Debby Lynn Underwood Gross
1964 - 2010
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Debby Lynn Underwood Gross danced her way into heaven on Sunday, April 25, 2010.
Celebration of life: 10:30 a.m. Saturday, May 8, at the home of David and Toni Lewis in Fort Worth. Forgo the bad organ music and somber routine. Let's raise a glass, deliver our best jokes, tell some stories, stir it up and laugh. She expects old fashioned home cookin' funeral food! If you try to sneak chain restaurant brown gravy or powdered potatoes into the party, we will hurt you. Also, please don't ask us when you can pick up your covered dishes. We're keeping them! Dates are encouraged as long as you are not too closely related. Two-drink minimum. Smoke 'em if ya got 'em.
Never miss the chance to dance.
Memorials: Debby Lynn's wishes were, in lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to an educational fund for her granddaughter Kaysen Ashley. Debbie Lynn Gross Memorial Fund at Frost Bank, Fort Worth, Texas.
Debby Lynn Underwood Gross was sent to us on Oct. 1, 1964.
The remainder of her story is written with the irreverent affinity and mischievous zest she had for life. She loved to laugh and wasn't afraid to pepper a salty word to elicit a desired response. If you don't share her appreciation of laughter at the expense of etiquette and decorum, read no further. She made no apologies and neither will we.
Debby Lynn packed many loves and tragedies into her short 45 years. During her life she excelled at mediocrity. She could do anything she wanted . . . she just chose not to! She was wickedly funny with a penchant for story telling. Her vivid and imaginative tall tales were usually combined pieces of personal experience with outlandish redneck wisdom. She was a living contradiction; part truth and part fiction. Most stories both real and humorous began with "You ain't gonna believe this s---!"
Debby Lynn loved the limelight and was a master communicator via phone, email, even broadcast radio. Her redneck character-driven calls earned her a recurring radio role in Cape Girardeau, Mo., as "Hilda the Hen" and the voice of Circle S Saddle. She also worked with Apple Orthodontics in Fort Worth.
She loved to be in the know at the center of gossip, conflict or tragedy. One of her favorite lines was "If you don't have anything nice to say . . . come sit by me!" She had a knack for "stirring the pot" for comedic effect or choosing to escalate a tense situation to get a reaction. She was equally clever at extinguishing a fire she helped to stoke. We believe Debby Lynn delighted in the resolution and redemption that comes after a "knock down, drag out fight" with the ones you love.
Debby Lynn's story would be incomplete without the mention of her husband of 20 years, Joe. He was her reserved counterpart to her over-the-top, bossy personality but his commitment was unwavering. Debby Lynn's physical deterioration did not affect her ability to throw verbal jabs. Joe maintained courage under verbal fire, exercising saintly restraint. His patience and selflessness are truly appreciated by the entire family.
Debby Lynn loves the Lord; her husband, Joe Gross; her daughter, Ashley Nicole Rickman-Cordell; her granddaughter, Kaysen Ashley; her mother, Carole Ann Underwood; her sisters, Toni Kay Lewis, Lisa Dianne Sparkman, Becki Ann Saterlee and Shelly Pooh Crudup; her and her sisters' many boyfriends, former husbands, current brothers-in law; nephews, Brandon Lewis and Garrett Sparkman (they were both born in a manger and swaddled at birth but NOT born to virgins); niece, Kaci Jo Sparkman; great-nephew, Colter James Dean Sparkman; great-niece, Ella Sparkman; family, friends, dogs, cats, music and life.
We would like to thank the staff at Barnes-Jewish Hospital in St. Louis, Mo., where she received extraordinary care from her medical team. We adore each of them and will remain forever grateful for their kindness.
She was preceded in death by her maternal grandparents, Bill and Ella McClarney of Olive Branch, Ill.; and her father, Jim Underwood of Fort Worth.

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Published in Star-Telegram on May 2, 2010.
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April 26, 2020
Sissy I miss you so much time has not made this easier...I need you so bad..I know you are always with me..you always let me no in some way you are around ...love you so much...love Bebe
Beckiann Satterlee
Family
April 26, 2020
Its been so long but never forget your smile, your laugh, and heart. To Ash, Shelly, Tony, BeckyAnn, and the rest of the family, hugs and prayers.
Shelly Rhodes
Friend
April 26, 2019
Lil Shelly
Friend
March 9, 2017
I miss you to sissy....o my if you only could be here....I love you so much... always on my mind forever in my heart I love you my sweet sister
Beckiann Satterlee
March 8, 2017
missing you momma
ashley holbert
January 22, 2014
Love u...miss u so
Beckiann satterlee
January 21, 2014
Debby, I was searching for you the other day, I used to run into you everywhere in Burleson and we would catch up... I should have known you would be all over the internet for your funny obituary !! I loved you so much and we had a hoot when we would tear up billy bobs !! ill have a two drink minimum and think of you ! now you can have that cheese burger in paradise ! Kimmi Stewart
January 5, 2014
sissy I love you so much and missing you is an understatement thanks for watching over me from heaven I always carry you with me in my thoughts and forever in my heart love you bunches Beckiann
Beckiann satterlee
December 24, 2013
Missing you another Christmas!
Toni
December 24, 2013
Missing you always momma.
Ashley Holbert
October 22, 2013
Love u so much..miss u is a under statement
beckiann
October 20, 2013
Toni
October 19, 2013
Always in my heart always on my mind
Ashley Holbert
April 25, 2013
Always in my heart
beckiann satterlee
April 25, 2013
Miss u love u..proud god gave me u as a sister..
beckiann satterlee
April 25, 2013
Ashley Rickman
February 24, 2012
love you and miss you so badly
ashley cordell
September 8, 2011
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toni lewis
July 14, 2011
Toni L
July 3, 2010
What a wonderful woman and family she has to honor her wishes through this extraordinary obituary! Seems as though she excelled at making this world much more enjoyable to live in. Condolences to her family and friends.
Deann Raleigh
May 19, 2010
Praying that God is continuing to lift of the lives that knew Debby Lynn.
I am forever grateful that she had a Heavenly home to go to and I'm sure that she will expect to see all of her relatives up there with her someday.
Carol Ann we love you, and you and yours are in our prayers.
Matt and Carolyn Wakeley and Jesse Welch friends from Springfield, Mo.
Carolyn Wakeley
May 14, 2010
Not one to read obits, but once I began this one, I just kept reading and knew this woman "did it her way." Good for her! To her family and friends, what a joy to have her in your life. (I wish I had known her.) Please accept my sympathy.
Janice Lambert
May 8, 2010
Carole and all the girls--I worked for you in Cape at the restaurant and it sounds just like Debby Lynn was as a young girl. It saddened my heart and just wanted to let you know one more person loved her and all the family did for me. May God bless
Debbie Shirrell Crump--San Antonio TX
Debbie Crump
May 8, 2010
Debby Lynn sounds like a friend or family member who would keep you "in stitches". My sympathies to her loved ones. And, thank you so much for sharing Debby Lynn with those of us who missed knowing her in person. You gave us a great introduction and a wonderful reminder to not take ourselves so seriously. What a gift.
Pam
May 8, 2010
may god bless you and your family.
from robert hail and family (ears)
robert hail
May 7, 2010
I didn't know Debby, but I know a few members of her wonderful family. How lucky she was to have them, and they to have had her.
Natalie Zavesky
May 7, 2010
This is so wonderfully written! I did not know Debby-Lynn but I sure as hell wish I had! God bless her and her family. You can tell she was well loved.
May 7, 2010
That was the best Obit" celebration of life" I have ever read in my entire life. Wish i knew debbie! God bless her!
Lorri Schmuck
May 7, 2010
This was sent to us by a friend of Debby's who wanted us to join in the celebration of her life...we never met Debby, but enjoyed a glimpse of the joy she surely brought to others. What a wonderful commentary (can't bring myself to call it an obituary) on a life lived fully! Our thoughts and prayers are with a family who certainly has lost a bright light.....
Lisa McCollom
May 7, 2010
May the Lord bless and keep her family. I am grateful that her legacy was shared. I do not know Debbie but I am moved by her zest for life and her affect on those who love her. She is rejoicing before her King.
Teresa N. Mason
May 6, 2010
Just wanted you to kow that this obituary (hate to call it that!!) was sent to me in ALASKA! by my friend in GERMANY! (she is orignally from Wichita Falls, TX) So, it has basically made it AROUND THE WORLD!
WOW! AWESOME!! Wish I knew Debbie, and now I feel I do!! Thanks for sharing! She definatly was someone special!! There must be LOTS of laughter goin' on in heaven today!! ;)
God bless you all!
Kathy Teague
Elmendorf AFB, AK
Kathy Teague
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we are deeply saddened to hear of the loss of Debbie she was a great person. And will be missed. You all will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Angela "Countess" Goolsby
Angela Goolsby
May 6, 2010
I am like many others, never having met her but wishing I had. I lost my husband at 40 and know how hard it must be for you. Take strength knowing she is still making a lot of people all over the country (and undoubtedly the world) smile and laugh. Peace and love...
Trish Kelts
May 6, 2010
What a celebration of life. Debby was very loved. May eternal light shine upon her and her family.
Ann Reynolds
May 6, 2010
Debby Lynn...you always made us laugh. You were definitely the light of a crowd. God Bless the entire Underwood family at this time. Miss all of you; Carol, Shelly, Joe and Ashley.
Janet Carver
May 6, 2010
Sounds like a lovely woman.
Jerry Avila
May 6, 2010
I never knew Debbie Lynn, but I wish I had. My sympathies to her loved ones, and I look forward to meeting Sister Debbie There.
-Alan Hopewell
May 6, 2010
My deepest condolences to her family and friends on the loss of this wonderfully vibrant person! From reading her obituary, she sounded like a true blessing to whomever's life she touch. I didn't know her, but read her obituary. Thank you for letting us know she loved the Lord as well as celebrating her life and also sharing the obit. She must have been a wonderful person. I concur with Ms. Fitch . . I hope my family would use this as a model for my final "party" too! God bless you!
Sophia Studer
May 6, 2010
Thank you for sharing Debby's life with the rest of us. I loved that she loved the Lord first, yet she showed that life as a Christian can be fun. She has continued blessing others through this wonderful notice.
Sharon
May 6, 2010
I saw a link to her obit on a friend's Facebook page, and I must say, she sounds like someone I would have loved to know!

My condolences to friends and family at the loss of such a unique person. I know how hard it is. Joe, to you I say, it will get better. I lost my husband at age 40, 2 years ago. Hugs out across the miles.
Tricia Schell
May 6, 2010
You are most blessed to have this woman as member of family or your friend. I would have loved to have known her. I hope my family would use this as a model for my final going away party.
Donna Fitch
May 6, 2010
Wow! What a terrific piece! She sounds like my kind of friend! Keep them laughing up in heaven Debby! Sounds like you left a wonderful mark here on Earth! ....God bless!
(Dormans~Keller,Texas)
Dormans
May 6, 2010
Thinking of your family, and knowing how blessed you were to have Debby in your lives. What a wonderful tribute her obit was.. God Bless you all..
Stephanie S
May 5, 2010
Fantasic obituary. Debby Lynn, I'm sorry not to have known you. You are a hoot, even in the afterlife. Laugh on!
Angela Gaston
May 5, 2010
Great obituary! Debby Lynn sounds like my kind of people! Sorry for your loss.
Jacki Turner
May 5, 2010
I salute you Debby Lynn...you did life and death your way! I aspire to do the same in my life and hope that someday someone will write such a spirited description of my life as well. Peace be with you as you make your way on into the ethers in this wonderful circle of life! I hope to meet you there someday for a drink, off colored joke, and some great food!
Dave Shumake
May 5, 2010
Debby's obituary has made it through the internet chain & all the way to me in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. You have my deepest sympathy because the world has lost a wonderful person.
Mary J
May 5, 2010
Having read the obit and subsequently, the responses from other readers, who like myself never met this obviously wonderful lady, I was overwhelmed by her wit and wisdom. Its wonderful that she had a loving sister to bravely honor her last request.I sure wish I had known such a clever lady that could look death in the eye and thumb her nose. My sincere condolences to an obviously loving family.
Charlie Wilson
May 5, 2010
This lady sounds like a hoot. I wish I had known her. I love that she doesn't want people being glum and instead celebrating her life. I hope the same for me when my time comes. I have never chuckled or laughed reading an obituary before, but I did with this one!
Lorrie Cook
May 5, 2010
I read Debby Lynns obit on facebook and wish I had a chance to know her. I think she understood what life was all about and I can only hope that my family thinks as much of me. I am sorry for your loss but know you are all better people for having Debby Lynn in your lives. God Bless.
Denise Whiddon, Weatherford, Texas
Denise Whiddon
May 5, 2010
That is great. She was truthful about everything in life. No one had to lie in her obit to make her sound good. She was who she was. RIP dear lady. I wish I had known you.
Patricia
May 5, 2010
Toni - Great Job! I was reading the obit Sunday chuckling quite loudly and my husband asked me what in the world was wrong with me because he knew I was reading the obituaries. It was such a great tribute. I don't remember alot about Debby, but know you and Shelly and your mother all had a great sense of humor and were a lot of fun, so it runs in the family. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Linda Tatum Runnels
Linda Tatum Runnels
May 5, 2010
I would have to say that this was the best obituary I've ever seen before. It left me feeling good that a person like Debby was a part of this world. I don't even know her but feel she was a hoot to be around..There should be more obits done this way..Instead of being sad about her death, be happy that she lived. April Walkup (Huntingdon, PA)
April Walkup
May 5, 2010
WOW.... true to the final end... what a story... different but I had fun reading it, wish I had known such a fine lady....
lori Hale
May 5, 2010
To have known Debby would have been a blessing. Not to many like her in this world. She made people laugh down here on earth, now she can make God giggle.
May 5, 2010
Good clean living and telling the truth! Way to go Debby, sorry I didn't know you, wish I did. May God continue to bless you and keep you!
May 5, 2010
WOW! What a woman she must have been. To all of you who had the pleasure of her touching your lives, you lucky, lucky people.
Betty Smith
May 5, 2010
I never knew her bout WOW I wish I had!!
May 5, 2010
Sounds like she was a fun person. So sorry for your loss!
Lisa Lynch
May 5, 2010
Thank goodness for people like Debby who make the world a much more interesting place!
D Lynn
May 5, 2010
I wish I had known Debby! What a fantastic obituary. I want mine to read like that! I celebrate her even though I didn't know her. What a precious soul!
Nancy Kinser
May 5, 2010
She sounds like a wonderful, fun person who blessed you with life. Thank you for sharing some of her zeal with us. God bless!
Ashley Peters
May 5, 2010
What an superb, extraordinary obituary! Wish we had thought of one like this when my mother passed away. I know she would have liked meeting Debby, but I bet they are both in heaven having a great time swapping stories and laughing. Even though it is painful to lose her, think of all the people she has brought together in death with love and laughter through her obituary. What a great gift for all of us. Thank you Gross family for sharing!
Gaudet Family
May 5, 2010
this lady is the sort of friend I've had for most of my 69 years. So many of them have passed on now but reading this obit brought back a lot of fun memories and I'm glad they're still out there. I am really sorry for her loss for her family. But the memories will sustain them for a long time.
Judith Watkins
May 5, 2010
I never met her but, sure would of loved to. I found this on my face book circle and she sounds like she was a great person to know. This obit. made my day and made me think and smile. My condolences go out to the family.
R Winchester
May 5, 2010
Wow~ what an incredicle story of her life...... beautifully written. I did not know Debby, but I'm sure we would have been great friends. remember this ...." sometimes the angles fly so closely to you that you can hear the flutter of their wings" cherish every memory, and smile every time you feel the flutter of her wings....
Kim Smith
May 5, 2010
I laughed to the point of tears all the way through your obit Debby!!! Wow what a hot one!! An obit I will never forget....just the way she would have wanted it. I can only wish that my obit is filled with the same kind of humor provided by my friends and family....Cry not for this one, she would have bonked you on the head to straighten you out for crying about. WHAT A JOYFUL PERSON......I stand and salute your laugh-filled life Debby.......Jim n Arlington
James Dunham
May 4, 2010
Gee, here's an example on how to live your life! Without regrets and apologies! Wish I could have known you, you are my kind of "people"!
My condolences on your loss but my envy to you also because you knew her and loved her! God Bless!
Felix Ramirez
May 4, 2010
Becki,
I am so sorry for your loss, I know how much you loved your sister and what a great person she was. Jim and I used to run into her at all hours of the morning at Wal-Mart and we would talk for a while. She never showed any disdain or hard feelings towards Jim or myself. Your sister was a great person even a wife of an ex-brother-in-law could appreciate, You were truly blessed with an awesome sister and may you have the greatest celebration of her life this weekend!!
Adina Cannon
May 4, 2010
WoW! She must have been a pistol! How wonderful it must be to have known her! :)
Paige T.
May 3, 2010
I never met this great lady but I wish I would have! Ran accross this awesome lasting memory via Blogspot.
Happy Memories!
Nancy
Cleveland Ohio
nancy
May 3, 2010
Wow! I heard Debbie's Obit. on the radio this morning and got a good laugh. I did not know her, but it seems like she would have liked that she was still making people laugh. After hearing it this morning, I had to come home and read the entire thing tonight. My prayers are with your entire family. What a Wondeful Lady.
May 3, 2010
Debby you will be greatly missed.I miss being around everyone in the family.You were a great person and a wonderful mother.
Kristie Carver Newton
May 3, 2010
Dear Debby's Family, I did not know Debby but heard about her obit on the radio this morning and just had to read it for myself. What an awesome tribute! She sounded like someone full of life as well as a little spit & vinegar :) I hope you always celebrate her life and share with others what an amazing woman you thought she was, she will never be forgotten if you do. God bless you all and have faith that she's stirring it up in heaven along with our own "debby lynn's" ~ peace!
Lisa
May 3, 2010
This is the first obituary I have ever read and thought 1)That'sgonna be a hell of a party and 2) I wish I had known her.
Michelle P
May 3, 2010
This is how an obituary should read. You guys have definitely made a mark for her with this final tribute! It has been inspiring others making its rounds on Facebook! What a lady she must have been! Keep smiling for her!
May 2, 2010
Mrs.Debbie, We love you and miss you so much!! Next sat we are going to have that big ole party for you, umbrella drinks and all....You and my courtney spread those wings and fly girl!!! and I'll carry on our sweet sayin of "HAVE A NICE DAY" wink wink lol Love ya bunches The Payne gang
May 2, 2010
Debby Lynn, I love your guts! I will be your manager in heaven. Keep singing till I get there. Missy
May 2, 2010
WOW,WHAT A GAL-YOU ALL MUST HAVE HAD A GREAT TIME COLABORATING ON THIS WONDERFUL FINAL TRIBUTE-WISH I HAD KNOWN HER!!
NANCY WEST
May 2, 2010
I didn't know Debby or her family, but she sounds like an awesome lady! I too love to dance, and will think of her the next time I do! :)

Keep all of the memories close to your heart and you will never be without her.
Liz Hewitt
May 2, 2010
Debby's light upon this world will go on forever <3 Love You & Miss You Bunches Cuz <3
Julie Hale
May 2, 2010
steve littell
May 2, 2010
I haven't seen Deb in over 5 yrs but never lost touch. We emailed and spoke on the phone here and there and I couldn't wait to see her the next time she came back to TX. I'm heartbroken yet feel blessed to have had her in my life when I needed her the most. Joe, Ashley, & the rest of her family, I'm so sorry. She could make you laugh, cry, raise heck, whatever the day had in store. Never a dull moment. I will truly miss her deeply.
Shelly Rhodes
May 2, 2010
i thank you for all of the great things that each one of you are saying about my sister...wow is all i can say...well sissy as long as i am alive you will live on...looking at each other is like looking in the mirror..spread ur wings sissy..o god how i love you and miss you...love you my sweet sister...love beckiann
beckiann satterlee
May 2, 2010
this is for ashley and beckiann cause i didnt get chance to met deb but would of liked her very much cause becki and ashley are to great people to me so sorry fer yall loss if ya need me im here love ya both vicki
vicki hall
May 2, 2010
I'm so sorry that I missed this lady. I think that we would have got along well. rip miss Debby. Those left behind dance for her and with her.
MSP, Richland Hills,Tx
May 2, 2010
Debby's Family, I didn't know Debby but I sure wish I would have. Ashley, reading your entry here I'm sure that your Mom was very proud of you. I know you will live up to the promise you have made. RIP Debby.
Sandra Behrens
May 2, 2010
You must have been a great person! I will see you on the other side.
P W
May 2, 2010
Tina Becker
May 2, 2010
I had never met you but reading this makes me very sad that I missed the chance to know you.
B T
May 2, 2010
"dance"
May 2, 2010
"DANCE" Momma i'll keep you close in my heart always. kaysen will have you every day in heart i can promise that you will continue to write on the pages of our life. My promise to you and myself kaysen ashley will always know to "dance" never sit it out. NEVER settle for less when she's knows theres more. above all i will make you proud and for the rest of our life i know we will be gaurded with the biggest of angels. tell my papa how much ive missed him seens hes been gone. not 1day will pass that i dont miss you love and respect you. im so thankful i was so blessed to be your child. i had the best of it all mom i had you...i will always have you.....
ashley rickman-cordell
May 2, 2010
Be Still

Be still like the grass on a melancholy summer day
Be still like desert shrub.

Be calm and you will hear your loved one speak, in the stillness, in the calm, their love resounds.

If you are still this promise I make, you will hear the voice of your loved one helping you along your way.
carla rouse
May 2, 2010
Love You Debby Lynn & You are very much missed!!!!
Julie Hale
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