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1956
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2020
Robert Riddle Obituary
March 24, 1956 - October 8, 2020
Resident of Concord, CA
It is with great sorrow in our hearts that we share that Robert David Riddle, born March 24, 1956, passed away suddenly on October 8th, 2020 in Concord, California. After mowing the lawn of a neighbor on hospice, Robert suffered a major heart attack and passed away swiftly. While his tragic loss was a painful shock to those who loved him, the circumstances surrounding it were no surprise. Everyone who knew Robert knew of his kindness and generosity, and most could tell a story or five about his sharing of money (even though he never had much), food, drink or our most precious human commodity, time. Robert treated every person he met not as a stranger, but as a valued friend.
Robert grew up in Richmond. His childhood Saturdays were spent at the matinee, gleefully watching the cartoons upon the silver screen. His love for fantasy and the joy of escapism persisted throughout his life in film, television and years of voracious reading. He introduced his son to the stories of legendary pulp character Conan the Cimmerian. Like the famed adventurer, Robert was "full of gigantic melancholies and gigantic mirth." Robert himself was an amateur writer and poet.
At 16, Robert was hit and dragged by a drunk driver, resulting in the near severing of his foot. He lost his left ankle and underwent multiple surgeries over the years. Although he suffered the rest of his life in pain, he was determined to not let his disability define him. He would say the stubbornness and pride was his Aries way. He was a survivor.
Robert held many jobs throughout his life, from limo driver, to bartender, to many years as a bus driver for disabled children and adults, whom he adored. Yet his true calling and soul's definition was as an artist. Robert had a creative vision, and he executed it with love and passion through many mediums: elaborate food and drinks, soda can airplanes, animal skins and beadwork, dream catchers, electric "light boxes" activated by sound, wood carving and sculpture and his final passing fancy, painting rocks. Everyone in Robert's life was a happy and grateful recipient of his work, and will treasure many of these pieces for generations to come.
Robert is survived by his four siblings, his partner, Paula McKinney, and their mini yet mighty beast Cooper, his beloved children Robert Riddle, Tara Killian and Tom Killian, and his dear grandson and legacy Ira Wren. We humbly ask that in Robert's name, the reader commit an act of kindness and love for another.
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Nikki
October 19, 2023
Still miss him Still sorry for my sister
Phyllis Dye (sister)
October 19, 2023
I wasn't expecting this email from Legacy today. Not a day goes by since Robert died that I don't miss him.
His son, Robert, found the home movies Robert made back in the late 70's forward. It was so wonderful to watch the early years of Robert and Mae. Watch Tara and Robert as children. Those were the best of our younger selves.
His grandson, Ira, turned six last week.
I treasure the creative gifts he sent me. He was so talented in making each gift special for each person.
I recently had a dream that he and I were playing a board game. The laughter woke me up. I miss my brother.
Nikki
October 19, 2022
Miss you buddy.
Kris Taylor
October 28, 2020
I remember, as a child, Robert was always engaging and fun to be around. My first exposure to video games was sitting on the living room floor with Robert, at my aunt Mae's house, playing Pong, Space Invaders and Golf on his Atari. Even though I was a small child, he had the ability to interact at my level, creating an environment of fun and acceptance. Robert was always ready and willing to jump in and help, without any hesitation. An example that exemplifies his creativity and enthusiasm to help those around him, is when, at the age of 6, I signed up to participate in the Vacaville Fiesta Days Parade. I wanted to dress up like an American Indian and ride my paint pony in the parade. Robert jumped right in and insisted on helping, to not only create/make the outfit needed, but also found an Indian headdress/war bonnet that could be barrowed for the event. Robert had a great sense of humor and as well. For the parade mentioned earlier, he had given me the name Three Bears Standing. He playfully changed that name to Three Bears Falling, when my pony spooked at a mechanized bull, rearing up, I slid off the back of my pony uninjured. Robert has had an impact on all those he has been around. He will not be forgotten by those that he has touched with his smile, wit, humor, and selflessness. I rest assured that he is in a better place, embraced in the loving arms of our savior; a place of rest, joy and love. Until we meet again on the other side my friend, you will be missed.
Marie Montoya
October 27, 2020
I only recently met Robert, as he was walking Cooper at Dalis Park, although we did know of each other through our dear Paula. Robert and I looked at each other from across the pond and exclaimed, "You must be Robert! - You must be Marie!" His bursting smile brightened my day. He was so full of life! I couldn't wait to tell Paula I had finally met Robert!
As we chatted for a bit, I knew right away he was someone special. He had a warmth about him that made me want to get to know him better. I thought we would have that time. I cried when I heard of Robert's passing just a few weeks later - so tragic and sad - his life was cut short so suddenly.
From everything that has been shared, I know Robert was a gentle soul. His family and friends loved him deeply. I only wish I had met him sooner.
God bless you Robert. May your beautiful spirit and memories live on in those you loved and cherished.
In fond memory,
Marie Montoya
Lorie Farmer
October 26, 2020
This is really hard, I am so heartbroken for Roberts family and loved ones. I knew Robert for close to 40 years, in the late 70’s and 80’s he was married to my best friend Mae. We all had so many good unforgettable times together. Robert was a good friend, a kind genuine person that was always willing to lend a hand or an ear if you had a problem. He was a good listener and always made everyone feel valued and important. He was very empathetic and always seemed wise for his years. I never heard him say anything bad about anyone. He was smart and a talented artist, a good handyman. He was very funny and had a great sense of humor, and a great big wild and crazy heart! He fiercely loved his kids, Tara and Robbie, he was so proud of them and he would just beam with pride telling of all of their accomplishments. He was so over the moon about his little grandson Ira, so proud of him. I am so sorry for his children’s loss and his significant other Paula. Robert you were so loved and will be missed so much. We will always remember you. Rest In Peace my friend.
Lorie Farmer & family.
Robert Riddle
October 25, 2020
Dad and I shared a birthday, and though we had the pleasure of celebrating 35 years of Riddle boy shenanigans together, it’ll never be the same. I’ll miss you for the rest of my years. Love you, Dad.
Nikki Egan
October 25, 2020
Robert was my friend and a fellow Aries. When I would stay with Paula and Robert he would spoil me. I am so sorry for his passing. I will greatly miss him. He was not ready to go yet. He was excited about moving to Oregon or Arizona. God bless
Mary wieling
October 25, 2020
I worked with Robert at benicia yellow cab and my husband and I became friend's with him and always enjoyed hanging out with him he was such a sweet kind and caring person the seniors that took dial a ride just loved him sending prayers to the family
Dawn Stewart
October 25, 2020
I was very saddened to hear of Roberts passing! I have been friends with Paula for over 25 years, and know how much he meant to her! They took care of each other in so many ways!! My heart breaks for Paula and the loss and pain she is going through
Dawn Stewart
Friend
Jana L Gathman
October 24, 2020
It makes my heart sing to read all of the wonderful comments being left about my baby brother. I loved him from the minute my Daddy drove him home from the hospital. We were all waiting at the window to see the car pull up the driveway. The last of 5, always to be the baby, always to be loved. I will forever miss him.
Deborah Banskter
October 24, 2020
I’ve been dreading writing this because I knew that Robert’s passing would become all to real. What can I say about Robert... he was a friend for over 20 years ..no he was family. We spent so many holidays together that ended in naps. Days by the pool in floaty toys. I loved his barbecued shrimp! Paula and Robert were a loving couple. Always taking good care of each other. I will miss it all. I will miss you and your sheepish grin and kindness. Robert always called me Doc. The day he passed I was in my office and I remembered how I liked that, how respectful and affectionate that was . The timing was such that maybe he was sending me a message. Well I hope Robert knows how much he was loved. RIP
Paula McKinney
October 24, 2020
BILL KAREN AND KRIS TAYLOR
October 23, 2020
We remember when Robert made an Indian costume for our son to ware while riding his pony in a peraid HE WAS QUIET A GUY AND TOO YOUNG TO DIE
Grace W
October 23, 2020
Robert, I will miss you so much, first and foremost! I really did picture you as a father figure and loved you. I am so sad we will never have you in the flesh, but we have our sweet and fond memories of you, and reminders all around us of your glowing and captivating energy. It really is true that you were constantly giving to those around you even if you didn’t have all that much yourself. That spoke volumes about the type of man you were.
I think the number one word that comes to mind when I think of you is gentle. I was always inspired by your creations and enjoyed them so much, when I saw you, or the light boxes in Robbie’s grandma’s back yard in concord.
I will never forget you cooking us lunches at your house or grilling in grandma’s back yard. You were one of the coolest people to ever touch my heart and I thank you so much for giving the world the gift that is both Robbie and Tara. I know they will make you proud and make your spirit smile from wherever you are now.
We love you so much!
Phyllis Dye
October 23, 2020
Robert was a one of a kind treasure in our lives. There are no words to describe the special bond he had with Paula. He was happiest when with his children and grandson who brought him great joy and pride.
Debbie
October 23, 2020
So sorry for your loss. He will be missed by his loved ones.
Hugs and prayers to you all
Nevada barnes
October 23, 2020
I met Robert and May when we all were in our early twenties. Robert is a man that truly loves deep in his heart, his family was the most important thing in his life. He treated his friends like family also. He would do anything in the world for his friends and family. It is sad and a shock to hear the news of his passing. Robert was a true dear friend along with his wife mae. Their children and my children played all the time together. Birthday parties special occasions and going to the park. Robert was very artistic, I remember him making things for his kids, he even made me a airplane out of Budweiser cans. I have lots of memories too many too list here. But I know one thing heaven has a speacial man, and the Lord has something in store for him. Robbie and Tara, you will see your father again one day, but in the meantime keep those cherished memories alive and talk to him he will know you now and forever. His love for you will never die it is forever.
Deb Terrian
October 23, 2020
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Adam Cambron
October 23, 2020
He was our neighbor years ago at south Hampton apartments I bought a motorcycle from him too he truly was a cool kind dude very sorry for the family’s loss
Paula McKinney
October 23, 2020
I miss you, babe. Cooper is still napping on your pillow.
Jean Slattery
October 23, 2020
My condolences to Paula and all of Robert’s family. He was a very nice, warm, friendly person. I am missing our conversations while dog walking. His passing has touched our little neighborhood with sadness.
Paula McKinney
October 23, 2020
I miss you, babe.
Tara Killian
October 23, 2020
Dad, I will miss you for the rest of my life. I can’t help feeling that you were stolen from us. I will forever cherish our life we had together up until this point, especially our years as adults together. I love you.
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