Lindsey Bates Motley - The Girl with the Pearl Earrings
If you were lucky enough to have known Lindsey Motley, you will not soon forget the impression she immediately made. Her bright hazel eyes were always excited to see you, and her beautiful, comforting smile was never forced. Interested, compassionate, and graceful, Lindsey exuded a quiet goodness throughout her life. There was so much heart packed into one little lady, always adorned in pearl earrings, you would never know from her sweet, easy demeanor what a warrior she was inside.
To Lindsey, people were the most important thing. While never professionally using her teaching degree from the College of Charleston, she nonetheless became a teacher in life in more ways than one. She was resilient and resourceful; even when her initial career path didn't pan out, she casually started her own photography business capturing the most important moments in people's lives. She was a magician with children, who instantly flocked to her wherever she went. Lindsey loved being social with her wide circle of friends, and she always, always made her family a priority. She was a magnet for animals as well, and nurtured and cared for all things living.
Quietly creative, Lindsey had a do-it-yourself attitude and a desire to make everything personal, unique, and memorable. She had a passion for decorating, she captured the beauty in life with her photography, and had a hidden love for singing that she showed to few people. She loved to laugh, travel and see new things.
She focused on and noticed the details in life. In reference to her incredible organizational skills, her grandfather's advice, "Don't put it down, put it up" is a perfect metaphor for the way she approached life and the people around her. Everything and everyone had a place, and she always held them up instead of putting them down. She made everything better than it was before.
In many ways, Lindsey was born to be a mother, and of all of her accomplishments in her 29 years, surely the most important is her daughter, Lilla. She and Lindsey's husband, Jay were the absolute loves of her life, and even when facing terminal cancer, all she wanted to do was live life every day with them. They were her bucket list.
Most people now know Lindsey for shining in the face of tragedy after being diagnosed with colon cancer in 2013, while pregnant with Lilla. Every single day she wrote on the chalkboard in her bathroom, "Keep on the sunny side" and never let anything rain on her parade. Even before the diagnosis, Lindsey was able to find a level of happiness and appreciation for life that few people ever experience, and her attitude was infectious. The urge to share her difficult story, intimate and unfathomable, came from a place of tenderness and concern for others.
She has left an inspirational legacy of strength, dignity, grace, and perseverance that will live on through her large family, her beautiful daughter, her loving husband, and the thousands of people she touched with her story.
"I'm thankful to be living in our wonderful world, enjoying each day as it comes. I have never appreciated life as much as I do now. We never know the cards we'll be dealt the next day, so play your best hand while you can." - Lindsey Motley, 2013.
Lindsey is survived by her husband, Jay; her daughter, Lilla; her mother, Anne Garrett (Buzz); her father, Tom Bates (Ashley); her sister, Bladen Bates, and many friends and family.
A memorial service will be held at 2pm on Saturday, February 27, 2016, at Buncombe Street United Methodist Church.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to the Cancer Survivors Park Alliance. https://app.etapestry.com/onlineforms/PatientsFirst/LeapofFaith.html