Candice Renee Lay

Candice Renee Lay obituary, McAlester, OK

Candice Renee Lay

Candice Lay Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers from Jan. 14 to Jan. 16, 2010.
Candice Renee Lay, 21, of McAlester, died Sunday, Jan. 10, 2010, at McAlester Regional Health Center.The family will receive visitors from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. Friday at Brumley-Mills Funeral Home.Funeral services will be at 1 p.m. Saturday at First Assembly of God Church of McAlester with the Rev. Jerry Burnside and the Rev. Ron Masten officiating. Burial will be at Indianola Cemetery. Funeral arrangements are under the direction of Brumley-Mills Funeral Home of McAlester.Born June 7, 1988, in McAlester, she was the daughter of Donna Lay and Paul Johnson. She grew up here and graduated from Key Academy in May 2007. She worked at Brangus Restaurant and Giacomo's Italian Restaurant, then worked at the McAlester Army Ammunition Plant before returning to work at Giacomo's, with the hope of continuing her education towards a degree in criminal justice.She was baptized at the First Assembly of God Church and later continued her faith at the Mount Triumph Baptist Church.She cherished spending time with family and friends, dancing, listening to music and just hanging out with her friends.Survivors include mother, Donna Lay, of Bache; father, Paul Johnson; sisters, Krystal Lay, of Bache, and Gena Bumphus, of McAlester.Also, grandmother, Betty Bumphus, of McAlester; great-grandmother, Loretta Lay, of McAlester; uncles, J.R. Lay, of Bache, Dewayne "Chink" Bumphus, of McAlester, and Mark "Man" Bumphus, Kansas City.And, aunt, Brenda Bumphus, of McAlester; nephews, Kolby Ryan Lay and Mario Richardson; cousins, Bridgett Pemberton, Preston McKaughan, Trina Curry, Stephanie Bonham, DeeOnna Harrison, JearVahn "Fat A" Chatman , Chris Chatman and Josh Jeffery; best friend, Damien "Chops" Barr, of McAlester, and numerous other members of the Lay, Weeks, Heartness, Cummings, Rogers, Bonham and Bumphus families.She was preceded in death by her grandparents, Willard and Ima Jean Lay; great-grandfather, Woodrow Lay, and great-aunt, Norma Ann Weeks.Pallbearers will be Justin "Gomer" Waldron, Christopher Chatman, Dewayne "Chink" Bumphus, Damien "Chops" Barr, Mark "Man" Bumphus, Darren Reed, Eric Bumphus, Wesley Harnest, Marcus Bumphus, Mario Tasby, Steven Davis, Clayton Rice, Christopher Patterson and Justin Harris.

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February 8, 2010

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Melissa Watts

February 8, 2010

Donna you know as I sit here today I still am holding you up in prayers and love. If you need me just call. We all sometimes wonder WHY? but only God knows why..he was ready for his Candice and reached his hands down and she grabbed ahold and was taking to a much better place. We all need to be ready to reach out and behold his hand for we are loved and not promised tomorrow. All my love and if you should ever need me you know how to find me..love you guys Melissa

February 3, 2010

CANDICE I KNOW THAT WE WERENT WHAT YOU WOULD CALL FRIENDS, MORE LIKE AQUAINTENCES. I KNEW YOU THROUGH YOUR MOM AND MY MOM AND MY SISTER. I WENT TO VISIT YOU THE DAY BEFORE YOUR FUNEAL. I HAD NEVER SEEN ANYONE LIKE THAT UP CLOSE. I FELT AS IF MY HEART WOULD EXPLODE JUST KNOWING THAT I KNEW YOU AND YOU WERE LAYING THERE. YOU LOOKED SO PEACEFUL. I COULD NOT BELIEVE I WAS LOOKING INTO YOUR FACE AS YOU LAY THERE ASLEEP. TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH I CANNOT GET THAT PICTURE THAT THOUGHT OUT OF MY HEAD. I DONT KNOW WHY I AM HANGING ON TO THAT MEMORY BUT I AM. EVERYDAY I THINK OF YOU AND CHOKE BACK CRIES FOR YOU KRYSTAL DONNA AND THE LIL NIECE OR NEPHEW YOU NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO MEET. THEY HAVE A PICTURE UP OF YOU ON THIS GUESTBOOK PAGE AND I LOOK AT IT AND TRY TO SEE PAST THE TRAGEDY OF IT ALL AND TRY TO KEEP IN MY HEART THAT YOU ARE NOT HURTING EVEN THOUGH WE MAY BE. YOU ARE NOW LIGHTING GODS WAY IN HEAVEN WHERE YOU SHINE SO BRIGHTLY AS DID YOU HERE ON EARTH. SO MANY PPL WERE AT YOUR VISITATION AND FUNERAL. IT WAS A LOVELY ONE. YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN PROUD. THOUGH EVERYONE IS MOURNING YOU THEY ARE CARRYING ON AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO. I KNOW NOT THE STORY BEHIND YOUR TRAGIC PASSING BUT I KNOW THAT GOD NEEDED YOU FOR MUCH BETTER REASONING. YOUR WORK HERE ON EARTH WAS DONE. YOU TOUCHED NUMEROUS LIVES MADE MANY FRIENDS AND LIVED LIFE EVERYDAY TO ITS FULLEST. GET UP THERE AND HAVE A BLAST AND KEEP WATCHING OVER THOSE THAT LOVE AND MISS YOU SO. FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS MINDS AND THOUGHTS. YOU WILL LIVE ON FOREVER EVEN IN DEATH. RIP CANDICE R. LAY -JENNIE WHITE-

Amanda coley-wright

January 24, 2010

No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
I am sorry for your loss she was a great friend we had lots of fun times together when we were younger. we will all miss here

Amanda Hammons

January 21, 2010

may god be with you at all times and during this time of loss also candice was a really nice and smart girl and she actually took after her mom so much..but please call us if you guys need anthing also candi will always be with you thats counting thought and your heart..god bless you dona

January 17, 2010

Candice you were loved by so many. My heart goes out to your family..

LaDonna Hendrix

January 16, 2010

When I first met you, you little stinker, I thought, your so full of mischief, "What are you up to?" You were always were so silly and trying to make everyone crack up laughing, no matter what type of situation or how hard life's knocks seemed to try and keep you down. You were a true little trooper, my baby niece, and your aunt LaDonna will never forget you. You will be in my heart and memories forever. Now God has you up there keeping Him smiling and Him asking you, "Girl, What you up to?" I Love you baby and will miss you. God Be with your family and loved ones and may He comfort them with knowing that your at peace with your loving Father in Heaven.
Love, Aunt LaDonna

Judy K Lewis

January 16, 2010

We were so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.

January 16, 2010

Candice is free! May she rest in peace in the arms of God! My heart goes out to the family but in this hard time remember to keep all faith in the Lord. He will not put more on you than you can bare. Candice was my classmate and she was always full of life and smiles. God bless the family.

Clayton Wrice

January 15, 2010

I'll always remember your smile n the good times we shared.I loved that we got to grow up n go to school together, wish there could b more bright smiles, n hey bro how are u's, n big hugs like u always do.I will never forget you n u will always b n my heart n prayers

vetta leflore

January 15, 2010

Donna Krystal and Gena my heart breaks for you everytime i think of the pain you are going through.Time heals the pain but dont ever lose the memories because they are so precious.As precious as your baby girl. God bless and may you have strength tomorrow.

Jackie Bolt

January 15, 2010

HE REACHED DOWN FROM HEAVEN AND RESCUED ME: HE DREW ME OUT OF DEEP WATERS.
HE DELIVERED ME FROM MY POWERFUL ENEMIES,FROM THOSE WHO HATED ME AND WERE TOO STRONG FOR ME.
THEY ATTACKED ME AT A MOMENT WHEN I WAS WEAKEST, BUT THE LORD UPHELD ME, HE LED ME 2 A PLACE OF SAFTEY:HE RESCUED ME BECAUSE HE DELIGHTS IN ME.

RIP Candice.

Tammy Ketchum

January 15, 2010

Candice, You were just like a daughter to me. It hurts to say that your gone but I know you are in a better place now. Donna & Krystal call me anytime you need to talk. Love u guys

Lindsay Allen/Hackler

January 15, 2010

you were a beautiful soul and God wanted you as his angel or he wouldnt have called upon you. My prayers are with you candice and your family. May you rest in peace and walk the golden streets in heaven with our Father.

Angie Hearod

January 15, 2010

My condolences go out to Candice's family. She was one of my very favorite students. Candice was so much fun to be around. She was so caring and yet such a strong girl. I will truely miss seeing her smiling face.

Ronda Daniels

January 15, 2010

Donna & Krystal..you both are in our thoughts & prayers,I pray God gives you comfort in this time.If yall need anything please just ask.

Ronda & Kevin Daniels

Bethani West

January 15, 2010

May God be with you Krystal Donna and family this a tradgic lost of wonderful lady that i remeber her beatiful smile on her face she was always so happy and kept everyone smilling i wish i would have kept in touch better i miss the geo gang lol Candice you will be missed

Lynn Watts

January 15, 2010

Our Prayers are with you Donna & Krystal. As you go thru this time of sorrow please don't not hesitate to ask for anything that you may need. Love you.

January 15, 2010

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Jessica Cooley

January 15, 2010

Candice you are a wonderful woman and will truely be missed! Im sorry I never had the chance for you to meet Starlyn. I remember all the great times we had in Puterbaugh and the great times we had at eachothers house. I love you very much!

chrissy sistrunk

January 15, 2010

Candice i cant believe ur gone i wish i would have stayed in touch more ur a great person a crazy and fun girl im glad i had a chance to know u ur gonna be missed so much love chrissy!!!!R.I.P

ann lay

January 14, 2010

donna .sorry to hear our lil candice is gone .i remember when she was small she was happy full of laughter and smiles when i baby sit the girls .may god bless you and family in your time of need .love you all,ann lay and kids

January 14, 2010

candice was a great person and fo the time that i knew her she really did make an impact on my life.. candice u will be missed greatly..
~kim~

Kendra Ellis

January 14, 2010

I never did bring Brooklyn to meet you Candice-Im sorry... I know you was just tryn to have a good time that night, you know ALOT OF PPL love and miss you...

Stormie Reed

January 14, 2010

My thoughts and prayers are with you ... your in a better place dont worry ... Miss you lots !

Marvin Hammons

January 14, 2010

Our thoughts and prayer are with you in this time of lose. Need anything please call and let us know.

Tasha Woolsey-Fugate

January 14, 2010

Candice you are a beautiful girl! Donna and Krystal you are in my prayers. I love you guys and may God handle this terrible time in your life!

Clarence & Renae Ellis

January 14, 2010

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

January 14, 2010

May God Bless You All!!!!!

January 14, 2010

My thoughts and prays go oput to the family of Candace!! May God Bless you all!!!

Amanda "Jones" Avery

January 14, 2010

Candice was an amazing person. She will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with Krystal and Donna. Please let us know if there is anything that we can do to help, or if you need anything!

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