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Pola Goldsher Obituary

Pola died 4/12 after being carelessly infected with COVID-19. Born in Poland, 12/24/22, she was the quintessential stubborn "my way or the highway" Holocaust survivor-mother. Buried 4/17 in a quarantined funeral where I couldn't say goodbye. An immigrants' immigrant: work, cook dinner, wash, iron, clean, then do it again, again... Everything looted by Nazis, so Non-tactile love was provided in form of clothing, food, shelter. Mommie, why aren't you eating? "You eat, I'm not hungry." When dementia set in, we finally played a game. Pola hides the dentures, medicine, hearing aids, and I then seek them out. Pola's favorite poem, "The Golden Years Have Come at Last:" I cannot see, cannot pee, cannot chew, cannot screw. The golden years have come at last, the golden years can kiss my "butt"! For Pola and all mothers, go, live life, don't just exist in fear. And wear your face mask, 'cause honey it's cold-vid out there!

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Published by Hartford Courant on Apr. 19, 2020.

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Lila Madfis

April 22, 2020

To the Children of Pola Goldsher, I was touched by your tribute to your exceptional Mother. An eye-opener! May all your good memories sustain you at this sad time. May you have joy in the person she was. With deepest sympathy, Lila Madfis {a stranger who read about this courages Woman. }

Jane Eisenberg

April 21, 2020

Allen,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Joann Goldsher Lafond

April 19, 2020

Pola Goldsher was a remarkable woman. Having survived the Holocaust where she lost most of her family, still managed to maintain her sense of humor and boundless energy. She worked hard and sacrificed for her children and grandchildren, having to do menial and hard work as well as learn new languages.
She loved to sing and could write poetry even though she didn't have much schooling. She liked to play cards and read romances, though she never had enough time,having to care for her family and home.
In her last years she developed Alzheimers. It was sad watching her deteriorate,from a vibrant person to a child. She was cheerful till the end. She will be greatly missed.

West Hartford

April 19, 2020

I am so sorry for your loss. What a fantastic obituary to memorialize your mom. May her memory be for a blessing.

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