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David Wessling Obituary
"They'd say, 'Mr. Wessling, do you have change for a five?' " his wife, Michelle, remembered Thursday. "He'd say, 'I bet you need more than that piece of information,' and make them say, 'May I have change for a five?' Then he'd say that they'd just changed the world for the better."
Mr. Wessling died Wednesday evening at his home in the 6900 block of West O'Neil, where police said his wife found him in the garage. He was 53.
He had been the principal at Northeast since Aug. 1, district spokeswoman Susan Arensman said.
Police characterized his death as an apparent suicide. Arensman said school staff would tell students that today.
The district's mental health crisis team was at Northeast all day Thursday and will return today for students and teachers who want to talk, said Liz McGinness, assistant director of special education and the team's coordinator.
"People are shocked. People are sad," she said. "It's a very difficult thing to absorb."
The district sent home a letter Thursday informing parents of the death.
Mr. Wessling was known to visit classrooms frequently and check in on students.
"He didn't just sit in the office with no idea with what's going on in the classroom," Northeast math teacher Curt Melzer said. "He was out and about in the building throughout the day."
Students said he would pop into a chemistry class to congratulate them on good test scores or just to say hello.
"He would come in and join and teach," junior Mercedes Alberson said, adding that he also tried to learn the names of all of Northeast's 530 students.
His wife of 25 years said her husband "was the most dedicated and caring person. He wanted nothing more than to help as many young people as he could."
Michelle Wessling, her eyes red from tears, smiled when remembering the rolls of quarters for the pop machine.
"They wore out his pants pockets," she said. "I was thrilled when pop machines went to dollar bills."
Mr. Wessling didn't reach out to students only during school hours, she said.
"He was constantly thinking about them and ways to reach them and be there as a mentor and a guide for them," she said.
As an example, the Wesslings spent parts of their last three summers in Mexico taking language classes.
"We'd spend July in Mexico learning Spanish so he could better communicate with the parents of Hispanic students and students who were still struggling because English was not their first language," she said. "He took great joy in being able to talk to those kids in their native tongue."
A prayer service is planned for 4 p.m. Tuesday, followed by a funeral Mass at 4:30 p.m., both at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Catholic Church, 645 N. 119th St. West.
Mr. Wessling grew up in St. Louis. He received a master's degree in English and a secondary school administration certification from Fort Hays State University. He taught for 11 years in Hays at Thomas More Prep-Marian high school.
The Wesslings, members of Holy Savior Catholic Church, moved to Wichita in 1986. Mr. Wessling served first as assistant principal, then principal at Bishop Carroll Catholic High School.
"The entire Bishop Carroll Catholic High School community is deeply saddened," principal Leticia Nielsen said through a spokeswoman. "He was a great man who loved education, and we will be praying for his wife, Michelle, and his entire family."
He joined the Wichita schools in 1997, serving as assistant principal at Northeast and Heights high schools before becoming principal at Northeast, Arensman said.
Many of Mr. Wessling's former students kept in touch with him over the years, Michelle Wessling said.
"They thank him," she said. "They stop to see him. They invite him to their homes, and they're calling from all over the country today."
In their spare time, the couple enjoyed riding their tandem bike and took tours across the world. The family's basement is filled with pictures of them on bikes in a number of locales.
At Northeast Magnet, two posters for Mr. Wessling's family have been set up for students to sign. Other students said they are creating individual cards of support.
The district's note to parents said cards and flowers brought to Northeast would be delivered to Michelle Wessling.
Junior Shalya Thompson wrote about Wessling Thursday.
"We would like to thank you for blessing us with a passionate, adoring and generous man like Mr. Wessling," she wrote. "Know that Mr. Wessling will always be a part of Northeast."
Michelle Wessling said she was making arrangements to donate her husband's body to the University of Kansas Medical Center.
"The very last thing he wanted to do on this Earth was to help others," she said.
Memories and Condolences
for David Wessling
345 Entries
SisterAliceAnn
October 21, 2009
Dave was a great colleague during my years of teaching at TMP-Marian. He was always a gentleman and a scholar, besides having a good sense of humor. We had some good journalism trips to KU with a van full of kids and interesting conversation all the way going and coming back. He didn't care if you were a nobody or a somebody; he was the same with everyone--cordial, friendly, warm, accepting.
Gregory Locke
December 28, 2008
Mr. Wessling meant worlds to this ghetto child turned man. One of his lectures to me was that of expecting more of myself. "Greg," He said, "you do not have to under achieve, you're at TMP because you are capable of doing anything that any other kid in the world can do. Expect that of yourself, instead." If I know Mr. wessling he had such a lecture for many of us upstarts at TMP, but he did get my attention, and I still speak of how he influenced me to this day. This man cared above and beyond for each one of us at TMP, and I know that we are all greatful! ([email protected])
1967 Mt. Carmel Graduate
July 25, 2008
I learned of Dave's passing very recently and am so saddened. As a fellow Mt. Carmel graduate, I have fond memories. We also attended kindergarten together. Once as a punishment, I was required to sit in a cold, dark coat room. I was terrified and cried. When I was allowed to return to the main group, Dave saw my tears and moved near me and with a whisper asked me if I would be his girlfriend. That memory has stayed with me all these years and illustrates what a sensitive and empathetic person Dave was at such a young age. He comforted a frightened little girl. That was pretty much the end of our romance, but I will never forget him for that. My sympathies to his family.
Rosanne (MIller) Edwards
January 10, 2008
If this is the same David Wessling I knew in St. Louis, I, too, have fond memories of him. I lived on Church Rd down the street from Dave. We attended Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Catholic grade school together. I remember that his mother passed away from multiple sclerosis. I would have known Dave from third thru eighth grade. He was actually my first crush. As I recall he wanted to be a priest. Could this be the same person? My sympathies go out to you, even at this late date.
Brian Kaiser
March 11, 2007
I was fortunate enough to have Dave as a teacher at TMP. I can still remember vividly the sounds of "The Bells" echoing through the halls. He challenged all of us everyday at TMP and for that I am grateful.
Brian Kaiser
TMP Class of 1986
Brendan Kelly
January 3, 2007
I was lucky enough to be a student of Mr. Wessling's in 1980 at TMP in Hays Kansas. He taught our English class, and I still recall how he put Dickens' GREAT EXPECTATIONS up on the classroom blackboard as a chart. Every day we would read and as we read the chart got more and more involved as Pip's adventures brought him into contact with more people and relationships. His enthusiasim for that book was exciting, and the whole class actually got excited and interested in the story, wondering what would happen next. It was a unique experience in my academic career, we were all enjoying and looking forward to a class. He was one of my favorite teachers, even if he never did teach me how to spell.
I will miss him.
Eternal rest grant unto him oh Lord, and may perpetual light shine upon him.
Sara Richardson
October 5, 2006
I just learned of Mr. Wesslings passing. I would like to extend my deepest condolences to all of his loved ones, and let them know that they are in the thoughts and prayers of many.
VTN
October 2, 2006
Mr. Wessling was a wonderful man. He will be missed by all.
Ursula Gabel '83
September 27, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I just found out today about your loss. Like so many others, I'm truly saddened. He was the teacher that still stands out from my days at TMP-MHS. We learned to write in his class---the kind of writing most of our peers never learned and put us leaps ahead of others when we went out into the real world. I've always been so very grateful for the what he taught us and how he taught us. He will be missed.
Diane Healy
September 26, 2006
Michelle,
Bob and I and our family wish to express our deepest sympathies to you and your family on the tragic loss of your beloved "soul mate".
When we say we share your pain, we mean it with all our hearts. Both Bob and I have had brothers die by suicide. It is the most devasting
event in life.
You will experience strength to cope from your many friends and the Grace of God.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this sad time
May he Rest in Peace,
Love and Prayers,
Diane and Bob Healy
Mario Moreno
September 26, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I just returned from my 25th reunion at TMP this past weekend with many memories. Dave was certainly on my mind and in my prayers. His energy was infectious. Please accept my sympathy on the loss of your beloved.
God Bless,
Mario Moreno
TMP '81
Lydia Secondine
September 26, 2006
I remember Mr. Weesling as a very nice man that always had a smile on his face. He was definately devoted to his work and totally involved. Education was his passion... both learning and teaching. I attended North East high school years ago, class of 2002. I'm terribly sorry for his family's losses, including all his students throughout the world. He is loved and missed. We will always remember him.
Shannon (Danahy) Thomas
September 25, 2006
Michelle, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Mr. Wessling was a wonderful man....the one thing that I will never forget, was the day he came around to all the classes with a bag of grapes and handed one to each student as he told them to have a "grape day" He will be missed by many! BCHS 94
Bettye (Be) and Chris Mitchell
September 25, 2006
Michelle,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
BAK many, many years.
September 25, 2006
Mrs. Wessling,
I haven't seen Dave for years, not since the two of us were lifeguards in Hays, KS. I admired his knowledge and ability and was honored to have known him.
As an educator myself, I think I can understand how overwhelming it can be to care for and about students. My prayers are with you.
Teri
Toni Wendt
September 23, 2006
Michelle - You do not know me but I knew Dave back when he taught swim lessons as a teenager at the Hays Municipal Pool. My sister Teri and I both taught lessons with Dave. He was always patient, good with the students and a born teacher.
My mother living in Kansas kept me updated whenever she saw his name in the news. I'm sure he was a great principal. I regret that our paths never crossed again. I would have liked to compare notes about being a principal in a Catholic school.
I will have a Mass said for Dave. Please remember that God is all loving and that time will help you immensely.
Cindy Otte
September 22, 2006
Michelle - you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Brenton Phillips TMP '81
September 21, 2006
Dear Michelle:
I'm sorry for your--and our--loss. In literature class whenever I appeared to be bored, Dave would say, "Phillips, this is great stuff!" Over the last 20 years, I haved frequently used this line with my own students. I didn't know it at the time, but he was a true role model for me as a teacher and as a man. I owe him so much and will never forget him. May God bless.
Joyce Pfeifer-Lamp
September 21, 2006
Michelle:
I just found out about Dave's passing throught family. I wanted you to know that you and your family our in my thoughts and prayers. May you be blessed with all the Grace God has to offer at this time so you may continue to be witness to His Love. Peace & Love.
John Locke
September 21, 2006
Michelle, I send prayers and condolences. I'm just sorry that I can't be there with you. May God bless and keep you in this time of great sadness but please remember that God's love surrounds you and His joy comes in the morning.My memories of Dave are strong and his place in my heart is secure. He challenged us to be better than we thought we could be; not for his glory but so we could glory in our own acheivments. WE will remember his beard, his bike, his laughter and his love for all his kids. He will be missed.
John A. Locke TMP'81
Justin Kaba(St.Hilaire)
September 20, 2006
Mrs. Michelle Wessling,
I just want to first send my heart felt deepest condolences to you and your family, God bless you and them in your time of loss. No words of mine could ever do Mr. Wessling as I knew him justice. I have my memories of him, he was there for me in a time of loss for myself. He selflessly attended my mothers funeral, his words that day as brief as they may have seemed stayed with me to this day. As he me may be gone physically, his spirit still remains with all the students and people he ever helped or had a kind word towards. He may be gone but never forgotten. God bless you Mr. Wessling.
L/Cpl Justin M. Kaba U.S.M.C (NEM C/O 2000)
George & Vi Schuckman
September 20, 2006
Dear Michelle:
George & I will always remember David coming to our home to get information and visit with us about our family. He wrote a story about our family and submitted it to the Knights of Columbus State Council as an entry for the State of Kansas Family of the Year. We were recipients of that honor 1996-1997. He was a pillar in the Church and his profession. He will be greatly missed. We are remembering you in our prayers. Keep in touch!
Jacob Gatschet
September 20, 2006
(I'll try this again, as I see my entry from yesterday was cut short.) I remember well and am grateful for Dave's competence, energy and palpable desire that we students
Laney (Huskey) Reynolds
September 20, 2006
I'm amazed by the number of comments. I've read them since day one and I still can't figure out what exactly to say. I pray daily for Mr. Wessling's family and friends. He was a wonderful man indeed!
Class of '03
Jamie Church-Basgall
September 20, 2006
Michelle,
My husband and I (NEM-class 0f 2003) just want you to know how deeply sorry we are for your loss. Mr. Wessling was a great man and a wonderful mentor. We will always think fondly of him when we remember him. We still laugh at the shorts he wore for the student vs teacher basketball games during United Way Week. He was a good guy. God bless you and our prayers are with you.
Pamela (Penka) Channell '86
September 20, 2006
Mrs. Wessling,
It is with a deep sadness that I learned of the loss of Mr. Dave Wessling ‘71. Please know that while you are joined in the sorrow of this time, you are also joined in the celebration of his life, love, and enthusiasm, all of which were immeasurable.
Mr. Wessling taught his journalism class that one person could change the world and that every person, regardless of social rank or prestige, regardless of failure or triumph, had a story worth telling. He challenged us to find the story and share it. He challenges us still. For it is apparent in the ever growing pages of this book that, with loving reflection, his family, friends, colleagues, and students recognize that his is a story worth telling, a life worthy of imitation. He made a difference. He changed the world. He continues to challenge us to change it too.
Former journalism, literature, and college prep vocabulary student of Mr. Wessling's at TMP-Marian,
Mary (Pfannenstiel) Poulson
September 20, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I was deeply saddened to hear of David's death from my family over the weekend. I have no doubt his legacy will continue to live on, in all the lives he so eloquently touched. As you and I went through our school years together, we slowly grew into the women we are today. David always seemed to have a strong sense of self-direction and maturity early on. Michelle, you are an incredibly strong woman. May your strength and God's love for you and David guide you through the days and months ahead.
On behalf of your classmates from Marian High, Class of 1975, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Patrick Scofield
September 20, 2006
It hurts when you find out that the one who pushed you to do better in your life died. However, the pain of diving into the ocean with a sevred limb is when you find out that said person died while you were four states away living life to it's fullest. I guess i should be happy because that is what Mr. Wessling wanted for all of us and so i hold his death with much grief. He truely did "change the world for the better" just by being there and telling us with that same corny grin every time. He will be missed and loved for years to come by all.
Amanda Beyers, BCHS 1996
September 20, 2006
Mr. Wessling taught me many things. The two most important were the proper way to shake someone's hand, and that, as a girl, I still had any opportunity I wanted. He encouraged my interest in engineering and other sciences, and I think it's because of that I had the strength to enter that field. I wish that every child could have such an amazing person as a part of their education.
Cheryl Frank
September 20, 2006
Michelle:
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I was so saddened to hear the news of David's passing. Stay strong and remember that we are all here for you.
Sonya Shrum
September 20, 2006
Mrs. Wessling:
I have never met either you or Mr. Wessling, but after reading some of the messages, I cannot help but write and tell you how thankful I am and how much better the world would be if we had many more caring people like him. What a blessing that he was a godly example and good influence to so many students. With my sincere sympathy and prayers that God will bless you with comfort, strength, and peace,
Debbie Stivers
September 20, 2006
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Ruth (Petsch) Klingler
Raymond Klingler
Debbie (Klingler) Stivers
Kevin Holloway
September 20, 2006
Like stars in the heavens, those that burn the brightest consume themselves the most quickly.
David, your light shone much too briefly, but we will be forever grateful that we were able to bask in it, if even for a season.
Tim Schmidt
September 20, 2006
As one who had the honor of studying under Mr. Wessling during my years at Thomas More Prep in the 80's, I found myself hesitant when attempting to describe my feelings of profound sadness at hearing of his untimely passing. And as I reflected on the daily discussions held during our time together, I kept coming back to one of Mr. Wessling's favorite retorts to our attempts to derail any meaningful discussion - "don't wallow in your regrettable ignorance". I had allowed my inability - or ignorance - to put into words just how unique Mr. Wessling was to impact the very act of sharing how important he was to so many of us. He taught us all to strive for more than we believed was attainable, because it is ourselves rather than someone or something else that most often limit us. And just reading this guest book shows how large of an effect he has had on this earth. As long as one of the many touched during Mr. Wessling's short time here continues in his stead, he will be with us in spirit. Michelle, please accept my most sincere condolences.
Jacob Gatschet
September 19, 2006
Dave taught me freshman and junior English at TMP in the late 70s and early 80s, and also coached cross country my junior year. As to the latter, I remember with appreciation and admiration how his enthusiasm and encouragement were directed at everyone on the team, not just the better runners. In class, I remember his competence, energy, and palpable desire that we students
Ralph Teran
September 19, 2006
Dear Michelle:
So much has been shared about this wonderful and unique man who graced us all with his "I'm Third Attitude" of God First, Others Second, I'm Third. All I can say is that I was touched by his love, his humanity, his humor, his lack of pretention, his great intellect, and big heart. David was a big man physically, but big in life - period. He touched us deeply, we feel a big hole.
May God's love touch you, keep you, and comfort you. May we all love deeper for knowning David and remember him by seeking to give as he gave.
In Christ's love,
Shawn Garner
September 19, 2006
"Change the world for the better", that was Mr. Wessling. He touched the lives of my daughter Jessica, Class of 02, Russell, Class of 06, and Joshua, Class of 10. This man constantly told my daughter about reaching higher, he always wanted his students to do their best, for this I as a parent will always be thankful. This world was definitley changed for the better just by having Mr. Wessling be a part of our lives. Thank you Mr Wessling for everything until we meet again. Michelle may God bless you and keep you during your time of sorrow.
Anonymous
September 19, 2006
Mr. Wessling will always be ten feet tall to me.
Brittany Albright
September 19, 2006
I am senior at Heights High School, and Mr Wessling changed my life. He wrote the best recommedation letter's. He touched my heart and I thank God for sending his angel in my life. My thoughts and prayers go out to Mr. Wessling and his family.
Renee '84 and Jerry '82 Michaud
September 19, 2006
Dear Michelle,
It is with great sorrow and sadness that we learned of Dave's passing. What a huge man in our eyes... from sitting in the front row of his classroom when he would pop his foot upon my desk to continue whichever piece of literature was up for the day, to congratulating us anytime we used a word with more than 2 or 3 syllables... and into life beyond. You both have made such a deep impression on us and upon so many others...thank you for all that the two of you have given and shared. May God continue to comfort you and surround you with His grace. You are in our prayers, with love.
Samantha Pulis, Class 2005
September 19, 2006
Mr. Wessling was wonderful man. He had room in his heart for everyone he met. I also had room in my heart for him. He was kind, generous and loving. He was a very unique principal because he cared deeply for his students. He took the time to learn each and everyone of his students names. Because of Mr. Wessling, every student that has met him will go on to "Change the world for the better".
Shasta Bush
September 19, 2006
Mr.wessling was my priciple at heights high school, my freshmen year. He was a great man, who had helped me become more intrested in school. I will always greatly appriate him.
Virginia Tran
September 19, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I am sorry for your lost. It was the summer of my junior year when I attended Anytown. Towards the end of that summer, three Anytown students and I went around and fundraised to make money for Anytown scholarships. When we were told that the Wesslings will match our collection, we decided to do everything in our power to achieve our goal. I thank you and Mr. Wessling for motivating kids in the community. Mr. Wessling had a very strong positive impact on the people around him. He will be greatly missed.
Sarah Middleton
September 19, 2006
I've never met a man quite like Mr. Wessling. He was the very first person ever to cross through a crowd of people just to say hello to the "invisible" one. He encouraged me where no one else did--where most even doubted more than I did. If it weren't for Mr. Wessling, I wouldn't be leaving in two weeks to attend art school. I wouldn't be smiling every day, thinking about how many ways I can change the world. He changed MY world. Made the one difference that might have led to my own death, I think...
I remember at the Magnet project displays, I was looking for my younger brother, who is also named David. Mr. Wessling thought I was calling for him--It was so funny, him thinking that a senior (at the time) was calling him by his first name. It was he who informed me, a Science major, that I had won first prize in the sophomore art competition. I don't think I'll ever forget what he told me. That I had talent, and that I shouldn't waste it on other things.
Life's hard, but this is a time to fight harder--to prove Mr. Wessling's legacy had more bearing than even he might have anticipated.
Sarah Beninger (NEM class of 2002)
September 18, 2006
I think when your young and in high school one tends to take for granted the teachers, counselors, coaches, and various influences in your life at that time. But as you get older you look back and can really appreciate how special some of those teachers were. Mr. Wessling was one of those influences that I will never forget. He was always a warm presence in the halls. Mr. Wessling had a spirit about him that just couldn’t be matched. He showed his love for his students by his actions. Since NEM had no sports teams I played sports at Southeast. Several times I would see Mr. Wessling at my games cheering me on. I look back on that and am just amazed. That takes someone really special. Just by looking back and thinking about all he did he is still teaching me.
Thank you Mr. Wessling.
Judy Iseman
September 18, 2006
Dear Michelle,
It has been difficult finding the words that we wanted to say to you and indeed we can only repeat the many wonderful things that have been said about him. Six of our children were at Bishop Carroll under his watch and we all remember him as a kind, decent, and caring man. Our son, Mike, asked him for a letter of recommendation when he was applying to Dental School and David complied with a most thoughtful and complimentary letter. He was truly a one of a kind person and we are so sorry we will no longer be able to shake his hand. Please accept our heartfelt sympathies.
Judy and Paul Iseman
Wichita, Kansas
Janet and Marty McCormack
September 18, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I have been trying to figure out the words to use to express our feelings to you about David's passing. Then when I read the many comments from his former students I knew exactly what to say.
You may remember when David left Carroll Janet and I sent him a thank you letter for all he had done for our kids. In that note we mentioned the many times he had been there prodding Brad along and we repeatedly said "And there was that principal". David even called and thanked us for that particular sentiment. After reading the many tributes in this guest book I can see that Brad was not the only one who got the Wessling treatment. The same message comes through in all of them:"There was that Principal" or, "There was that Assistant Principal", or "There was that teacher". David was many things to many people but he was always there, especially for the kids.
Janet and I thank God for that and for all David did for both Brad and Meghan. Please know that you and David both are in our prayers and thoughts at this time. God bless you both. Janet and Marty McCormack
Brittney Davis
September 18, 2006
I am senior at Heights High School, and Mr Wessling changed my life. He believed in me and all that I could do. He was always there whenever I needed to talk. He wrote the best recommedation letters and sang the craziest songs. He always had some different food that he was excited to tell us about. I knew that he would always have change and he would always give me praise even when my day was going bad. He touched my heart and I thank God for sending his angel in my life even for that short time.
Thank You GOD
GOD Bless his family!!
he will be remember and missed!!
Tom and Marjorie Hartman
September 18, 2006
Dear Michelle,
How we treasure the love and friendship you and David have extended to us. It is our belief that David's life is like a Mosaic--the many pieces are now all in place and our Heavenly Father is saying, "Well done, good and faithful servant"! We love you and we are here for you.
Tom and Marjorie Hartman
Dorothy & Jason Kinchion
September 18, 2006
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jim Costigan TMP Class of 83
September 18, 2006
Michelle,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at the truly tragic time. It has been a long time since I cryed at the passing of someone I have not seen in 10 years, but this news brought tears to my eyes. Mr. Westling was a teacher unlike any other I experinced in my eductaion, he pounded the love of literature and life into his classes, a gift is still paying all of us. You are in my prayers.
Erin Hall
September 18, 2006
Michelle,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Mr. Wessling was a great man and will be deeply missed.
Douglas Frigon (TMP 80)
September 18, 2006
Mr. Wessling led his students by example; taking on every endeavor with passion and fire. In the late 70's, as Thomas More Prep's English teacher he would work himself up into a sweaty frenzy pushing us to read our Shakespeare with more enthusiasm. His wife to be, Michelle, worked in an office next door to his classroom where I'm certain she heard him yelling at us to put more gusto into our performances. In 1978 he (somewhat reluctantly) became TMP's cross-country coach which, at the time, was a sport he knew little about. Shortly thereafter he was dissecting the team's training schedule and talking strategy and conditioning with his runners. He led the team in his first year of coaching to a 2nd place finish at State and a 3rd place the following year. The point being, Mr. Wessling didn’t half-way do anything; he dedicated himself wholly to whatever mountain he had to climb and he inspired all of us who were along for the ride.
Patrick Stang, M.D.
September 18, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I'll always remeber David, the tallest teacher I ever had, leaning over the podium giving a classic lecture and inspiring us to take English seriously - he inspired my lifelong love of vocabulary and showed me how it is the basis of a great education - something I've passed on to my son. He'll be greatly missed -- take care.
Nathan Lee
September 18, 2006
David Wessling, Wow!, what images that name invokes. The recent news of his passing has my passions aflutter, my sympathies in high gear. I just now received an email from my friend, Andrew (a devotee of the Wessling Legacy, to be sure) and thought it appropriate to share some memories of the mentor, "the giant of literature", and the kind man in David Wessling.
"The Bells", by Edgar Allan Poe, I can guarantee you that no one in my class can forget Mr. Wessling's PROLONGED expose into alliteration and/or any such stylistic device, simply because of the way that the man could and did teach it. He lingered beyond the point of ridiculousness upon each successive "BELLS!!!" At just at the point of the lecture that any sane student would think "this guy has GOT to be at the end of this explanation of these darn bells, Mr. Wessling would boom out again....."BELLS!!!" It has been 25 years and I can remember it as if yesterday.
The man was huge, both in body and spirit. As he would lean across the room, one foot precariously upon a footstool (poker-straight faced the whole time, mind you) and not missing a word of Poe's poem, we were on the brink of total comedic collapse. Not a one of us left the room without laughing out loud at the teaching genius just shown to us. But we all made sure the next class knew what was in store!! He was a treat to hear in lecture, his tests were challenging, his discipline strict to the core. But, I know that he was missed as he moved on to his position in Wichita.
Then (and I don't know why I have to relate this) was his athletic prowess. During the annual student-teacher games, the faculty would attempt, feebly, to beat the varsity student basketball team. But everyone knew that Mr. Wessling was going to dominate. Of course the strategy was "dish it to Wessling and he will knock down the 20-footer", which he did without fail.
He was a great man to know and admire. I had hoped to run into him someday at a reunion. Now, I will have to settle for some fond remembrances. Sometimes it takes 25 years or so to realize some things. Better late than never, I suppose. Rest in Peace, Mr. Wessling. Nathan Lee, TMP-MHS, 1985
September 17, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I am deeply saddened by the death of your husband. I had Mr. Wessling for English teacher in my junior and senior year at TMP. He has always been a lasting memory of my high school years. His lectors were amazing and thinking back, they were like chapters in a book; a book of life. Some of his lectors were the following: "High Thoughts", One Year I've didn’t have to File a Tax Return", and "Research Can Stump a College Professor". In the past 24 years, I still recall his teachings and can still be applied to this day: Personality, Observation, and Research. Mr. Wessling will continually be remembered: My Dedicated and Loyal English Teacher.
Michael S. Ewert
Chief Master at Arms, USN
Fort Suse, Iraq
TMP Class of ‘83
Jeff Colyer
September 17, 2006
Dear Michelle,
One of my fondest memories of homework and TMP was one of Dave's homework assignments in 1977. The assignment was to write an essay about the creation of the Terrific Ocean as opposed to the Pacific Ocean. He made us rewrite it when he thought we weren't creative or funny enough. Finally got it right even though he had lots of red marks on it. He insisted we get it right and do our best.
Thank you for sharing him with me. He made a difference in my life.
thanks
Jeff Colyer
Pat Frost
September 17, 2006
Dear Michelle, my brother, Roger, was Dave's best friend, and I have known Dave since he was probably about 13. I laughed at their antics and their humor, and I enjoyed their presence. I am saddened by his death, and I pray that the Lord, who I know has gathered Dave gently to His care, will also send blessing and healing to you and to all who loved and knew Dave.
Brenda Dechant
September 17, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I had Mr. Wessling for English one year and school was very hard for me and he made sure that I understood everything. I especially remember one time I was in the hospital having my tonsils removed and missed a lot of school, he made sure I received my homework and that I understood it. I will never forget all of his help and compassion he had for teaching. He left a great impact on me that short time I had him in class. My prayers are with you and your family and I know that he is another "Angel in Heaven".
Sincerely,
Brenda (Girvan) Dechant TMP Class of '85.
Monica Simmons
September 17, 2006
Mrs. Wessling,
I am sorry about your husbands death. I know that he was a very good man, I loved Mr. Wessling alot. I can remember that he purposly gave me the wrong amount of change and when I gave him the extra two dollars back, he smiled and called me to his office. When I reached his office later that day he gave me a piece of candy and then told me that I was a good person for being honest. It may not seem like much but no other teachers do things for students like that and it made me really feel like I had accomplished something that day. He will be missed. -Monica:)(smile face)
Joni Vogt
September 17, 2006
I didn't know him well but his friendliness,strong hand-shake, knowing my name & who my son was that makes me feel like I did! He will be deeply missed by all who knew him. My prayers are with you @ this time of great loss.
Joyce Dinges
September 17, 2006
Dear Michelle,
I want to offer my deepest sympathy at your loss. I went to school with Dave and have known both of you for a long time. Dave was a wonderful person. I enjoyed seeing both of you when you came home to visit your mom or came to the TMP events. My prayers are with you.
Joyce Dinges
Jan Petersen
September 17, 2006
David Wessling was a great man who had a huge heart. At Heights High School, he was my ally and my friend. We teamed together to work with many struggling students. David had a heart for our students with disabilities. He encouraged students to pursue their dreams and goals and to reach for something greater. As a leader, he was willing to embrace multiple points of view; to change the way he did things if it was needed; and to quickly apologize if he had been in the wrong. He took the time to listen. He encouraged me to be politically active and to be an advocate for education. He demonstrated care and passion for life in my every interaction with him. He was brilliant and humble and quirky and fun. My heart aches for the loss of a wonderful human being.
Adrian Blount
September 17, 2006
Of course Mr.Wessling will always be remembered for making change but he should also be remembered for his kindness and encouragement. He actually gave me the oppurtunity to go to N.E. magnet after I didn't get accpted the first time. He always knew the right things to say and he will truly be missed.
Patricia Bird
September 17, 2006
Our condolences go to David's family. Our daughter Devona attended NEM while he was Vice Principal and he amazed me because he always knew we belonged to Devona, he was so friendly and made you feel at home from the very beginning. She was my first to enter high school and we had homeschooled her most of the previous years. It was somewhat overwhelming, but Mr. Wessling was always there to greet us and knew who we were. I believe he touched a great many lives, in ways he does not know. We send our deepest regret in your loss, Michelle. Tricia and Mark Bird & Devona (NEM 2004)
Tammy (Haas) Gipson, TMP class of 84
September 17, 2006
As I reflect on Mr. Wessling, it made recall Sept. 13th. That was the feast date of St. John Chrysostom the day Mr. Wessling died. It made me remember what I read to my students in class that day in the "Today's Catholic Fun Fact" book. It was a little story about why the people of that day gave St. John the nickname Chrysotom, because it meant Golden-tongued. Whenever he spoke it was so golden that no matter who was listening they just could not stop. It even mentioned do you know a pastor, teacher, or friend that when they speak they just hold your attention so long an have such amazing things to say they are "Golden Tongued"? Well, then it said to give them the nickname Chrysostom. Mr. David Chrysostom Wessling, thank you for all you taught us in those classes at TMP especially making us not "grovel in our irregretable ignorance" and realizing there is more in life than
"2 kids, 2 cars, a mortgage, a barbecue pit in the suburbs!" May you rest in peace. AMEN
Courtney (Rader) Jaynes (BCCHS)
September 17, 2006
I have found myself chuckling several times reading through others
memories of Mr. Wessling- he truly touched so many spirits and taught
so many lessons. May God bless and grant us all strength as we mourn his physical loss. You were a king among educators!
David always had a smile.
September 17, 2006
LouAnn Gottschalk, TMP-M '86
September 17, 2006
My heart breaks at the thought of Dave Wessling's passing. So much of who I am as a teacher is because of his influence. What an incredible mentor and human being! God bless!
Amy Weinrick (Deckert) NEM 2000
September 17, 2006
Anyone who reads this guest book can see what a wonderful man Mr Wessling really was, I am astounded at his passing and I send my deepest condolences to all of his family and friends. All of us had so much fun with him, he was always happy and also lifting us students up when we were down. He made many positive changes at NEM, my memories of him will always be with me!! My heart, thoughts and prayers are with all of the family and friends.
Colette (Hutchison)Carrasco
September 17, 2006
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Matthew Czechowski
September 17, 2006
I knew Mr. Wessling for only a single year, while he was assistant principal at Northeast. He was all anyone could ask for, and will be sorely missed.
Steve Barrett
September 16, 2006
Michelle,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Mr. Wessling was my English and Literature teacher at TMP. He was one of the great teachers I had at TMP. He not only challenged us but made his classes fun and interesting with his great sense of humor. He really cared for us "borders" and will be truely missed. Steve Barrett, TMP Class of 1980
Jane & Bob Knight
September 16, 2006
Dear Michelle,
We are shocked and saddened to learn of David's passing. I mentored a student for seven years and during his freshman year at Heights, Bob and I did it together. David was always so helpful by leaving his office unlocked so we could meet in there and by calling periodically whenever there was a change in this young man's attendance or situation. If this young man didn't show up at our appointed time, David would find him for us. We saw first hand how he reached out to the students between classes and in the lunch room. We were amazed at his compassion and determination to make sure these kids felt important. He cared so much; he was a rare and remarkable administrator. He touched so many lives in such a positive way and will be missed by all who knew him.
You are in our prayers in these difficult days as we send our deepest sympathy.
Mark Shultz
September 16, 2006
David Wessling was one of the first administrators I met when I first got to Heights. He was always there to give me advise when I was having troubles with classes. I will always remember many of the stories he shared with me to help me get through my first year of teaching. He was more than just an administrator; he was always out there teaching and helping out everybody.
Carmella Cruse
September 16, 2006
Michelle
My soul sister and to David my soul brother, you both have always had a place in my heart. Years ago when we were so elegantly teaching Diversity to our young adults we were also becoming closer as a friend and into a family each and every year. I pray for peace for Michelle and David and all of the lives that were touched by such a blessed man of GOD. While David was on this earth he touched so many lives, and gave back to his community in several different and successful avenues that some of us would never imagine. He lived his life for his wife and for young adults and for his love of GOD. He will always have a place in all of our hearts. Peace to all and David rest in peace my brother.
Wanda Clark
September 16, 2006
Words cannot express the sadness thats comes with such a loss. I live next door to David and Michelle and could not ask for any better people. David loved children so, everytime my grand kids where out in the yard he always talked with them, they would sit on his porch with him. He always had a question or a quiz for the school age kids, always sharing a little bit of learning with them. He will be greatly missed. Michelle you are in our prayers. Pete and Wanda
Jo Ann Hornung Temaat
September 16, 2006
My dear Michelle,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It deeply saddens me and I so wish there was something I could do to make it better. My daughter Julie Hornung was a student in the 90's under your husband and she shares your loss. I did miss you both as Eucharistic ministers at St Francis. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Teresa (Herman) Selensky '85
September 16, 2006
Michelle, I have tried to submit my condolences to you three different times, and each time what I write has been cut off in the middle. If it happens again, please accept my apologies for that, and know that I am praying for you during this most difficult time. Mr. Wessling was one of my teachers at TMP-MHS in the 80's. As a freshman, I had heard so much about this man with the deep, booming voice tolling, "The Bells," and talking of the "waxing and the waning" of the moon. I was nervous about being in his class. No need to be nervous! I learned so much from him in English Comp, Vocabulary, and American Lit! He once called on me to "share my knowledge with the rest of the class" when he could tell that I knew an answer but was afraid to say anything. He would not let up until I answered "loudly!" I was intimidated by the guys in the class, and I think he knew it. He wanted me to become more confident in myself. He expected more from us in his High School English Composition class than I recall any college professor I had ever expecting from me. When classmates would complain about writing papers, I would say, "You think this is HARD?! You should see what we wrote in Mr. Wessling's class in high school!!" I'm so glad he taught the way he did, and that he was the man that he was. He helped me to strive to be a good writer, nurtured an already growing love of literature, and truly gave me a deep appreciation for the written AND spoken word. My only regret, is that I never told him so. So.....Mr. Wessling, THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! And may God open His loving arms and welcome you home.
S.E. Corman
September 16, 2006
Like the great English writer G.K Chesterton, Dave was a giant of a man in heart and body. He was one of the kindest people I have ever known. One of my fondest memories of him at Heights was his singing MTA by the Kingston Trio at the top of his lungs. I first met Dave in Dr. Sam Hamilton's theology classes at Fort Hays in 1972. These classes always met at 7:30 in the morning. I remember him thundering into class like he had been up for hours, while we groundlings in the back were barely conscious. He always sat right in front which, given his size, always obscured the blackboard. He was hard to miss.
In these last three years at Heights, we often talked about the wild and wooly undergraduate days of the 60's and 70's. Dave, it was an honor to be your colleague and friend. May our Lord Jesus Christ wipe away your every tear and cover you with his great love, and may our Lord's perfect peace be with you always. Your friend, ED.
James Engel
September 16, 2006
What a difference one person can make!
Mr. Wessling touched so many lives over his career as an educator. He always wanted you to expand your horizons and for you to be all that you could be.
I hope that we all can touch as many lives as he did in such a profound way.
Ashley Abedini
September 16, 2006
I, like many of the students at Northeast this year, did not know Mr.Wessling very long. Fortunately for us, he was not the type of person that took long to get to know. You could talk to him for just a few minutes, and get a sense of what he was about. It was obvious from listening to him talk about his volunteer organizations that he felt passionately towards helping others. He tried to get to know each student at school, and our feedback. He would constantly ask, “How can WE improve this, what do YOU think about that?” Always trying to help where he could. He also thanked us numerous times for just being at school, ready to learn. He always wanted us to know how thankful he was, but we never had the chance to thank him.
Thank you Mr.Wessling for making more of an impact on this world than you will ever know.
Shirley & Jim Dinkel
September 16, 2006
We have been blest to know Dave since 1970 when he graduated from TMP-Marian. He continued to be a part of the school as a Resident Advisor and then later as a teacher and friend. Our children grew up with him on Scrabble games, slides of Michelle and Dave's trips, helping with farm work (hauling manure was one of his favorites cause it got him "down to earth"!), discussing educational problems and solutions, and enjoying ANYTHING served him (once I only had a baked potato to offer and with characteristic enthusiasm he exclaimed, "Wow! Great baked potato!") Dave had an amazing ability to adjust to every circumstance. He lived a simple life so his mind and energy could be focused on things that really mattered: Michelle, people, constructive ideas, faith, and most importantly: making the world a better place. God used Dave in a most magnificent way. He has inspired us to allow God to do the same in us.
Dave's legacy to us is that we realize we all matter. He empowered us, inspired us, and just plained loved us. It was completely a life of giving. We know that we follow in some mighty big footsteps. May you rest in peace, dearest friend. Love, The Dinkels
Kerri Weaver
September 16, 2006
David was my friend and co-worker at Heights. He would always say to me "care for the care-giver". That meant he wanted to make sure my day was going well. Sometimes he ate lunch in my office......always something yummy that Michelle had prepared for him. I will miss you my friend and will remember what you taught me.
Jackie Nguyen
September 16, 2006
Mr. Wessling was the best Principal I had by far. He did things that principals hadn't tried. He wanted to learn everybody's name. He suceeded with most but on occasion he would miss some. I remember how he was, a cooky person but in a good way. He would come into our math just to tell us hi or just to congratulate us on having a good class. And when we played a game that my teacher taught us he out beated the teacher, it was fun. Although I only knew Mr. Wessling for a short period, it was still nice to see him everyday. He would always stand at the door in the morning openning it just saying 'hi.' Although it wasn't a full conversation it just made us have a good begging to a day. He would always say that 'this is my dream job' when he was at the stage and all the students had his attention at Northeast. I'm happy that he got to live through it.
Kaci Frase
September 16, 2006
I am Kaci he was my principle at North East this year and he made a change in teh school he will be dearly missed and we all loved him, I know seeing the school after what happened is something nobody could ever imagine,it was very tragic what happened and nobody will ever forget him. "change the world for the better," he would always say and he has changed our lives forever
Ron Ruder
September 16, 2006
Michelle,
You have the deepest sympathy of the Ruder family in Frisco, TX.
Dave came into the lives of the Ruder's when St. Francis Seminary merged with SJMA in 1970-71. He immediately took to a family of four brothers and a sister who opened their hearts and souls to him. He was especially open to the new "little brothers" he had. Dave served as my confirmation sponsor. Needless to say, he was a very spiritual person even as a young adult. Many evenings were spent in various conversations with our family. He was a person seeking more depth out of life than the average person.
I was part of the very first class at TMP to break in Dave as a new English teacher. He made it through that first year and became a first rate teacher and later, a dynamic administrator. Dave, your moral compass never wavered. You stood the test of time. I am proud to have called you a friend and role model. May the grace of God welcome you into eternity.
Jeanne-Marie & The Neuroth Family
September 16, 2006
I was a parent volunteer at Heights for the 3 years that Mr.
Wesling was
at our building and every time I stepped foot inside that building he
had a
word of thanks to me for being there---for whatever reason it was. He
was a
very gracious man and a very rare person. I have been in the Wichita
public
school system since 1990 with my children and no other staff person had
ever been
so gracious. On Krispie Kreme donut days at Heights I would always make
sure
he had enough dollar bills because I knew the kids depended on him for
change.
His presence shall be missed immensely and heaven will be a better
place for
his being there--probably helping the teenagers get change for the pop
machines in the sky. He was so loved and will be so missed,
Jake Bernasky(Class of '81)
September 16, 2006
I was Mr. Wessling's favorite student of all time. The interest that he showed in me was a tremendous gift. Thank you Mr. Wessling.
Carolyn Bland
September 16, 2006
David was a warm, gentle soul who frequently read during Mass at Holy Savior. I will always remember his deep, reverent voice and the life that he brought to the word.
Bob Keefer
September 16, 2006
In my nearly 50 years as an educator, David Wessling was one of very few administrators that I could truly call a friend. He was always willing and eager just to chat. He was excited to share with me somthing he had just learned or discovered -- particularly if it involved numbers. He was one of those educators, not too many in number, who really cared about students and staff. He always had a kind word, a greeting, a smile, and an encouragement. A role model, he was, and one that people of every age whose lives he touched needed. Oh, if only his colleagues in education at every level could learn from his life examples of relationships. What a loss to our community.
September 16, 2006
Dear:Michelle
Thank you for letting us share David with Holy Savior. It was always refreshing to see both of you participate in Mass. He not only talk the talk but he walked the walk. The pages that I scanned through shows that he left an impact on every life he encountered in some way. Michelle may the peace of the Lord be with you and your family during this time of grief. Our families at Holy Savior will always be in prayer with you. God Bless.
The Johnsons
Roy, Raven, Shreda
Howard Pitler
September 16, 2006
David was the kimd of person who made me proud to say I am an educator. He will live on in the hearts and minds of those he touched, family, colleagues, and students. My heartfelt thoughts go to Michelle and all who David touched.
Kathleen (Angeline) Cepelka
September 16, 2006
The Thomas More Prep-Marian community of the 1980's was like an intense blaze of hard work, amazing relationships, and commitment to professional excellence; David Wessling was at the heart of that experience. He and I had kept in touch regularly over the years since he left TMP in 1986--sharing "principal stories," seeking counsel over school situations, or just reaching out to each other as educators committed to "changing the world." As I continue to teach future principals, I will also continue to use him as my greatest example of the BEST in our profession. He truly remains a Point of Light for us all!
Richard Moreno
September 16, 2006
“Buffoon, apropos”…a few words Dave Wessling taught me as a student of his at Thomas More Prep in the late 70’s. I too was shaped and influenced by his character. But I remember another side of Dave as a resident student.... he was a prayerful and faithful man. I remember Dave sitting quietly in chapel (reading/reflecting), attending night prayer with the resident students at TMP, celebrating mass with the students and Capuchin friars...Not only was Dave a great educator, he was a faithful giant.
Tom Palmer
September 16, 2006
Thursday was one of those days that a person receives one of those phone calls that makes you just put everything your doing on stand-still. It always just turns my stomach to hear that another good person has left us. Knowing Dave in high school and interacting with him again at Fort Hays (Intramural football, I always remember when we would get close to the goal line, we would just have Dave post up in the end zone and Rod Ruder would just throw the ball up to the big guy; it was usually an automatic 6. Then later on when seeing Dave at an educational conference I always enjoyed sharing situations with him because he would always have an interesting side on what might be the best way to handle or address a particular challege. Dave represented the educational community well. His top priorty was his students. Dave will be missed.
Matthew Sauer
September 16, 2006
Mr. Wessling was the principal of Bishop Carroll Catholic High School while I was a student their from the fall of 1991 through my graduation in the spring of 1995. He was someone who had a great influence on my life and on almost everyone I knew around me.
He was very big into making the students of great vocabularies. As I have gotten later into life I have come to understand the importance of this. He always said that people would make judgements about us based on the words we used. I am just now understanding what was really meant by this. Words are so important. They are what incarnate ideas. The are the living bodies of thought. It is because of Mr. Wessling that I will always refuse to let argent simply mean silver. Argent is something more heraldic than just meaning silver. It is a color on a royal coat of arms. Yes, it is the color silver on the coat of arms, but it is much more regal than that. In my later studies in philosophy I have also learned the importance of studying meaning of a word. Sex is something we are, not something we do in my mind. In your mind if gender is something we are and sex is something we do and we sit down to have a conversation we will never get anywhere. Words are very important.
Mr. Wessling was also very big on handshakes. How a person shook his hand told a lot about you. I can't convey in the written word the full effect of this lecture but I can tell you that when you shake hands it should be crotch to crotch and you should have no spaghetti noodles in your handshake.
I also remember at a get together of several students that Mr. Wessling was at thoroughly watching him handily defeat several students at ping pong without so much as breaking a sweat.
He was also a person that never forgot my name. Never for a second at our meetings in the years past graduation was their ever a moments hesitation for him to come forward and with a firm crotch to crotch handshake greet me. He was a man who cared. Never will I doubt that.
Lastly, I remember him at my high school graduation leaning over and saying something to Bishop Gerber. What he said I will probably never know, but it is not of importance. You see, at that point in my life I was being pursued by Thompson's great Hound of Heaven. I knew not were I was being chased to but I knew what I was running from at the time. The moment before they took the picture of me taking my diploma from the Bishop he said to me, "Maybe we will see you in the seminary in a year or two." I may never know what was said by Mr. Wessling but I do imagine that it was a direct result of whatever Mr. Wessling said to the Bishop as I was walking up the stairs. It also provided for a deer in the headlights look in the picture of me receiving my diploma from the Bishop.
My eventual giving in to the allowing myself to conform to God's will and be obedient to his calling has led me to where I am today. It was from answering that call that lead me to meet my wife; to have three daughters and another child on the way, one of whom wants to be a Carmelite much to her daddy's delight; teach confirmation classes at my parish and many other things.
In closing I would like to quote from Under the Mercy by Sheldon Vanauken. This point in the book is where Sheldon has learned that his dear friend C.S. Lewis has died.
"I did not have the heart to go to the funeral, even though I was, so to speak, an invited guest: he would not be there. But I did walk over to the Eastgate and stand there a few minutes, looking across the High and remembering, a decade past, his great shout from the other side: "Christians NEVER say goodbye!" And his grin. And I thanked God with gladness for the meeting we had had. It was a wonderful last meeting---"
So today, I do not say goodbye but merely, with hope and a prayer I say: "Until we meet again Mr. Wessling, Until we meet again."
Under the Mercy,
Matthew S.
Emily (Lyon) Decker
September 16, 2006
Mr. Wessling was a great man. I loved haveing him at Heights. He made going to school every day fun because you never knew if he was going to pop in to your math class and walk thro the class room and help who ever wasn't understanding the lesson. I'm glad that Mr. Wessling was in my life while I finished my years at Heights. Mr. Wessling helped me become a lil bit of who I am today. I'm glad that God gave him to us. God bless you and your family. I send my deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Lisa Bellecci-st.romain
September 15, 2006
Dear Ones,
So many have written such wonderful tributes to David. He deserves it all! I would like to add that I knew who David was for many years, but only this past year, in our lector prep scripture study meetings at Holy Savior, did I get to experience his unique style of interaction. How delightful to find in David a man with a soft heart, an active brain, a quirky humor that enjoyed playing with words, a strong sense of social justice, and a deep love of people. Every time I saw him, I was glad, because I knew I was in for a fun conversation. I will miss him very much. May God bless and keep us all in grace and peace.
Lisa
Dima
September 15, 2006
Mr. Wessling was a great person and even though we didnt really get to talk and get to know each other very well I'm still going to miss him. God Bless Him
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