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Joseph A. Graves Resident of Discovery Bay Joseph Anthony Graves, 21 years of age, died in Iraq on July 25, 2006. A member of Operation Iraqi Freedom, he was serving in the U.S. Army with a rank of Specialist E4. A native of Castro Valley, he had lived in Discovery Bay since he was 10 years of age. An active member of the Delta Community Presbyterian Church, he enjoyed golf, videos, music, reading and cars. Joey is survived by his wife, Cori Maningas Graves; father, J. Kevin Graves; mother, Maryan Pereira; stepbrother, Boby Pereira and half-brother, Brandon Pereira; grandparents, Gene and Marylin Graves, and Tony and Georgia Farbizio; aunts and uncles. Visitations will be at the Brentwood Funeral Home on Sunday, Aug. 6, 2006 from 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Funeral Services will be held on Monday, Aug. 7, 2006 at the Delta Community Presbyterian Church at 9:30 a.m.; a private family burial will follow at Golden Gate National Cemetery in San Bruno, CA. In lieu of flowers, please donate to the "Joey Graves Youth Program Fund." Send donations to Delta Community Presbyterian Church.

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Published in Contra Costa Times on Aug. 4, 2006.
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July 26, 2019
Hey brother, I can't believe another year has passed and yet it still feels like yesterday. I think about you all the time and I miss you brother. I know that there was nothing I could've done since I wasn't even over there at the time. I had just gone home for my 2 weeks R&R a few days before. I wish I had been there and maybe I could have done something to save you and bring you home alive. I think about it all the time and it has been 13 years. I just wanted to let you know that I think about you and miss you everyday. I will see you again one day brother.
Shanon Greer
July 24, 2019
brother I miss you everyday and wake up every morning thinking I could have done something different so you would still be here, I was so confident we weren't going to lose a souls over there, but with your passing part of all of us was left there. just my way of letting you know I still think about the whole platoon and what a great group of people god blessed me with, and I'm sorry I didn't get to bring everyone home.
JERRY STATEN
July 25, 2018
I can't believe it's been 12 years already, time has flown by. I miss you tons brother, I wish we could hang out and chat like we used to do. Vanissa is going to be 15 this year and I know you would be the best "Uncle" if you were still with us as you were before we deployed. I wish you could meet my youngest daughter
Scarlett also as I know you would be "Uncle Joey" to her as well. Somehow I think you do visit all the time though as I feel your presence. I still wonder to this day how I made it out alive as I know don't deserve it. I do know that i need to be here for my kids and maybe that's why. I got some ink done since getting out of the Army and it helps to tell my story as it does the pain. You are a part of one of my tattoos as a remembrance piece and a show of respect. Like I said, I miss you brother and I always will. Until we meet again, rest in peace.
Shanon Greer
Friend
July 25, 2018
Missing you on this day brother, I know I said a lot on my previous post but I wanted to light this candle in remembrance of you.
Shanon Greer
July 25, 2018
Shanon Greer
August 18, 2013
Thinking of you today, Graves. Looking through old photographs and there you were, all smiles. Glad I had the opportunity to know you. See you on the other side, brother.
Selena Justice
July 25, 2013
To the family and friends of Spc. Joseph A. Graves:
It has truly been my honor to sign Joseph's guest book these past few years. Unfortunately, due to complications from my Multiple Sclerosis, this may be the last message I'm able to write. Please forgive me and know that Joseph will always be remembered in my home.
With love and respect ~ Peggy
Peggy Childers
April 21, 2013
Still remembered, respected and honored.
August 1, 2012
July 25, 2012
To the family and friends of Spc. Joseph A. Graves:
Always remembering Joseph. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
July 25, 2012
Hey my friend, im sitting here trying to type but but I still find it hard, I hope most of the guys still come by and say hi, I still speak with your dad and I will today. it does me good to talk with him. I know alot of folks miss you I just wish I could have been a little bit better of a PLT SGT. TAKE CARE.
jerry state
April 7, 2012
Hey buddy, it's been some time since I've said hello. Trust me, it's not because you were ever far from my mind. Sitting in the sandbox again, you frequent it now more than ever if that's possible. Our baby wipe shower conversation while walking to chow popped into my head for no reason and I started giggling out loud, drawing funny looks. I miss you and love you brother. Wish you were here.
F Mallet
January 11, 2012
Came across some old articles of you bud, we'r holding down the fort for ya.. -your old friend... the other Joey Graves
J Graves
December 28, 2011
Happy Birthday Brother!
A. DeLawrence
December 28, 2011
Happy Heavenly Birthday Joey. You are thought of often....NEVER FORGOTTEN. God Bless You & your family! We Love you ALL!
Debbi & Steve Dresser
December 25, 2011
Sitting here on Christmas and saying a prayer for you and your family... I know I've said the words "I miss you" over and over again. I don't think I ever said, Thank You.
Anthony D.
December 25, 2011
Merry Christmas Joey. You are NEVER forgotten. God Bless You & your family!
Debbi & Steve Dresser
November 24, 2011
Dearest Joey & Family.... Thinking of you all today & so thankful that you are in our lives but wishing I didn't know you because then you would all be together. God Bless You ALL! Thank you Kevin & Leianne...you both do so much to honor Joey & all our Fallen Heroes. Love you
Debbi & Steve Dresser
November 5, 2011
Just one of those times your being thought of.... Miss ya bro!
A. DeLawrence
July 28, 2011
Kevin Graves
July 28, 2011
Kevin Graves
July 28, 2011
Kevin Graves
July 26, 2011
Forever and always you will be remembered for everything you gave. You are missed greatly.
Crystal Koonce
July 26, 2011
Our Last Day, Ft. Hood
Kevin Graves
July 26, 2011
Joe and me....25 JUL 11
Hey Joe,

Five years have passed and you are so loved and missed. I received many more notes from so many more of your Army buddies. They reinforced how much of a great friend and soldier you were. You are also a great son. I Love you....Dad
Kevin Graves
July 25, 2011
To the family and friends of Spc. Joseph A. Graves:
Please accept my remembrance of Joseph on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Peggy Childers
July 25, 2011
Your always thought of and missed... Continue to guide and bless Soldiers everywhere.
Anthony D.
July 25, 2011
You're missed dearly my friend.
Ben Thiel
July 25, 2011
5 years ago we lost a great friend and outstanding Soldier. You are greatly missed and I am honored to have known and fought along side you.
Brandon Koonce
July 25, 2011
5 years ago today we lost a great friend and Soldier. You are truly missed. I was honored to have known and fought along side you!!!
Brandon Koonce
July 25, 2011
Just letting you know you will never be forgetten. I constatntly keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Jesus Arechiga
July 25, 2011
i remember you telling me how much you enjoyed sun tea...and vodka... ;) ....continue to guide your beloved out of the darkness.
bryan S
July 25, 2011
Hey Joey. You are missed my friend. I can't believe it's been five years. Love ya bud.
Kent Zavodny
July 25, 2011
joey another year has gone by and it still feels like it was just yesterday... love you and miss you
friends are forever in our hearts
gina guajardo
July 24, 2011
hey brotha! it is that that time of the year again and it is getting alittle easier but at the same time still hard as hell. but me and some friends are doing something different this time we are going to have a cookout for you and their friends that have been taken away from their family and friends. we are celebrating your life not the death. you are always in my heart bro believe me july 25 is a permanent memory that will not go away no matter what but at the same time i will always the great laughs we had the conversations we had about what we were going to do when we got back. i did a couple of them bro. i went skydiving for you and went on a cruise for ya. i know you are doing great up there and looking down on us and your family just remember we will see eachother again in time. take it easy bro and keep doing what your doing.
love ya bro
jason rodriguez
jason rodriguez
December 28, 2010
Happy Birthday Joey. Thinking of you today....you are Never be forgotten. Please give my Ashley a birthday hug from her Mom....You are both missed so very much. God Bless You!
Debbi Dresser
December 25, 2010
Wreaths Across American 2010
Merry Christmas Joey! Was hoping to get by & visit you again yesterday but not enough hours it seems. Will hopefully go tomorrow. God Bless You.
Debbi Dresser
November 10, 2010
Gold Star Poker Run (9/5/2010)
Debbi Dresser
November 10, 2010
Gold Star Poker Run (9/5/2010)
Debbi Dresser
November 10, 2010
Wall of Honor in Old Sacramento
Debbi Dresser
September 11, 2010
I have searched thru all the war dead from Iraq and Afganistan for soldiers named Graves. Apparently, Joseph is the only one with the same surname as my family.
Thank you Joseph and your family for all you have done to protect the freedom of all Americans.
I served in the army in the early 60's and was blessed to survive.
Thank you for your great sacrifice !!!
George Graves
July 26, 2010
To the family and friends of Spc. Joseph A. Graves:
Remembering Joseph on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Peggy Childers
July 25, 2010
Joey ,

Another year has gone by... but u still remain in our memories and in our hearts .... we love u and miss u ! Friends r forever kept in the heart !
Gina Guajardo
July 25, 2010
Hey Graves, today marks 4 years and you are still missed. I want you to know that you left your mark here and you will never be forgotten.
Crystal Koonce
July 25, 2010
Hey there Joey, it's been 4 years since you were taken from us and I'll say it still feels like it was yesterday. I miss you a lot and I know I'll see you again one day but until then I still have to carry on and carry this pain with me. You were a great frined and I am lucky to have had you in my life, you will always be a brother to me not only on the battlefield but in life. Rest In Peace brother, you earned it.
Shanon Greer
June 24, 2010
Selena Justice-Liggett
June 3, 2010
Memorial Day 2010
Dear Joey....It was an honor to visit you over the weekend...it was amazing to see everyone out to place the flags on all the graves. Did my heart good to see so many show such respect for all who have served our country. We are so blessed to know your Dad & Leianne...loved seeing them both. God Bless You....We will meet someday.
Debbi & Steve Dresser
June 2, 2010
Hey there Joey, Sorry this is late. On Memorial Day I was flying my flag in rememberence of you and had a little tribute to you as well. I miss you bro and I want to thank you for being a great friend not only to me but to my daughter. She misses "Uncle Joey" and we will never forget you. I am proud to have known you and fight along side you. May you forever rest in peace.
Shanon Greer
May 29, 2010
Joey, on this Memorial Day weekend 2010, we Thank You for the sacrifice you gave for our freedom. You are a true American Hero!
July 25, 2009
To the family of Spc. Joseph A. Graves:
Joseph gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Peggy Childers
May 25, 2009
Dear Joey & Family...You are all in our thoughts & Prayers on the Memorial Day as always. We shall never forget. Thank you for your service & sacrifce. God Bless You All.
Debbi & Steve Dresser
May 25, 2009
Hey there Joey, I just wanted to say that I miss you bro and that I'm thinking of you on this Memorial Day. I will never forget you or the times we shared good or bad, in the states or Iraq. You are forever in my thoughts and I miss you bro. Here's me giving you a moment of silence........ Rest in Peace bro on this Memorial Day and always bro.
Shanon Greer
May 24, 2009
God bless you SPC. Joseph A. Graves.
Owen Velasquez
March 30, 2009
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Sincerely,
Kenna
Kenna Larra
February 18, 2009
Hey there Joey, how are you doing? Man I wish that I could talk to you like we used to all the time. This just isn't the same, I miss you a lot bro. Everyday I wake up I think of you and I know it is you that has watched over me on this deployment and kept me out of harm's way. You were the best friend anyone could've asked for and I am deeply honored to have been your friend, get close enough to think of you as my brother instead of just a friend, and to have fought this war along side you. You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers as well as my heart bro. Vanissa I know misses her "uncle Joey" even though she was really young. This deployment is almost over which I am thankful for, it has been a long 14 months. I miss you Joey and you will always have my upmost respect, you are a true hero. When I return home I'll be sure to drink a few for you as well as for myself. Thank you for being a great friend to not only me but also my daughter, you are truly my best friend and nothing will ever change that. I love you and miss you bro.
Shanon Greer
February 17, 2009
Hi Joey-
Just a lil note since the last that I wrote. Ben and I miss you dearly, hard to believe that it'll be 3 yrs this year. Funny how quickly time flies by...but doesn't always heal. Know that you'll always remain in our hearts...you helped Ben and I through many arguments, and look where we are now. I believe it's you who finally got through that thick skull of his!!! lol. Anyways, I just want you to know, you are missed deeply. And not a day goes by that I don't think of you. And any memorial I ever attend, or anytime I hear Taps....it's always you I remember and pray for. We love you buddy. Watch over us, wherever you may be!
Felicia Thiel
October 3, 2008
Joey-
It's been over two years since that horrible day in Iraq. I think of you often, especially of the jokes you made, and how much you talked about Cori. You were an awesome friend, and a great husband in my eyes and so many others. At every memorial I've attended since that day, I always say a prayer for you too. It's an honor to know you, and have served with you. You are deeply missed by all of us from 1st Platoon. I have never had the friendship or leadership I've had since 1st Platoon (even though we complained all the time!). You will never be forgotten, and will always remain in our hearts. God bless.
Felicia Thiel
September 3, 2008
Joey,
You are forever remembered by Shanon Greer. He misses you mightily. God bless you Joey, your family, and great friends like Shanon.
Gene Cook
August 29, 2008
Although I did not know Spc. Joseph A. Graves, I hold him and his family in my heart and prayers.
Remember when times get tough that he is looking down from heaven smiling and protecting you.
Thank You for serving to keep our country safe.
May you rest in Peace with the Lord, and your hearts heal in time.

"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends" John 15:13

Proud Wife-to-Be of a Marine in Iraq
Kim Smith
August 3, 2008
Hey Joey,
It's been over two years now and yet it feels like yesterday. I miss you a lot man as you know I'm still over here fighting this war and I can't wait for this deployment to be over with so that I can get on with my life away from the Army. I had a moment of silence for you on July 25th before I went out on mission and let me tell you it wa hard going out there on that day. I love you miss you bro. Take care, you are not forgotten.

Shanon Greer (SPC)
Shanon Greer
July 25, 2008
Dear Joey
I never got the chance to meet you. I have heard wonderful things about you from your dad and Leianne. I have met your wonderful family, because I am a Gold Star parent also. Please know Joey, that you are missed. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers on this solemn day. If you see my Michael in heaven, give him a hug for me please Joey. You are a true American Hero.
Beverly Balsley
July 25, 2008
Hey Buddy,

Two years...wow, they pass so fast and yet so slow. I think of all the things we would have done and cry. Then I think of all the things we would have done and smile.

Tell the Big Guy I'm doing the best I can....thanks for the help.

Love you...miss you ...Dad
Kevin Graves
July 25, 2008
In Memory of Jospeh ~ (Debra Estep)
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.


The Wind on The Downs

“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”

(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )

Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….

“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”


I did not know Joseph, but I am remembering
his service. He is my hero. !

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

The Other Side

i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.

can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.

i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.

it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.

i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side

the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.

i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.

Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)

“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008


The Other Side –
(To hear the song)
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol



Sincerely,

Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom SSgt Vince – Lackland AFB
Proud Air Force MIL SrA Dana – Randolph AFB

Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55

Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
http://tinyurl.com/6gey8b
July 24, 2008
Hi my baby its mom....well tomorrow 07/25/08 will be 2 years that you were taken from us. We will see you tomorrow...I love and miss you so...
Maryan Perreira
July 9, 2008
You are remembered Spec Graves
CPT Alexys Scott
June 17, 2008
Joe, I thought things would change after some time had passed, but they have not, every step I take I remember your face, and the outstanding job you did for your country, I will always be grateful to have met a man of your caliber, I will remember you with honor as always on that day.
jerry staten
June 11, 2008
Spc. Graves,

I want you to know that, I look up to you today..... I was with the 152nd military police company (guard) that replaced the 110th in iraq, and I will always remember that you were the one that made me realize that this wasnt just some nightmare, it was real....... And it is because of that I survived out there in the sandbox..... If it were not for you I would have died..... I know I didnt spend more than a few weeks with 110 mp co. while overseas but in that time I realized that they were, and they are a great company and you helped make it that way, so I guess what I am trying to say is, thank you from the bottom of my heart..... I will never forget the sacrifice you made to protect your country.....

Sincerely,

PFC Montgomery
B Co. 303 MI BN.
Bennie Montgomery
June 1, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Spc Graves!
March 4, 2008
Joey,
You meant so much to me and to us all in the old WOLFPACK. And what I mean by this is I looked up to you bro. And I'm sure there are others even older than you who envyed your maturity level. Like I know you here all the time, not a day goes by... well it's dang true because for some reason i can't get the thought of you, or not being able to contact you physically out of my head. To your family, It was a pleasure serving with SPC Joseph Graves.
Andrew Burgett
February 8, 2008
Joey, It has been over 18 months since you were tragically taken from us. I can say that not a day goes by that I do not sit and think about the "why" and what could have been done differently. I will always remember the events of that day even though I was not personally present when it happened. I will forever remember the worst day of my 19 year military career. You were a true patriot and a very disciplined Soldier who made his wife and family proud. You were one the many who made my job as First Sergeant most rewarding, and I will never forget your smiling face, infectuous attitude and personality. It was a honor to serve with you.
John Challis
October 11, 2007
joey joey joey dang its been so long since i was able to talk to you i miss you so much i found your myspace a few weeks to late.... you where always like my big brother and my mom considered you as one of her sons you and my brother were really close and he misses you to well ill see you one day i love you
morgan gonzales
August 18, 2007
There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.

Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.

I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.

REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!

PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY)
August 10, 2007
Dearest Graves Family:
Joey lives in all of you. Thank you for sharing Joey with all of us. We will never forget Joey or his family.
Love you.
Yours In Christ,
Wendi
Wendi Rodman
August 2, 2007
To the Graves Family- Please accept my thanks and gratitude for your son's sacrifice as well as yours. He is not forgotten.
Debbie Sewell
July 30, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Spc Graves and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
July 26, 2007
To Joey's family -
The 1 year anniversary has now come and gone. You've endured so many heartaches and tears getting through all the "firsts". Know that Joey is not forgotten. He truly is an American Hero - as are you all. We are keeping you all in our prayers and thoughts.

Our love to all -
Paulette (Fuller) Best
Proud Army Mom
Paulette Best
July 25, 2007
Joe, today makes a year since we lost you, not a day goes by that I dont remember you, that was the worst day of my life, it was an honor to have served with you and the rest of 1st platoon. there will never be a better platoon than what we had, and no one from 1st will ever forget you, mainly me. SFC STATEN JERRY, to Kevin and your wife thank you for putting such a brave young man on earth like Joe, he is still thought of everyday
Jerry staten
July 14, 2007
hey joey well i hecka miss you growing up wiht you when i was little you always treated me like a younger sister when you and my brother used to hangout all the timr i just wanted to come by and tell you i love you with all my heart rip and i hope your doing well up there see you one day soon
morgan gonzales
March 31, 2007
Joey,
it's been 5 months since we've been home and I still can't believe you're gone. I miss all the good times we shared and I'm proud to have been your friend and served with you. I'm going to miss you terribly.
Shanon Greer
February 20, 2007
“Soldier”
Written to Honor the Service of Our Fallen Soldiers

Soldiers write history, we pay the price
Many miles distant, you live the life
Entered the Battle of our own free will
Out of Duty for Country, and we’d do it still

We hope and pray that all will find peace
In God, in the flag, in memories of valor
Gone now, our pride and courage you see
“An Army of One” our motto forever

Willing to risk all for love of our Brothers
We’re still Your Soldiers…and we showed the way
Our Lives too short, now pray for the others
Lived free died Heroes in lands far away

Deep within souls all cherished our Service
We’ll always have what some never know
Courage and Honor, our names forever
Lived life with purpose…just our time to go

We march in the Heavens with Honor and Glory
Missions accomplished we fought the Good Fight
Many years from now…we’ll tell the full story
Until that Day we will live in the Light

Our lives we laid down in a land far away
Still watching o’er you this night and by day
No need to talk…just know we are with you
There in your hearts and we hear what you pray

Yes we are your soldiers
Our lives we laid down
Still We guard o’er you
Still Duty bound

Entered the Battle of our own free will
Out of Duty for Country, and we’d do it still
We’ll always have what some never know
Lived life with purpose…it was our time to go
Glen
February 12, 2007
Hey Joe,

It's been a little over six months now. I thank you for the courage you have shown me. It has helped to get through each and every day.

The pain is no less and the emptiness is still there. But life does go on and I want you know that I will try and complete my duties here on this earth as bravely as you did.

Until we meet again,

Love you, miss you...Dad
Kevin Graves
August 29, 2006
To My Son/To All who have shared their comments.

My name is Maryan and I am Joey's mom...The first and most important comment I want to share is that...Joey I love you I miss you so much and I am so proud of you. On December 28, 1984 at 1:51 you came into my life. On July 25, 2006 you were taken from me. I am not sure why but it was your time. I know that you and Georgia are our angels and wathing over all of us. You two have a job to do.

Joey I was looking at pictures from birth till now and your smile fills my heart. I know you are gone but you will always be with me.

To all who have shared your comments I want to say thank you. Joey was loved by alot of people and it fills my heart. To all Military Families who have family in Iraq and anywhere else my prayers are with you for your loved ones to come home safe.

Baby Girl stay strong...Joey loved you so much.

Well Joey I am not going to say goodbye I am going to say that one day we will be together again.

I love and miss you.

Mom
Maryan Perreira
August 28, 2006
Dearest Graves family,my heartfelt thanks go out to you,and Joesph.Please accept my sincere gratitude and condolances for your loss.I believe truly however that you will see Joesph again. My prayers are with you. David Gubera
David Gubera
August 24, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy to the Graves family in the loss of Joseph. I did not know Joseph, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. Joseph my heart was touched by the many wonderful/beautiful things written about you. You are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom

To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
August 19, 2006
Dearest Kevin and Mr.& Mrs. Eugene Graves. Mom called and told me the news. I told her that I can not mourn Joey, but honor him in the highest for his service to our country. He was, as I have learned, a wonderful human being and most precious son and grandson. Kevin, my heart is with you and your mom and dad. May he watch upon you and know how loved he is.
Be safe and strong
Love Jennifer
Jennifer Livesay
August 14, 2006
Dear Kevin,
I babysat Joey in Oakley, CA., I now live in Matthews, NC.. My children in NYC found out before me that Joey was killed. We kept hoping it wasn't true. I am so sorry. He was such a loving boy. My family really enjoyed him at our home. My daughter Mary was in a few plays at Liberty and David my son went to Liberty, so they were all able to keep in touch while in High School. Joey always had a smile on his face. Kevin I know Joey loved you & respected you. We could tell the way he looked at you & smiled when you would pick him up.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Joan Greenawalt
Joan Greenawalt
August 9, 2006
To my loving husband and best friend:

You were my friend before anything else. You taught me so many things, and helped me become the woman I am today. I loved your smile, your touch, the sound of your voice, your wit, and so many of your other wonderful qualities. We had our tough times but you never gave up on me. You always believed in me, yourself, and us. You always knew we would end up together. If this was what was in the hand you were dealt, then it just makes sense that we spent every moment together. I will never quite understand why you were taken from me so soon. I believe you will always be by myside and guide me through life, even though you can't physically be here.

I am not quite sure what will become of my life, but I can assure you one thing and that is that I will make you proud. You always made me proud and I am glad for every second we got together. You will always be part of my life, and your family and friends will always be part of my life.

I love you. You were my first love and taught me how to love unconditionally. You were my sweetheart. Just know I am always thinking of you.

Yours for forever and a day....just like we always said. I won't say goodbye because in time we will be back together, and I will run to you with open arms.

I will love you for forever!
Cori Graves
August 8, 2006
May God's love and precious memories of Joey bring you comfort.
Joanne Jeffers
August 8, 2006
Dear Family of Joseph Graves,

It sounds like Joey was quite a wonderful young man. My heart goes out to you for your loss. I pray you will treasure your memories of him and feel proud of his service for our country. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. May you feel comfort as God holds you close.

Mom and mother-in-law of 2 army soldiers
August 8, 2006
Mr. Graves and Cori--I am truly sorry for your loss as I know that Joey was a very special young man. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Velma Gonzalez, retired teacher LHS
Velma Gonzalez
August 7, 2006
Kevin,
Tony and I are were so sad to hear about Joey's death. It has been so many years since we've seen either of you, but you have both continued to be in our thoughts and wonderful memories. Joey was a sweet, kind, well-mannered child who knew how to have a great time. It sounds as if he continued to blossom into a wonderful man. We will forever remember the "great kid" we knew. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and we send our love.
Michelle & Tony Amundsen
August 7, 2006
My deepest condolences go out to the family and friends of Joey Graves. I never had the pleasure of meeting Joey, but from comments I've read here, he was a good young man. This morning, I rode my motorcycle in Joey's procession with the Patriot Guard Riders through the streets of Discovery Bay enroute to Golden Gate Veteran's Cemetary. In an awesome show of support, the community of Discovery Bay lined the streets with people from every generation waving the American Flag, while others held large handcrafted banners of support for Joey; cars pulled to the roadside, and people stepped out to pay honor; children and teachers lined the fences of the local school campus; all held their hand over their heart, saluted and honored the procession, and waved their American Flags as we rumbled by. In that "moment", we all shared Joey's energy, and it became clear just how much this young man meant to his community. Joey was most certainly well known, respected, and loved by his community. It was an honor to serve Joey's family and friends today and again wish to express my deepest condolences for the loss of an American Son and Hero of Freedom.
Joe "Bear" Dwonch
August 7, 2006
Dear Mr. & Mrs. Graves, I'm am so truly sorry for loss. As a mother of a young man preparing to enter the Armed Forces, I am certainly apprehensive. But as people ask us why we are letting our son join the military, we can only respond, "If not our son, whose?" Thank you for your sacrifice for our freedom, our liberty, and our peace of mind. You raised a hero! He will not be forgotten.
Kathy Goss
August 7, 2006
We are so sorry for your loss. Please know how grateful we are to your son for his service and protection of the values of the United States. You obviously raised a true man and gentleman. He will be in our prayers
Mr. and Mrs Edward Lewis
August 7, 2006
Our deepest sympathy and prayers go out to all family members.
May God Bless you with his Peace at this time.
Sincerely,
Employee's of G.E. Water & Process Technologies
Suzan Herrera
August 6, 2006
Joey was an American Hero. God Bless him and may the angels take good care of him!
Mike Roberts
August 6, 2006
Kevin,

No greater gift can a man give than to give his life so that freedom can continue to prosper and those of us here at home can enjoy that most precious gift. Your son has passed on to the next life and he is happy to be reuniting with those family members who have gone before. You have the most challenging task along with his bride and that is of adjusting to life without him for now. Take comfort in two things ... 1) he is now in a better place and 2)he made a sacrifice so that freedom lovers and freedom seekers around the world would have a better place to live in.

Hero can be spelled many ways and today we spell it 'JOE A. GRAVES-American Freedom Fighter' - his sacrifice was not in vain and we all thank him for this great gift of freedom that he fought for and believed in so valiantly.
John McCoy
August 6, 2006
kevin, even though i havent seen you in years i just wanetd you to know that my prayers are with you... i loved your son like my big brother joey and bobby always took care of me and i kwo he will contiue to...... he was a good man and you taught him well well i love you and well see you soon
morgan gonzales
August 6, 2006
Dear Kevin,

My mother was watching This Week with George Stephanopolous last Sunday (7/30). She generally doesn't watch as the show ends and the names of the soldiers that have been killed in Iraq are scrolled on the screen. But, something last Sunday compelled her to watch. And then your son's name was there. My father, her husband, was also a Joseph Graves. My father was a great guy. I know your son was a great guy, too. He had to be...he was in Iraq. I'm crying as I am writing this...not only for my loss but for yours. There is still another Joseph Graves, though. I have an eleven year old nephew. He's going to be a great guy. He's got a great spirit and a loving heart. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Joseph. I just had to let you know that.
Chris Graves
August 5, 2006
Kevin,

I always knew how proud you were of Joey. Now you share that pride with the entire country.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you my friend.
Terry McConnell
August 5, 2006
joey-
You made all of us so proud to have known you. You were a wonderful friend, brother, husband, soldier, and "big brother".Thank you for making us part of your family. It was a joy to watch you grow into the man and hero that you became. You will be forever missed but never forgotten.
Dee Sherman
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