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Phyliss C. Badame

AGE: 86 • Medford Twp., NJ

(Nee Crudo) On October 29, 2013 Beloved wife of Joseph P. Badame. Dear sister of Theresa DiSeveria. Also surviving are her many nieces and nephews.

Phyliss was born the youngest of 10 children into a traditional Italian family of modest means in Camden in 1927. She worked her way through her masters degree at Rutgers while providing the sole support for her beloved Mother and Father.

Shortly after her higher education was complete, Phyliss embarked on a life-long crusade of mentoring and serving almost a hundred priests and nuns.

After arriving at Cramer Jr. High School in Camden, she quickly became the driving educational force while practicing her master teaching skills. Later, adults benefited from her expertise as a guidance counselor, and evening school teacher and evening school principal of adult education.

After marriage in St. Peter's Basilica in Rome, and two-year service in the Peace Corps in Tunisia with her husband Joseph, her career graced the halls of Saint Stephen's Elementary School in Pennsauken and St. Joseph's School (St. Mary of the Lakes School) in Medford.

During her decades of teaching and mentoring, Phyliss was instrumental in establishing the educational, social, and moral foundation of thousands of students who are now respected and valued members of our community and country. Most have managed to pass that foundation on to all those around them.

Despite life-threatening health matters, starting in 1984, Phyliss continued enriching others, assisting and advising all those around her. In 2006, she established the Phyliss Badame Endowment for the Arts and the St. Mary of the Lakes School.

Family, friends, and former students are invited to pay their last respects on Monday at St. Mary of the Lakes Church, at 40 Jackson Road; Medford, New Jersey 08055 from 10:00 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. A funeral mass will commence at 11:30 a.m. Monday

A private burial will take place Locustwood Memorial Cemetery in Cherry Hill, New Jersey.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Phyliss Badame Endowment for the Arts; St. Mary of the Lakes Church, 40 Jackson Road, Medford, New Jersey 08055. Arr. by the BOCCO FUNERAL HOME, Cherry Hill.




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February 7, 2016
To those who remember Phyliss, I have written a number of e-books about her available for free at "Smashwords.com" Type Joseph Badame in the search box. Thanks for your wonderful comments and tributes. Joseph
Joseph Badame
March 10, 2015
1971
John
March 10, 2015
John Pitale
March 10, 2015
Continuing her tradition
Joseph,
There are only a few people in life that get to shape an individual. People that recognize individual talents within young people, nurture those talents, and discover a thematic chord that resonates with them throughout their lives. Your Phyllis was one of those people with these unique gifts. I read the words of Ernest Federici, Rose DeAngelis, and others who are expressed this sentiment, and I remember instances when she nurtured those individuals, as she did me and countless others.

For me, as a young man interested in the sciences, travel and adventure, I recall her exactitude and precision in all things from coursework, thought, grammar, and pronunciation, to her obvious thrill at traveling with you and being able to share those experiences with us. The chord that she struck in me was a curiosity and desire for travel and exploration, and for autodidactic learning, investigation, and mastery; as she seem to thrill in and demand from herself.

Apart from the drills, devices, and pneumonics that I am amazed I still remember today and have passed on to my five children, was her strength of character and bearing that she possessed, and wanted us to possess. I still remember disappointing her in 6th grade that I was being foolish, not trying my hardest and doing my best work. It profoundly touched me. I always sought her approval.

I am saddened by the fact that as I grew and pursued my own careers, I failed to thank her personally for helping shape me, her influence on my choices, and academic and personal foundations. I sporadically searched a couple of times in vain over the years to find you both, and only now, after talking about her with my wife and daughter around the kitchen table, was I able to quickly find this page. She was a driving force at St. Stephens, and in my life.

So, I am glad to celebrate her life and to share these words with you: elle tait une femme merveilleuse. Que formidable!

-JEP
John Pitale
February 11, 2015
A Valentine wish for the lovely ladies
that remembered Phyliss

From her lofty perch, wherever it may be,
Phyliss sent a host of Angels so they could comfort me

I so wish I could compose unique and tender tomes,
for all of them to read in the quietude of their homes

But, now my tired bones they begin to crack and creak,
To all the Angels, this lone love song will have to only speak
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

For such a day of romantic love and deep, sincere concern,
How strange it is it yields most certainly so much heartburn

So little is known of the chap with the lovely appellation
Even the Church removed him from their official compilation

Still each year the droves frantically they scramble,
Kindred to a brightly burning roman candle

They pursue and search high and low,
For tasty sweets and lovely flowers grow

But not I shall tumble into that teeming bramble so,
For I must softly pursue quite another mantle tho

For you see tis not the volume of the gifts that mounts,
For my dears, it is only the lovely thought that counts.

Happy Saint Valentine's Day

May God bless you all
And dry all your tears
As you have helped dry mine

Joseph Badame
February 2015
January 22, 2015
Phyliss Badame
November 10, 2013
Mrs Badame was an amazingly dedicated teacher. She taught me at St Stephens. Only as an adult could I appreciate her skill as a teacher. She really did teach us much more than any book. May she rest in peace. She will never be forgotten.
Rose DeAngelis
November 8, 2013
Ms Crudo was my ninth grade Spanish, English and homeroom teacher at Cramer Junior High. She was one of the finest teachers I ever had. I am saddened to hear of her passing.
Janice Susman Lehmann
November 7, 2013
Miss Crudo was an excellent teacher and set a wonderful example of dignity for her students. She was one of the best teachers I ever had. she taught me a lot more than Spanish!
Merle Winepol Lundy
November 7, 2013
Phyliss Crudo Badame
My dearest friends,

My heart-felt gratitude goes out to all of you and everyone who has expressed their love and admiration of Phyliss. There was not quite another like her in my life time. I will miss her sorely and hope I may join her soon.

I thought those who could not attend the funeral would find some comfort in reading the eulogy I gave.

Thank you all again for your kindness.

Eulogy to Phyliss Crudo Badame


Each generation produces a small number of individuals that society identifies as remarkable in some way .... worthy of having produced some laudable .... uncommon ... and worthy achievement.

These persons generally are recognized ... revered ... and remembered as the giants of humanity ... arriving like a tidal wave with great pomp and circumstance.

Unfortunately ... these individuals are often without depth of character, and their achievement is often of questionable merit.

Once in a while, however... quietly... humbly with no fanfare, a person of true character and worth appears as a subtle ripple in the ocean of humanity. This person walks unpretentiously among us... quietly ... almost unnoticed ... spreading her goodness by example and deed with little or no recognition ... nor desire to be recognized. We are rarely aware that we have been touched by greatness. And yet ... this person's accomplishments are truly worthy of adulation ... positively impacting a wide range of individuals of multiple generations.

Phyliss has been this person walking gently among us for her entire life.

Molded by an unknown force or event that is difficult to identify, she developed from an early age into an example of a near-perfect human being.

A child who knew right from wrong, and possessed extraordinary wisdom - following an uncommon path of excellence, like a laser, without detour or deterrence. She was soon to become an accomplished adult ... literally walking in the footsteps of Jesus.

Phyliss by-passed poverty, bias, and prejudice with an internal motivation, determination, and singular faith in God . Excuses and failure were never in her lexicon.

While her personal trials were kept opaque to those around her, she remained transparent to those who were sincere and needed her talents. No one in need was ever turned away. Her assistance was always the most thorough ... the most professional. If she did not possess the resources to help, she was a master at heralding assistance from any source necessary. No kind deed was ever left unaddressed or unfinished.

Phyliss' pursuit of excellence was hallmarked by not merely superior intellect, but also true intelligence ... combined with uncommon patience, a remarkable sense of fairness and justice, nurturing kindness, uncommon humility, an undying spirit, fierce loyalty, rock-solid friendship, an unequaled work ethic, an abhorrence of waste and sloth, an infinite capacity to love ... and be loved, an overwhelming ability to forgive, a copious measure of self-denial, and a reverend faith and piety.

Later in life, when burdened with seemingly unsurmountable multiple handicaps, she continued undaunted in her quest for kindness, compassion and benevolence toward everyone around her.

Through all of her trials she never complained, sought recognition, sympathy, or the limelight - a humble and private soul guided by Jesus and Mary - a rare human being for an entire lifetime.

We may thank God for her compassionate passing which was unexpectedly sudden, peaceful, and dignified ... in the same manner she lived her life.

If Phyliss were still here today, with some help from Neil Diamond, I would say this to her:

My dearest Phyliss
I was alone
You found me and made me your own
I was afraid I never could be the man that you wanted me to be

You're the story of my life, and every word is true
Each chapter sings your name
Each page begins with you

It's the story of our times and never letting go
If I die today, I wanted you to know

The story of my life - it's very plain to read
It starts the day you came
It ends the day you leave

I remember I was once asked why I married Phyliss ...
shall we say in such an uncommon and unorthodox union.

I replied: “because Phyliss brings springtime to my heart”

But, now, comes the realization that spring dissolves into summer

Summer quietly fades into autumn

and, alas ... autumn surrenders to the harshness of winter.

But sadly, this year ... there will be no springtime.

My darling Phyliss, rest in peace forever, free of your pain, suffering and handicaps until I may be fortunate enough to join you once again.

Rest for eternity protected in the arms of Jesus your beloved Savior

where you so deservedly belong.

Thank you all again.

Greatfully,
Joseph Badame
Joseph Badame
November 7, 2013
Mrs. Phyllis Badame was my 5th grade reacher at St. Stephens in Pennsauken and she was the best teacher I ever had. I made a miniature violin for a class project and she liked it so much that she asked me if she could keep it. It was a pleasure knowing her. She will be dearly missed.
Ernest Federici
November 5, 2013
Joseph, I was saddened to hear of the passing of your wife, and of my favorite Teacher of all. She will always be remembered as a woman of grace and dignity, who could really teach and make you want to learn! I know she is with our Lord in heaven right now, and looking down at all the children she mentored and developed into fine upstanding people.I have mentioned her many times to my Grand Daughters, who I wish could have met her.The best compliment for her is, She made a difference in our lives! God grant you his peace and comfort.
James Arcaini
November 5, 2013
Dear Joseph,
You now have an angel in heaven who will watch over you. God bless you for all the care you gave Phyllis. She touched the hearts of so many.
Pat and Bob Cerulli
November 4, 2013
To the family of Mrs. Badame,
We are very sorry for your loss. Both my brother and myself had Mrs. Badame in the 70's at St. Stephen's and we never forgot her. She was a very kind and generous woman and a wonderful teacher, one of the best. We truly enjoyed having her, she touched our hearts as a teacher and as a person. She was very special and will always hold a special place in our hearts.
Love and Prayers,
Anthony & Diane Leone
November 2, 2013
Badame Family,
My deepest sympathy. Phyliss was our neighbor in Pennsauken.
Albanese family
November 2, 2013
Mrs. Badame was my teacher in 5th grade at St. Stephen's. She made such an impact on my learning. What I loved about her was that not only did she teach us academics, but she taught us valuable life lessons. May she rest in peace.
Domenica Cirasella-Pino
November 2, 2013
What a wonderful person! May she rest in peace.
November 2, 2013
With deepest sympathy to the family during your time of grief...God is for you a refuge and strength, A help that is there to be found during difficult times...May God provide you with peace and comfort to endure the days ahead.
John
November 2, 2013
Dear Joe and Family,

It was my pleasure to have met you and Phyllis many years ago at Lenape HS. Phyllis'career of doing good was very inspiring. I am very sorry for your loss. Be assured of prayers for Phylllis, you and your family.
Sincerely,
Larry Danks
November 1, 2013
I was a student at Cramer in Camden - she was Miss Crudo at the time - remember her as a wonderful teacher - so pretty as seen through the eyes of a young girl - so elegant in stature - I can still remember her - may you find peace and comfort - Roberta Deitz Wagner
November 1, 2013
I taught with Phyliss at St Stephens School back in the 70's. She was an amazing teacher and I took with me some of her insights along my 35 year career. My condolences to her family.
Maryann (Dougherty) Asher
November 1, 2013
We are saddened to learn of the passing of Phyliss, but very grateful to her for her service to our country in the Peace Corps.

Our condolences,

The National Peace Corps Association
November 1, 2013
She was a great teacher and a great lady when she was my teacher in Cramer in the late 50's. Her accomplishments after that time period are very impressive.
JOEL KORIN
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