Eleanor Ann Reid Hastings
1928 - 2013
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Eleanor Ann Reid Hastings
August 1, 1928-January 12, 2013
Resident of Los Gatos
Eleanor Ann Reid Hastings was born on a hot summer night in Memphis, TN in 1928. The exact time of Elly's birth (around midnight) was not noted, so her mother chose the date of August 1 rather than July 31 because it was a beginning and sounded optimistic. Optimism was always a deep value for our Momma, and she taught it to her 7 children, 17 grandchildren, 1 great-grandchild, countless friends and family members. Love, patience and welcome were the themes of Elly's life and she gave unstintingly of all three. No one was ever turned away from her table, her home or her popcorn bowl. Her family was her life, from her first child to her last grandchild and she would drop a basket full of clean clothes in a heartbeat to play Candyland. She also had a wonderful sense of humor and could cheer up a crabby child in 2 seconds with her silly 'Grammy face'.
Elly grew up in Berkeley, surrounded by the love of her dear parents, Winifred Catherine Sloyan Reid and Lemuel Albert Reid, and her devoted siblings: Walter Raney Reid (Alice), Mamie Miller (Stephen), and her beloved sister, Catherine Bedecarre (John). She attended School of the Madeleine and Holy Names High School and then UC Berkeley, where she was an active member of the Delta Zeta sorority. On the first day of college, she met the love of her life, Chalmers William Hastings (Bill). Very much in love, they were married after graduation on September 15, 1951 at St. Jerome's church in Berkeley, and began their love affair of 61 years. Their marriage was blessed with 7 children: Molly Hastings Mazzella (John) of Campbell, CA, Reid Hastings (Margaret) of Los Gatos, Liz McNamara (John) of Maple Heights, MN, Meg Grubb of San Antonio, TX, Tom Hastings of Los Gatos, and last but not least the twins, Dan Hastings (Maya) of Washington D.C. and David Hastings, (Alma) of Boerne, Texas. Mom only got a week's notice that she was having twins, but she never missed a beat. "Bill, we need another crib and changing table", was her nonchalant response to this news.
Our Momma was a spirited supporter of her children's, grandchildren's and nieces and nephew's activities. She followed their lives with a compassionate and interested heart, and each of them were certain that they were her most treasured one. She would make Kool Aid and baloney sandwiches for a picnic with them at the drop of a hat. Her grandchildren are William Flammer, Matt Flammer, Ross Hastings, Abbey Hastings, Michael Lee Hastings-Fontaine, Rachel McNamara, Shannon McNamara, Laura Grubb, Matthew Grubb, John Grubb, Hannah Hastings, Ben Hastings, Gabriel Hastings, Nicky Hastings, Stephanie Eleanor Hastings, Amanda Hastings, Olivia Hastings and cherished great granddaughter, Lyla Noel.
Elly served her community over the last decades of her life by working at the Los Gatos Library and volunteering at the Happy Dragon Thrift Shop. She was a devout Catholic and active parishioner at St. Mary's Church in Los Gatos. Faith guided our Momma her entire life and she and our Daddy attended Mass every Sunday.
Momma passed away peacefully, surrounded by her seven children, with her husband at her side, holding her hand as she entered Heaven. She spent the last hours of her life smiling, cherishing her family, and telling us she loved us over and over. A Rosary will be held at Darling and Fischer Chapel of the Hills on 615 North Santa Cruz Avenue, Los Gatos at 7:30 pm on Wednesday, January 16. A funeral Mass, followed by a reception, will be held on Thursday, January 17 at 11:00 am at St. Mary's Church in Los Gatos. In lieu of flowers, donations to Loaves and Fishes of San Jose are appreciated. Here's to Elly, a darn fine gal!!!!

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26 entries
November 5, 2013
I love you momma!!!!
March 7, 2013
I am so touched by the outpouring of love from all who have written in my mom's guest book. Weren't we lucky to have known such a wonderful woman. I love you so momma and miss you every day. Your daughter, Liz
February 5, 2013
This is where I was Grammy on January 12th. Uganda was so beautiful. I love you, and miss you so much
Shannon McNamara
January 26, 2013
Sweet ~ "Miss Elly" The light from this candle will guide you HOME, on your Calm, Peaceful & Beautiful Journey. xoxox
Darlene Mazzella
January 25, 2013
Oh Sweet Miss Elly, (I loved calling her that, & I think she liked it too, cause she always smiled that Big Be autiful Smile of hers) I loved u like U were my 2nd Grammy, but now u and her are together up there, having the times of u're life's!!! I pray that u 2 R watching us down here & making sure we R all OK!!!! Thoughts & prayers 2 your family through this diffucult time!!! Love you... Larry, Darlene & Jacob
Darlene Mazzella
January 21, 2013
Prayers and love to the entire Hastings family, with a special hug to Tom and children.
You will always hold a special place in my heart,
Laverne Hammer
January 20, 2013
My sweet Mom always had a smile for me.
Hey, Momma. I miss you but I know you are having the best Manhattans ever with your sweet sisters. You taught me so well how to live and love and your legacy will live on and on. I miss you, my Momma.
Molly Mazzella
January 18, 2013
Bill, our condolences to you and your family.
Russ and Helga Stuart
January 18, 2013
We loved, respected,and admired our dearest Aunt Ellie . Sweet,happy,loving, tender,humorous and giving are all attributes that come to our minds that we will always remember about Aunt Ellie.
Uncle Bill and family we send our thoughts, prayers, and love
Ken , Maria,Tami and Stacy
January 17, 2013
Elly you and Bill and the rest of the Hastings provided me a home in Los Gatos. I came off of the mountain into Los Gatos and Dave became a best friend. We were almost never apart and you provided a safe loving home for me, and an amazing son. You already had 7 kids, one more skinny kid was welcomed right in. Thank you, you and your family!
January 16, 2013
Rest in peace Mrs. Hastings. You were loved by so many.

Kari Roemer
January 16, 2013
Elly's passing has left a big hole in my heart! I love all the Hastings' children. I called Elly my "California sister" because she filled all corners of my life for years and years. Our time together at the Los Gatos Library were filled with love and laughter. I know there has not been a better mother and grandmother to grace the earth. My warmest condolences to Bill and all the family.
Barbara Karlan
January 16, 2013
Elly, you did always have a way of making us "other kids" feel like part of your family - a real gift you gave to so many! Your memory will be a cherished one.

Bill, my condolences, thoughts, and prayers are with you and your family.
John Cundy
January 16, 2013
Aunt Elly. An absolute treasure & remarkable woman that I was privileged to know and love. Your smile, warm heart and infectious personality shines in all of your remarkable children, a true reflection of your spirit. God Bless you always.
Leff Miller
January 16, 2013
Love to you Miss Elly!!!
Darlene Mazzella
January 15, 2013
My dear Momma, you touched so many lives with your grace, compassion and wisdom. I will cherish you forever Mom. Thanks for your pearls of wisdom, your infinite laughter and your unconditional love that only a Mother knows. Fly my sweet Angel Momma.
#4 Meg Grubb
January 15, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the whole Hastings family. May God's grave and mercy surround you all during this time.
Max & Jeana DuBose
January 15, 2013
The Hastings made a place for me at their dinner table when I was a kid, something an only child with divorcing parents certainly drank up. Mrs. Hastings is probably one of the reasons I (always a feminist) wasn't embarrassed to admit that what I wanted most out of my life was a happy, healthy, laughing, loving family. Wish I'd imposed on her as an adult, so she could tell me how she escaped arguing teenagers.... I loved Mrs. Hastings. I always will. When I feel proud to say I grew up in Los Gatos, Mr. and Mrs. Hastings' actions are among those who put the feeling there.
Lilo Campeau
January 15, 2013
I miss you Mrs. Hastings. You were always such a very loving and caring person. You led a life we can all learn from and try to immatate the best we can. You made this world a better place for all that knew you and even for those who did not. You lived a wonderful life and accomplished so much, you definitely made your mark on this earth. The kids and grandkids you helped raise and shape are all so amazing and caring, plus hard working. You must be so proud of them all. Love and miss you, but will never forget you! -Steven Priest
Steven Priest
January 15, 2013
I'm blessed to have known you sweet Elly. I have such loving and fun memories of you; visiting MN, swimming in your pool in Los Gatos, holding your hand, etc. Take care of my grandma in heaven, I love you so much. xoxo Your Elly in MN
Ellen Bedecarre-McNamara
January 15, 2013
Dear Eleanor:
I am very grateful for how kind you, Bill and Dani were with me in the summer of 2007 at Los Gatos. Since then you all are in my thoughts and heart.
Felipe Alvarez
January 15, 2013
I love you mom up to heaven!
Thank you for being the best influence in my life!
David Hastings
January 15, 2013
With your home always filled with kids and a heart filled with love, and your arms always opened. I can't wait to see you again and feel what no one else ever gave me. I love you.
Shannon Edwards Wilson
January 15, 2013
I love you, Mama! We miss you so much already. Be with us in our dreams and prayers forever. -- Twin A (Daniel)
Daniel Hastings
January 14, 2013
The way that you lived your life will always be an inspiration to me my dear,dear elly. I only knew you for a short time but you will always be in my thoughts and in my heart. I love you and will miss you very much!!
Maryann Rashap
January 15, 2013
Offering our deepest condolences during this difficult time.
Darling Fischer Chapel of the Hills
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