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1963
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2019
Matthew Arner Obituary
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for Matthew Arner
April 10, 2019
A good friend from high school days heard from her alumni network that Matt may have passed. I'm sorry to see it confirmed here.
I have not seen Matt in 30-35 years, so I do not have the perspective of others who knew him in adulthood as a husband, father, and co-worker. I did know him as a friend. We were childhood best friends from kindergarten thru sophomore year of High School. We were practically inseparable, and more than one teacher remarked that you never saw one of us without the other. In some ways I was a surrogate brother since Matt's nearest siblings were much older and mostly out of the house as he grew up. As such, I spent many hours in the Arner household and got to see their values firsthand. There was much to admire They were primarily a family of educators and good citizens in the community. Guided along by Mel and Rod, they held firm convictions about social responsibility and the need to look after those less fortunate among us. Humor was always in play and Rod never missed an opportunity to pass along a good joke or make a crack about the world around him (usually with Mel not quite catching his drift and asking him to explain why the rest of the room was chuckling). Matt absolutely absorbed all of this and was quick with his own sense of humor with his friends and in the classroom.
As far as I remember there was never a falling out between me and Matt We just developed different interests and gradually self-selected into different peer groups. Matt obviously drifted into the music path. Not surprising considering that on any given day the Arner house might have Glenn Miller playing on the HiFi in the living room and Bohemian Rhapsody blaring from the record player in Fran's room Matt tended toward Aerosmith and Van Halen in those days but tolerated my choice of Eagles and John Denver (blame my sister for that one). Clearly we were diverging in tastes..!
I am sad that the world has lost Matt, but I am happy to see that he led a very meaningful life among loved ones and friends. I'm also happy to see that he followed his dreams and pursued a life in the Entertainment Industry and became a professional musician. Bravo. We should all pursue our passions the way that he did.
My sincere condolences to his family and friends and my deepest thanks to Matt for his friendship throughout my formative years.
God bless.
Evan
Marilyn Joslyn
February 27, 2019
You are missed... everyday <3
L. M.
February 19, 2019
Extending heartfelt condolences and prayers of comfort to the Arner family. Knowing there is a future for those we have lost can be very reassuring during this difficult time. John 11: 24 & 25
February 17, 2019
My condolences to your family for your loss. May God be your strength in this time of deep sorrow. (Psalms 18:6)
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February 16, 2019
My condolences to your family for your loss. May God be your strength in this time of deep sorrow. (Psalms 18:6)
Lorrie Cadena
February 16, 2019
I'm so incredibly sorry for the loss of your youngest brother. One thing I do know for sure, is that he came from one of the best families I have the privilege to know. My love & prayers to all of you. You will be together some day and I know he will watch over all of you.
Danyelle
February 15, 2019
Sincere condolences for your loss. May precious memories of your dear loved one, along with encouraging words such as those found at Hosea 13:14, be of comfort to your family in this difficult time
Michael McCLain
February 15, 2019
Never met him, but chatted online now and then, total sweetheart of a guy, even joking with me that I was his biggest gay fan! LOL - such wit, kindness and compassion will be missed - My Condolences to his family and friends!
Anthony R.
February 15, 2019
Matt was a really friken cool dude.. Rest easy brotha man...
Harry Freed
February 15, 2019
Matthew was one hell of a guitar player and I remember going to his house one day as he was laying down tracks for our project and all I saw was guitars lined up and down his walls in his studio...the man was loved by the music industry and all that he touched with his sound...I will miss our banter Matthew...you're a force to be reckoned with...My condolences go out to Marilyn and the kids... Love you guys
Marilyn Joslyn
February 15, 2019
We are broken-hearted
February 15, 2019
My condolences to family and friends. May you all find comfort in reading Matthew 5:4 in this time of sorrow.
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