Kathleen Heidtmann
1951 - 2020
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Kathleen Marie Nettles Heidtmann
1951-2020
Heaven gained a beautiful soul on Saturday, the 26th of September 2020, when Kathleen Marie Nettles Heidtmann passed away at her home in Houston.
A native Houstonian, Kathy was born to Rose Marie and Charles Nettles on the 28th of August 1951. Attending St. Cecilia Catholic School and St. Agnes Academy coupled with her strong Catholic upbringing instilled in her Christian values and a strong faith in God from the very beginning.
Kathy graduated from The University of Texas at Austin in 1973, where she was a member of the Alpha Chi Omega sorority and was named one of the Ten Most Beautiful. She found true love and married Ken Heidtmann on the 3rd of December 1989, and together, they had one daughter, Layne, who was a best friend to her mother.
Kathy was diagnosed with lupus at the young age of 23. For the last 46 years, she experienced daily struggles with this disabling disease. Lupus dramatically affected her eyesight but never took her spirit. Kathy never let her health struggles define her in any aspect of life. She was resilient and never complained about her cross to bear. Though she spent most of her adult life with limited eyesight, Kathy saw so much. She had a keen sense of awareness that allowed her to be very intuitive to the needs of loved ones around her.
While a true beauty on the outside, it was her beautiful heart, mind and soul that captured the love and admiration of so many. Kathy had the gift of creating joy with her humor, intelligence and compassion. She had an amazing way with words, writing beautiful poems and letters for special occasions to family and friends. Giving gifts was Kathy's love language. Kathy never forgot a birthday or anniversary and always went over-the-top with gifts and sweet gestures for others.
Kathy was a great mom, a poet, a performer, a fashionista, a self-proclaimed singer, and the life of every party. She had a way of lighting up every room she entered. However, she was the least punctual person you have ever known. Everyone expected Ken and Kathy to be fashionably late, but when Kathy did arrive, she was the best dressed and the most beautiful woman in the room. And, if there was a piano player in a club or restaurant, she would invariably grab the microphone and attempt to sing-along. She was the person that everyone wanted to be near. Her warmth and charisma created a following of more loyal friends than anyone could believe possible.
One of her favorite outings was to Carrabba's on Voss with her girlfriends. She never failed to tell the server to "please make sure that it was a fresh bottle of wine." Kathy's laugh was contagious, and her storytelling was captivating. She never met a stranger, especially in a restaurant bathroom. She would return to the table 30 minutes later with a new best friend and the woman's entire life story.
Kind, strong, resilient, witty, never judgmental, always affectionate, feisty and never afraid to share her thoughts and opinions, Kathy spent her life advocating for herself, her family and her friends. She was the definition of loyal, and her love will never be replaced.
When Kathy received a cancer diagnosis, one that she knew she could not defeat, she did not allow herself to abandon her deep-rooted faith in the Lord and trust that our Heavenly Father was there to comfort and protect her. It was evident that Kathy's faith was at the center of her life, often mentioning that without prayer she could not face the struggles of her health that she dealt with on a daily basis. Kathy was the eternal optimist, and in those last days, although she was not feeling her best, she still wanted to look her best. Just two days before she passed, Kathy asked Tootsies, her favorite store, to send a rack of clothes so that she could shop from home.
Her family rejoices in knowing that she is now wrapped in the arms of our Savior and undoubtedly dressed to the nines.
She was preceded in death by her parents, Rose Marie and Charles Nettles. She is survived by her loving husband of 30 years, Ken; and their daughter, Layne; her brothers, Gene Nettles and his wife Corliss, Charlie Nettles and his wife Betsy; her sister-in-law, Jill Runion and her husband Bob; and her nieces and nephews, Katie Nettles Lyons, Charlie Nettles III, Paige Nettles Montgomery, Kelly Nettles Henderson, John Tysseland and Paige Tysseland Robbins; as well as her great nieces and nephews, Berklee, Wick, Cameron, Mays, Wells, Perry, Ryan Jr., Rhett, Rivers, Jack, Charlie and Hadley. Kathy also loved her puppies as children – Jake, Jackson, Annabelle, and Penny.
The family wants to thank Marta Schrader who was "Kathy's eyes" for the last few years. She lovingly drove Kathy to all her appointments and errands. Kathy and Marta shared a very special relationship and enjoyed talking about Jesus and their spiritual journeys, as well as their families, friends, and of course, their fur-babies.
The family will gather for a private service and plans to celebrate Kathy's life with friends in the near future.
In lieu of customary remembrances, memorial contributions may be directed to: Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, Texas Gulf Coast Chapter, 50 Briar Hollow, Suite 300W, Houston, TX, 77027 (or online at www.cff.org/give-today) or to the Lupus Foundation of America, Texas Gulf Coast Chapter, 3701 Kirby Drive, Suite 700, Houston, TX, 77098 (or online at www.lupustexas.org); or to the charity of one's choice.
Please visit Kathy's online memorial tribute at GeoHLewis.com where memories and words of comfort and condolence may be shared electronically with her family.



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Published in Houston Chronicle on Oct. 11, 2020.
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October 23, 2020
I did not know Kathy, but want to express my sorrow for every life she touched. Such a beautiful obituary and tribute to a wonderful person. I know she will be missed! I wish I had gotten to meet her and fly with her on one of our Braniff F/A days!
Joan Benesh
Coworker
October 16, 2020
Ken, we are so sorry to hear about your loss. We had KATHY in our prayers all along, even after we were unaware she had passed. Condolences to you and your daughter and your entire family.
Kathy is Now Healed of all her pain.

We hope to see you soon at Watergate, but if I can do anything To help you, you know I only live five minutes from the dock.
We will continue to pray for your family, God‘s blessings to you all. Steve and Ginny Jackson (the Ginny Lou Tiara)
Steve and Ginny Jackson
Neighbor
October 13, 2020
I met Kathy in 5th grade at St. Cecilia's Elementary School. We became best friends and many a night I heard a tap, tap, tap on my bedroom window because Kathy would sneak out of her house and walk to my house in the middle of the night. "Wait till your father gets home" was an all too common phrase from Mrs. Nettles. I loved spending time at the Nettles home and Mrs. Nettles always invited me to stay for one of her fabulous Italian dinners. Kathy was a special person to so many and I will cherish the memories that we had together. To Gene and Chill: My heart is so sad for you and your families.
katie Welder Stewart
Friend
October 13, 2020
I met Kathy in 5th grade at St. Cecilia's Elementary School. We became best friends and many a night I would hear a tap, tap, tap on my bedroom window because Kathy would sneak out and walk over to my house in the middle of the night. "Wait till you father gets home" was an all to familiar phrase from Mrs. Nettles. A rebel to be sure, but who could stay mad at Kathy when she flashed that gorgeous smile. I loved spending time at the Nettles home and Mrs. Nettles always invited my to stay for one of her fabulous Italian meals. Kathy was a special person to so many and I will always cherish those memories of our time together. To Gene and Chill, my heart is so sad for you and your families.
Katie Welder Stewart
Friend
October 13, 2020
I met Kathy in 5th grade at St. Cecilia's Elementary school. We became best friends and many a night I would be woken up with a tap, tap, tap on my bedroom window because Kathy would sneak out and walk to my house. "Wait till your father gets home", was an often occurring phrase from Mrs. Nettles. She was a rebel, for sure, but who could get mad at Kathy when she flashed that gorgeous smile at you. I loved spending time at the Nettles home and Mrs. Nettles always invited my to stay for one of her fabulous meals. Kathy was a special person to so many and I will always cherish my memories of her.
Katie Welder Stewart
Friend
October 12, 2020
Now my loving, sweet and beautiful friend can rest without pain. I have 45 years of wonderful, very funny and memorable memories. I am going to miss you. My thoughts and prayers are with the Heidtmann & Nettles family.
With Deepest Sympathy,

Dianne MacCurdy
Dianne MacCurdy
Friend
October 12, 2020
Very sorry to hear about Kathy. She was an extraordinarily beautiful and sweet person. I’ll never forget when she and her friend Katie Welder visited the ATO House in 1968. Probably the two best looking girls ever to walk through our front door. Absolutely phenomenal. May she Rest In Peace and Everlasting Glory.
H. Gibbs Bauer
Friend
October 11, 2020
To all the Heidtmann's and Nettles families ...
My deepest sympathy to you all in the loss of a beautiful person. I have so many wonderful memories of the Gugenheims and Nettles and later, Ken and Layne. Kathy truly was an inspiration. She looks so much like your Mom - loved seeing that resemblance! Brought back some very special memories for me!
Know that I am thinking of you all with love,
Renee
Renee Gugenheim
Friend
October 11, 2020
Rest In Peace my Beautiful Best Friend Kathy. My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. From University of Texas, to Europe and 51 years of fabulous fun, we shared so many special moments. I miss you dearly and will cherish our memories forever❤
Love, Mindy
Mindy Stamey Benefield
Friend
October 11, 2020
Dear Charlie and the loved ones Kathy left behind,
Please accept the condolences of our family for the loss of Kathy. May fond memories and prayers bring you all comfort.
Frank W. Stowell, III
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