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Barry Stubblefield Obituary

Stubblefield, Barry Richard died unexpectedly on January 21, 2005 after a freak accident while skiing at Mt. Waterman in Southern California. Barry was 48.
Barry is survived by so many who loved him so dearly; his beloved wife Gilda Rodriguez Stubblefield; their children, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie and Pierce; his parents, Richard and Colleen; his brothers, Rick and Greg; and his sisters, Denise, Maggie and Molly. Barry was born in Minneapolis and was raised in Southern California. He attended St. Francis De Sales grade school graduating in 1970. He attended Notre Dame High School in Sherman Oaks where he graduated in 1974. He graduated from UCLA in 1981. Barry met his wife Gilda while both were co-ed's at UCLA. They were married in 1981, Marina Del Rey. Barry had three passions in life: his family, skiing, and playing basketball. He was an outstanding family man and could always be found on weekends coaching his children's soccer teams or their youth basketball teams. When not coaching he spent his free time with his family and friends on the mountain skiing or snowboarding or at the lake camping and waterskiing. He loved to play basketball with his friends and brothers. Viewing will take place on Wednesday, January 26, from 6:00-9:00 PM with Rosary at 7:00 PM at Mission Hills Catholic Mortuary. Mass of Christian Burial will take place at Holy Cross Cemetery Chapel on January 27, 2005 at 9:30 AM with interment to follow. Mission Hills Catholic Mortuary (818)361-7387

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Published by Los Angeles Times on Jan. 25, 2005.

Memories and Condolences
for Barry Stubblefield

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149 Entries

Otha Stubblefield

January 9, 2022

I just saw this. I was thinking of him, today. He contacted me back in the '80s to see if we were related. I said probably not "obvious" reasons. He liked my response. I also worked with Gilda at the UCLA Registrar, but it was many, many years ago. I'm sorry for your loss. He was a good man.

Sharon Lloyd

July 22, 2020

Gilda, I am so sorry. I just thought of you and Barry in the middle of the night And looked you up and learned that sad news. My heart hurts for you Gilda.

Sharon Lloyd

Gilda

January 19, 2020

This Tuesday will mark 15 years of the our darkest, for the kids and for me. We miss you EVERYDAY and your death has impacted our lives in every way. We love you. I love you.

August 17, 2009

On this your 53rd birthday, we miss you daily and love you always! Gilda & Kids

March 17, 2009

May the blessing of the rain
be on you- the soft sweet rain.
May it fall upon your spirit so that all the little flowers may spring up and shed their sweetness on the air.
May the blessing of the great rains be on you, may they beat upon your spirit
and wash it fair and clean, and leave there many a shinning pool
where the blue of heaven shines,
and sometimes a star.- An Irish Blessing
Happy St.Patrick's Day Barry! Love Always, Gilda

December 24, 2008

Merry Christmas Baby!

November 20, 2008

I never thought I would turn 50 without you...we were to grow old together. Still missing you! Gilda

January 20, 2008

Three years have gone by. We have missed you every single day.
We love you and always will.
Gilda & the kids

October 10, 2007

"When you're dreaming with a broken heart
the waking up is the hardest part".....it was hard waking up today on our 26th Wedding Anniversary.

natalie

August 17, 2007

Dad,

happy birthday.

I miss you and always will.

love you!

August 17, 2007

Happy Birthday Bear!

May 5, 2007

I heard a poem the other day. One verse is all I need!

I carry your heart in my heart...
Gilda

January 22, 2007

731 days without you!!! I miss you and I miss us!!! And the kids miss their father. Always in our hearts and thoughts... G.

December 23, 2006

Bear,

Merry Christmas Baby!

I love you,
Gilda

Dean Lane

December 13, 2006

I had the privilege of knowing Barry, briefly. His passing was a time of change for all who knew him. I will always remember Barry for the great person he is!

AZ607

Gentry

October 26, 2006

Hey Pops

This is the first time i have written in here. I'm at Boston College, studying film, just like you thought i should do. I haven't changed too much, but then I guess I've changed a lot. You really held the family together, but we are trying to make due. I think Theta Xi is going to make me an honorary member, even though BC doesn't have a greek system. I will probably be initiated at MIT as a delta, but then later at UCLA as an alpha. I miss you everyday.

Gilda

October 10, 2006

At the 10th hour, on the 10th day, of the 10th month, we were married 25 years ago today! We were going to be waking up together in Paris on this day, instead I woke up alone. We imagined so many different ways of spending this day, but never alone. Who said the seconsd year is easier? I love you

Dan Garcia

September 19, 2006

Gilda,

I only found out about Barry two days ago when I received my copy of the latest "Unicorn" from Theta Xi. Needless to say I was shocked and deeply saddened by the news. Terry expained to me what had happened. Please accept my heartfelt condolences, late as they are. I was Barry's Pledge Director at UCLA, which means I got to teach him the Theta Xi history and values and a few filthy songs, which he enjoyed just like the rest of us. Barry was always a very enjoyable person to be around; fun loving, a bit sarcastic, dignified, with a touch of impishness. As a freshman he avoided the ignominy of being ceremoniously "pink bellied" and thrown in the pool by running around what seemed like the whole fraternity row and sneaking in the back door, jumping into the pool on his own.In a nutshell, he was what we at Theta Xi call "a well loved friend and brother". He will not be forgotten.

August 16, 2006

My Darling Barry,

I will think of you every hour of the day on your 50th Birthday tomorrow!

Love you always, Gilda

July 11, 2006

Barry,

I wish I could dream, but forgot to somehow-Lullaby by Matt Costa...Gilda

June 30, 2006

...And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.

The Beatles

May 4, 2006

Time seems to go on, our lives seem to move on, but with one menory of you, we become grounded. To know that you have something, to lose it, and to forever cherish that memory, this is what reminds us every day, that life, family, & friends is so much more important than all the other little stuff. It keeps us grounded. Barry's life was light. Whether it be a light in a tunnel, a light that guided us, a light that showed the path for us, or as simple as the light that lit up the basketball court. His life was light for all of us. So perhaps it's the light on the basketball court, or the scrabble board or the sunlight dancing off the snow on the mountain, or his eyes lighting by his smile, these are the things that keep us grounded in our hectic everyday lives. Smile and leave the light on.

Gilda

April 16, 2006

Dear Barry,

Today is Easter and I wanted to mention that we were together for 24 Easters, the first was on April 6th, 1980 and our last on April 11th, 2004. On our first Easter you came to my door with red-orange Tulips and you remembered to get me Tulips on many Easters after that. You also started a tradition with Natalie and Nikki of getting them

Easter bonnets. We treassure these memories and we will forever. Throughout the years we had fun putting together the baskets for our kids, although sometimes you fell asleep before we had finished. Still, in the morning you inspected the baskets and ,as always, you were both excited and proud. Easter is about the Resurrection of the Soul. You were a kind man with a big heart, worthy of this new life. I hope that when my candle goes out in this life, I too am found worthy of this resurrection, as well as, our children and their children, so as to be close to you again. Loving you always...

gilda

April 1, 2006

Today, Gentry turned 19!! Molly, Bryan, Carmen, Pepe & Oly came over to celebrate with us and to watch the Bruins beat LSU in the Final Four. You would have loved it!!! We keep pictures of you in every room...no matter where we are in the house...you are there with us! As for me, Train's song "Cab" tells how it is...the days are better but the nights are still so lonely! I miss you babe...

February 22, 2006

For Barry

About Tradition and Heritage

From Your Mother

Dear Barry - In reading so many of the beautiful poems, letters and notes in this guest book, it occured to me how many times you were described as being traditional, and I thought I would elaborate a little about your tradition and perhaps your heritage.

On your father's side, the Stubblefields have been in America since the late 1600's/early 1700's. They came to the new world from England with a land grant from King George. They fought for independence in the Revolutionary War and also fought in the Civil War and wherever else they were needed to forge this great land. They were one of the first families in Tennessee, having followed the trail across the Cumberland Pass into a vast new territory. The Empson's, also on your paternal side, arrived in this country around the 1870's and were early pioneers and settlers in South Dakota and Wisconsin, also having come from England.

The Barry family, whom you were named for, came to Ireland from the Normandy region in France, when William the Conquerer of England invaded Ireland in the 1100's. They stayed there and settled and helped rule the land and hence were known as the Norman Irish. All known for strong tradition. Your great-great grandfather Michael Barry emigrated to America from Cork County, Ireland in the 1840's, settling in the Illinois Territory until making their way to Minnesota in the 1860's. Your great-grandfather Garret Barry was one of the early pioneers and settlers in Minneapolis and owned and ran a hotel in downtown Minneapolis in the 1890's. Margaret Ryan Barry, your great-grandmother, who emigrated to America from County Tipperary, Ireland, about 1885 as a school teacher, started what was known then as a Settlement House for poor immigrants from some of the european countries to provide medical and dental care, along with English lessons and other necessities. They were both of strong and community minded stock, steeped in traditiion. Another family on your mothers' side is the Mealey/O'Malley clan who emigrated from County Mayo, Ireland in the 1840's. They are known as a clan because they are of the original Irish and probably Celtic. They also were early pioneers to Minnesota and your great-grandfather Michael Mealey began as a cop on the beat in downtown Minneapolis in the 1880's keeping the lumberjacks respectable and later rose to the rank of Chief of Police of Minneapolis by 1910. Again very strong and community minded families.

Although you were mostly raised in Southern California, you were raised by parents born and raised by pioneer families from the upper midwest, mainly from Minnesota who were mainly from England and Ireland, rather traditional countries. You had every reason to be traditional, as your family has been for generations.

We are very proud of you to have carried on our families heritage in such a magnificent manner.

Our love, always and proudly

Mom

Mom

February 19, 2006

A Tribute from your brother Rick

on January 21, 2005

In Memoriam

August 17, 1956 to January 21, 2005

Barry Richard Stubblefield was born one month premature on August 17, 1956 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He was the first son of Colleen Barry and Richard David Stubblefield, hence his name Barry Richard.

Barry was a very active child. He served the church as an alter boy and spent several years in the cub scouts. He played little league baseball, Pop Warner football, and CYO basketball. Barry's determination, resourcefulness, industriousness, work ethic, and perseverance became apparent through his desire to succeed athletically. For example, Barry wanted a new baseball glove so he could play little league. Barry raised the money by collecting newspapers from the neighborhood and recycling them to earn the money needed to buy his first glove.

Barry was always working; he had a paper route for the Valley Green Sheet from the time he was 8 years old until high school. To earn extra spending money Barry sold flowers on the corner of busy intersections on special occasions. Barry then got a job at the local tuxedo shop, a job that defined his social life during his late teens.

Barry excelled academically. He graduated from grade school with honors and graduated high school magna cum laude. He graduated from UCLA and later passed the CPA Exam.

During high school, Barry played both football snd basketball. Barry was undersized in high school and struggled to keep up in basketball and football, his sports of choice. Fulfilling his need to compete, Barry joined the debate team where he excelled. It was in high school that Barry learned to ski.

Community and fellowship were at the core of Barry. While a senior in high school Barry coached the Our Lady of Lourdes CYO basketball team to a championship. He was an active member of the Teen Club at Lourdes. While on a Teen Club ski trip his senior year of high school, Barry became very ill and was diagnosed with juvenile onset diabetes.

Barry was born to go to UCLA. He joined the Theta Xi Fraternity. YITB - "Yours in the Bonds". Barry took it to heart and made some of the strongest and most enduring friendships a man can have, Terry, Johnny, Joe, Alan, Dave, Mark, Blake and Bob. Barry met the love of his life, Gilda Rodriguez. Gilda became an integral part of Barry's fraternal life. They loved attending Bruin basketball and football games together and with friends. While at UCLA, Barry blossomed as a basketball player. Never bashful, Barry tried out for the UCLA basketball team as a walk-on his sophmore year and almost made the freshman team. Terry, Johnny and Barry became a dominant team on the basketball court.

Barry and Gilda married on October 10, 1981. They had five wonderful children together: Spencer (who passed away at 29 days from a malformed heart), Gentry, Brenden, Natalie and Pierce. Barry loved and honored Gilda's Cuban heritage. He was very close to Gilda's side of the family. Barry's love for Cuban cigars was related to his deep love for Gilda. The children were the center of Barry and Gilda's marriage and Barry's life. Barry continued to coach and teach the kids in all sports most recently coaching Pierce's soccer team into the playoffs. He was overjoyed last fall coaching Pierce and his two nephews, Kaven and Raymond, on the same 8 year olds basketball team. Barry was always happiest at one of his nieces or nephews birthday parties.

Barry had two brothers and three sisters who are all so happy to have known him, celebrated with him, cried with him, fought with him, and loved him.. Barry's warmth and presence will be deeply missed. Your spirit and guidance will always be with us.

Mom and Dad, thanks for Barry Richard.

We are at peace knowing Barry died on his mountain doing what he loved.

With love, your brother Rick

Gilda

February 7, 2006

Dear Barry,

My mom passed away today. After 6 years of fighting her breast cancer, she is at rest. I remember how when she was first diagnosed, you kept it from me so as not to spoil my trip to Europe with Noel in February of 2000. It was a loving and unselfish gesture! Who would have thought that when this day came, you would not be here to hold my hand? She actually had a smile on her face when they took her away. She must have been happy to see all of you in Heaven. She loved you like a son. Take care of her now. Love always, Gilda

Denise Mantonya

February 2, 2006

February, 2, 2006

Hi Barry,

Well, it has been just over a year since you left us. Molly, Bryan, Raymond, Maggie, Karl, Lea, Kaven, Greg, Nikki and I all went up the mountain on the 21st. I see why you loved the mountain and why you spent so much time up there. Mt. Waterman is God’s country, it is absolutely beautiful. I felt you there immediately when I got out of the car, I was able to say so long to you and I will see you again.

Take care of yourself and I will talk to you soon.

Love, Sis

January 31, 2006

This poem is for all those we know that have passed on and for all of us that miss them:

There are Angels all around us.

For some not so apparent, for others,

We know they are with us always.

They keep us safe and stay close with us.

They guide us through the rocky road

And smile when the sun shines on our face.

Although we may not see them,

Knowing they are watching over us

Puts a calm in the air,

Like a throw that sends the chill away.

God’s heavenly helpers,

We can’t see nor touch them

Yet they are all around us,

Listening, hoping and praying,

Just like us.

I thank heaven above everyday

For the Angels all around us.

We know who they are,

It’s just the sense of touch and sight

Have disappeared.

So put a gentile smile on your face

Your Angel is right there watching over you.

Your Angel will keep you safe tonight.

Say a Pray for all the Angels in your life,

They are there watching and guiding us,

And giving us strength to grasp each new day.

Thank Heaven for the Angels all around us.

Gilda

January 23, 2006

My Barry,

A year has passed... a year since my heart was broken in two...365 nights since you last slept in our bed. I built my life around you and now I've had to learn to live a new life..I liked my old one better! 12 months since your children watched a game with you...they miss you so much too! We gathered at the house (your family, mine, Joe, Johnny, Terry, Blake, Alan, Mark, Tommy and so many others) to celebrate your life and it was great!!...yet, we all knew the party was missing you! We will do this every year around the 21st because we love you and always will! Your wife

Mom and Dad Stubblefield

January 20, 2006

Our Dearest Barry,

We've been looking for you everywhere for a whole year. Where are you????

PHONE HOME E.T.!!!!!!

PHONE HOME !!!!!!!!

We miss you desperately - please phone home, we need you - but thanks for your help with Dad - he is doing much better - keep up the good work. We know you have important work to do where you now hang your hat, but please keep us in mind of important people to keep in contact with - we still have some clout.

Our love always and forever our darling - missing you always.

Your Very Own Mom & Dad.

Mom and Dad Stubblefield

January 20, 2006

For: Our Barry:

From: The Irish Historical Research Society

From Barry: A Name of Irish Origin,

Meaning: 'Spearlike'

He has a quiet peacefulness,

Knows the value of a kind word,

He is a winner in the race of life,

Given an inquiring and clever mind, enjoys having fun with friends

He has health, happiness and success. Understands the importance of a hug.

Our best to you our darling Barry, who gave us so very much, may your skies always be blue and our best always to you.

Our love always,

Mom and Dad

Carmen Fraga

January 20, 2006

Dear Barry,

I can't believe it's been a year since we lost you. So much has happened - first you, then Grace and now, my mom! It's been the worst year ever! Gilda and the kids miss more than ever. Please pray for them and the rest of us. Give Spencer, my dad and Grace a big hug and kiss for me. I know my mom will be with you soon but pray that she will not suffer very much. Miss and love you, big brother!

Colleen Stubblefield

January 18, 2006

Eulogy of Barry's Father-

January 27, 2005

48 years ago last August 17th, Colleen and I were blessed with our second child and first son. We named him Barry Richard after Colleen's maiden name and my first name. Barry was so anxious to get into this world he came a month early. He was born at St. Mary's Hospital in Minneapolis, Minnesota. The same hospital where his mother was born.

In his young and formative years he was very active having to experience everything that was available. From visiting his grandparents, aunts and uncles and cousins or playing at North Commons Park. He had to swing higher and jump further than any other child.

Barry started kindergarten in Arvada, Colorado and was a good student enjoying learning and making new friends and having to experience and try all the new avenues that were beginning to open up for him. In 1965 we moved from Colorado to Sherman Oaks, California. Barry finished his grade school education at St. Francis De Sales grade school. He participated in the CYO sports that were offered and was an altar server. It was during these years at St. Francis that Barry joined Pop Warner Football and Little League Baseball and one year of Babe Ruth Baseball. Barry entered Notre Dame High School with honors after graduating from St. Francis. It was at this time that we moved to Northridge, California. We joined Our Lady of Lourdes parish and Barry coached the Lourdes CYO Basketball to Championship.

During his years at Notre Dame he was on the Debate Team and also was selected to participate in Boys State in Sacramento. He graduated Magna Cum Laude from Notre Dame.

While Barry was at Notre Dame, each winter we rented a cabin at Lake Tahoe, and this is where Barry developed his passion for skiing.

After graduating from Notre Dame Barry entered UCLA and eventually joined Theta XI Fraternity He enjoyed this association and made many lifetime friends, of which many are here today. During his Junior year he was elected President of Theta XI. After serving a year as President, Barry decided he needed some relief, so dropped out of school and headed to Sparks, Nevada where he worked as a 21 dealer and crap dealer and could ski all winter long.

By the next year Barry returned to UCLA and graduated. He later passed the CPA exam.

Barry met Gilda while both were undergraduates at UCLA, Barry & Gilda were married on October 10, 1981. They had five children together. Spencer (who died after 29 days) Gentry, Brenden, Natalie and Pierce. The children were the center of Barry & Gilda's life. Barry continued coaching Basketball and soccer for his children. About 2 or 3years ago Barry called me and told me that I was the assistant coach with him for Gentry's basketball team. He was vintage Barry that he didn't ask if I would, he told me I would. I must say in all the years that I coached I had more fun that winter than any other. Last year Barry coached Pierce and 2 of his nephews on the same 8 year old basketball team. This year he coached Pierce's soccer team to an undefeated season.

In the 48 plus years that we had with Barry I never heard him say a bad word about anybody. He had friends all over as we can see from the outpouring of people here today. Barry lived life to the fullest and experienced everything he could.

I feel comforted knowing that Barry experienced one more day on his beloved mountain and that he had his last ski run.

Cheryl and Maria

January 11, 2006

It is almost a year now, Barry, although it seems like yesterday. We cannot go past Starbucks or the donut shop without remembering each and every time how often we would run into you and the kids. Your presence is still so strongly felt. We still cannot forget the shock of hearing about your death. We know you are at peace and we keep Gilda and the kids in our prayers and thoughts always.

Al Menez

December 25, 2005

Hey B, Your name still lingers in OpVista. We all miss you. Merry Christmas to you and to all of the Stubblefield family.

Gilda

December 24, 2005

Bear,

I miss you more than words can say! Christmans was our Holiday...We got together for the first time at the Registrar's Office Christmas party at the UCLA Rec Center in 1979. That Christmas, we were also inseparable at your Christmas Party at the house on little Santa Monica and you brought me over to your parent's house for Christmas dinner just a couple of days later. A year later at the house on Moore street, we announced our engagement during the annual Christmas party...your roommates were not at all surprised! For 25 years, Christmas was our Holiday! I am trying to make it special for the kids as we have every year! For me,however, Christmas will never be as sweet! I will continue to share it with you in my thoughts and tears and I will raise a glass to you until my very last Christmas! I love you

Tammy Day

December 23, 2005

Hi Barry,

As I read the entries in your guest book, I can't help but to think about how much everyone loves you and misses you so much. I know from personal experience how difficult it is to move into the holiday season without a loved one. I hope they can all take comfort in the fact that even though you are not physically here, your everlasting spirit will always be with them. I know you are smiling down from heaven with that twinkle in your eyes and that special smile on your face. You will always love them and they will always remember and love you. I wish you and all your loved ones a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Lea Breckner

December 22, 2005

Barry,

Well i didn't like Thanksgiving because all the girls were sick i wasn't. It was very sad that you weren't there. I wish you a MERRY CHRISTMAS and a HAPPY NEW YEAR! i miss you alot and i bet Nat does to!!

Lea

natalie stubblefield

December 15, 2005

hey daddy i am going to miss you a lot over the holidays!! i am doing really well in school! Well merry christmas and happy new year i love you always and forever!!!!!

love natalie

Mom Stubblefield

November 8, 2005

My Dear Barry -

You probably know, but Dad's had a tough battle this month with brain surgery. Give us all the help you can as he certainly needs it. We miss you desparately, so be sure to keep in touch - I'm sure you know how to better than we do.

We need you here - how about arranging at least a short visit.

Love you - Mom

natalie stubblefield

October 30, 2005

daddy,

today is kaven's halloween birthday party, I wish you could be here for this halloween to see me dress up as a clown. I am going to miss you and uncle greg dressing up this year but I'll try to have a fun halloween without you. I hope you, Abuelo,aunt grace, spencer and great granny have a great halloween together....

Don't eat TOOOOO much candy...

have fun!!

Love,

Natty

Gilda

October 10, 2005

It is our 24th Wedding Anniversary Barry and I miss you more than ever!

You will forever be my Groom and I forever your Bride!

Carmen Fraga

October 4, 2005

Barry,

Take care of Grace for us! Give her a big hug and kiss.

We all love you both so much!

Gilda

October 3, 2005

Bear,

My sister Grace died today. You know that because you were there to take her hand and guide her to heaven. I asked God to free her from her horrible pain and he answered my prayers. I miss you and I need you babe!

natalie stubblefield

October 2, 2005

daddy,

It's 7 days until your anniversary. I just wish that you could be here for your anniversary. It's gonna be hard without you. Aunt grace wishes you could be here to help her get her through the hard times she's going through right now.

Pierce is doing great in soccer and so am i......

I wish you could be here to coach him and see him play.

I miss you!!

Love your daughter,

Natty

Denise Mantonya

August 18, 2005

Hey Barry,

Mom, Lea and I went to see you for your b-day today. It was really the last place I wanted to spend with you on your 49th b-day. I so wanted to pick up the phone and just chat, Rick said I could not do that the long distance bill would be way to high! We left you some balloons and a pinwheel, I hope you enjoyed them.

I sure miss you, Happy Happy Birthday!

Love, Sis

maggie breckner

August 18, 2005

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BARRY!! LIFE ISN'T THE SAME WITHOUT BEING ABLE TO SEE YOUR SMILING FACE OR HEAR YOUR VOICE. I'M SURE YOUR PLAYING BASKETBALL UP THERE. I BET THEY HAD A COURT RESERVED FOR YOU AND NAMED IT "BARRY'S COURT". WE MISS YOU ALWAYS.

LOVE YOUR SISTER MAGGIE, KARL, LEA AND KAVEN

raymond haldy

August 17, 2005

Uncle Barry,

Happy Birthday. I miss you so much. I missed you at basketball this summer.I love you

Lea Breckner

August 17, 2005

Barry,

I went to your gravesite for my first time, after your funeral. So grandma and me picked out stuff for you. It was a sad moment for me even thought I didn’t say happy birthday to you at the gravesite.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BARRY!!

Lea

Carmen Fraga

August 17, 2005

Happy birthday, Barry!

We miss you terribly!

Pray for us and help us get through these rough times!

With love,

Carmen, Pepe and Olivia

Kate Kresse

August 17, 2005

Barry: I had a mass said for you today (8/17) in honor of your birthday. I love you and miss you! Please send your loving warmth to all those who miss you and cherish you today--your day--my beloved cousin Barry. To Gilda, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie and Pierce--you are each so precious.

To Aunt Colleen and Dick----miss you both, and you're in my prayers.

To my cousins and your families--a million hugs, and tons of love--Love, kate

gilda

August 16, 2005

Happy 49th Birthday Barry!

We will love you forever!

Lea Breckner

June 20, 2005

Uncle Barry,

Me and Kaven wish you a Happy Fathers Day. I will miss you and Kaven will too. Kaven will write to you soon but, I 'm write to you now. I love you so much

love,

Lea

Maggie Breckner

June 19, 2005

This is for Barry: A Father is unique, a father has strengths and weaknesses, all are equal, just some harder to face. A father is a hero, a father is a coach in more lessons than just sports, a father takes a smile and stretches it as far as the imagination will allow. So today it is Father's Day and we honor you, not just as a Father as an extraordinary person that each and everyone of us, is a better person because of you.

June 18, 2005

...And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make!

pierce stubblefield

June 18, 2005

Happy Father's Day dad. You were a great coach and I wish you could see me play in the All Star game today. I have been playing 1st base the whole season.

I wanted you as my basketball coach, but you can't. I love you dad.

love,

Pierce

natalie stubblefield

June 18, 2005

Dad,

Today is Father's Day and I already know it's gonna be hard. I've just started my basketball season and this coach is DIFFERENT! Basketball will never be the same, and neither will anything else.

I love you more than words could say. Happy Father's Day daddy.

I love you,

Natalie

Raymond Haldy

June 9, 2005

I miss my Uncle Barry.

He was a great basketball coach. When he coached Pierce, Kaven and me, we were a great team.

Everytime he wanted a hug he made me laugh.

He was one of my favorite uncle's.

gilda

June 4, 2005

Gentry graduated today...missed you terribly, but sensed your presence there! So many of the graduates you knew and they remembered you. How bitter-sweet these life events are without you! How unpredictable this journey has turned out to be...

gilda

May 14, 2005

Basketball try-outs, baseball games

So much to handle

I'm about to go insane!

It's been three and a half months

It may feel like an eternity or

It may feel like yesterday!

I miss your voice, your scent,

Your habits, your touch,

The familiarity which is for ever lost!

If Heaven exists and souls are alive

Help me, give me strength

Love me from afar!

Maggie Breckner

April 28, 2005

Barry was Kaven's God Father. Barry found such love in this, everything about it made him sparkle. This coming Sat, April 30th, Kaven is having his 1st Holy Communion. Barry loved this kind of stuff. He would have a smile from ear to ear. We have asked Gilda to step in, in Barry's Honor. Kaven has not lost a God Father he has gained a God Parent. As much as I look forward to my son's 1st Communion, I wish that my brother Barry was there. I know he will be there, looking down upon the entire ceremony, and his warmth and smile we will all feel in that church Sat morning. Once again we will miss you Barry, but we know that you are smiling for all of us.

Colleen Stubblefield

April 9, 2005

Our heartfelt thanks to all who share their thoughts and prayers for Barry with all of us in this Guest Book. It is like having conversations with all of you.

Our loving thanks,

Colleen and Dick Stubblefield

Mac Funk

April 9, 2005

To the Stubblefield family,

First of all, I think we are practically related. See, back where my family hails from, in central Illinois, the two main clans are the Funks and the Stubblefields. You go to the cemetery and virtually every other headstone is one family or the other. Barry and I joked about this many times. I'm sure there's been plenty of marriages between the two families...so I'm sure one way or another, we're all distant cousins.

Beyond that, I just want to say how sorry I was to hear of Barry's death. I was part of a squad of guys who played basketball with Barry every Tuesday morning for several years. We also got together once a year for a 2-on-2 tournament at the John Schauerman home in Palos Verdes. It was always great to see Barry there. We all had great times playing a lot of increasingly bad, rickety basketball (except for the younger generation, who were only getting better), sharing a few beers and a lot of food and laughs. I won't forget Barry's smile, his crinkly eyes, and his jump shot. All three were first rate.

I pray that your family is enduring his absence as best as you can. The same week Barry died, a young friend of mine was shot and killed on his 19th birthday, on the streets of south Los Angeles. We're all united in life, but sometimes we only realize it in death. I know that Barry's passing has helped us all to become more centered on the important things in life: our human connections, and the Divine spark that exists in each one of us.

Maxine Eckes

April 6, 2005

Dear Stubblefields:

A child of my childhood friend is also, in some way, my child. At a distance I have followed Barry's life, and something is gone from my life now, too. Colleen and Dick, you are in my thoughts and prayer - our faith tells us we will all be together again.

Love and peace,

Maxine

brenden stubblefield

April 2, 2005

hey dad gb turned 18 two days ago i wish you were there to see it. but im sure u were there non the less. he also got back from his 3 days ago. he had a good time but didt like villanova and he was accepted into boston collegeand terry is taking him in a week or two

Maggie breckner

March 16, 2005

Happy St. Patrick's Day, Barry!!

Bob McGee

March 7, 2005

To the Stubblefields,

Having known Barry for over 35 years, there is one aspect of his open and generous personality that always stood out for me and that was his genuine interest in what was going on in your life. With Barry, you knew he was not just being polite, but that he was really listening and and that he truly cared. To me, that was what Barry was all about - he was someone who honestly cared. It is wonderful to see that this has been passed on to Gentry, Natalie, Brenden and Pierce.

I did not see Barry often, but I will deeply miss our conversations, his great sense of humor and his sincerity.

All my love,

Bob

maggie breckner

March 7, 2005

This letter is addressed to Barry:

Somehow I know you are reading this. Life will never be the same without seeing your face or hearing your voice; knowing that you will not be at the next family event. I've signed this guest book a couple times now, but never really addressed you Barry. So this is for you, Barry: I will play scrabble in your honor even if I'm not good at it; I will instill in my children the love of sports and let them choose what is best for them; I will allow my children to experience life and enjoy every single moment; I will remember how blessed I am with family; Barry, I will remember you, your smile; your love of family and most of all I thank you for giving us your wife, Gilda and 4 wonderful kids, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie, & Pierce

Your with God now,

Peace is yours

your loving sister,

Maggie

Riaz Shah Gilani

March 4, 2005

Dear Gilda, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie and Pierce,

My heart and soul reach out to you all. And while no words will ever erase the pain of your loss, no day shall pass without being brightened by the memory of such a beautiful man.

Barry was my big-brother at Theta Xi. I loved him like a true brother. He looked out for me, encouraged me, enlightened me and illuminated my world with his smile, his joy for life and his friendship. Though we did not see eachother or speak very often, the echo of his voice will forever empower me, as it shall his family and friends.

"Without invitation, an appointment, an agenda;

Without welcome, warning, forgiveness or mercy;

Without malice, without meaning;

Without another second to spare;

It comes. And it goes. And it takes with it everything that was, everything that is, and everything that will ever be.

Without understanding, the gift that was given with no reason is taken back with less."

With love and my deepest sympathies,

Shah

Finnigan Mark

March 3, 2005

Dear Stubblefield Clan: I'd like to offer my sincere condolences after learning of Barry's sad and untimely passing. I have known Barry and his brothers since I was 10 years old, when we attended St. Francis De Sales elementary school and Notre Dame High School. Although I was better friends with Barry's brother Greg, I recall fondly when all three Stubblefield bros. came over for a poker game.

The most entertaining part of the evening wasn't the poker.. it was Barry constantly haranguing and yelling at Rick and Greg.. and them firing back.. a very amusing display of how close a family they are and of how Rick and Greg really looked up to their big brother.

Last time I saw Barry was about 7 years ago, when both our daughters attended the same pre-school in Valencia. When he found out that I also have four children, he offered some very valuable advice on his own experience raising four children, telling me that you can only really control three at any one given time! It was a very funny observation that I've kept with me all these years.

Very sad to learn of your family's terrible loss. I never got a chance to thank Barry for being an inspiration to me as a father, and I'm sure he touched many other people in the same way.

God Bless you all!

Sincerely, Mark Finnigan

Lily Stromberg

February 27, 2005

Almost every day I log onto this web site and read the newest message, it's an incredible way to remember Barry and is a real tribute to him and his life. I just read my Aunt Gilda's most recent post. Gilda I have to say, you are one of the strongest and most courageous woman I have ever had the honor of knowing. I can not even imagine the pain and solitude you feel; yet you rise above it and honor Barry with your strength. I just want you to know I truly respect you and am here if you ever need me.

gilda stubblefield

February 26, 2005

I want to let all of you who have signed Barry's guest book know how grateful my children and I are for all of the outpouring of love and for all of your prayers. We are doing what we need to , in order to

remain strong physically and emotionally. Though the kids miss their father terribly, and are desperate to share with him the events of the day, they find comfort and distraction in their many interests. As for me, January 21, 2005 feels like the last day of "the best years of my life". So please, don't feel like your calls, letters and E-mails are in any way intrusive, for they are the bridge which keep me from falling into an abyss. I love you all and I thank-you!

Colleen & Richard Stubblefield

February 24, 2005

We would like to express a very special thank you to the Day Family: Tammy, Ray, Andrew and Colleen for their thoughtfulness in extending this Guest Book for the coming year. We cherish your generosity.

Colleen and Richard Stubblefield and Family

Armando Pedroza

February 24, 2005

Gilda, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie and Pierce: I am so sorry for your loss. It is impossible for me to express my sorrow because it is impossible for me to know your pain. My wife Sheryl and my two daughters, Dani and Monica will continue to keep you in our prayers. My prayer for you is that you live the life that Barry wished for you all.

I couldn’t stop thinking about the 40-or-so Theta Xi brothers at the funeral who encircled Barry, shoulder-to-shoulder and sang a song that we had not sung in over 20 years. We could have rehearsed “Amici” for a month and still our voices would not have been as true. But somehow we all came together, somehow it all worked. Then I realized that in remembering and honoring your dad, he gave his Theta Xi brothers one last gift: he reminded us of our bond of friendship. He reminded us of the importance of keeping and guarding those friendships.

The words we sang that day, we must have sang a hundred times at Theta Xi, but the meaning was never clear to me until now:

“Amici”

Let us raise our voices gladly

With song from every man

Let no note be sounded sadly

At the gathering of the clan

For like brother to brother

We'll stand by one another

With love in all our bosoms

For our dear Theta Xi

We love our colors blue and white

We honor you tonight

Our strong bond can ne'er be broken,

Formed in Theta Xi.

Far surpassing wealth unspoken,

Seal'd by friendship's tie.

Amici usque ad aras,

Deep graven on each heart,

Shall be found unwav'ring true,

When we from life shall part.

AZ 753

Susan Early

February 24, 2005

To Everyone,

You are loved......I am so sorry this happened to Barry, with his heart of gold...please know that he was there for and touched the Early family in the best and the very saddest of times.....I won't forget.

God be with you all and we'll see Barry on the other side.

Love Susan Early

Sarah McIntosh

February 24, 2005

Dear Gilda,

Today is the last day to write in Barry's guest book and it is also my birthday. I just recieved the flowers you sent me, and they are beautiful. It makes me realize how lucky I am to have had you as my teacher. It is not often to come by such an inspiring and influential teacher during high school. You are definitely one of a kind. I thank God that he has granted me with your friendship and has given me the opportunity to get to know your family. I will always remember sitting with your family at all of the football games. Even though you and Barry did not have to invite me to your Thanksgiving dinner with your close friends, you did. I had so much fun that night. I honestly felt like I was part of your family. I got to sit next to Barry at dinner and listen to all the guys stories about UCLA. I will never forget that night. I am sad that I did not get to spend more time with Barry, but I am thankful for the moments I did share. There is not a moment that has gone by that I haven't thought about you guys. You are always in my heart and prayers. Gilda, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie, and Pierce I love you guys so much and I will always be here if you need me. Stay Strong. Love Sarah Mac

Chris and Rosalba Petrini AZ 739

February 23, 2005

Dearest Gilda and Family

Words can not express the deep sense of sorrow and loss we feel for you and the kids.

Those of us who knew Barry agree that he was "just one of those great guys who knew to be a good friend, you had to be good friend". He just has that quality about him that made all around comfortable and welcome.

I hope these brief genuine testomonials from his good friends bring a warm smile to your face, let his kids know what a unique guy he was and that Barry made a difference and had a positive impact in every life he touched. This is the true mark of a special person.

Our thoughts, prayers and love are with you and the kids at this difficult time.

Bob Westland AZ772

February 21, 2005

The Stubblefield family and my family crossed paths throughout the years starting with St. Francis de Sales(Barry trained my brother to become a altar boy), Notre Dame High School and UCLA.

My father was grateful that Barry's parents attended my mother's funeral in January 2004.

Barry was a wonderful influence to all the brothers at Theta Xi.He shared his friendship with all of us equally, and I am grateful that he took that one year sabatical in Reno/Tahoe because I was able to get to know him.

Gilda and family, I hope that the love and support has given you comfort, and I know that Barry is in all of hearts and he is watching over us from heaven.

Ann Walker

February 20, 2005

Hope and pray that you and your family will always remember what a great person shared his life with you. Continue to pray that you will take comfort that Barry will always remain in your hearts.

Denise Mantonya

February 17, 2005

If Tomorrow starts without me....

If tomorrow starts without me, and I'm not there to see,

If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me;

I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today,

While thinking of the many things, we didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me, As much as I love you,

And each time that you think of me, I know you'll miss me too;

But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand,

That an angel came and called my name, and took me by the hand,

And said my place was ready, in heaven far above,

And that I'd have to leave behind, all those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye,

For all my life, I'd always thought, I didn't want to die.

I had so much to live for, So much left yet to do,

It seemed almost impossible, that I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad,

I thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had.

If I could relive yesterday, just even for a while,

I'd say good-bye and kiss you, and maybe see you smile.

But then I fully realized, that this could never be,

For emptiness and memories, would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things I might miss come tomorrow,

I thought of you, and when I did, my heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through heaven's gates, I felt so much at home.

When God looked down and smiled at me, from His great golden throne,

He said, "This is eternity, and all I've promised you."

Today your life on earth is past, But here life starts anew.

I promise no tomorrow, but today will always last,

And since each day's the same way, there's no longing for the past.

You have been so faithful, so trusting and so true.

Though there were times you did some things, you knew you shouldn't do.

But you have been forgiven, and now at last you're free.

So won't you come and take my hand and share my life with me?

So when tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart.

For every time you think of me, I'm right here in your heart.

Denise Stubblefield Mantonya

brenden stubblefield

February 14, 2005

What a dream I had

Pressed in organdy

Clothed in crinoline

Of smoky burgundy

Softer than the rain

I wandered empty streets

Down past the shop displays

I heard cathedral bells

Tripping down the alleyways

As I walked on

And when you ran to me

Your cheeks flushed with the night

We walked on frosted fields

Of juniper and lamplight

I held your hand

And when I awoke

And felt you warm and near

I kissed your honey hair

With my grateful tears

Oh I love you girl

Oh I love you

Jeff Campbell

February 14, 2005

Barry was a big influence during my early college days. He helped me thru some of the stress you feel as a college freshman on a huge campus. He never discriminated when it came to comforting and helping people. As a matter of fact, he offered more help to those who really needed it. His big heart will live on forever. I'm so grateful to have known him. All my love and sympathy to Gilda and the family. Love, Jeff Campbell (AZ 702)

Mark Pasano AZ708

February 14, 2005

Gilda and the Stubblefield Family,

Words could never adequately express how Barry positively influenced the lives of so many. The best tribute I can point to is the vast number of people who knew and loved Barry that turned out to celebrate Barry's life. I am proud and fortunate to have known and loved Barry. He will be missed, but, thankfully, will live on in all of our hearts and memories.

Greg Garner

February 14, 2005

All organizations, including fraternities, have that handful of special individuals that rise to the top. They possess charisma, vision, empathy, commitment and loyalty. Brother Barry possessed all of these attributes and more. His presence and active participation clearly made an immeasurable impact on the resurgence and ensuing success of the Alpha Zeta Chapter of Theta Xi at UCLA. I will miss his competitive fire on the basketball court and his love for making others around him better. Gilda and family, I know that I speak for all Theta Xi's when conveying how badly we will miss Barry. Our prayers are with you.

Greg Garner

AZ 809

Eugene Putnam

February 14, 2005

Gilda & Family

I'm still in shock over the news of Barry's passing. While it has been at least 5 years since I'd seen Barry, it seems like just yesterday. He had that presence about him, be it on the basketball court, at a football game or just sitting around the fraternity telling stories. He was living proof that the best you can do in this world is make it better for someoneelse. Barry clearly did that for countless friends. We will all miss him. God bless you and your family.

Eugene Putnam & Family

Mike Shankman

February 13, 2005

Gilda and Family,

It's been too many years since I've seen or spoken with Barry, but I was deeply saddened to hear of his passing. I have many fond memories of him (Theta Xi, Advanced Accounting, etc.). He was a wonderful guy, and clearly, he was a wonderful husband, father, and friend as well. He profoundly touched the lives of many, he left the world a better place than he found it, and he will truly be missed.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

With Deepest Sympathy,

Mike Shankman

AZ743

Rick Telles

February 13, 2005

Gilda and Family,

We were deeply saddened by the news and our prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family. We are deeply sorry for your loss.

In college, barry was the bigger than life big brother who had a gusto for life that was admired by many. He will be missed.

Rick Telles AZ804

& Benita Marti

Mark Leverette

February 13, 2005

Barry took me to Mt. Waterman when I was a senior at UCLA. He introduced me to the mountain. I skied down the face, and knew where his passion for the mountain came from. I knew him as a brother in the bonds of Theta Xi. I knew him as a great business man. He is well remembered by all.

Jeff Graham

February 13, 2005

Gilda and Family –

Barry Stubblefield will be sorely missed by everyone who had a chance to know him!

From the 1st moment I met Barry at the Fraternity, he took me to be a friend – I new at that time I had met a special person.

At UCLA we had many good times together and he taught me many things. I always admired his positive attitude, leadership, enjoyed his friendship and loved his great humor. He was a tenacious competitor in everything (Basketball – he loved that game), and a great teacher to me (he regularly reminded me that it is tough to score if you don’t take a shot).

I felt (feel) very lucky to have attended Barry & Gilda’s lovely wedding. Over the last few years I only spoke with Barry once or twice a year – But I was so impressed with the way he honored and loved his family!

Our family’s prayers are with you - The Graham’s – Sacramento, Calif.

Jeff Graham (AZ 807), Theresa, Mitch & Lillie

Chuck, Kim, Travis & Trevor Fuller

February 13, 2005

There is an old German proverb that says, "The death of a friend is equivalent to the loss of a limb." There are really no words to describe the emptiness you feel inside with the parting of such a good man and friend. It is truly like losing a limb and Barry's passing diminishes us all. But I will tell you I am richer for knowing Barry and to have the privilege of calling him a friend.

I first met Barry over 20 years ago while attending UCLA. I had just pledged Theta Xi fraternity and thought I knew all the brothers in the house. One day, a new face started to frequent the house, one that all the older brothers gravitated to with warm regard and admiration.

I later learned who the new face was and that Barry had been a past president of the house and had taken time off from school. I am fortunate he did take that year off because it allowed me to get to know Barry.

Many friendships take time to develop and work to maintain. Barry was one of those unique individuals with an infectious personality that invites friendship and once obtained holds it dear and never relinquishes that bond.

Although our friendship was formed in college, Barry was able to renew that bond each time I saw him afterwards, even though it was sporadic. Barry's favorite stories during those times were about his family. With a cigar in one hand, a light in his eye and a smile upon his face, he would proudly recount the experiences of his family, but he always had time to also remind me of college and his gratitude for letting him borrow my car for his dates with Gilda. Truth be told, letting Barry borrow my car is a small expense for the friendship and loyalty Barry always invested in me and his friends.

A person is always measured by the friends he keeps and how well he keeps them. Toward that end, Barry always kept his friends close even if years passed since he last saw them. Barry was always genuinely happy to see you and interested in your well-being.

I will always remember my friend, Barry Stubblefield, the richest man I have known.

Jay Engle

February 13, 2005

Gilda and family,

We were deeply saddened to here of Barry's death. Getting to know him, yourself, and your family through our mutual friends within Theta Xi, it was easy to see just how special he was and all of you are.

I was able to attended the funeral services and wanted to say how special you and all of your family were for the euologies and thoughts / comments you shared about Barry. It was a beautiful service and based on the number of people in attendance, he will be deeply missed.

Sincerely, Jay Engle and family

Maggie & Karl Breckner

February 13, 2005

This letter is for Gilda, Gentry, Brenden, Natalie & Pierce:

If ever there was 5 people that brought inspiration to people, it would be you guys. The strength and character that you guys have, is wonderous. The ability to see good in all, no matter the circumstances, this is you guys. If only we could all be as strong as you. To love without any conditions, to see life in a different way, and to live life as though Barry did, makes a smile come across to those of us who are sadden by his loss.

Maggie Breckner

February 12, 2005

COACH BARRY

To Remember You Just Has

The Way We Knew You.

With Every Passing Moment

Your Smile Shone Through

The Vines of Life.

You Showed Us That Coaching

Was Just a Way

Of Letting Us Know

How To Be The Best That We Can Be.

You Embraced Everyone

With A Sense Of Family & Friendship

That With A Twinkle of Your Eye & Rubbing of Your Hands,

We All Learned to Love Life More because of You.

You Saw that through the Eyes Of A Child

Love Has No Limits,

Love is Kind.

And With This In Mind

You Gave Us Your Love

Without Limits, Without Conditions

Just Pure Love

For This, We Have Learned

What Love Truly Means.

Take Flight My Brother, My Friend

God Is With You Know.

You Are Now Our Angel

And Will Forever Be Watching Over All Of Us

gilda stubblefield

February 12, 2005

To My Dear and Loving Husband

- a poem by Anne Bradstreet

If ever two were one then surely we,

If ever man were loved by wife, then thee;

If ever wife were happy in a man, Compare with me,

ye women, if you can.

I prize thy love more than whole mines of gold

Or all the riches that East doth hold.

My love is such that rivers can not quench,

Nor aught but love from thee give recompense.

Thy love is such I can no way repay,

The heavens reward thee manifold, I pray.

Then while we live, in love let's so perservere

That when we live no more, we may live ever.

I love you Barry! I always will! Happy Valentine's Day...our fist apart in 25 years.

Nicole Stubblefield

February 11, 2005

A Poem to my Beloved Uncle and Godfather

I lost an uncle and I don't know why

it seems like time just passes right by

But I know with God's great will

though it has not hit me, still

he will feel our bond of love and watch us closely from above.

I remember how he laughed out loud

and when he did I felt so proud

he bought me gifts like Easter hats

and taught me how to swing a bat

How he rubbed his hands and yelled Woohoo

my love for him just grew and grew

I lost a godfather and I don't know why

It seems like time just passed right by

but I know with God's great will thought it has not hit me, still

he will feel our bond of love and watch us closely from above

I wish he was still here with us

standing here today

but instead for mourning for our dear friends death, he would want us all to play

The day has come for us to say good bye

we all love him forever and we know his soul won't die

I love you uncle Barry!!!

Mike & Crystal Henderson

February 10, 2005

Living is San Diego we had the opportunity to visit the Stubblefield clan a few times a year. We always looked forward to seeing everyone, catching up on old times, and watching the children grow up. Though we were saddened by the loss of Barry the funeral and reception after was a wonderful and uplifting. I met people from Barry's life that had great things to say about him. I never realized that he had made such an impact on so many over the years. He left a mark on the world and others that will never be forgotten. Thank you for being my cousin.

Patrick, Joni, Jennifer, Adam, Kristen and Megan Henderson

February 9, 2005

I write mainly for myself as Barry’s cousin, but also for my family as we extend our most sincere condolences to the entire Stubblefield family and all those that knew Barry. We may not have been able to see him as often as we would have liked to, but I truly enjoyed, and remember all the times we were able to share. I remember celebrating on New Years eve in 1968 by shaking cans of pop and spraying them in the kitchen while the parents were out, and how could I forget the icy swim in the pool that same visit. When on business in Cincinnati, Barry drove two hours out of his way just to spend a few hours with my family. Most of all, I’m glad we had the chance to see him recently at the family reunion in August of 2003. At the hotel, Barry and I spent hours talking and catching up on old times while the kids played down at the pool. These are all memories I will cherish forever.

To Aunt Colleen & Uncle Dick - How proud you must be of Barry and his success as businessman, husband, father and son.

Denise, Rick, Greg, Maggie & Molly - You were all very lucky to have had such a fun and selfless person for a brother.

Gilda, Brenden, Gentry, Pierce & Natalie - Barry was a very loving and devoted husband father and coach.

To all, I wish we could have been there for you. We will all miss Barry, and our thoughts are with you daily.