Martha Verge DuPont
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Our beloved Martha Anne Caroline Verge du Pont (Muffin) passed away peacefully in Wilmington, Delaware on Tuesday, August 8, 2017, surrounded by her children.

She was born in Long Beach California to Martha Anne Caroline Verge (Bready) and William Earnest Verge. Her father was a graduate of the US Naval Academy, veteran of WWII and had a long career in the Navy, reaching the rank of Rear Admiral. Consequently, Muffin was a self-described ""Navy Brat"" who moved frequently, as military families do. She spent some of her younger years at
McDonogh School near Baltimore, where her father became Dean shortly after his retirement from the Navy. She spent many of her summers in Annapolis at the Sherwood Forest community on the Severn River, close by the US Naval Academy. She was very proud of her Navy heritage and upbringing, so much she often said, ""be on-time or the ship is going to leave without you"".

She was very active in the Morgan horse and equestrian community in general having spent many years breeding, training and showing what she regarded as the only true American breed of horse. She was named ""Woman of The Year"" in 1988 by the American Morgan Horse Association. However, her true passion for all of her life Martha Verge du Pont was her dedication as a true advocate for neglected, abused, and delinquent children. She served on the Board of Directors of the Boys' Home of Delaware, beginning in1965. In 1967 she married Henry E. I. du Pont, who joined her as an advocate for children, and also became a member of the Boys' Home Board of Directors. When he asked her what she wanted as a wedding gift, Martha told him that she wanted a home for the boys in the program. His gift to her was a 35-bed group home for boys.

In following years Martha and Henry purchased three other group homes for children, and a building that served as a diagnostic and family counseling center. One of the buildings was converted to Delaware's first Emergency Shelter for Children in 1974. It is the Governor Charles L Terry Emergency Shelter: Delaware's only Emergency shelter for children and youth which is still operational today. In 1973, Martha and Henry expanded the mission of the Boys' Home and renamed it the Child Foundation with the goal of helping children by also serving their families which was a revolutionary approach at the time. In 1975, the multiservice agency became Child Inc. In 1988, one of its shelters for victims of domestic violence and their children was named Martha's Carriage House in her honor.

Now over 50 years old, her agency continues offering these vital services in the community for neglected, abused, dependent and delinquent children, victims and perpetrators of domestic violence, and has touched over 12,000 families in Delaware. Other examples of services are parent education, family service centers in certain communities, and court advocacy for victims of domestic violence. Programs she envisioned have been nationally recognized and replicated across the United States, having received numerous awards. She was awarded an honorary Doctorate in Psychology from Brown University for the programs she created to treat families as a whole which was at the time an unconventional approach to preserve the family unit.

Mrs. du Pont was predeceased by her husband and parents, as well as her brothers, Jack R. Verge and George S. Verge. She is survived by her brother William G. Verge, and her seven children: daughter Catherine du Pont Schlaeppi (Martin) and their four children, Elizabeth Schlaeppi Johrendt William Schlaeppi, Charles Schlaeppi, and George Schlaeppi; her son William Garey Schneider (Jane) and grandsons William Schneider and Matthew Schneider; son Christopher Hans Schneider and granddaughters Kelly Dewispelaere, Christina Schneider and Katherine Schneider; daughter Martha Ann Caroline du Pont, (Daniel) and grandson Justin Kiracofe; son Henri Verge du Pont (Dina) and grandsons Louis du Pont, Victor du Pont and Felix du Pont; daughter Sophie Madeline du Pont; and son Henry E. I. du Pont II (Diane) with grandchildren Henry E. I. du Pont III and Grace du Pont. Of her five stepchildren, she was predeceased by Lawrence du Pont, and survived by his former-wife (Gerry) and grandchildren Lawrence du Pont II, (Veronica) Jennifer Cianci, (Guy), and Jason du Pont; his widow (Suzanne) survives with grandchildren Alex du Pont, Gabrielle du Pont; her stepdaughter Deborah Lynch, (Trip), with grandchildren William Melick, Alex Lynch, Benjamin James Forrest Pries, Christopher Schommer-Pries, Cordelia Marney, (Todd), stepdaughter Nicole Lawrence. She is survived by 9 great grandchildren and one great-great grandson. Her former husband, Paul Schneider, also survives.

A Memorial Service will held on Saturday, August 26, 2017 at 10:30 AM at Seeds of Greatness Ministries, 828 Frenchtown Road, New Castle, DE 19720. Friends and family are invited to attend a visitation on Friday, August 25, 2017 from 6:00 to 8:00 PM at CHANDLER FUNERAL HOME, 2506 Concord Pike, Wilmington, DE 19803. Interment will be private at the family cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks those who wish to show their love and support for her and the important work for which she spent her life, to make donations to Child Inc., online at https://www.childinc.com .

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Published in The News Journal from Aug. 19 to Aug. 21, 2017.
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May 11, 2018
Rest In Peace, Aunt Muffin! God bless you!
Marguerite Hoffman
May 8, 2018
Adam Fisher Ph.D.
December 9, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
karen matwey
August 28, 2017
3 generations of Martha Anne Carolines
Caroline duPont
August 28, 2017
We love you, Grandma. William & Matthew
William & Matthew Schneider
August 27, 2017
Sorry Grandma will not be able able to see matthew graduate.
Matthew Schneider
August 27, 2017
Thanks for the ride Grandma.
Will Schneider
August 25, 2017
May she R.I.P she was loved by so many people just by reading this guest book I could tell. I didn't know her personally but I wish I had. My prayers go out to her family and friends.
Bobbie Tighe
August 25, 2017
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Robert Barbacane
Friend
August 25, 2017
Sincere condolences to the family.
May God sustain you at this time
Please find comfort from his word
Where he promises he will
"comfort your heart
and make you firm"
during this time of great loss.
2 Thessalonians 2:16,17
With deep sympathy
August 25, 2017
My prayers and thoughts are with the family. Mrs.DuPont was a caring, thoughtful woman with a wicked sense of humor. She will be sorely missed.
Margaret Semple
August 24, 2017
Muffen, i will miss you dearly, having known you for 40 years as great friend and client, you will be missed dearly!! i often said you were the mother i never had!!! i miss you so much!!
Bradley Eckert
Friend
August 24, 2017
I am so sad my client and great friend of 40 years has passed,, i miss her dearly, and will never forget the great chats we had together!! love you always,,,Brad Eckert
August 23, 2017
So sorry for the loss your family is feeling. I am sure your memory will live on in your good works with domestic violence. Lots of prayers for your family. Lots of peace for you.
Michelle Delle Donne
Acquaintance
August 23, 2017
I am sorry to hear that Martha has died. She was a truly good woman and I enjoyed working with her.
Kim Burdick
August 21, 2017
My heart aches that this family and friends can longer gaze upon the sweet and strong smile of this beautiful lady who never tired of giving back. Her strength and kindness will forever be remembered. Thank you for your love and devotion to our community over the years. We cherish your memory, love and miss you.
Beth Harvey
August 20, 2017
Thank you for all things from your heart.
Roxanne Meade
August 20, 2017
Dearest Cathy et famille, so sorry for your loss. Often our Mother is our anchor, our touchstone, ,but none of you will be lost, Muffin prpared all of you well to continue in her giant,loving,giving footsteps. Peace and love surround you all. WrightBushBower
Wright Bush Bower
August 19, 2017
My wife (Gabby) and I will sadly miss Mrs. DuPont. My wife worked for her approximately 2 years at Montmorency and helped us enroll our son in St. Michaels and helped me launch a business venture in that brief period. She was very gracious to my family at all times and we will always remember her fondly. Condolences to the family.
Andrew Moore
Friend
August 19, 2017
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
levent tatlisu
Friend
August 19, 2017
I was one of the original five boys who lived at the Boy's Home of Delaware, Inc. at 3rd and West Streets. While I was in the U.S. Army, on a number of occasions, I was invited out to the estate for dinner and parties.
While I was in Vietnam, Muffin would write to me every week and send me the News Journal papers. She also sent me cases of chocolate pudding that I shared with the guys in my Infantry Platoon.
When I returned from Vietnam, she and Henry invited me over for a welcome home dinner. One of her little ones taught me how to eat artichokes. Henry would take me for rides in his antique cars (the Stutz was my favorite).
She appreciated that I would volunteer at the Boy's Home in Bellefonte. I took 11 of the boys to the 2nd Game of the World Series in 1969. I would like to mention that Russell Fiske, the Director, served the Boy's Home with great personal dedication for many years. I owe a lot to Russell and Muffin for their support and guidance through a challenging time during my childhood. As a result, I became a successful IT professional (now retired), an Artist, and an avid fly fisherman. Muffin, know that you made a difference in my life and many other children as well.
God Bless you, Henry, and your family.
Stephen Burke
August 18, 2017
Dear Henri and Dina,

I'm sorry to hear of the loss of Mrs. du Pont. I am glad for the time I was able to speak with her after the FSBT performance in April. She provided much insight into the work she had done over the years to help the youth of the Wilmington area.

Paul
August 18, 2017
Christopher Drew Mann
August 18, 2017
Rest in peace...enjoy the rewards of a life well lived
Jack Ciancio
August 18, 2017
To Sophie and family, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Peace and love to you and your family.
Julie (Pinder) Caputo
Newark, DE
Julie Caputo
August 18, 2017
When I sat down with Martha for the first time, I learned very quickly the quality of her spirit. She spoke in such a way that was aggressive, ambitious and hopeful. She contained within her very few words a standard, a way of saying, "We can do no less than excellent". This is the type of inspiration she gave me while working at Child Inc., and the type of inspiration I wish to give others . Her spirit is alive and well, and through others it will proliferate and spread as we remember her.

Thank you Martha.
Robert Hawkins
August 18, 2017
I wish to extend my deepest condolences to the family , close friends and staff who worked for the company that she so lovingly started! Huge Hugs are sent your way with heartfelt comfort!

I will personally miss her smile and kindness she showed to me both over the phone and in person......... I am the main receptionist at Child, Inc.

She would chuckle when she would call Child, Inc. and before Mrs. DuPont announced that it was her on the phone, I would greet her by name because I memorized her phone number! We both laughed and she would call me by name as well; when she would arrive here for a visit at Child, Inc. we would share friendly greeting as I would meet her at her car and help her into the building! With all of her mighty presence at Child, Inc. Martha DuPont (Muffin) took the time to ask how I was doing and also ask about my son whom she met at a Child, Inc. Staff Cookout , she said she appreciated the time that my son took to play a game of horseshoes with her great grandson! My son and I send out our deepest sympathy to her family, she will be missed, but never forgotten!!
Ginette Malone
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