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Norman A. Smith, 63, died peacefully at home on February 2, 33 months after his level 4 glioblastoma diagnosis, surrounded by his three favorite people in the world – his loving wife of 32 years, Suzanne, and their beloved son Kyle and his wife, Lauren, of Manchester-by-the-Sea. Norm was born in West Hartford, CT to Dorothy and the late Neville Smith, happily living out his whole life within a 60-mile radius of that birthplace, including 30 years in his adopted hometown, Longmeadow, MA. Norm was exposed to and fell in love with the game of lacrosse at an early age – a love that would last a lifetime – through his high school career at Conard High School; through 4 of the best years of his life as a 2 time all-American midfielder and 1979 coach's award recipient at the University of Massachusetts; through his post-college days with the Connecticut Valley Lacrosse Club his father co-founded; and then dozens of other club and tournament teams straight through his last run with the 60+ Cloudsplitter Team during the 2019 Lake Placid Summit Classic. Norm's love of lacrosse covered all aspects of the sport – player, fan, youth coach, volunteer, promoter, radio commentator and most proudly, lacrosse Dad, always, but especially during Kyle's college playing career at the University of Massachusetts and Kyle's college coaching career at Merrimack College. Among many other accolades, Norm was a humble and proud inductee into the Western Massachusetts, Connecticut, and New England Lacrosse Halls of Fame and the UMass Athletic Hall of Fame. Beyond lacrosse, Norm highly valued the education he received at UMass, earning a BBA in Accounting from the Isenberg School in 1979 and an MBA in 1991, and he believed those unparalleled undergraduate and graduate experiences opened life-changing doors to a career he loved, spanning diverse & challenging senior financial jobs in Fortune 100 to start-up companies, including 16 years at MassMutual in positions such as Senior Vice President Finance of the U.S. Insurance Group, Senior Vice President & Corporate Controller, and Vice President Finance of the Disability Income Strategic Business. Of all the rewards his career provided, though, the co-workers turned life-long friends were the greatest. With his big heart, big laugh, love of life, self-assurance, and generous & loyal spirit, Norm drew people to him and kept them there. In addition to many, many friends Norm leaves behind three brothers, Neville Jr. (Skip) and his wife, Darlene, of Houston, TX; Jordan and his partner, Deborah Matassa, of Glastonbury, CT; Christopher and his wife, Susan, of West Hartford, CT; niece and nephews, Kevin, Tyler and Allison Smith, and Nicholas Wingate; his mother- and father-in-law, Patricia and Walter Wingate, who was his "let's go to the game" partner for many years and hundreds of games; and the rest of his much loved extended family. The family wishes to thank all of Norm's amazing care providers: Dr. Katz and Dr. Yunes and their teams at the D'Amour Center for Cancer Care; Dr. Wen, Lisa Doherty, Sarah Hogan, and the rest of the team at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute; Jill Bronner, Brittany Diaz, and Juan Curet at Beacon Hospice; and neurosurgeons Dr. Khaled and Dr. Chiocca. Should anyone wish to donate in Norm's memory, the UMass Men's Lacrosse Team, c/o Greg Cannella, Boyden Gym, 131 Commonwealth Ave, Amherst, MA 01002 would be a fine choice. A funeral mass for Norm will be Wednesday, February 10 at 11:00 am at Saint Mary's Church, 519 Longmeadow St, Longmeadow with burial following the mass at Saint Stanislaus Cemetery, 800 Montgomery St, Chicopee.

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Published in Hartford Courant on Feb. 5, 2021.
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February 23, 2021
I tuned into audio broadcasts of
UMass games solely to listen to
Stormin’ Norman,
prayers.
Hugh
Acquaintance
February 19, 2021
My sincere condolences to your family. Norm will be missed by many. I worked for Norm at Massmutual. I will always remember him for his booming laughter and his curiosity....always asking questions. Heartfelt sympathy, we will all carry the memories. RIP Norm.
Tammy
February 11, 2021
I am so deeply saddened to hear of Norm's passing. I worked closely with Norm when I was just starting out my career at MassMutual and he served as a mentor to me throughout my career all the way through my current position. We would keep in touch a few times a year or anytime I needed some advice he would make time to meet and chat. We would talk about our mutual love of lacrosse and Norm would always provide me with poignant thoughts and guidance. He will be deeply missed.
Peter Boehm
Coworker
February 10, 2021
It is with a heavy heavy heart that I send my condolences to the Smith family, and all those who knew Norm.
As a starry-eyed high schooler who was allowed to “play up” one summer with the big guys on CVLC, I ran into the force of nature that was Norm Smith. He was tall and lean and never stopped hustling. He would always get back on D, no matter how far behind he started. And he would not be denied his downhill sweep! Not until a couple years later did I run headlong into the intensity with which he approached the game. I can’t recall now if I was in the wrong spot, not paying attention, or just got frustrated and gave up on a play. Norm let me know, in no uncertain terms, that it was not acceptable. Though the details escape me now, it was not an event I could easily forget. It stuck with me. Someone whom I admired was holding me to a higher standard. A standard I continue to reach for.
As a coach now, I teach my players that every time you step on the field, whether practice or game, championship or summer league, it is a gift. We are so fortunate to play the Creator’s game. Honor the Creator with your best effort. Give it your all, respect your opponent, and never stop hustling.
I don’t know that Norm ever knew the effect he had on me, or even that I really knew, until more recently. But then, we seldom know the effect we have on others. I am grateful for those times I got to play lacrosse with “Stormin’ Norman,” ( more apt nickname I can’t imagine) and all the guys who have been a part of the Connecticut Valley Lacrosse Club. As Rob Peterson wrote: ‘the games on the Creator’s field just got a lot more intense!”
Clay Jones
Friend
February 9, 2021
Although I hardly knew Norman, I do know Kyle and Lauren and wish to express my sympathy them, Suzanne, and Norman’s friends and family. With warmest thoughts. Lynn Foggle
Lynn Foggle
Friend
February 8, 2021
Great teammate and person. I will miss him
Bob Deegan
Friend
February 8, 2021
Dear Dot, Neviile, Jordan, and Christopher: We know about Norman's brave battle with cancer, and often prayed for his healing. Even though our prayers did not have the outcome we hoped for, we are thankful that his suffering is now over, and he is at peace. May your faith comfort you in your loss, and may the passing of time put Norman's illness in perspective, and leave you with happy memories of the loving times you spent together.
David & Patricia Roones
Acquaintance
February 7, 2021
To the Smith Family,
Although it has been many holidays since I was with your family, I will remember Norman’s kindness and smile at each gathering. My deepest condolences- you are all in my thoughts.
Diane Reynolds
Diane Reynolds
Family
February 6, 2021
Suzanne and Kyle,

I was deeply sad to hear of Norm's passing. Being a team mate of Norm's at UMASS for four years, I really got to know what a great athlete and friend he was. Norm was an incredible tenacious competitor and was usually the first to show up at practice and last to leave. Although I have not kept in touch with Norman very much after graduating UMASS, Norm's name would often come up when coaching my son's middle school Lacrosse team. I would use Norm as an example of what it takes to be a true champion and team player. Hustle, Tenacity, Sportsmanship, Dedication and Determination are just some of the words that describe Norm on and off the field.

We will miss you Norm.

Toby and the entire Rice Family
Toby Rice
Friend
February 6, 2021
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February 6, 2021
Norm and I worked together at MassMutual and he will always be one of my favorites. Fair, honest and always ready for a good debate which was always a learning moment for those who choose to engage. We talked about many things at work and one of the things he was most proud of was the relationship he had with his team.

You always knew where you stood with Norm but more importantly he was always a positive force in your corner.

Although I never played lacrosse although I am an alumni of Umass so shared a passion for the team and the program with him. Always loved hearing about what was going on and the pride he had sharing the latest about Kyle.

I will certainly cherish the image of him strolling down the hall with the giant smile on his face.

We stayed in touch after his diagnosis and he was always positive and ready for the fight—not surprising to anyone who knew him.

A great man who touched many and will be missed by all of us.

My condolences and prayers to the family.

John Zebrowski
John Zebrowski
Friend
February 6, 2021
Norman was literally everything that I've read about since his passing and more.
I was lucky enough to play with him at UMass.
He was a fantastic person and player and friend.
He will be greatly missed-for sure he's up in heaven with his parents already.
It was always fun being around Norman-he also was a wonderful teacher he'd always try to help you improve.
His parents were wonderful- his father was at every practice and game -they were the same two peas in the pod-they really were like twin brothers-and it was always fun to see them together.
To talk to them and listen and learn and laugh.
You,always felt wonderful after you, met them and spoke with them, about anything - of course it was a lot of lacrosse and friends and family fun talk.
With all my faith, I am certain he is in heaven with his family and happy- and most likely playing lacrosse.
My prayers are with you and your extended family.
God Bless You All.
Mark
Friend
February 6, 2021
To the entire Smith Family,

I am so very sorry for your loss. Being a teammate of Norm’s in high school and then having the opportunity of sharing the passion of lacrosse through the years, Norm was an ever present fixture in the lacrosse community. After most of his peers’ playing days were long over, I distinctly remember Norm telling me that his goal was to run on the same midfield as Kyle, and that he did. That tenacity and competiveness helped define Norm as a lacrosse player and a person. He is one of Conard High School’s All-Time Best and will be fondly remembered and sadly missed.
My deepest sympathy.

Bill Condon
Conard High School
Bill Condon
Friend
February 5, 2021
Suzanne and Kyle - I had the distinct privilege to work for Norm for much of my career at MassMutual. I learned so much from Norm professionally, but it is the personal aspects that Norm brought to work everyday that I valued the most. Norm always took the time to ask about our families and lives outside work, and truly cared and listened. Once you became Norm's friend, as all his co-workers did, his loyalty and support was always 100%. Norm would take time most days to have lunch with his team - a time when work talk was prohibited and it was all about having some laughs and sharing stories. Norm will be missed, rest in peace.




Jim Mulvey
Coworker
February 5, 2021
To Suzanne and Kyle, I worked for Norm and he was an inspiration and mentor. As you know he was shy and introverted...So after we argued rigorously about an issue we would put it all aside, grab lunch and this larger than life man would eat a pudding (not just once but like everyday like a big kid) He would then share a video of some behind the back move Kyle made at his game or share stories about walking through North Hampton with Suzanne. Needless to say he was brimming with pride.
I am so sorry for your loss,
John
John Fede
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February 5, 2021
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February 5, 2021
I only met Norm a few years back, but what a great person. So smart and humble, I enjoyed our short time togethor. I will miss you buddy!
Chris
Coworker
February 5, 2021
My deepest sympathy to the Smith family. Norm was a terrific guy with a huge spirit and appreciation for life. He will be missed.
Rick Burns
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February 5, 2021
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February 5, 2021
I feel very fortunate to have met Norm, and was able to hang with, cheer on and thoroughly enjoy our sons amazing LAX run together in the early 2010's. Whether he was n the booth, in the stands or on the sidelines, Norm was always engaging, involved and insatiable, totally into it!

Our heartfelt condolences go out to Suzanne and Kyle and the entire Smith family.
Ron and the entire Izzo family
Acquaintance
February 5, 2021
So sorry for your loss. I worked for Norm at MassMutual for many years. My son also played lacrosse and Norm would always stop by to ask how he was doing in the sport. One of my sons coaches here in Texas knew of Kyle. Norm even called my son to try to talk him out of quitting lacrosse to focus on hockey. He was very passionate about the work, keeping everyone wanting to do their best. I enjoyed his sense of humor as well, sharing many laughs. He will be missed. Rest in peace Norm.
Melanie Healey
Coworker
February 5, 2021
I'm sorry to read about Norman's passing. Although I have not seen him in many years I've known him since our days at Braeburn Elementary School. My deepest sympathy to his family.
Dan Quartin
Classmate
February 4, 2021
Norm and I worked together over the years at MassMutual. A fond memory of Norm is when he showed up to be a dunkee in a dunk tank for a fund raiser in a wet suit at work...walking the hallways for hours. And yes I paid extra to make sure he went in...and he heckled me the whole way.

He loved to play music in his office through the computer. The quality was not just what it needed to be for the classic rock he listened to quite a bit so I left a small set of blue tooth speakers on his desk. The next night I stopped by and he had the Rolling Stones blasting ;you could hear it on the complete other end of the floor.

I will never forget the "F-Bomb" he proudly displayed on his desk.

He was smart and savvy and always challenged the standard. He loved to engage in a debate. Gaining his trust was not easy but once you did it was a cherished gift....Just as he was.

He will be missed.

Sending my deepest condolences to the entire family.

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Penny Whitaker
Coworker
February 4, 2021
Norm was total class! I knew him from my days with Connecticut Valley Lacrosse (ages ago). Norm was a person that played the game like he lived life. He was great and excelled at the fundamentals. What a terrible loss. My heart and prayers go out to his family. Fran Yacovone San Antonio Texas
Fran Yacovone
Acquaintance
February 4, 2021
Very sorry to learn about Norm's fight and the loss to his family. I very much enjoyed working with him at MassMutual and loved sparring with him. He was intelligent and witty and kept me on my toes.
carol desrosiers
February 4, 2021
I’m very sorry for your loss. Norm was a great person to talk too and I appreciated his candor. I enjoyed the brief time I reported to him at MassMutual. God Bless!
Ron Lewandowski
Coworker
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