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1936
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2011
Patricia Dowling Obituary
Born March 27, 1936 to native Irish parents, Lawrence and Mary Murtagh, in Pawtucket Rhode Island, Pat earned her nursing degree at the age of 20 from Rhode Island Hospital. She went on to receive her Masters and then became a counselor. She was married to Jack Dowling, from 1957-1996 with whom she bore six children and celebrated 38 years together.
She is survived by her daughters Patty Finnegan-DiPreta(Ridgefield,CT), Mary Kapp,(Basking Ridge, NJ) Kate Dowling-Emenau,(Montreal,CAN) and Crissy Dowling-Ukers,(Washington,CT); her son in laws, Tony DiPreta, Andrew Kapp, Michael Emenau, Donald Ukers; her grandchildren Conor Finnegan; Drew, Maddy, and Ted Kapp; Gavin and James Ukers; Kai and Henri Dowling-Emenau; step-grandchildren Christina and Eric DiPreta; and pre-deceased by her sons John and Dennis Dowling. Pat Dowling is also remembered by a wide circle of children and older clients as her considerable energies enriched their lives.
Pat was especially well known for her love of dance and music. She traveled extensively across the country and internationally through Ireland, England and Europe. She was a passionate needlework artist with a knowledge of quilt patterns, sewing history and gifted in clothing design, accessories and the creative use of fabrics.
Pat was also an interested naturalist and environmentalist who was very proud of her gardens.She was a gourmet cook who inspired generations with the fine gift of recipes, food and nutrition. She was recently celebrated by a large gathering of family, colleagues, and friends at Fox Hill Inn in Brookfield, CT in honor of her amazing life. Patricia Bowling's nurturing compassion will long be felt by all who knew her. Her life was a multi-faceted legacy of healing and inspiration.
Donation suggestion: Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in NY. Mary Kapp, 41 Autumn Dr., Basking Ridge, NJ 07920 or visit the website at: http://info.avonfoundation.org/site/TR?px=2747277&pg=personal&fr_id=2070.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Monday, August 22, 2011 at 10 a.m. at Our Lady of the Lakes Church, 3 Old Town Park Road, New Milford, CT.
Friends may call on Sunday, August 21, 2011 from 3 to 6 p.m. at the Lillis Funeral Home, 58 Bridge Street, New Milford, CT.
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Memories and Condolences
for Patricia Dowling
Mary, Bob, Shawn, & Brianna Dowling
August 22, 2011
Uncle Jack, Patty, Mary, Chrissy and Katie, Sorry to Aunt Pat's passing. Wish we could have been there for you but Bob just got out of the hospital. We are sending our prayers & condolences. I sure know how you feel my Mom just passed in June. I think of your parents often as look at the rug in my front entrance because they gave it to us for a wedding present and also as Bob Sr, & Vickie keep us up to date with the family.
Susan O'Dell
August 21, 2011
Patty, Katie, Mary and Chrissy,
Your Mom was such a inspiration to me in so many ways. I have the fondest memories of my life spending them with you. Your Mom pushed me, carted me to horse shows and made me believe in myself. Its been an honor to be a part of your family. My wish for you all is that you will walk away with a part of your Mom. Each day you'll do something that your Mom would of done and most of all keep her close to your heart. She was a amazing grandmother as well. She is going to be sadly missed and I know she will live on in so many way but, most of all through you. I love you all and may your Mom rest in peace.
Pieter Parker
August 21, 2011
My condolences to the family of Pat Dowling. She can never be replaced as my counselor and friend. Aug. 5th at 5pm. was to be my next appt. to see her at her home,I should have made it earlier. I will try my best to practice the things she has taught me. I will love you always Pat, you will always be my friend.
Rita Valentino
August 21, 2011
My deepest condolences to all of Pat's family. She was a mentor, a friend and a positive giving spirit in my life. She inspired me always with everything she was, an amazing soul.
Even in writing this I cannot yet grasp that I will not be in her presence again, see her smiling face or hear her sweet voice, sitting with her for a chat. I will miss her terribly.
Dusty Martin
August 17, 2011
Dear Patty,Mary,Kathy,Chrissy and Jack. I learned today of Pat's passing. I remember with a fond smile, Pat always welcoming me into your house in Bridgewater, and that was over 33 years ago ! I hung out a lot at your house, back then. A positive force permeated through that big farm house - Pat's karma. She influenced me to attend college and I will always be thankful for that. When I ran into her about a year ago we talked briefly, I hugged and kissed her.
If I knew then it would be the last time I would see her, I would have talked a little longer and hugged her even harder.
All my Love,
Dusty
Karen Lehn
August 15, 2011
Pat was very influential in my life as a teacher and also as a therapist. She was a gentle and kind spirit who will be greatly missed.
Terri Civitarese
August 15, 2011
My condolences to the family. I can't begin to express the gratitude Pat did for my family probably over 20 years ago. I spent years in counseling with her and got to know her quite well. Pat was a special, loving and giving woman that will always have a special place in my heart. She will be another one of my angels that will guide me along life's journey and I am so Blessed to have known her for so many years. She is rejoicing in heaven with the Lord!!!!
Fenner Brownell
August 15, 2011
Patty, Mary, Chrissy and Kathy - My deepest condolences on your moms passing. Though I did not see her often, whenever we met, she always had a smile and a kind word for me and my family. She was a sweet woman.
I will also add my condolences about your brothers. I was not aware that they had also passed. I was so sorry to read this. May all their memories live forever in your hearts.
Gerry Fitzpatrick
August 15, 2011
Pat was a treasured member of our crew down in Jupiter, Florida. She, of course, was a dear friend of Mary & Joe Killoran but the rest of us in Jupiter enjoyed her company very much. My sympathies to her daughters. Gerry Fitzpatrick
Bob Allen
August 15, 2011
Mary, Kathy, Chrissy and Patty, my deepst condolences to you and your families. Your Mom was a Great Lady!!
Bob and Fran O'Malley
August 14, 2011
We met Pat in Jupiter, Fla. thru our dear friends Joe and Mary Kiloran and very much enjoyed her company and friendship. We were very sorry to hear of her passing.
Kelly Groteke Vanasse
August 14, 2011
Mary, Kathy, Chrissy and Patty, my deepst condolences to you and your families. Your mother was such a kind and inspirational person. I remember her CCD lessons and how she helped shaped my faith. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kelly Groteke Vanasse and family
Alison Mac Donald Franco
August 14, 2011
To Patty and the family: Words can't express how you all are feeling right now,but your Mom is with you as a angel on shoulders watching over you all right now. May God give you all peace and comfort today and the days ahead for all you.
laura berger
August 11, 2011
Pat was not just a therapist to me, she was a loving, caring friend. She made herself available at all times and always had a sweet, positive manner. In some ways, Pat was like a mother to me. She is someone I will never ever forget. I am sorry for her family's immense loss, but I know that her lifetime of giving love and care will follow them for the rest of their lives, as it does mine. Rest in peace, beautiful Pat.
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