Thomas M. McAuliffe
1955 - 2017
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Thomas M. McAuliffe, 62, of Glastonbury, beloved husband of Patricia R. FitzGerald, died unexpectedly at his home on Friday, June 9, 2017. Our hearts are heavy with the loss of a loving husband, father and son. Born May 8, 1955 in Kansas City, Missouri, Tom was the son of Mildred McAuliffe and the late Lawrence McAuliffe of Overland Park, Kansas. He graduated from Rockhurst High School in Kansas City and from St. Louis University, where he received his BS, MA and Ph.D. Tom was a Psychologist for CREC Polaris in East Hartford for over twenty years. Tom will be remembered for his tender heart, clever humor and patient manner that extended beyond his personal and family life. His talents led him to a career helping children and adolescents with emotional and behavioral disabilities. Having met in graduate school, Tom and Pat were married for 31 years and both found careers in clinical psychology. The couple found joy stealing away for long weekends to the scenic reprieve of Northern New England. Tom had a special affinity for Bar Harbor, Maine and Portsmouth, New Hampshire and especially enjoyed hiking and taking photographs. Throughout their marriage, Tom and Pat spent countless hours in their garden, sitting underneath the slight overhang of the rhododendrons where they would enjoy the company of the roses that returned for them every year, as well as the soft calls of cardinals and finches, that also seemed to always return. Red dog leash in hand, Tom will be remembered by his neighbors for his routine morning and evening walks with the family Golden Retriever, Maggie. Tom was a proud and especially vocal fan of the UConn Men's basketball team and an ardent and frequent contributor to the Boneyard online message board where, according to one member, if they had "numbers like the team, his would be retired." He had a deep love of music, especially for Steely Dan and Van Morrison, and of theater and would enjoy family trips to Goodspeed Opera House to walk along the Connecticut River and catch an evening show. Besides his wife and mother, he is survived by his two loving children, Sean T. McAuliffe of Glastonbury and Kate R. McAuliffe of New York City, and his siblings, Lawrence McAuliffe and Patricia Akright, who both live in Overland Park, Kansas. He is also survived by multiple cousins and nieces and nephews. Particularly close to him were his sister-in-laws, Maureen E. FitzGerald, Julia Nielsen (Philip), Rose Holloway (Robert) and brother-in-law, James FitzGerald (Yvonne). A celebration of Tom's life will be held Tuesday, June 20 at 11am in the Mulryan Funeral Home, 725 Hebron Ave., Glastonbury. Reception to follow at Manchester Country Club. Friends may call at the funeral home on Monday June 19 from 4-7pm. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the CT Children's Medical Center Foundation, 12 Charter Oak Place, Hartford, CT. 06106. For online condolences please visit

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Published in Hartford Courant on Jun. 15, 2017.
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June 23, 2017
Patty and Family,

I am so sorry to hear about Tom. I wish I was able to hug you guys in person. I especially wish I got to know him better.
Please know that we send our love and prayers from Cincinnati.

Cousin Danny, Noelle, Kevin and Liza
June 17, 2017
Our family was sad to hear of Tom's passing.
My father and Tom's mother were cousins.Their mother's were sisters. As youngsters we would be together for family picnics and celebrations. He will be missed by all who knew him.
Our deepest sorrow on your loss.
The Bill Lafferty Family (Kansas City)
Christina Lafferty Psaras
June 16, 2017
Dear Pat and Famiy

Sorry to hear of Tom's passing. We moved away from shore. Kathy Socha and Barb Rzepski told me.

Jim Monahan
June 15, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time.
The Hutchison Family
June 15, 2017
It was a pleasure interacting with Tom about UCONN basketball on The Boneyard forum. My condolences to the family. He'll be missed.
Glen Gleissner
June 15, 2017
As you remember your beloved one, may our Father the God of peace give you comfort and peace in every way today, tomorrow, and always. Please accept my sincere condolences. Ps 94:18-19
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