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Brandon Elizares, an openly gay sophomore at Andress High School, committed suicide on June 2 at his Northeast El Paso home.

Published by El Paso Times from Jun. 13 to Jun. 27, 2012.
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I miss you every day. Never ever have I forgotten about you

Nickie

June 7, 2023

Brandon, you will always be remembered. Peace be with you,
as you are in your heavenly home.

Regina Elliott

June 7, 2023

Gone, but not forgotten! Rest In Peace Brandon!

Mr. Parker

School

July 27, 2021

Happiness In Heaven Always Brandon, we on Earth love you

Regina Elliott

June 7, 2019

my dearest i write two you today on july 12. 2012 im almost done with school (: can you believe that im also qet paint my car in your memory with moms permission of couse ....... i hope your doing okayy i miss you more than ever but im going to do it BIG for YOU this upcoming school year lovee youu bamm-bamm <3

yessi huerta

July 12, 2012

I didn't know Brandon but it makes no difference in how I feel every time I hear of yet another young gay man being bullied into taking his own life. I feel it deeply and wonder what is it going to take to get schools to wake up and stop this? I lost my mother when I was 14 and had to endure the isolation and sadness caused by bullying alone. I hope no more kids have to bear this burden alone. I am a filmmaker and am working on films to do what I can in the only way I know how to help kids know it is OK to be gay.

mark pope

July 7, 2012

Brandon was such an Amazing young man. I knew Brandon since the 4th grade. He was thoughtful, caring and placed everyone's needs above his own. I never will forget , he remembered to ask me , how was my anniversary after not seeing me for a while.

Mrs GW.

June 30, 2012

I am so deeply saddened for your lost. As a gay child growing up, I also contemplated this action. He did not deserve to be treated this way, and the bullying will stop. May God keep and protect you.

dale curry

June 29, 2012

Brandon sorry we didn't have a chance to meet you ,but you know you were loved by your family and friends now you fly with the angels no worries when we see a rainbow ,we know your in there looking down on us and the cruel people who can do this kind of things to nice people like you we love you no matter

uncle Joe Feliciano

June 22, 2012

My thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of Brandon. RIP Brandon, you will never again have to live with the cruelty you lived with here on earth. Fly free young man...fly free!

Sonja Teague

June 20, 2012

when the mountain touches the valley,all the clouds are taught to fly, thus our souls will leave this land most peacefully. Though our minds be filled with questions, in our hearts we'll understand, when the river meets the sea. Patience my brothers, and patience my son, in that sweet and final hour truth and justice will be done. Peace be with you Brandon, God has called you from this life because he missed you too much...love Shawn...

Shawn Hicks

June 19, 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. May the Holy Spirit comfort you and give you the peace that passes all understanding.

June 19, 2012

Dear Brandon J.Kaleikoa Elizares, you will always be well remembered and loved by many. My heart goes out to your mom and all of your family.Aloha Oe, Aunty Helen

Helen Clark

June 19, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray one day nothing will matter to people except if you are a good person. Brandon now sleeps with the angels.

Danny Alfonso

June 18, 2012

BRANDON these pass few days have been hard i miss youuu alott!!!!!!!!! im always thinkinq of you but that is nothing new.... omq bambam imitee learn howw to swimm this thursday im sooo exicted iwish you were the teaching me tho but i know you'll bee there watching lol please keep me safe in the water k? biq broo iloveyouu, (:

-Your little sis Yessi

Yessi H.

June 18, 2012

Our sincere condolences go out to Brandons family, especially his mom. Our son too committed suicide almost ten years ago, under different circumstances, but peer pressure and bullying is something that needs to stop, parents need to talk to kids about bullying and teach them that its not right. To his mom, the pain never goes away, but it eases with time. Just keep him alive in your heart, we all will meet each other again when its our time to go. He is in a better place with the Lord where there is no hate, may he Rest In Peace. My heart goes out to you.

Irma

June 18, 2012

Brandon, as an openly gay man for twenty years (since I was 18) I can understand your despair when confronted with people filled with hate. I barely made it myself and now try everyday to live my life as openly as possible to be an example to younger gay people that it is possible to live a normal life and be happy with who you are. My heart goes out to your family..."When the mountain touches the valley, all the clouds are taught to fly, thus our souls will leave this land most peacefully. Though our minds be filled with questions, in our hearts we'll understand, when the river meets the sea"...Peace and love...

Shawn Hicks

June 17, 2012

It truly is a terrible thing that happened here. May this young man rest in peace. The world, and this country in particular, needs to stop allowing the sort of bigotry and prejudice that leads to stuff like this. My heart goes out to the family.

Kevin Fox

June 17, 2012

Brandon I wish you would have talked to others and you would have found out that there are many in your situation Hope you have found peace.

Phill Flores

June 17, 2012

may Brandon RIP aqnd give his family strenth to carry on

David King

June 17, 2012

May you rest in peace now Brandon,God had a plan for you something we don't quite understand at times,Your the guardian angel for others,Watching us from Heavens doors!

Barbara

June 17, 2012

our very deep condolences Ms Elizares and fam.we took Brandons lose every hard even if we didnt know your beautiful son. our daugther was a victim of bulling in her school years.these kids dont know the damage they do.Hope one day they will stop all this .And make these law makers step up to the plate .May GOD BLESS you and family. We will have you in our prayers .. Rudy &Nellie Gaytan family (Price ,Utah

Rudy Gaytan

June 17, 2012

I am a stranger to you and your family, but I would like to offer my prayers and hope that God keeps you in his loving arms. Of course Brandon is already there. I am a junior high teacher, and hearing your son's story is a reminder to me to be vigilant against bullying or putdowns of any kind. God bless you, Rita Nolan

Rita Nolan

June 16, 2012

What a beautiful young man. May Brandon rest in peace. Please don't let his short journey on earth, be forgotten. Remember to tell his story, hopefully it will help someone else through a difficult time.

Liz Baca Lollman

June 16, 2012

To the family & friends of Brandon, I send my condolences & love to you all. May the days ahead bring you smiles & laughter when you think of Brandon. Thinking of you from afar.

Josie E.

June 16, 2012

I didn't know Brandon, but why do I feel so sad and hurt. Why do people have to be so cruel, I keep thinking in my head "what goes around comes around", but that wont make a difference, Brandon is gone. He had the rest of his life to live and be happy, graduate school, go to college and have a career, but just because some people have to mean and ugly, he thought it be best to just leave this world. May God comfort him and protect him and let him rest in peace. He is now safe and will never hurt by being bullied. Heaven needed "A Special Angel named BRANDON ELIZARES. Ms. Elizares may God comfort you in this difficult time and just remember one day you will be reunited with your son, up in Heaven he will be ok and never suffer again, he is in peace now.

Esther

June 16, 2012

It is so very tragic that Brandon needed to take his life to stop the bullying. My heart breaks for his sorrows and for your loss. I pray that his death may reach those too blind to see and too deaf to hear the cries of those who have the right to live their lives as they were created to do. God bless you in your pain. Lyn Merr (CA)

Lyn Merr

June 16, 2012

I am so saddened to hear of this. I am praying for Brandon, and for his loving family. For all of you out there who feel alone, who feel shunned, who feel lost...there is so much more to experience and if you reach out...someone will clasp your hand and give you love and support. Please give yourself a chance. God bless.

Tracy Mussa

June 16, 2012

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Montana Car Wash

June 16, 2012

I'm very sad. We went to the Moon many times in the 60's with creative people and ideas, and in all the years since then, bullying and discrimination is still prevelant. It must really be a hurtful experience.

Jon Olson

June 16, 2012

I sincerely hope that Brandon's life, while short, will serve to teach those who hate, and inspire those who suffer. Simple words do not suffice when such a gross injustice takes a loved one from our hearts. My sincerest apologies and sympathy go out to the Elizares family, and to Brandon's friends.

I am writing from Panajachel, Solola, Guatemala, as it's not possible to put a foreign city in the field properly.

Dr. M.T. Levi Greer y Walker

June 16, 2012

BRANDON MY DEAREST BIG BROTHER <33..... what cann i say?? i miss you i miss you soo bad ive been crying all day ..... i wish you were here too wipe the tears that run down myy face, althouqht you are not here i want you too know that ill be okaay?? this pain hurts so bad why why i ask myself why did you leave me??? but i know now that you are free(: iloveyouu bambam iloveyou sooooooooo muchh more thenn life itselff i hope you like my speech that i wrote and did you hearr? quail is qoinq to show how too ride my bike exictinq huh?? lol i hope idnt crash aha nd lisaa nd rae are qunna showw me how too swimm iloveeyou bambam your the BEST !!!!!!!!!!!!! I promise ill stay stronqq nd that ill take my meds everyday nd that ill keep on sharing my story just ferr you and ill be your VOICE FOREVERthat i promise you ! <3 Take care byee bambam talk too yuu tomarrow,

Yessi Huerta

June 16, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss . I had one class with him and only knew him for a few months but he changed my life in some ways some people won/t understand . He was an amazing person to me . From the minute we met , we considered each other like family . He always spoke of his mother to me of how much she meant to him and how wonderful of a person she is . Now he is in a better place and he doesn't have to deal with all this ignorance . He will be greatly missed and he is forever loved . Rest In Paradise Hoahanau .
Aloha au `ia `oe <3

Nickole Velez

June 16, 2012

To the Elizares Family, We know your pain on losing a teenage son. We will be praying for you. Brandon, We hope you meet our son in Heaven...He was very kind and a giving soul, like yourself. RIP~

Ida Talamantes

June 16, 2012

I am so sorry for the family's loss. I wish Brandon could have had the peace he deserved on earth. I am sure he is at peace now. Much love.

Beth Mohn

June 16, 2012

Although I did not know your son personally, he seemed like a wonderful human being. Treasure the times you had with him and be comforted knowing that God has another beautiful angel by his side.

Lynn Marie

June 16, 2012

May you rest in Peace sweet boy! I am so sorry for what you had to put up with, its so sad how ignorant people can be. Watch over your family, give them strength. Gods newest angel!

Carol

June 16, 2012

May God be with Brandon's family through this tragic time. I cant imagine your pain. I pray that the Spirit of Peace be with you.

Sheena Beckom

June 16, 2012

My deepest condolences on your loss May Brandon rest in peace & know that his soul is wrapped around our Lords arms

J Cota

June 16, 2012

It tears at my heart to read this. Brandon R.I.P. As a father, I feel for mom and family. Those haters aren't worthy of Brandon.

Mark

June 16, 2012

Growing up gay should not be hard at all. Brandon, even though I don't know you, my heart goes out to your entire family,including the ones who could not accept you for who you are. I know you are looking down and smiling saying I am finally happy. To Brandon's MOM, God bless you to give you all the strength you need.

Mario Simpson

June 16, 2012

R.I.P. and my heart and prayers go out to the family and everyone else's that had to endure this

Chad

June 16, 2012

Please accept my heartfelt sympathy on the passing of Brandon. May you and your family take comfort in knowing an angel is watching over you. Rest in peace Brandon.

Mary

June 15, 2012

Deepest sympathy to all the friends and family of Brandon..I may never meet you but know you are in my thoughts and love.

Jonathan Gambill

June 15, 2012

What a beautiful young man; I cannot imagine your pain. God Bless you all.

Cindy Gibson

June 15, 2012

Brandon,

I may not have known you, but my love and sorrow goes out to your family. You may be gone but your WILL NOT be forgotten. We will miss you...

Francisco Nieves

June 15, 2012

My condolences to the Elizares family. Rest in peace young angel. Very sorry for your loss. Brandon I hope your story can help others understand the severity of bullying and save a life.

Julia Ogaz

June 15, 2012

How very sad that a beautiful young life has been snuffed out due to ignorance. Live and let live.... Rest in peace Brandon... Young people who face the same dilemma please realize it is just a moment.... get past the moment of despair by reaching out to loved ones, friends and most importantly God.

K Laro

June 15, 2012

Brandon, you and your family and friends are in my thoughts and prayers--especially at the Las Cruces Pride Fest tomorrow.

Ron Brooker

June 15, 2012

My thoughts go out to Brandon and his family. It breaks my heart to think that someone so young could be driven to this due to the ignorance of others. May his spirit be at ease.

Robbie

June 15, 2012

Sorry for Brandon's precious life my condolences to the family

Silvia Sanchez

June 15, 2012

I'm sorry for your loss...My heat goes out to the Elizares family

T Anthony

June 15, 2012

My condolences for Brandon, he will be missed although I knew of him today June 15, 2012.

Dilsia Martinez

June 15, 2012

It breaks my heart to hear of another young life lost in this manner. I pray that this tragedy contributes to efforts which ensure that this stops happening. Zachalyn, you are an inspirational mother, and I pray that you are able to find peace and acceptance.

Tracey Bryan

June 15, 2012

The members of Singing Out, a Las Cruces GLBTA vocal ensemble, send their heartfelt condolences to the family and friends of Brandon Elizares. The ensemble will be performing on Saturday, June 16th at the PRIDE celebration in Pioneer Park in Las Cruces. The group will dedicate the final song "In This Very Room" to Brandon. The lyrics are most fitting and members will have Brandon in their hearts when they sing. May you find peace.

Singing Out Las Cruces

June 15, 2012

I am very sorry for this senseless and tragic loss of your son. My heart aches for you and everyone that loved this young man.

Owen Elliott

June 15, 2012

Brandon, you are mourned. My prayers for
you and your family. Peace in Christ.

Regina Elliott

June 15, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers go up for you and your family.

Vanessa Piel

June 15, 2012

I'm so sorry Brandon. You weren't alone.... God Bless Your Soul

Brenda Quinones

June 15, 2012

My heart aches for Brandon. Zachalyn Elizares' sensitive and forgiving spirit is a remarkable response to this tragedy. My condolences to the family.

Dan Marschka

June 15, 2012

I am very sorry for the loss of Brandon.

Richard Stewart

June 15, 2012

My heart breaks for Brandon and his family.

May his memory be for a blessing.

Cristi Cave

June 15, 2012

I am 100 percent certain this young man would have been a tremendous influence on many lives and made many differences in the world in which we live. I am so disheartened by the massive numbers of children who take their lives because of bullying. Let him be at peace.

Joseph Romoser

June 15, 2012

My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I heard about Brandons story and it is extremely sad that people can be so cruel. No one should have to deal with such cruelty, they are who they are, and people should just learn to accept them. May God Bless you during this difficult time

Yolie

June 15, 2012

My thoughts and prayers are very much with the Elizares family and Heavens new Angel Brandon.
As a gay man myself I respect the way that Mrs Elizares was talking about and trying to protect her presious son. There really arent any words I can say to make it better for them short or long term and that is a tragedy! I do know that Brandon is soaring with the Angels but wished he would have stayed around and become an Angel later. Your son had courage and strength but sometimes any of us in that situation would crack. The biggest loss is that now this world lost a beautiful soul and spirit we can not get back. We need more Brandon's in this world not less. I wish somehow I could have been with your son that day and that we could have talked. Sad tradgic and a BIG loss to the world and especially his family. May God keep you in his tender care and my thoughts and prayers are very much with you!

Paul E. Hunziker Langsholt and Family.

Paul Hunziker Langsholt

June 15, 2012

I feel your loss. My love goes to Brandon's friends and family. Brandon, your heart is mine. RIP. Much love.

Tevin

June 14, 2012

My condolences to Brandon's family. Brandon was a wonderful person with a beautiful spirit! May you rest in peace and soar with the angels Brandon!

V. Duron

June 14, 2012

I am horrified that Brandon felt the need to take this path. May he rest in peace and may his family find peace knowing they loved him and he loved them.

Sean Dugan

June 14, 2012

Rest in Peace, brave one; I dont have the courache to be who I am you did have the courage.

rbrt

June 14, 2012

My condolences to your family and friends.

Jeffrey Kracht

June 14, 2012

While I didn't know Brandon, my heart hangs deep and I have shed tears over this tragedy. As an educator and trainer in LGBT issues, my commitment to creating safe space and teaching respect among our diverse community is revitalized. This should have never happened and cannot ever happen again. My thoughts of peace go out to Brandon's family, friends and anyone who Brandon has touched when he was here, or the many more he has touched by his passing. If you are a LGBT youth (or anyone contemplating suicide), PLEASE DON'T!!! The world needs you and all of your gifts. There are people who care and support you and YOU ARE WORTHY!!

Victor Santana-Melgoza

June 14, 2012

My Condolences to you and your family. Brandon, may you Rest in Peace.

Louis Armendariz

June 14, 2012

As I read about your story in the El Paso Times I am saddened and in sorrow that such a handsome and beautiful young man would feel that his death was the solution to the bullying. Ms. Elizares my thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, and the numerous friends that Brandon left behind. I never knew your son but from what I read in the story he was a loving and caring young man. Truly someone to honor and cherish for even in his time of need he was able to teach others what it meant to live in a society that is often unkind and unwilling to accept differences or change. May this child of our Heavenly Father rest in his loving arms forever.

Kia

June 14, 2012

I heard about Brandon's death and it brings tears to my eyes knowing that an INNOCENT child has taken his life do to the ignorance of others. My condelesences to you as a mother and to all those people that supported him.

claudia posada

June 14, 2012

hi im from las cruces i am gay i read the story i feel sad i understand the pain and stuff he went through i know what it is to be gay god bless him my prayers to him and the family im angel bye the way .

June 14, 2012

hi im from las cruces i am gay i read the story i feel sad i understand the pain and stuff he went through i know what it is to be gay god bless him my prayers to him and the family im angel bye the way .

angel none

June 14, 2012

I must admit that I have never "signed" online for anyone that has passed. This incident really breaks my heart. As a fellow El Pasoan from Segundo Barrio, I get my El Paso news every morning & throughout the day online. THIS HEARTBREAKING STORY HAS STUCK WITH ME ALL DAY. From the moment i read this story earlier, I connected. I also had to leave El Paso many years ago because of ignorant bullies in my neighborhood. Yes, they are everywhere ... but this outcome is ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE! I pray for the Elizares family and also for his friends and confidants. HIs young soul has inspired people far away, like myself. THe light will always shine on You and with You. Bless you Brandon. x

MIGUEL AVALOS

June 13, 2012

June 13,2012 Sorry for your loss. I used to live in El Paso, Texas and i have family there, one of my brothers and my parents are buried at Ft.Bliss Ntl.Cemetery. I lost my brother to suicide on July 18,1968 and not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I am gay and am a 71 yr. man, and in the 50's i was bullied and did not have anyone to talk to and didn't even understand it myself. The 50's were way worse. You are right about people need to quit the hurtfulness and try and understand. He has your love and you have many happy memories of him and being an Army brat myself i can relate, I wish my parents would have been so giving and caring as you are to your son. [email protected]

June 13, 2012

Brandon can now can now stand tall in the truth of his being, that he knows who he is, he is a child of God without any other labels. He is in a place where he is free to be himself, free without care of what others may say or think about him. God made him, and God saw that it was good.

My prayers to the Elizares family.

Judy Torres

June 13, 2012

May the good Lord bless and keep you, may He make the sun shine upon you and give you peace. Deepest condolences to your family from mine. Our thoughts are with you in this difficult time.

Eric Behrens

June 13, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. There is a candle lit for Brandon, here, and for your family.

Natalie

June 13, 2012

I did not know Brandon but feel so bad about what happened to him. I pray for his family and friends who are hurting right now and may he be a peace with God for eternity.

Rick

June 13, 2012

To Elizares family. you are in our thoughts and prayers. May Brandon rest in peace.

Joe & Terry Tarango

June 13, 2012

Deepest apologies for the loss of your son ! It is unfortunate how things turn out and god willing people will learn from a courageous young man.

Derek

June 13, 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I know its harder for reason this has happened. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May Brandon rest in peace.

Samantha Mitchell

June 13, 2012

all my prayers are with you and your family at this time. every one has a right to live their own lives as they choose. my daughter attended andress with your son..starting school at about the same time. you have my deepest sympathy.

deborah aguirre

June 13, 2012

am sorry for your loss, am sure Brandon was a wonderful boy. From a mother to another mother. your have my prayers

Vanessa

June 13, 2012

Dear Elizares family,

Please know that my heart is with you in this time of profound sorrow. No child should have to go through the tremendous agony that drove Brandon to such desperation. Brandon will live in the hearts of families who have gay children (as I have in my family) and in the hearts of those who step forward to defend children at all costs. Rest in peace, precious Brandon!

Marie Reyes

June 13, 2012

I do not know Brandon I am just reading the newspaper, and its saddens me that thre are so many malicious people in the world. Accept everybody the way they are. If any of my 2 kids decide to be openly gay, I accept that, and period. God works in mysterious ways and he just wanted for Brandon to be different. May he rest in peace, and the family may God help you all in the healing process. Just remember that you all have an angel watching over you in heaven.

cristina gonzalez

June 13, 2012

Condolences and prayers to your family during this time. May brandon rest in peace <3

Priscilla

June 13, 2012

May u rest in peace and my condolences to the elizares family

Luis Torres

June 13, 2012

I did not know Brandon at all i just heard his story on kfox14. I am so sorry about Ms Elizares lost and my prayers go out to their whole family. I am 110% supporter of gays and lesbians no child should ever have to go through what Brandon and other victims have gone through and made the decision to commit suicide. My prayers and condolences fo to Brandon and his family.

Desiree

June 13, 2012

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