Thomas F. Kilfoil
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KILFOIL, Thomas F. Thomas F. Kilfoil, 82, of West Hartford, son of the late Thomas C. and Anna (Doyle) Kilfoil, died Sunday, (August 21, 2005) at the home of his sisters. Born in Hartford on October 28, 1922, he moved to New Britain at an early age, graduating from St. Mary School, class of 1936, and from New Britain High School, class of 1940. When the United States entered World War II, Tom was a student at Holy Cross College. He joined the Navy ROTC and was in an accelerated program, graduating from Holy Cross on October 31, 1943. During the war, Tom served as a lieutenant (j.g.) on board the destroyer escort, USS Spangenberg, in the North Atlantic. After the war, Tom attended Columbia University, working on a master's degree and doctorate in English, and drinking in all the Broadway theater that he could. He spent five years teaching speech at St. Peter's College in Jersey City, NJ. He then returned to Columbia where he was Director of the Brander Matthews Dramatic Museum while studying for a master's degree in library science. In 1968, he was Lucky to find a position as a reference librarian at the West Hartford Public Library, which brought him back to his family. This was the beginning of a 33 year career at WHPL. Tom was soon promoted to Head of Circulation and later to Head of Reference Services, in which position he served as a mentor, role model, and friend to many young librarians. These were the happiest years of Tom's life. He loved his work, the library patrons and especially the library staff. Tom never got a driver's license and could often be seen walking along Farmington Avenue, white plastic bag in hand, on his way to or from work, a two mile journey. Tom is survived by two sisters, Ann P. Kilfoil and (Mary) Jean Kilfoil. He also leaves several cousins. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Thursday, August 25, at 11 a.m. in the Church of St. Peter Claver, 47 Pleasant St., West Hartford, followed by a reception in the parish center. Following the reception a graveside service will be held at 2 p.m. At Mount St. Benedict Cemetery, Bloomfield. Calling hours will be held on Wednesday from 2-4 and 6-8 p.m. and Thursday from 10-10:45 a.m. at the Taylor & Modeen Funeral Home 136 South Main St., West Hartford. Memorial donations may be made in Tom's name to The West Hartford Public Library Foundation, 20 South Main St., West Hartford, CT 06107.

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Published in Hartford Courant from Aug. 23 to Aug. 24, 2005.
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December 22, 2005
Dear Jean and Ann, I am sorry to hear about this precious brother of yours. May you keep him warm in your heart and remember the beautiful memories.
Anne, Mark, Sheena and Justin
Anne Williams
October 19, 2005
Tom made each of us feel as though we had a personal ambassador to the library. His warm and welcoming manner made the library a home away from home.
Jill Spear
August 26, 2005
Tom was my mentor, role model and friend. He always will be. Last February we discussed whether or not I was ready to be promoted to head of reference ('cause the job was being offered in my current library & I wasn't sure I was ready). He gave me his blessing. For all of us who knew Tom, this was *marching orders.* Onward & upward!
Lynne Olver
August 24, 2005
Our heartfelt sympathies in this, your time of grief.
Taylor & Modeen Funeral Home
August 23, 2005
Gerard Molyneaux
August 23, 2005
Dear Kilfoil Family,

The staff at the West Hartford Public Library wishes to express our sincere sympathy on the loss of your beloved brother. Tom was a true professional who loved his work, a gentleman in every sense of the word and a loyal co-worker and friend to us all. We shall miss him very much. Fondly, Carol Waxman
Carol Waxman
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