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Carmela Gaetano

Wallingford, Connecticut

Aug 24, 1945 – Apr 19, 2020 (Age 74)


August 24, 1945
April 19, 2020
Wallingford, Connecticut


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Wallingford Funeral Home - Wallingford Obituary

Our amazing and selfless mother, Carmela (Barone) Gaetano, 74, of Cumming, Georgia, formerly of North Branford and New Haven, Connecticut, departed her family and friends on April 19, 2020 in Georgia, after a brief illness.

Carmela was born in New Haven, Connecticut, on August 24, 1945, the daughter of the late Peter and Nancy (Inzero) Barone.  She worked at the Park Plaza Hotel, the Hospital of St. Raphael, and retired from AT&T after a 25-year career.  She also owned and operated her flower shop in New Haven for many years.  She was an active member of Heritage Baptist Church, and never hesitated to help those in need.  Her greatest accomplishment was raising her children and grandsons.

She is survived by her son, Vincent Gaetano, of Wallingford, her daughter, Jadeane (Ronald) Grant of Cumming, Georgia, and her wonderful grandsons, Patrick and Nicholas Grant.  She also leaves her sisters Caroline Dingus and Maureen Santarcangelo.  She was predeceased by her brother, Peter Barone. 

Outside of work, Carmela enjoyed gardening, cooking and baking, volunteering at the East Haven Trolley Museum, and vacationing and traveling with her family and friends, including summers at the beach in Ocean City, Maryland, cruises to Alaska and Mexico, and many amazing day and weekend trips to New York City.  More recently, she adored her new movie and game-night friends in Georgia, and pampering her dog, Harpo.

Her family will receive relatives and friends beginning at 11 am at the North Italian Club, 43 Thorpe Ave., Meriden. A funeral service will be held in the outdoor pavilion at 12 pm followed by a reception. Interment will be private.

In lieu of flowers, gifts in her memory may be sent to Heritage Baptist Church, 161 S. Whittlesey Ave., Wallingford, CT 06492, or to Vision Baptist Church, 355 Windy Hill Dr, Alpharetta, GA 30004.

In her memory, consider volunteering some time to a family-focused charity.

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May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

I love you and miss you

It was because of Carmela that she at the time unknowingly introduced me to the wonderful craft of soy massage candle making. I am forever indebted to her loving kindness . And I thank her for her son , my very good friend Vin.
May God comfort the family during this difficult time.

Carmela: Kind,Generous ,Selfless,Helpful,Talented,Resourceful. She got me a job when my husband was on strike. She watched my 3 year old in her flower shop when I needed someone. She invited me to her vacation home when I need refuge. She shared her cactus with me. We loved gardening. She was my sister in the Lord and a wonderful, faithful friend. I am thankful for her in my life.
How could I forget how she filled my mother in laws life with joy. All she asked of us was Espresso.

Selfless and giving.


Rest well, Mother.

RIP my dear friend. I will see you in the resurrection.

...when I met my family 2009!

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

I first met Carmela when Jadeane and I were attending LBC. Jadeane invite me and two other friends to go stay with her, Carmela, and brother in CT. It was such a fun time. I was most amused that Jadeane called her mom Carmela. They had an amazing close relationship. Carmela was an amazing woman and mother.

Carmela was a wonderful person as I also worked with her at the phone co. Carmela the baker always bringing treats into the office. Jadeane & Vinny i am so sorry for your loss.