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Margaret Lucille Bruenderman Clephas (Church) Kok

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Margaret Lucille Bruenderman Clephas (Church) Kok Obituary
Kok, Lucille Church Bruenderman Clephas ,

96, passed away peacefully on September 12, 2017, surrounded by her loving family. The youngest of three, Lucille was born in Louisville, KY on May 14, 1921 to Mary Ozetta Hoskins and Lawrence Elbert Church.

She attended St. Aloysius Grade School and Mercy Academy. She met the love of her life, John James Bruenderman. They married on March 14, 1942, and together raised 12 children in a loving home on Ormond Road in St. Matthews.

Lucille committed her life to two things: her family and her faith. She dedicated her days as a young woman to caring for her family, doing mounds of laundry, cooking endless meals, and organizing the many activities of seven boys and five girls. Through it all, she kept a positive attitude, fortified by her strong Catholic faith. In 1973, she and John J. added a thirteenth member, to their clan by becoming the legal guardians of a recently-orphaned family friend.

Her family fondly refers to her as "Saint Lucy," a nod to her faith, and to the love and patience she displayed while raising them. Her athletic talent no doubt came in handy with the physical toll it took on her every day to care for her busy family. A talented basketball player in her school days, she remained active all of her years, participating in aqua fitness and tai chi well into her 90s. Among her most famous talents was twirling the baton and singing, which she did with great joy in her later years as a member of the Silver Notes.

A lifelong learner, Lucille had an incredible memory, and could easily recall the names and birthdays of members of her vast family. She always kept up with current events and sports, especially college basketball, and enjoyed solving the word jumble in the daily newspaper. She took a genuine interest in others, always offering words of encouragement and understanding. Her caring heart and indomitable spirit were an inspiration to all. At age 52, she returned to school to earn her LPN degree, graduating first in her class.

Lucille often laughed about her sweet tooth. She loved all things chocolate, Modjeskas from Muth's, and anything in a bag from Plehn's Bakery.

Following John J's death in 1978, Lucille married Charles Clephas in 1980, whom she met at the Widows and Widowers Meet-up. They enjoyed participating in the Young Hearts Theater, The Silver Notes Senior Chorus, and L&N Retirees events until his death in 2000. Lucille became a loving second mother to Charlie's daughter, Gail.

Lucille remarried again, on her 80th birthday, to George Kok, a fellow member of the Silver Notes. It was a surprise elopement, turning her 80th birthday party into their wedding reception. She and George spent their years together enjoying weekly Dominoes nights and performing with the Silver Notes. They took a special trip to the SEC basketball tournament in Atlanta, where George was honored as one of 12 SEC Basketball Legends. Lucille moved to the Forum in Middletown to be with George in his final stages of life. She enjoyed the activities at the Forum, and often had to be reminded to switch her scooter from "rabbit" to "turtle" mode.

In addition to her three husbands, Lucille was predeceased by her parents, sister, Mary Elizabeth Gatewood, brother, James William Church, and grandson, Michael Edward Buddington. She is survived by her children: sons Warren (Janice), Paul, David (Debbie), Jim (Patti), Mike, Jim Ross (Toni), and Patrick (Elizabeth) Bruenderman, all of Louisville, KY; Tom Bruenderman (Beverly) of Lexington, KY; daughters Diane Buddington (Don), Boulder, CO; Katherine Bruenderman, Newport, KY; Nancy Skiles (Dallas), Goshen, KY; Carol Paisley, Lexington, KY; and Martha Gray (John) of Frankfort, KY. In addition, she is survived by her 21 loving and attentive grandchildren, 13 great grandchildren, and her "bonus" family: Gail Clephas Skees (Frank), George Kok, Jr. (Ellen), Kevin Kok (Kathie), and Bernadette Kok, and their children and grandchildren.

The family gives special thanks for all the loving care she received from her goddaughter Jeanne Bruenderman, and the staff and caregivers from Hosparus and Helping Hands, especially Ms. C.J. Fox.

True to her name, from the Latin for "light", Lucille's generous spirit will shine brightly forever on all who knew and loved her.

A Funeral Mass will be held 9:00 a.m., Saturday, September 16, 2017 at Holy Spirit Catholic Church, 3345 Lexington Road, Louisville, KY. Visitation will be held 2-4 p.m. with a break in visitation and restarting from 6-8 p.m., September 15, at Ratterman Brothers Funeral Home, 3711 Lexington Road, "in St. Matthews."

Expressions of sympathy may be in the form of donations to Pulmonary Fibrosis Foundation, 230 East Ohio Street, Suite 500, Chicago, IL 60607.
Published in The Courier-Journal from Sept. 14 to Sept. 16, 2017
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