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Stephen Jerome Wheeler

Stephen Jerome Wheeler died on Thursday, November 19, 2015.

Steve is predeceased by his mother, Virginia P. Wheeler. He is survived by his wife, Beth; daughters Amanda (Jason) Offord and Kate (Tim) Wheeler Hennekey; father, John J. Wheeler; siblings Suzanne (Kevin) McLymond, Richard (Grace) Wheeler, and Sarah (Robert) Dorman; mother in law Jean D. Wallin; nieces, nephews, and extended family, and a host of loving friends.

In honor of Steve's wishes, there will be no calling hours, and immediate family will hold a private ceremony.

To celebrate Steve's love of music, the family asks that donations be designated "For tuition assistance, in memory of Stephen J. Wheeler" to the Hochstein School of Music and Dance, 50 Plymouth Avenue North, Rochester, NY 14614.

To Plant Memorial Trees in memory, please visit our Sympathy Store.
Published in Rochester Democrat And Chronicle on Nov. 23, 2015.
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November 29, 2015
beth - so sorry to hear of your family's loss.
jerry bennett
jerry bennett
November 29, 2015
Dear Beth - my thoughts are with you and your family at this time. I remember Steve and his music so well! When you are ready - would love to see you. Sheryl Karch
November 27, 2015
I'm so sorry to hear about Steve's passing. I have thought of you offen. My thoughts and prayers are with the Wheeler family at this difficult time!
Joan & Jerry Steinberg
November 27, 2015
Thoughts and prayers for you all. Rest in peace Uncle Steve.
Lindsey Wood
November 27, 2015
Beth, Kate, and Amanda,
We liked and admired Steve for his intelligence, humor, generosity, integrity, determination, and so much more. Reading these tributes shows us he had many other wonderful attributes we didn't even suspect. May your memories of this fine man comfort you.
Maria and George Barnes
November 27, 2015
When Stephen and Beth were visiting the Pacific northwest last year, I had the honor of meeting you both, and sharing a cup of coffee. My sincere sympathy is extended, sorry for your loss,I will always remember "ex-rocker" he touched many.
Colleen osborn
November 26, 2015
Oh, Beth.....I am heartbroken for you and your girls. That just hits me in the gut. I will never forget Steve helping our Nathan (now almost 30) when he was about 6 or 7,,,showing him his electric guitar, and singing, "Wild thing.....I think I love you!". Nathan quoted him.....many, many times over the years, while playing anything at all that resembeled a guitar. He was definitely one of those figures in our son's life.....that had a major role in forming his psyche. So, so, so sorry for your loss. Love and hugs to you and your girls.
Andrea Negus-Baldwin
November 26, 2015
So sorry that he suffered for so long; but your lives together are so an inspiration to all...and praying that those many many years together, will keep you full of the great memories; the great times. Love and hugs...Ken and Janice Smith
Ken and Janice Smith
November 26, 2015
Very big hugs to all the Wheelers, Offords and Hennekeys. We always enjoyed talking with your dad/husband, epic musical traveler/adventurer that he was. We admire how large you always lived, together. All our love and peace to you as you begin and continue your grieving. xoxo
Hil and Lycu Vidalakis
November 26, 2015
I never met you and only knew you as Ex Rocker through the Inspire site.I will miss you,you often made me smile. With love, Carolyn aka Stubby55. X
Carolyn Robbins
November 26, 2015
Farewell old friend. He was a kind man. I will miss you.
Tony Tessi
November 26, 2015
Stephen, thank you for helping me when I needed a guide. Prayers will be said in your memory in the UK.
David James
November 26, 2015
Many, many fond childhood memories of steve and the entire wheeler clan. Steve was a musician's musician. I am very sad for your loss.
Rich McKenzie
November 26, 2015
Dear Beth and girls,
It breaks my heart to learn of our friend "Xrocker" passing. He has been such a strong support to thousands of or more of us who have been through the a very similar journey as his. With out his support on Inspire we would have been so desperate. I can't thank you enough for sharing him with us. He will be so missed. My tears are clouding my eyes as I write.....but after five years of supporting Steve back......and his support us, I am just positive there is a special place in Heaven for this speacal soul.

I hope some how this helps you to know what a hero your loved one was. Even in his difficult time he gave selflessly to others. God rest His soul and give you peace in your grief knowing your husband and father was a true HERO.
Julie JB
Julie Jordan-Brandt
November 26, 2015
Lighting a candle. R.I.P.
- Lil
November 25, 2015
Oh i loved your posts. Sorely missed. RIP. send love to my husband over there.
Delia Share
November 25, 2015
For every ending there is a brand new beginning free from fear, suffering, stress and Iill health.
It is filled with joy and happiness and being re united with loved ones. Prayers of comfort are sent to you Beth and Your family and friends Sandy Worth ( inspire Cymmfy c
November 25, 2015
Dearest Beth & family,
Our inspire site will have a candle burning for you and Steve.
Healing hugs to you
Glenda McGregor
November 25, 2015
Steve will be dearly missed on Inspire...his input,intelligence,wit,knowledge and his humor...helped so many. So,So...sorry.
Mara Tripi
November 24, 2015
Just wanted to send my condolences as an Inspire member who loved your input and sense of humor. you will be and are already greatly missed. RIP you rocked our world!
November 24, 2015
Beth and Family,

I am truly sorry to hear about Steve passing. I had worked for Steve many years ago at Webster Plastics and still value the time I spent with him.

I hope you can find some peace in the memories of joy and laughter that I know he brought to you over the years.

My wife and I will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Edgar White
November 24, 2015
Life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.
William Penn

I'll see you in another life brother.
Desmond Hume - Lost

Your friend forever, Pete.
November 24, 2015
Have read your note, Beth, on inspire. Will sure miss him, and seems like some important connections and goodbyes were made before he passed away. So sorry for you all. RIP ex rocker.
Tori Connolly
November 24, 2015
like my father steve is a phenomenal example my heart and prayers are with you
joe hecht
November 24, 2015
my deepest sympathy when i lost my father i lost a great role model i can honestly say steve was that for me my heart and prayers with you
joe hecht
November 24, 2015
Beth and family - I am so very sorry. He was such a source of great advice and humour. We will miss him teribly on Inspire. Warm hugs to you all. blowininthewind
Sally Edwards
November 24, 2015
Beth and Family,
I'm very sad to hear about Steve's passing. He was a great mentor, friend and boss for over 20 years. I could always count on him. He will truly be missed.
Cora LeFever
November 24, 2015
Much too young. Too much more to live and give.
November 24, 2015
I am so sorry to read this awful new of your very special man. He was a source of humor and inspiration to so many of us on the Inspire network.

Peace to all who love him,
Laurie Nick
November 24, 2015
A great light has been extinguished, he will be truly missed.
November 24, 2015
We consider ourselves very blessed to call Steve our friend and neighbor. He added so much to our lives, with his humor, his music, and his friendship. Our early memories are of Steve playing Creedence tunes as he sat in his garage one day. He is the reason we traveled to Memphis, Clarksdale, and the Mississippi Blues Trail. We know his soul rose unexpectedly, and is looking back down at us. Our love to Beth, Amanda, and Kate.
bruce and gretchen rabjohns
November 24, 2015
Beth and family, I am so sorry to hear this news. I met Stephen on Inspire as a fellow lung cancer warrior. He was so kind to me, always responding in a light hearted fashion. I am a music teacher by profession, so I share his love of music. He will be missed.


Shelly Engfer-Triebenbach
November 23, 2015
My deepest sympathy to "Ex Rocker"'s family.You were a true inspiration for me and the Inspire group with your thoughtful and cheerful posts.
Coin de France
November 23, 2015
I will miss your witty responses on Inspire. You will be truly missed. RIP Ex-Rocker Steve!
November 23, 2015
Beth, Amanda, Kate and family:
My condolence to you all, and know you are in my heart and my thoughts.
So glad am I that on my journey, my path was linked with Steve. Through photo,laughter or song - a connection to a wonderful spirit! Hold on high our memories, and let our paths cross once again in the stars.
Charlie Catchpole
November 23, 2015
Beth, Girls, and Family:
My deepest sympathy to all of you. My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.
I worked with Steve for 22 years at Webster Plastics - what a wonderful person he was and so very intelligent.
Please know I will hold you in my heart and prayers for God's comfort and peace.
With heartfelt sympathy.
Mary-Margaret Pidek & Family
Mary-Margaret Pidek
November 23, 2015
Beth and Girls, Marilyn and I wanted to give our most sincere condolences to you. Steve was a great person in every way. I will never forget connecting with Steve many many times on stage !

Love Chuck and Marilyn
November 23, 2015

Beth - very sad to hear about Steve's passing. He taught me how to "do the right thing the first time".

Still today faced with a difficult decision I ask my self what Mr. Wheeler do.

Lise and I so very sorry for your loss.

November 23, 2015
I only "knew" you through the Inspire forum. Your Wit and kind words to others there will live on. My sincere condolences to the Wheeler Family and Friends.
Penny Carlson
November 23, 2015
I followed ExRocker on the Inspire site over the past few years. Like so many others, I will miss him. He had such great wit, wisdom and compassion. Sincere sympathy to his loved ones.
November 23, 2015
Beth and Girls and Family I am sorry to hear of this - he truly touched my heart as well as many many others. My sincere and deepest sympathy is with you and your family. He will be truly missed - RIP my dear friend !! Danny Steingraber and Family
November 23, 2015
Steve was a great guy and a great player. I'm honored to have been called his friend and equally as honored to have shared the stage with him.
Bill Drum
November 23, 2015
RIP Steve.
November 23, 2015
Beth, I was so sorry to hear of Steve's passing. I have such fond memories of Steve from our old Webster Plastics days, and having our kids at the same time. Please know that you and the girls are in my thoughts and prayers!!!
Jill Sill
November 23, 2015
My deepest sympathies to the entire Wheeler family. May God Bless you all.
Carol Jansen Piscini
November 23, 2015
I am so sorry to learn of Steve's passing. We were good friends and neighbors for many years on Bay Road. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
November 23, 2015
Your memory will forever be with those of us who were led by you. Thank you Steve for showing us the way.
Melinda B.
November 23, 2015
Rest easy, brother.
November 23, 2015
Well-rememberd on the Fender Discussion Page.
November 23, 2015
I was so sorry to hear this sad news. Please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Cindy Bory
November 23, 2015
Dear Beth,

I am so so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family during this emotional time.
Elizabeth Guthrie
November 23, 2015
I never knew you, you didn't know me. I read your posts on the Inspire Forum and some of your words of wisdom will stay with me for ever. Sometimes we never know what a difference we make in other people's lives. I felt moved to write this so that your family and loved ones would know how very far your influence spread and how you changed lives. I have seen your photo now for the first time and know your name. RIP Stephen Wheeler, Ex-Rocker. And most of all, thank you.
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