Ruben Mesa
1971 - 2015
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MESA, Ruben Rafael "Ben" Passed away on June 8, 2015, in Grapevine, Texas. He was 44 years old. Ben was born February 19, 1971 in Silver City, New Mexico to Ruben and Vivian Mesa who reside in Salt Lake City, Utah. Ben graduated from Silver High School, received his Accounting degree from the University of Utah, and his Executive MBA from the University of Texas Dallas. Ben worked for JC Penny in Salt Lake City and was subsequently transferred to the headquarters in Plano, Texas in 2004. Ben's most recent position was the Director of Accounts Payable at Heartland Automotive Services in Dallas, Texas. Ben's life was centered on his family, most importantly, his two sons, Zachary and Aidan. Ben was an active member of St. Ann Catholic Church in Coppell, TX. He was a 4th Degree member of the Knights of Columbus. Ben also played softball for ten years with the St. Francis Catholic Church in Frisco, TX. Ben was one of kind. His smile, laugh, and the way he could light up a room are traits he will always be remembered for. Ben was big in stature, bigger in heart, and lived life to the fullest. Ben dedicated his life caring for and helping young cancer patients, after surviving his own personal battle with cancer. Ben had a passion for sports, was a diehard Yankee's fan, and enjoyed coaching football and baseball. Ben was happiest spending time with JoAnne, and mentoring, coaching and loving Zachary and Aidan. He was a devoted son and brother, and loyal to the core to his many friends. Ben's baritone voice would instantly fill even a crowded room, and his hearty laugh, dynamic personality, and his gentle way with people will be sorely missed but never forgotten. Ben is survived by his two sons, Zachary and Aidan Mesa, his fiancé Joanne Blanchette of Flower Mound, TX, parents Ruben and Vivian Mesa of Salt Lake City, Utah; his two sisters, Monica Mesa Torres (Israel) of Phoenix, AZ, Selena Mesa Young (Cody) of Salt Lake City, UT, and Grandmother Delfina Mesa of Silver City , NM. His Aunts and Uncles include: George and Margaret Alcaraz and their two sons Matthew and Anthony of Detroit, Michigan; Eloy and Linda Mesa and family of Gilbert, AZ; Yolanda and Richard Warnack and family of Corpus Christie, TX; Greg Mesa of Silver City, NM and Antonio and Delia Bermudez and family of Lordsburg, NM. His nieces and nephews: Tomas and Oscar Young and Cristian and Alysa Torres. Ben was preceded in death by his grandparents, Ramona and Angel Alcaraz and Gregorio Mesa. There will be a memorial service on Sunday, June 14th from 2:00pm to 5:00pm at Rolling Oaks Funeral Home, 400 Freeport Parkway, Coppell, TX 75019. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated on Monday, June 15th at 10:00am at St. Ann Catholic Church, 180 Samuel Blvd, Coppell, TX 75019. For Utah family and friends, a memorial service will be scheduled in Salt Lake City, Utah at a later date. Please contact Starks Funeral Parlor for more details at http://www.starksfuneral.com/.




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Published in Dallas Morning News on Jun. 12, 2015.
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October 30, 2015
It has been almost 5 months since you left. A lot has changed since June 7. You have watched over us and continue to gift us with blessings that only you could give. Thank you My Ben. We miss you so much and still look for the answers to Why? Answers that we will have to wait for :-)

Please keep your hand on us and help us to walk the path that you can see. I Love You ....
JoAnne Blanchette
June 26, 2015
Four Generations
June 24, 2015
Ben was one of the coaches for my son, Dylan, in the Frisco Football League. I appreciated his attention to all the players and his strong, but kind demeanor. He set a great example and seemed to always give a lot of himself to make those around him better. My condolences go out to his kids, fiancé and entire family. He was a great man and should not have been taken so soon. I know his big smile, big heart and strong voice will be remembered for decades to come. I only knew him for 3 years, but his kind, gentle nature, not as common for a bigger guy, made an impression on me which I'll always remember.
Guy Brandon
June 24, 2015
Ruben, Ben and Vivian
June 24, 2015
Ben and JoAnne
June 24, 2015
Mr EMBA
June 24, 2015
Ben and Aidan
June 24, 2015
Ben and His Boys....
June 24, 2015
Ben and JoAnne
June 23, 2015
Zachary and Ben after Komen Run
June 23, 2015
Monica,Ben and Selena
June 22, 2015
There is no way to understand such a great loss: we send sincere sympathies to the whole Mesa family and Joanne at this sad time. The one certainty is that love never dies. Zach and Aidan, know that you are loved always--when you are tired and in need of strength, you will remember him, and in sunrise and sunset, and wind, and the sky you will remember him. So long as you live he will live, for he is a part of you as you remember him. Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. --Aunt Cake and Grandpa Buzz
June 17, 2015
Ben,

I met you and Selena when I was 9 years old. Right away you became a friend to the family. You were always the fun outgoing guy in Silver City. I remember when my family and I moved to Las Cruces you helped us with the move. You started going to New Mexico State and we would have fun with you there and hang out at your dorms and you became friends with my friends cause everybody loved you. I remember when you got the green Thunderbird and got a Clarion stereo and packed woofers and the whole system into that thing and it would be bumping! Then you moved into our house for a while when you were still going to school at New Mexico State. This is when you and I became tight. I know I have never had a biological brother but you were the closest person I had to a real brother. You gave me advice about girls, sports, school, and faith and about so much in life. We had so much fun, got in a lot of trouble, laughed, cried, had serious talks, prayed together, and lived life to the extreme. You were there for me at a critical time in my life when I was beginning sports in high school and you were there to guide me like a big brother would.
When you moved to Utah we still kept in touch with each other. I remember when I found out you got cancer how upset I was. I remember how rough it was for you and the fight you had with it. You are so tough and you beat it!
I remember meeting your boys for the first time. I met Zachary when he was a baby. After you moved to Texas I met Aiden when you came to visit your parents here in Phoenix, he was already in elementary school. You were such an amazing father! Your boys were your life and your world. I knew this because they were mostly all you would ever talk about. You always wanted me to go see them play their sports. I still do want to go see them play. I know they will be successful in everything they do because of the drive and love you instilled in them.
In know when you got in a relationship with JoAnne she was special to you. I could tell when I met her the first time she was the one for you, good for you, and a good influence for your life.
From being at your services I can see how many lives you touched and all the people you had a positive impact on. You are loved and were the same guy with all of us as we all had a unique relationship with you. I know my life is better because you are part of it. I know a lot of lives are better because you are in them. I saved the voicemail you left me on my birthday so I can hear your voice whenever I want. It was one of the biggest honors I have ever had in my life to be your pallbearer. I love you brother, God Bless you, and thank you again for everything. I will see you again.
Eddie Ybarra
June 16, 2015
I was a classmate of Ben's at UT Dallas. You always listened when Ben spoke, he was an incredibly smart guy in the classroom and someone that you wanted to be with outside of class as well. We all miss him greatly.
Tyler Berns
June 15, 2015
We are very saddened to learn of Ben's passing. May he rest in peace in His eternal kingdom. Our heartfelt condolences to the Mesa family.
Anthony, Cindy, Nathanuel & Matthew Martinez
June 15, 2015
I worked with Ben at JCPenney and he always had a ready smile and a kind word. I am so sorry for your loss.
Barbara Anderson
June 15, 2015
R Leonard
June 14, 2015
My sincerest condolences to the Mesa family. I have many wonderful and fun memories of Ben at New Mexico State. He was a wonderful, genuine, and loyal friend and will be missed more than words can express. May God give all of you the strength needed during this difficult time.
Diana Marrujo Loafman
June 14, 2015
We were very saddened and shocked to hear of the loss of our dear friend, Ben. To JoAnne, Zachary, and Aiden, please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and may God bless you and bring you peace as you endure this tough time.

To Ben:
I now have a friend as an Angel!!! Enjoy the good life...finally. I will see you when it's my time and keep the shots ready. Love Always, Your friend (Michael)

To Ben (and his family), we loved spending all the time we had together in the most enjoyable ways...lots of Yankee games, softball games, pool times, food, food and more food, drinks around the grill. Most of all we will always miss your Huge Bear Hugs every time we saw each other and said good-bye...Looking forward to our next Bear Hug in Heaven.
Michael, Courtney & Chase DeMakas
June 14, 2015
Ruben,Vivian,Monaca,Selenia,and Family; We are all very saddened upon hearing of your loss of Ben. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time.
With deepest sympathies,Randy,Debbie, Jerry & Howardean Larson.
Randy Larson
June 13, 2015
Words seem inadequate to express the sorrow felt by the loss of Ben. Our hearts are with you all. Please know we are thinking and praying for peace and comfort.
Chuy, Noemi, Yara and Aidan Rodriguez
Noemi Rodriguez
June 13, 2015
We send our deepest condolences. There are no words to express our great sorrow for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Ruben and Vivian and your family.
All our love and prayers,
Michael, Sandy and the girls and MGII
Michael Mesa
June 13, 2015
Condolences to all of Ben's family, may prayers add comfort during this most difficult time.
Sonia Dearman
June 13, 2015
To the Mesa Family, JoAnne, Zachary and Aiden.
Our sincere condolences on the passing of our friend Ben. Ben and I played softball together for several years in Carrollton. He was affectionally known as "Big Benny" on our team because of his big personality and his great hitting ability. He loved Zachary and Aiden so much and was always very proud of them. Praying for peace and comfort in this extremely difficult time. Ben was great man and will truly be missed...
Mo Perdomo
June 13, 2015
Ruben, Vivian my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Tommy Robertson
June 13, 2015
Lots of love and prayers to you all. So sorry for your loss
Amy Chanez Sena
June 13, 2015
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. We are very sorry for your loss.
Gabe and Diana Chanez
June 12, 2015
Our prayers are with all of Ben's family and friends. He was a gentleman who met challenges with enthusiasm. His passion, energy, and glowing smile were known to many. He always brought the positive and the possible to any situation.
Nick Hassan
June 12, 2015
I worked with Ben at MetroPCS. His obiturary perfectly captured the essence of his personality. He was bigger than life, always kind, always friendly and always quick to tease you. Even when we were working through issues at work, he always made it fun. He was a wonderful co-worker. My sympathies and prayers for peace and comfort go out to his family, especially his boys.
Betty Montgomery
June 12, 2015
Dear Moni, Vivian, Selina, Mr. Mesa and JoAnne, please know we are praying for God's divine guidance to help your family and Joanne during this very difficult time. Ben was an incredible person who loved his family dearly and treated everyone around him with love and respect. His genuine and carefree spirit touched so many lives. So today, we will continue to ask the Lord to care for all of you and give you all the strength you need. May God's presence fill your hearts to help you endure this tragic and horrible loss that was not expected. We love you and we will continue to hold your entire family in our hearts. One day at a time...un dia a la vez.
Tony, Diana Cecilia, Christian & Isaac Flores
June 12, 2015
I worked with Ben at metroPCS. He reported to me when he was manager of Accounts Payable. I am still in shock and pray for his family. I wanted to share with his sons that they were his number one priority every single day. He loved them so and I enjoyed hearing the stories about them. It made Ben glow. Be thankful for the incredible dad you had. His memories will be with you forever. He was an honorable man, and you should be forever proud of him. Dick Richardson
Dick Richardson
June 12, 2015
Words just aren't enough to express my sadness in the loss of Ruben. My condolences to each of you. Thoughts and prayers are going your way. May our Lord hold your heart extra close during this time of sorrow.
Julie Rosales-Johnson
June 12, 2015
Ruben, Vivian and family, we are deeply saddened for the loss of your son Ben. We are sending you our heartfelt condolences and know that your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. May God Bless you and your family.
Pinkie and Clint Seymore
June 12, 2015
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Ben was a former coworker who was just genuine.
Shekela Myles
June 12, 2015
To the Mesa family and JoAnne
My prayers and thoughts go out to each and every one of you during this time! May God comfort and give you guys peace! Ben was a wonderful person and will be missed dearly! As they say God only takes the best!
Debra Montes
June 12, 2015
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My family and I send our love and condolences for all the Mesa family, Zach, Aidan, Joanne, and all who were a part of Ben's life. My heart is filled with sorrow. Here we are days later and I am still at a loss for the right words. I hope that the love and support from family and friends, including me, helps get you all through this time. You're in my prayers. God will definitely show you the way to smiling again. I know this experience will change you forever. Just remember all the good times you shared with Ben and all the love he gave each of you throughout the years. He is not gone; He will live in your heart forever. Ben was such a good genuine guy, always with a big smile! There are so many good things I can say about him. I admire the love he had for his family, his boys, Joanne and all his friends. He will be missed by many. Love you all, Rosie, Isaac, Caleb & Emma.
Rosie Madrid
June 12, 2015
Sending the Mesa family and Joanne every ounce of love and prayer that I have. I will continue to pray for much strength and understanding during this difficult time. My thoughts are with you.
susie briggs
June 12, 2015
To the Mesa family and JoAnne-Our sincerest condolences during your time of loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May God Bless you all and give you strength to get through this time of deep sorrow.

Barney and Martha.
Barney Jaramillo
June 12, 2015
We are so sorry for your great loss and pray for you and all the family.
Richard, Yoli, Desiree, Carol, Eric,Taylor (Corpus Christi, TX)
June 12, 2015
Now, we are in a place of great loss and despair. For loosing our Ben.....we can never bring closure.
Our hearts are filled with sorrow. Our family will continue to mourn his loss every day and always.
Mr. & Mrs. Richard Warnack, Desiree Delfina Mesa
Carol Teran Pike, Eric Pike, Taylor Sidney Pike.
Yolanda Mesa Warnack
June 11, 2015
To the Mesa Family and JoAnne --- Our love and prayers go out to all of of you. Ben was a great friend, and godfather to my daughter Rhiannon and son Ronald who absolutely believed he hung the moon. He may be gone but will never be forgotten and will live in our hearts forever!
Ron, Melissa,Rhiannon and Ronald Jaramillo
June 11, 2015
To the Mesa Family, no words can take away the pain you are feeling in the loss of your father, son, brother and fiance. I will hope and pray for you and for strength in your faith, that God will help you find comfort in those who offer support and love at this difficult time. I have felt this pain and I encourage you with all my heart to stay close to your faith, ask for help and know that we are all here for you. Thomas and Matthew are here for Zach and Aiden at any time of the day. With love, Melinda, Thomas and Matthew Lauer
June 11, 2015
Our deepest and sincerest condolences for your loss! I know the feelings you are going through at this time of tragedy in your lives. We are praying for the Lord to provide you with peace and understanding! Ben was a wonderful person and will be dearly missed! If there is anything we can do for you please don't hesitate to contact me.
Lisa Lucero-Ortega Rudy Gonzales
June 11, 2015
Ruben, Vivian and family so sorry for your loss. My neighbor Luisa Carbajal sends her love and condolences.
Rachel Tais
June 11, 2015
To the Mesa Family and JoAnne. It is with heartfelt sympathy we also feel your tremendous loss of Ben. We are praying for the Holy Spirit to bring you the love, strength, peace, and comfort you need during this time of sorrow.
Anna and Ernie Rodriguez
June 11, 2015
Our love and prayers go to all of you for the loss of Ben. He was a great man and our whole family loved him and we know he loved us too. He was a great friend to us especially a BFF to our sister Lilia and he will truly be missed by all of us. God Bless all of you. Love and prayers, Robert, Cindy, Angelia, Knute, and Luke Narvaez (Silver City, NM/ now in Glendale, AZ)
Narvaez
June 11, 2015
Nuestras mas grandes condolencias no tengo palabras para decirles cuanto lo céntimos lo único es pedirle a dios que los ilumine y que los mantenga de pie con esta gran perdida ,Yadira Acosta y familia
yadira acosta
June 11, 2015
We keep you in our hearts and pray God grant you strength when you need it most. We love you.
Heather and George Mastakas
June 11, 2015
Nuestro mas sentido pésame no tengo las palabras adecuadas lo único es pedirle a dios que les mande muchas fuerzas y que los ilumine hoy en esta perdía tan grande como lo es de su hijo,Yadira Acosta y familia
yadira acosta
June 11, 2015
To the Mesa Family and JoAnne, May God's strength help you all through this sad and trying time. Praying for all of you. Raymond and Linda Blanchette
June 11, 2015
Very sorry for your family's loss. What a tragic accident. I hope you can find peace through your memories of him being in your life.
Howard Stern
June 11, 2015
There are no words to express our sincere sorrow for your loss. May God give all of you strength and blessings. All our love, Mary, Julie, Sal Rosales
Mary Rosales
June 11, 2015
Thoughts And Prayers for Ben. We Will Miss Him
Joey Peralta & family
June 11, 2015
To the Mesa family - we are so sorry for your loss. We pray that God will give you peace and that He will bless your family in the days to come.
Anne Weidner
June 11, 2015
It was such a pleasure to work with Ben as he progressed in his MBA. Our sincere condolences as we keep him in our thoughts and prayers.
James Dowd
June 11, 2015
Dear Ruben, Vian, Selma and family. We were saddened to hear about Ben. Such a sad time for all of you. We Love you. May His Memory Be Eternal.
Kris Parenti
June 11, 2015
Vivian and Ruben Mesa.My heart goes out to you.May God be with you .
Audrey Martinez Teran
June 11, 2015
The EMBA Class of 2015. Ben is on the first row, third from left.
June 11, 2015
Prime example of what a Father should be. Our prayers for your son's, JoAnne & your family ...may God embrace your soul as quickly as possible.
Mauricio & Pam Frye
June 11, 2015
Prayers go out to the entire family during this difficult time. Please know that my family sits with a heavy heart today knowing of the loss of Ben. May he Rest in Peace.
William Ogas
June 11, 2015
Ben you have touched the lives of so many and your memory will live on. Mesa family our hearts go out to you during this difficult time. He is at peace and hanging out with Angela and Ramona, in good hands no doubt.
Patricia Aker
June 11, 2015
My Deepest condolences to the family of fellow classmate and kind friend. We will miss you. May god ease the pain of your grief....
Doug Sheets
June 11, 2015
Our heart goes out to the Mesa family! We knew Ben as a baby as mom was his sitter. Our love and prayers. God Bless You Ernestina Madrid and Family
Dina Madrid
June 10, 2015
My sympathies and prayers to the Mesa family. I enjoyed having Ben as a student many years ago.
Don Rydeski
June 10, 2015
Such a bright and Happy Friend. God only takes the best. Prayers to all of you that god will help you through this, Beloved friend to all.

Regards,
Yvonne Lopez
June 10, 2015
We are so very sorry for the loss of such a great man. He will be terribly missed!
Sheree Morgan
June 10, 2015
My Beloved Family - God Bless You..may you find comfort in the memories and love you shared...May the Lord's peace that surpasses all understanding be yours! Sending you all my love and prayers...I will forever miss Ben!
Evangelina Martinez Velasco
June 10, 2015
Ben was such a sweet guy.. Every time him and Joanne video chatted me and aiden and bentley, he always had a smile on his face.. He was a outstanding uncle to aiden and Bentley.. Only the good die young.. I'll be praying for Joanne and the rest of the Mesa family.. Watch over all of us ben until we see you again one day.. Rest in peace..
Stephany McCarthy
June 10, 2015
My thought and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
susie briggs
June 10, 2015
Prayers and fond memories...May the love of family and friends comfort you during these difficult days, -
My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family -
Lisa Shanks
June 10, 2015
God Bless you my friend you will be missed by many!
Tommy Robertson
June 10, 2015
In loving memory of a wonderful person.
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