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The light of our life left this world much too early on November 2, 2018. We miss him intensely.

Our youngest son, Elliot Ross, was born on January 27, 1997 in Northampton, MA. From an early age, Elliot had a lust for life. He was a happy baby and loved his family. Verbose at an early age, he held himself as the family spokesperson--always ready to speak up and be heard. He found great joy in making friends and creating his community. Elliot always showed up for anyone who needed him.

An artist, Elliot created beautiful sounds, starting with the flute at age five. He knew how to play to his audience, especially while busking in downtown Northampton. He had incredible talent but one day looked around the room and noticed he was the only boy! For many years after, amazing music still came out of his flute--but soon he switched to the other end of the spectrum and picked up the bass, learning to play stand up and electric.

Music was an anchor for him. And being in a band brought together two things he loved: music and friends. As a member of the JFK Jazz Band, he learned how to play music cooperatively. From there, he played in bands, including Tatami and other collaborations with friends. Elliot will live on in his music and words. Listen to his music on Sound Cloud: https://soundcloud.com/user-420616792 and Band Camp: http://billinorthampton.bandcamp.com/.

Elliot loved his big brother Simon dearly and loved spending time with him. On family hiking trips they were a team, blazing the path ahead. He loved being with family and with friends. Elliot was always instigating get-togethers with family or friends--inviting them for dinner, going for walks or hikes, and always connecting with people.

He had dear, true friends in Northampton. He made deep and lasting friendships wherever he went, including Unirondack Camp, University of Denver, and his study abroad program in Southeast Asia. His spirit of adventure and love of exploring other cultures and places brought him around the world. Elliot's three months in Southeast Asia during the spring of 2016 were eye-opening, difficult, and joyful. He relished every moment of it. Trekking through Italy with his friend Mason in the fall of 2015 brought him much happiness and fun as well. Other adventures small and large, including night hikes, walks with the dog, and exploring London with friends brought him peace and love.

Despite all of the many joyful and beautiful moments that he had, Elliot struggled mightily with mental illness. He dedicated himself to doing everything in his power to help himself: seeing his doctors and therapists and finding alternative therapies including yoga, meditation, and acupuncture. He tried very hard and, as a result, people know Elliot as a functioning, beautiful whole person.
Elliot had many hopes and dreams for the immediate and distant future. He was excited about an upcoming trip to visit friends in Denver and spending the week skiing. He was dedicated to his schoolwork and was determined to complete his bachelor's degree. He had even researched graduate schools to continue his studies in cognitive neuroscience. Elliot wanted to better understand how the brain worked, including his own.

He leaves his heartbroken family, mother Paula, father Hank, and brother Simon Ross and his beloved aunts, uncles and cousins: Jo-Anna Ross, and children Alexandra and Ellery (Los Angles); Robert and Priscilla Ross, and children Anna (New Orleans), Sebastian, and Theodore; Stephen and Melissa Ross, and children Lilly and Natalie, all others of Northampton; Marsha and John Rich, and children Hilary and Jackson of Bend, Oregon; Brenda Elias and Brent Thompson, and son Samuel of Helena, Montana. Also, Samantha Ross, Luane Ross, and children Judy, Autumn, Christina, and Eve Ross.

Please join us to celebrate Elliot on Saturday, November 10, 2018 at 2 pm at the Unitarian Society of Northampton and Florence. Bring joy and friendship in your hearts, and a story or memory of Elliot to share, if you chose to. Reception to follow at the Delaney House in Holyoke.

In lieu of flowers, donations to the Northampton Jazz Festival's Jazz in the Schools Program are welcomed. Checks payable to: 'Northampton Jazz Festival' (a 501(c)(3) non-profit) and can be mailed to:136 South Street, Northampton, MA 01060. Please write 'Jazz in the Schools Program - in memory of Elliot' on the memo line of your check.

To Plant Memorial Trees in memory, please visit our Sympathy Store.
Published in Daily Hampshire Gazette on Nov. 6, 2018.
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November 20, 2018
Dear Paula & Hank,
I think about Elliot often and had already been missing his attendance at weekly lessons. He was always such a gentle soul and so full of talent and potential.
It is painful to imagine the heartache you must endure. I wish there were words that could truly make a difference.
I cry for you, and will always feel blessed to have known Elliot.
Rudi Weeks
November 20, 2018
Paula, Hank and family, We are so sorry for your loss. Paula, I know how happily you spoke of all our children when we were last together this summer. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Wishing you peace and comfort.
Brooke Tomblin
November 15, 2018
We grieve with you. We too know the pain of the loss of a child. Florence Band member.
George Collison
November 13, 2018
Dear Paula and Hank,
Alex gave us this very sad news. There are no words to express our sorrow, you are in our prayers.
Erik and Lisa Ortmann
November 11, 2018
Dear Hank, Paula, and Simon,
We are terribly sorry for your loss. We are abroad and just heard the news. Elliot impacted the world for the better, and his example of love, friendship, and kindness will live on. We are sending healing white light and prayers to you now.
Our sincerest condolences,
Martin and Georganne Sexton
November 10, 2018
Dear Hank, Paula and Simon, our deepest sympathies on the loss of Elliot. In my mind's eye he will forever be the little boy who had cherubic cheeks big blue eyes and red lips from playing flute.
Later as they grew older Ian felt Elliot was one of the few of his classmates who really "got" him and was very encouraging of Ian's musical pursuits, often jamming together during sleepovers. Ian credits Elliot for introducing him to punk rock in 5th grade late one night while away at Nature's Classroom.
Clearly Elliot touched many lives during his far too brief life. We feel fortunate to have known him and are appreciative of his friendship with Ian during some very difficult years.

Warmest condolences to all of you. We will miss him.
Chris, Ilene and Ian St. George
November 10, 2018
Paula, Hank, and the entire Ross Clan..... Tears are shed for your loss and I embrace you with my thoughts of healing.
El Ulshoeffer Cape cod
November 10, 2018
Dear Simon, Paula, Hank, and Family,
Words cannot express how saddened I am to hear of Elliot's passing. He was loved as he passed through the halls of elementary school! I wish I could go to the celebration of his life, but please know that although I cannot be there in person, my thoughts are with you. Much love, Beth (Warren) Brady
Beth Brady
November 9, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank and Simon, So horrible. We are deeply sorry for your enormous loss which must seem unbearable. There is so little one can say or do to console your grief stricken heart. We are uniting our hearts and prayers with yours. May God grant Elliot true & loving Peace. May Our Lord carry you. Jeff & Mary Lou LaBarge
Mary Lou LaBarge
November 9, 2018
Heartfelt condolences from the Lake/Winsors in Northampton. I am beyond-words sorry for your loss. May memories of Elliot, who was clearly a beautiful, talented, precious person, sustain you and endure forever.
Nell Lake
November 8, 2018
Uncle Hank and Aunt Paula....I'm beyond words as I hear of your loss. I love you immensely and my heart breaks for you. I pray that God give you peace and healing in the days, weeks and years of come.
*Big hugs
Judy DelValle (Ross)
November 8, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank, and family,
Very saddened to hear about Elliot. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you find peace whenever possible in the near future.

Stuart Goldstein
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November 8, 2018
Paula, Hank & Simon ... We are heartbroken for you, a great light has left the world and it is just a terrible terrible loss. Please know your mom & tennis friends have in you in all our thoughts ... Love, Jacquie + Rick + Aidan + Ethan
November 7, 2018
Paula, I am so heartbroken for you and your family as I just heard of Elliot's passing. Each soul who comes to this earth brings their own uniqueness and gifts. I just listened to each one of Elliott's beautiful songs. What a incredibly talented young man! May the sweet memories of him comfort you. I am sending you much love, support and prayers.
Karen Giorgio
November 7, 2018
Dear Paula and Hank,
We are so very sad to hear this news. We remember cute Elliot at Nonotuck and seeing grown up Elliot at the pre-prom party. His life was cut way too short and our hearts go out to all of you. Sending love and support, Deanna, Doug, and Ella
November 7, 2018
Dear Paula,
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. What a beautiful tribute. He sounds like an amazing soul lost too soon. May you find comfort and peace in the memories of your loving son.
Paula Nevins
November 7, 2018
remembering elliots infectious smile and laughter that he brought in and out of school at NHS. Even though we had lost touch throughout the years, I loved seeing his journey with music. a soul that will be greatly missed.
Emma Buckley
November 7, 2018
Paula and family I am so sorry for your loss, you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Patrick Daw
November 7, 2018
Dear Paula and Hank,
I am so deeply sorry .
Elliot was a real fixture at our house when he and Maddie were in high school.
I am so glad he felt welcome and I always loved having him over. He lit up the house.
Maddie and I will miss him terribly.

Much love,
Elizabeth and family
Elizabeth Meyersohn
November 7, 2018
Holding you all in the light
Harvey Rivard
November 7, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank and Simon, I remember watching ultimate frisbee games together and cheering on our boys. I am so very sorry for your terrible loss.
Abbie Steiner (Ezra Norris' mom)
November 7, 2018
Paula, Hank and Simon,
So sorry to hear of your loss. Our hearts go out to all of you.
Patrick Fleming, Janet Kelly, Liam Kelly Fleming
November 6, 2018
Paula, Hank, Simon, Brenda and all family and friends who loved Elliot, I extend my sympathies. The obituary was a stunningly beautiful tribute to a talented and loving person. I hope all the memories you have shared--and more--comfort you during this difficult time.
Judy Kelliher
November 6, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank and Simon, I am so sorry for your loss and am holding you close to my heart, knowing that your grief is deep. Thank you for sharing your loving, brave, and beautiful tribute to Elliot. I feel blessed to have seen him again recently after not seeing him since childhood. He had grown into a beautiful young man, surrounded by loving family. You are all in my thoughts.
Ann Markes
November 6, 2018
Elliot - you were truly a unique individual...you blessed the life of everyone around you whether they needed music, a deeply reflective conversation, simple moments of curiosity, witty remarks, or pure hilarity....you brought it all. Your outlook on the world was this amazing blend of realism and positivity that helped me tremendously through rough times. You were the one who introduced me to some of my favorite songs and books (because you were mountains cooler than me or anyone else!!). I will always remember you singing helpless by Neil Young by the fire on a youth group trip and how beautiful and calming that moment was because of you. I'm so thankful you were there at youth group, NHS, the usual after school crew at Nate's, dinners at Maddie's, the few times I went to festivals/shows...you were there for my most treasured high school experiences and some truly beautiful days later on. You were one of the few high school friends that stuck through the years. Even though I didn't see you often anymore, I could always count on creating more of those beautiful days when we were home from school. Thank you for guiding me to appreciate the beautiful complexity of life........you are loved by so many people.
Valerie Ingmann
November 6, 2018
Dear Paula and Hank,
Our most profound sympathy to you and all of your family. I am at a loss for words. When I think of Elliot I think of his sweet little Nonotuck Preschool face, with his big eyes and cheeks, and kind manner. I also think of him at NHS, wearing clothes and hats that said in a very cool and subtle way, I am an artist! I loved that about Elliot. A stylish gentleman through and through. We extend our hearts to you.
With love and sympathy, Moira, Andrew, Lucy and Tom Greto
Moira Greto
November 6, 2018
Paula and Hank - I flashback to the many JFK concerts we ran as parents. I look at Eliot as the quiet band kid, his flute, his jazz band bass guitar, just an all around team player and good kid. I know he loved music and what it meant to him. I will always, always remember him. My heart aches for you.
Liz Ryan
November 6, 2018
To Hank and Paula and Simon ... This is the saddest news. The loss of your son and brother is heartbreaking.
Kay Gleason
November 6, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank, Simon and the rest of the Ross family - I cannot imagine your pain. I have such good memories of Elliot on the sidelines, goofing off, while Simon and Lane played baseball oh-so-many-years ago. He was such a beautiful, funny, kind child. I hope your memories of him will make this journey just a little bit easier. I will remember him fondly.
With much love,
Stephanie Stolk Ormsby
November 6, 2018
I am so sorry to hear this news. I have taught over 1000 kids in Northampton, and Elliot stands out to me to this day. He was a creative and compassionate and had a gentle and kind spirit. Sending thoughts to his family and friends.
Dinah Mack
November 6, 2018
We are so sorry for the sudden loss of your dear Elliot, so gifted and full of talent. Lois Mathieu & William Newell
(grandparents of Sopira)
Lois Mathieu
November 6, 2018
There are no words to comfort you in this unimaginable loss, but I pray God gives you all the strength to get through this unimaginable sorrow. Your family is in our prayers. May his memory be eternal.
Konstantine Sierros
November 6, 2018
Elliot was such a good person and a kind soul, I'm so thankful I had the pleasure of knowing him. My love goes out to your family, may he rest in peace.
November 6, 2018
Going to miss my friend Ive known since Kindergarten, Ill never forget the nerf gun wars when I slept over, playing GameCube, messing around on the piano or exploring the tunnel down by the stream near the house. Ill never forget how genuinely kind he was. Elliot was one of the funniest people Ive ever met. He will certainly not be forgotten.
Sam S
November 6, 2018
Paula, Hank, and Simon, there are no words adequate for the depth of this loss. Thank you for this beautiful tribute to his life. Thank you for sharing your beautiful, whole, holy son and brother with the world, and for each of the ways that you all helped shape his gifts, his kindness, his creativity, his deep love and caring. May you find peace and comfort, and may his memory be a blessing.
karen bellavance-grace
November 6, 2018
Dear Hank and Paula
I can't imagine your grief at this unfathomable loss of such a lovely son. My heart goes out to you. I hope you will find strength in the love of your family and in your many friends who share your sorrow.
Kerry Buckley
November 6, 2018
Hank,Paula and Simon and all who loved Elliot,
I am so sad to be writing this note. I have many memories of spending time with your whole family over the years. He was always kind and sweet and had a vibe which eluded kinda cool and distinct. He will be forever in your minds, hearts and memories.

Sending love and prayers to you all,
Dee Dunbar
November 6, 2018
I have such fond memories of Elliot visiting us in CO this past winter. He was always excited for the prospect of adventure. A profoundly kind individual, Elliot brought up those around him. He will be missed greatly.
Luc Vesel
November 6, 2018
I did not know Elliot or his family but my heart breaks for all who knew him.
November 6, 2018
Paula and Hank and family, I am so sorry to hear this sad news, you are in my thoughts...
Nancy Elwell
November 6, 2018
Eternally grateful that our paths crossed, I hope they do again. Ill cherish our memories forever. Youth group, Nates, math class, meditation club, frendly, my dads house, and anything that involved music. All incredible memories because you are a part of them. Ive always admired you Elliot, and I know Im not the only one. I love you and I miss you immensely.
November 6, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank, and Simon- Although we did not really know Elliot as a young man, we have many happy memories of him when he was young: playing at our house, running for the Yellow Team, and, of course skiing in the Bill Koch League. Thank you for writing a lovely obituary that tells the story of his full life as a young adult. Our hearts are with you. With love, the Rayton Family
November 6, 2018
Dear Ross Family,
Our NHS community is feeling a great loss at this time. I particularly remember Elliot's creativity in English class and I appreciated his wit. Hoping that you find some peace.
Heather Drucker-Brown
November 5, 2018
Elliot you are a great brother and friend I'm glad to be able to call you family. We are going to miss you and your music. Best wishes and I will see you on the other side...
November 5, 2018
Your dear Elliot's bright light will never fade. Love and deepest sympathies.
Maureen Scanlon
November 5, 2018
Elliot was a truly effervescent soul, of a kindhearted nature. If I had to pick one word to describe him, it would be kind. I'll never forget the countless hours of music, friendship, and smiles. A profoundly painful reality is beginning to set in, one absent his remarkable persona. Rest in paradise, brother, I'll meet you at the golden door. ❤
Kyle O'Connell
November 5, 2018
Paula, Hank and Simon, my heart is broken. I am so sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure of teaching Elliot for not just one, but two years, as I looped with this large class from 4th to 5th grade at RK Finn. I still remember sitting shoulder to shoulder on the floor with Elliot while he wrestled with a particularly challenging math problem. It was a joy watching Elliot learn. He had a unique style and loveable energy for fun. My thoughts are with your family.
Michele Andrews
November 5, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank, and Simon,

Elliot was such a bright light to so many. He will be so very missed. So so sorry for you, and for the world, that he left this soon.

Kris and John
Kris Holloway
November 5, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank and Simon. I am so sorry to hear about the sudden and tragic loss of your son and brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Joanne Cohen
November 5, 2018
So, so sorry for your loss. I loved seeing Elliot forge ahead musically and will never forget his creative spirit. He was a special guy. My heart is with you and your family.
Deb Coon
November 5, 2018
Paula, Hank and Simon,
After trying so many times to find something to write, all I can come up with is: He was truly a special person, warm, creative, smart and so much more. We will always remember him with love. We also send our sincerest sympathy, love and prayers to you.
Cyndi Murphy
November 5, 2018
Paula, Hank and Simon, Please know that you are in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. Our sincerest sympathy goes to you.
Cyndi Murphy
November 5, 2018
Our hearts are breaking for you, Paula and Hank. I remember Elliot from Ryan Road school. Big blue eyes and the longest eyelashes ever! My triplets loved that his birthday was 2 days before theirs. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ❤
Jill Sniadach
November 5, 2018
My dear neighbors,
I am heartbroken over the premature loss of Elliot. I have all of you close to my heart. I will always remember Elliot's spunk as a child and later his creativity but most of all his kindness. You raised a beautiful young man
Lydia Kapell
November 5, 2018
My heart was broken upon hearing of this loss. Elliot was a special young man and will be greatly missed but his memory will never fade. I am so sorry.
Peter Soderberg
November 5, 2018
Paula and Hank, Adam and I are speechless. That was such a well-written and moving story about the life of Elliot Ross. He sounds like an amazing person. We are so deeply sorry and pray for Elliot and for your strength to carry on.
Van Cotsis
November 5, 2018
Dear Paula, Hank and Simon. My love and sympathy to you all. I am so saddened to learn of Elliot's death. Know I am thinking of you. Hugs and Love.
Briana Sitler
November 5, 2018
I am so sorry for your loss. No words can do this impossible situation justice.
Victoria Mossman-Van Eendenburg
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