cotes), does he take care of his
woman - Davey did, does the take care of his children - he did, does he take care of his cars - he did, does he take care of his house - he did, does he help his friends - he did, and does he take care of his animals - he did.
He is the kind of man you would want to be your grandfather, father, brother, or best friend.
I only knew him for a short time, compared to most, but he was a good friend and mentor. He recycled everything and did not think anyone threw away trash - just parts that would surely be needed later by someone (they usually were)! The only group that will not miss him are the raccoons on Palestine Street. The street will seem less safe and less bright without him, his golf cart and his doggie. May God bless him and his family.
Frank Basham
November 18, 2012
Cindy your dad has always had a special place in my heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you. He isn't alone many family members are there greeting him and having a cold beer
Kathryn (Kathie) Flickner O'Hare
November 18, 2012
A very Special Person, I feel honored to have known David and spend time with him. So many times he would do things for me, Welding, Woodwork, loan me his tools or supply that "item" that no one had but David.
Great "David" Sayings that I will always remember are "If I dont have it, you dont need it" and "What goes around, comes around". I'm so glad he came around and was part of my life. I will miss him so.
Roy Basham
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