Alec Clayton Howe Dougan
1993 - 2016
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Our beautiful son, Alec Clayton Howe Dougan, died on July 6th of a heroin overdose. He was 23 years old. Alec came into the world, a golden boy. He was born at Hartford Hospital on May 9, 1993, Mothers Day. He brought with him into this world a light that, even in his death, will never be extinguished. He attended St. Rose School in East Hartford, Bennett Jr. High in Manchester and Manchester High School. He then moved to Groton and spent a brief time at Robert E. Fitch High School. The things Alec wanted to know, he was not going to find in a classroom. He left school and pursued his GED, performing so well on his exams that he was awarded a State Diploma. Alec was a beautiful soul, both philosopher and poet. He read his first poem publicly at the age of nine, at the Greater Hartford Academy for the Arts. It was a beautiful poem, beyond his years, about a ripple in a pond; asking it "Where do you go? What do you become?". Now he is my ripple. From his parents he inherited a passion for music. Like his father, Alec formed his own lightshow company, and provided the backdrop for many bands in and around Southern New England. Alec had an unquenchable thirst for life; for living, for experiencing. This led him to travel throughout the United States, hitchhiking and couch surfing. He met so many people and touched so many lives, making lifelong friends along the way. His smile and laughter were infectious. Once you knew Alec, you would never forget him. He was a loving and giving boy, and he grew to become that same kind of man. Alec loved spending time with his family and could get us all laughing so hard we had tears in our eyes. He had a chance to do that the weekend before he died, at a big Saturday wedding with his father's side of the family. Sunday was spent at a 4th of July picnic with his mom's side. Alec was funny and engaging, and we got to meet his new girlfriend. He played Twister and Wiffle ball with his brother and sister. That boy cannot bat. We listened to the Grateful Dead, and it was like our old Alec. I thought we had made it to the other side; but it was just his last gift to us, and I thank him for that. He relapsed in the following days. Among those he leaves behind, are his mother, Dawn Howe, whose sun rose and set with him, and her husband Lawrence Taylor of Groton; his father Kenneth Dougan of Manchester; his brother, Nicholas Dougan, and sister, Riley Howe of Groton; his maternal grandmother, Gloria Fletcher of Bolton; and his paternal grandparents, Jaqueline and Paul Dougan of Manchester. He is also survived by his aunts, Doreen McIntyre and Leslie Weerden of Manchester; his aunt Deborah Everett and partner Paul Flaherty of Bloomfield; his aunt Susan Hutz of Bigfork, Montana; his uncle Kevin Dougan and wife Ellen of Manchester; and his uncle Kurt Dougan and wife Christine of Barkhamstead. He will be greatly missed by his great aunts and uncles, and his many, many cousins who grew up alongside him. "Sketch", as his friends called him, will be sadly missed by so many in both the Mystic and Manchester areas. Calling hours for family and friends are from 1-3 and 5-8 on Wednesday, July 13th, at Holmes Funeral Home, 400 Main St., Manchester. A private burial will be at East Cemetery in Manchester. To leave a message for his famiy please visit

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Published in Hartford Courant on Jul. 11, 2016.
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August 5, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss of Alec. He was a very kind and loving person who worked with me at Kate's Cafe in Mystic. He was a very talented chef. I loved the food he made for me because he added the special ingredient "love". He talked about his sister a lot! Oh how he loved her and loved spending time with her! He always had a story to tell that was interesting or funny! We liked to talk about sewing and what kinds of different items we could use for thread. We both liked antique threads too. Alec was my friend and I am very heartbroken that he died :( my son passed away in September of 2015 so I understand the pain and sadness of losing a child. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and may you have peace. Elizabeth Straub Murphy
Elizabeth Murphy
July 25, 2016
The LORD has another ANGEL. A friend of leslie and doreen. may he bless your family.
sally hellandbrand
July 14, 2016
ken, you are in my thoughts.

take care, old friend.
justin quinn
July 13, 2016
I did not have pleasure of knowing your son, I am a friend of Leslie W. My deepest condolences to all who loved him. There is no greater loss than that of a child. You will be in my heart and prayers.
Amy Sanders
July 12, 2016
I'm sorry for your loss Ken Dougan.
Ron Douglass
July 12, 2016
i only pray that the love you have for your son will someday outweigh your pain. How blessed he was to have you as his family. How brave to tell his story. Perhaps a young man will read it and decide to choose hope. My heart goes out to you all.
A Mom
July 12, 2016
My empathy to you and your family on the loss of this charming young man. I too, lost my son from this insidious illness and I continue to hope that we will all work harder (together!) in our communities and schools to confront the number one health issue of our youth. Please accept my condolences.
Hope Rice
July 12, 2016
My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Jane Witherell
July 12, 2016
I did not know your son, but his obituary truly showed what a beautiful person he was. I, too, lost my son to addiction last November and I feel your pain. Please accept my deepest sympathy and I thank you for being so brave and honest.
Kathleen Dufficy
July 11, 2016
I met Alec in high school and was honored to have hung out with him a few times after school. I reflect back on all the ways he could make you smile and laugh through some absurd joke or gesture. He was a pure ray of light and that light still shines. I won't ever forget his amazing soul.
July 11, 2016
I did not know Alec, he was a friend of my daughters. I am so sorry for your families loss. From your words I can tell he was an amazing kid and I know you will all cherish everything he brought into your lives. Bless you all through these difficult times.
Kimberly Chaffee
July 11, 2016
To the Parents, Siblings, Family and Friends: I've never met Alec or the family, however I would like to extend my heartfelt condolences to all of you on the loss of your loved one Alec. Sending you prayers for Love, Strength, Guidance, Support and Understanding at this most difficult time. God Bless.
July 11, 2016
I don't know you or your son but I can feel your joy in his life and your pain in his death. We loose to many young and talented people to early to the deadly drug. May you find peace in your beautiful memories and may he always be close to your heart.
Kathleen Sousa
July 11, 2016
We did not know your son, but are touched by the beauty and honestly that was revealed in his obituary. What a remarkable young man, and how fortunate for him that he had such a loving family. Sending thoughts and gratitude for giving us a glimpse into his world
Marjorie Solomon
July 11, 2016
Alec was a pure beautiful soul. He will never ever be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with your family
Chelsea Dailey
July 11, 2016
May you find strength to get through this extremely difficult time.
July 11, 2016
I don't know Alec or your family,but I want to thank you for your honesty in talking about his Heroin problem. My son, Timothy died in January 2016 from a heroin overdose. We stated such in his obituary as well. Countless people have thanked us for our openness in increasing awareness that this happens to good people everyday.Thank you for showing others that his problem in not shameful, but tragic. We are putting together a non profit organization to raise awareness and educe the stigma of addiction and mental health.
John Lally
July 11, 2016
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I admire your bravery in naming overdose as the cause. More needs to be done. Too many young lives taken.
July 11, 2016
I also did not know Alec but after reading Alec's obit I am so heartbroken for his family and sad that he was so young. I also have a son in trouble. My sincere sympathy for Alec's family.
July 11, 2016
My Condolences to you and your family. Very courageous of you to list the reason for his death. There are to many of us out there with this horrible disease/secret in our families and suffering in silence.

He is free now.
July 11, 2016
Our family also lost a beautiful, sensitive nephew this past April and we still ask why. He had your sons similar traits but his heavy heart could only be healed by the heroin high the big escape.
This is a very difficult time for your family and loved ones and God Bless all of you for strength and prayers. It was not your fault.
Laura Granger
July 11, 2016
I have lit a candel for your you and your son.
Mark Lewis
July 11, 2016
I am so sorry to here this news. My heart breaks for you . Hoping the comfort of friends and family carry you through your time of bereavement.

Mark Lewis
July 11, 2016
I am so sorry about Alec. I didn't know Alec but I have one of those boys at my house. I frequently ask my daughter to check and see if he is still breathing. Why is it the best ones who go ? I am so scared.
I am sure Alec was an absolute doll !
July 11, 2016
With deepest sympathy during your time of mourning.
Holmes Funeral Home - Manchester
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