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Lindsey Bates Motley - The Girl with the Pearl Earrings

Greenville

If you were lucky enough to have known Lindsey Motley, you will not soon forget the impression she immediately made. Her bright hazel eyes were always excited to see you, and her beautiful, comforting smile was never forced. Interested, compassionate, and graceful, Lindsey exuded a quiet goodness throughout her life. There was so much heart packed into one little lady, always adorned in pearl earrings, you would never know from her sweet, easy demeanor what a warrior she was inside.

To Lindsey, people were the most important thing. While never professionally using her teaching degree from the College of Charleston, she nonetheless became a teacher in life in more ways than one. She was resilient and resourceful; even when her initial career path didn't pan out, she casually started her own photography business capturing the most important moments in people's lives. She was a magician with children, who instantly flocked to her wherever she went. Lindsey loved being social with her wide circle of friends, and she always, always made her family a priority. She was a magnet for animals as well, and nurtured and cared for all things living.

Quietly creative, Lindsey had a do-it-yourself attitude and a desire to make everything personal, unique, and memorable. She had a passion for decorating, she captured the beauty in life with her photography, and had a hidden love for singing that she showed to few people. She loved to laugh, travel and see new things.

She focused on and noticed the details in life. In reference to her incredible organizational skills, her grandfather's advice, "Don't put it down, put it up" is a perfect metaphor for the way she approached life and the people around her. Everything and everyone had a place, and she always held them up instead of putting them down. She made everything better than it was before.

In many ways, Lindsey was born to be a mother, and of all of her accomplishments in her 29 years, surely the most important is her daughter, Lilla. She and Lindsey's husband, Jay were the absolute loves of her life, and even when facing terminal cancer, all she wanted to do was live life every day with them. They were her bucket list.

Most people now know Lindsey for shining in the face of tragedy after being diagnosed with colon cancer in 2013, while pregnant with Lilla. Every single day she wrote on the chalkboard in her bathroom, "Keep on the sunny side" and never let anything rain on her parade. Even before the diagnosis, Lindsey was able to find a level of happiness and appreciation for life that few people ever experience, and her attitude was infectious. The urge to share her difficult story, intimate and unfathomable, came from a place of tenderness and concern for others.

She has left an inspirational legacy of strength, dignity, grace, and perseverance that will live on through her large family, her beautiful daughter, her loving husband, and the thousands of people she touched with her story.

"I'm thankful to be living in our wonderful world, enjoying each day as it comes. I have never appreciated life as much as I do now. We never know the cards we'll be dealt the next day, so play your best hand while you can." - Lindsey Motley, 2013.

Lindsey is survived by her husband, Jay; her daughter, Lilla; her mother, Anne Garrett (Buzz); her father, Tom Bates (Ashley); her sister, Bladen Bates, and many friends and family.

A memorial service will be held at 2pm on Saturday, February 27, 2016, at Buncombe Street United Methodist Church.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to the Cancer Survivors Park Alliance. https://app.etapestry.com/onlineforms/PatientsFirst/LeapofFaith.html




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Published in The Greenville News on Feb. 26, 2016.
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February 29, 2016
Jay, Lilla, Tom, Anne and Bladen,
May the God of all hope send the Comforter to help you through the days ahead. In our lives, we hope we can touch someone else to help them in some way. Lindsey's story, her life, and your battle will go forth before you as a pleasing aromas to the Lord. Blessed in the eyes of the Lord is the death of His saints. I want you to know I write this as tears stream from my eyes and my heart breaks for each of you. These words are not platitudes but come from a broken place in me. With much love!
Suzanne Merrell
February 28, 2016
I read about Lindsey on line and I'm soo sorry for your lost,she had a beautiful spirit and I know it will live on, God bless you and your family.
Wilma Clayton
February 28, 2016
I read about Lindsey on line and I'm soo sorry for your lost,she had a beautiful spirit and I know it will live on, God bless you and your family.
Wilma Clayton
February 27, 2016
I am so sad for the loss of Lindsey. I have viewed the many messages here and they are far and wide from our hometown of Greenville, SC. I hope that knowing how many people she touched that didn't know her or any member of her family, will give you all so much strength over the days to come.
Caroline Tallant
February 27, 2016
Lindsey I did not know you but read your Caring Bridge journal everyday....I do know Page Gambel....No words can describe what even I feel .....I know you are at peace now and I will pray for your family and friends.
susan Lett
February 27, 2016
Tom, My heart goes out to you and all the family. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sandy Timmons (formerly GVCC).
Sandy Timmons
February 27, 2016
With my deepest condolences. I will be praying for you all. May God guide you through this difficult time. Lindsey and I went to school together and she was such an incredibly sweet person, she will be missed by many!
Kristen Mccoy
February 27, 2016
Sending prayers and heartfelt sympathy to you.
Leeann Lewis
February 27, 2016
The best, and Lindsey is certainly one of the best, leave us far too soon. She shared her story with us and demonstrated courage, grace and acceptance far beyond her years. Lindsey will never be forgotten and she will always be with us. She is at peace and we should be as well, for she is watching over us all.
Ralph Hughes
February 27, 2016
I send my condolences to the family.May you find peace in this difficult time.
MB
February 26, 2016
"Just look to the sky and that's where I'll be--
I'm in heaven nowGod's brightest star for all to see."
What an IMPRINT this young lady left on so many hearts around the world.
Godspeed...
Sharon Frazier
February 26, 2016
Sending thoughts and prayers to Lindsey's family and friends. Even though I never met her,from what I have seen from following her story,Heaven has surely gained another beautiful soul.
Terry Batts
February 26, 2016
Like others I have never met Lindsey but followed her story and have been effected by it. As a person who sometimes is guilty of taking for granted the gift God has given me, she is a frequent reminder to cherish my blessings and hold them close because here is a woman who could have let her diagnosis consume her but instead chose to use it inspire, educate and maybe save others. What an amazing woman to have left such an impression on so many and to have touched the lives of people that she has never met. How wonderful she must be to have such beautiful words spoken about her. I pray for her family because I know they are suffering. I pray for her sweet baby girl and that she will grow up surrounded by these wonderful stories of her mother and hold them tightly in her heart. I pray for Jay and that he finds peace in knowing that his love for her helped her through. Her story has humbled me. Thank you Lindsey for sharing your life.
M M
February 26, 2016
Praying for your family.
Jerry Hatley
February 26, 2016
Peace be with all of you...truly an Angel of God here on Earth and now, one of His precious Angels in Heaven...I have followed your story, dear Lindsay...you inspired and are a gift to all who knew you and those of us who wished we had. Peace.
"A Friend"
February 26, 2016
Sending you all prayers at this very sad time. I know Lindsey is at peace and healed now. She was such an examle of true love and courage to so many people all over the world through her life and she will be dearly missed. Love and peace to you all
Libby Dobson
February 26, 2016
I too found out I had colon cancer while pregnant. I heard Lindsay's story and immediately reached out to her and asked her to call me. She did and we talked several times. Lindsay gave me knowledge, support, strength and hope that I could keep my baby and get chemo to fight the cancer, even though many doctors told me to terminate my pregnancy. I will be forever grateful to have met Lindsay and cherish our friendship. She is one of the people that helped me decide to keep my baby, who was born healthy on 11/6/15 after enduring 9 rounds of chemo while pregnant. Lindsay was an amazing woman and a true inspiration. My thoughts and prayers go out to her husband, daughter and entire family. Have comfort that she helped me and so many others. She is a true warrior!
Gina Neri
February 26, 2016
Her caring bridge was so inspirational. My son taught her sister and I by chance I met Ashley and got my precious pink magnet, still on my car here in Colorado.
So sad but happy that this world had her for the short time she was here.
Nancy Fairchild
February 26, 2016
To the Bates and Motley family. Lindsey has been on my prayer list since Tom told me her situation. I will keep Lindsey and your family on my prayer list. May God give you strength. Charlie & Susan Cavalaris
February 26, 2016
Our prayers are with you Jay and Lilla. Be assured that as hard as it is to experience such a loss, Lindsey is at peace and will be with you and a part of you forever, especially every time you look at Lilla. God will give you the strength to carry on for you, Lilla and Lindsey. Trust in him. Lindsey's legacy lives on in your beautiful daughter.
Myron Messich
February 26, 2016
Sending prayers for comfort and peace to all who knew and loved Lindsey...
May she remain in our hearts forever.
Debbie Esterly
February 26, 2016
Tom & Family, may His promise of eternal life be a comfort to you all in the loss of one so dear.

Sincerely,
Janice N. Smith
February 26, 2016
I never met Lindsey but like so many others followed her story. She was truly an angel on earth. Her parents raised the most wonderful daughter ever and she married a very special man. Lilla has been left with the most amazing dad and grandparents who will give her the happiest life Lindsey would want for. Lilla already shows that unique sweetness like her mom. I hope Lilla always feels how much she was loved by her mom and how knows how wonderful her dad was to her mom through this terrible illness. Your family is a class act. God Bless you always.
February 26, 2016
Such an inspiration! Praying for your family during this difficult time.
S A
February 26, 2016
Tom, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope your memories serve as comfort to you all as you begin again.

Connie & Greg Harrison
February 26, 2016
Sending Strength to your family, so touched by this story!
Sabina Pfister
February 26, 2016
I have followed Lindsey's amazing story thru my daughter, Kimberley Loper.....and I never met her but have been touched to tears many time by the courage of this lovely, young lady.
May God's peace that passes understanding be with you all. Bless you, Jay, and RIP Lindsay!
Patricia Levine
February 26, 2016
So very sorry for your unfathomable loss. May God help you all get through this trying time.
Patty and Don Herndon
February 26, 2016
Jay, Tom, and Anne,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during your time of loss. Lindsey was an inspiration to all no matter what circumstance they might be dealing with. Our family understands the battle she fought. She will be remembered by many.

Becky Beacham
Becky Beacham
February 26, 2016
Prayers for you and your family! She was a great young woman!
Joanne Lewis
February 26, 2016
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Gail Bean
February 26, 2016
You all were so blessed to be a part of Lindsey life. It was my pleasure to have met her ! I pray your strenght in the Lord !!! God Bless you and your family....
Carolyn Harris
February 26, 2016
To the family of LindseyMotley. May God be with you in this time of need.
February 26, 2016
My thoughts and prayers for the family. I am so sorry for your loss.
Terri Crain
February 26, 2016
I never met Lindsey, but following her story and fight, she was an inspiration and powerful soul on this earth that everyone easily loved and she loved back. Prayers to your family and all her friends.
February 26, 2016
Clearly a life well lived and gone too soon. Thoughts and prayers to bring comfort and peace to the Rawlins, Bates and Motley families. God Bless.
Steve and Susan McClure
February 26, 2016
My daughter, who lives around the corner from Lindsey and her family told me about her fight with colon cancer, but I didn't get to know how remarkable she was until her death. Just reading the amazing things people had to say about her, but more importantly her own words about her love of life and her family. We suffer everyday with things, but once I read about your wonderful daughter, wife and mother, we don't truly know suffering, do we? I will keep you and your family in my prayers and as for dear, sweet, innocent Lilla, God has left her in very loving hands and I am sure you will let her feel that love everyday of her life.
Gale Owens
February 26, 2016
Words cannot express how sad we feel. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Buzzy and Liz Boles
February 26, 2016
I knew her while she was at the College. She baby sat for my newborn and was a Godsend to me, a new mom so unsure of myself. She felt like an angel even then. I am a better person for having known her and I will continue to write her 'sunny side' message on my mirror everyday, to remind me of her positive spirit and that each day is a gift in which to shine about.
Lee Hartnett
February 26, 2016
Ann and family, Jay and Lilla, I am so sorry for you loss. May your memories be your strength. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Karen Mitchell
Karen Mitchell
February 26, 2016
Tom, my heart breaks for the loss of your beloved daughter. Lindsey was a remarkable young woman who has made an amazing contribution to the world- both in person and in her memory. My prayers are with your family.
Salley Kellos
February 26, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss. Lindsey will forever be remembered. May God give you strength, peace, and comfort during the days to come. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Spring Horton
February 26, 2016
I live in England and have never met Lindsey but have been following her story. I was devastated to hear the news of her passing. I wish you all peace and hope you can find strength in the memories of your powerful daughter. She has made a difference to so many people.
A H
February 26, 2016
My prayers are with you
Denise Hayes
February 25, 2016
We are so sorry for your loss and will continue to keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. May God give you peace and comfort.
Love,Reggie and Beth Jackson
Beth Jackson
February 25, 2016
Lindsey was the epitome of all amazing goodness God created her to be, which was a real gift to those who knew and loved her personally, and from a far. The heavens are rejoicing in receiving their newest Angel. May God bless her family and friends and may he shed his strength and peace upon them all.
Stacy Nigg
February 25, 2016
I didn't know Lindsay, I came across her obituary on a mutual friends FB page. She sound like an awesome person. I have sent prayers, for comfort in this time of need.
February 25, 2016
Anne, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you all in my heart, thoughts and prayers.
Beth Rainey
February 25, 2016
I am so sorryfor yourlossididntknowLindseybutshein a betterplaceyouallwill beinmythoughts and prayers
norma rowland
February 25, 2016
Heaven gained a beautiful angel. we are so so sorry for your loss.
tip bartels
February 25, 2016
Although I did not know Lindsey, I have been following her story. She was an inspiration to all now and in the future. May God give you all strength to continue her story so that her journey may give others inspiration. With prayers sent your way.
Joyce
February 25, 2016
Prayers for an amazing young woman's family and friends.
Rhonda Foster
February 25, 2016
I am so sorry. My prayers are with you all♡
Phyllis Childers
February 25, 2016
Lindsey left her inspiration, passion and courage on everyone and everything she touched. She will forever live in our hearts!! Scot and Donna Singletary
February 25, 2016
Tom,
I am so sorry, You and all of Lindsey's family will be in my prayers in the days to come.
Sincerely,
Denise Thackston
February 25, 2016
Fly with the Angels, you will always be remembered. .
Elaine Wilson
February 25, 2016
Heaven has gained a beautiful angel. We never know when God needs us to come home but God gave Lindsey a beautiful family and the strength to tell her story which has not only inspired us but touched our hearts in so many ways. Thank you Lindsey for your bravery,courage,your beautiful smile and the love you gave to the world. You are am amazing women..
Lucia Kendrick Pope
February 25, 2016
I didn't know her but her aunt Liz is a dear friend ! I'm sorry for your loss! My condolences !
Vivian Edwards
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