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David W McKain

1937 - 2017

David W McKain obituary, 1937-2017, Preston, CT

David McKain Obituary

PRESTON, Conn. - David W. McKain died peacefully on Wednesday, Dec. 27, 2017, 42 years to the day that he and Margaret Gibson married in 1975 and four and one half hours before his 80th birthday. He passed away in the presence of his wife and son and daughter, following 11 years of Alzheimer's disease, a period of illness marked, as was the whole of his life, by grace, kindness, humor, and a deep love for his family.

David was a poet, a non-fiction writer, and a Professor of English at the University of Connecticut, teaching at the Avery Point and Storrs campuses for 30 years, retiring in 1993 as Professor Emeritus. In Storrs, he was the head of the Creative Writing Program. In 1983 he was honored by the Outstanding Teacher of the Year Award. His books include the memoir, ""Spellbound: Growing Up in God's Country,"" and three collections of poems: ""In Touch,"" ""The Common Life,"" and ""Spirit Bodies."" He was the editor for ""The Whole Earth: Essays in Appreciation, Anger, and Hope"" (1972) and ""Christianity: Some Non-Christian Appraisals"" (1964), anthologies that were ahead of their time.

David earned his B.A., M.A. and Ph.D. at the University of Connecticut. Before teaching at UCONN, he worked in New York for Holt, Rinehart, and Winston, and for McGraw Hill, for whom he was the first Editor of the McGraw Hill Paperbacks Series. He was also Writer-in-Residence at Phillips Academy/Andover, at the University of Pittsburg at Bradford, and at Virginia Commonwealth University. As a young man he worked as a park ranger in Big Sur and in San Francisco's City Lights bookstore at a time when Buddhism began to flourish in San Francisco. As a writer, he was honored with numerous awards, and he received grants from the National Endowment for the Arts and The Connecticut Commission for the Arts. ""Spellbound"" was the winner of the Associated Writing Programs Award for Creative Non-fiction and was nominated for the National Book Award, the PEN award, and the Pulitzer Prize.

David is survived by his beloved wife of 42 years, Margaret Gibson; his children, Joshua McKain (and his wife, Amy; and grandchildren, Henry and Lucy); and Megan McKain (and her husband, Brad Jenkins; and grandchildren, Isabelle, Rachel, and Anneka); as well as by his first wife, Sharon McKain; and his cousins, Nancy and Howard Jonas, Susie and Ken Steiner, Doug and Ruth McKain, and Diane McKain.

The son of Charles and Ida (Crawford) McKain and the nephew of Walter and Elizabeth McKain, David was born in Punxsutawney, Pa., Dec. 28, 1937. He grew up in Bradford, Pa., the subject of his memoir, coming to Connecticut to go to the University of Connecticut on a freshman basketball scholarship, moving here as a resident in 1965. He lived for a time in Noank, Conn., moving to Preston in 1972, where he built his own house in the woods of Preston while on sabbatical, reading books on how to build your own house at night and getting up in the morning and doing it. He met poet Margaret Gibson at Yaddo in Saratoga Springs in June, 1975, and they married in December of that year.

David was an avid walker and hiker, a book collector and genealogist, a builder of stone walls, a yard-sale and antiques shop explorer, and also a passionate participant in the civil rights and peace movements. As an advocate for the environment, he helped to found the Conservation Commission in Preston, and served on the Board of Avalonia Land Conservancy.

During his long illness with Alzheimer's, David continued to be cheered and loved by his close family and friends. Our family is grateful to and wishes to acknowledge the love given to David and us by the wonderful caregivers and nurses and staff, both at Chestnut Cottage (at The Elms) and at Royal Westerly (formerly the Westerly Nursing Home). At Royal Westerly so many caregivers became part of our family, too.

Writers and thinkers who guided David's life were many and wide-ranging. He might perhaps cite as particularly influential the poet, William Blake and the Roman stoic, Marcus Aurelius. While he was an intellectual, David loved the ordinary wisdom, kindness, and skills of working men and women. He received letters throughout his later years from grateful former students. He was a man of clear vision and well-articulated values, and he had a keen sense of social justice. As keen was his appetite for the simple joys and delights of life. He wanted a full life-and he had one.

Family will gather at David and Margaret's home in Preston for a private memorial service in February and again for a celebration of David's life in June. Arrangements are under the Church and Allen Funeral Home, www.churchandallen.com.

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Published by The Westerly Sun from Dec. 31, 2017 to Jan. 29, 2018.

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Donn Barker

May 8, 2025

Poet ;as great respect for non-fiction

Joan Hathaway

June 4, 2018

The very best professor I ever had and I am glad I got to tell him in a letter several years ago. He not only taught me to love literature, but taught us how to think and live by our values. I took an automotive repair class because he said people who drive cars should know how to change their own oil and I did indeed change my own oil for many years. Mr. McKain will always be larger than life to me.

Bill Champagne

January 22, 2018

We were very fortunate to count you as our friend, David. Best to Margaret, Josh & Megan.

Jeff Poitras

January 5, 2018

One of my favorite professors of all time. He will be missed. My condolences on your loss.

Jim Pringle

January 3, 2018

David was a good man and will be missed. Rest in Peace.

Lois Mathieu

January 3, 2018

To the family of David McKain, please accept my heartfelt condolences. Sincerely, Lois Mathieu

January 2, 2018

My heartfelt condolences for the loss of David,it's so difficult to lose a loved one in death. However, you can find comfort in God's word, knowing the promise found at Hosea 13:14.My prayers and thoughts are with you during your hours of grief.

John Ericson

January 1, 2018

Margaret, Josh, and Megan,

My deepest condolences on David's passing. I will always cherish the memories I have of spending time with your family in Andover and CT. David was very kind, thoughtful, well reasoned. I hope your many amazing memories of him will help sustain you in your grief. His spirit lives on in the many lives he touched.

You and your families are in my thoughts.

Judy Hall Gray

January 1, 2018

I am so sorry to hear of David's passing.. it has been a privilege to sing to you over the last few years and to get to know you and Margaret just a bit.. May God grant you His peace

Marta Daniels

January 1, 2018

The world has lost a great peace activist and a man with an outstanding social conscience. His friends have lost a caring and loving soul whose deliberate life enriched their own in so many ways. David will long be remembered, and his life will continue to inspire and inform those who knew and loved him. For this we are so grateful.

Diana and John George

January 1, 2018

Oh Margaret. Lighting a candle that will burn long and ringing a bell that will echo, for David but also for you and your family, my good dear friend.

Loretta (Girard) Sampson

December 30, 2017

Dave was an alumnus of Bradford High School Class of 1955. As a classmate I remember him as being extremely well liked and very well read even then. My sincere sympathy to his wife, Margaret, his children and grandchildren.

December 30, 2017

We are so sorry about David. He was a great classmate and friend. Jay remembers trip dave,jay,jack higey,Jim colosimo went on trip to see jack kleiderline. Dave was left off to see stores, hi first trip.about 1952.sad enough jay is the last one with the memories, he is the keeper. Jay has many good memories and will share. Again he will be missed by many

Kimberly Maben

December 29, 2017

David was a remarkable teacher and extraordinary soul. Sincerest sympathies to Margaret and the family.

Sally Costik

December 29, 2017

So sorry to hear of David's death. We were just talking about him the other day, at the Bradford Landmark Society and wondered how he was doing. Such a nice man! He often stopped by our historical society, when he visited in town, and we enjoyed his conversations. He was generous, too. When a local man, a collector of historical Bradford photos and books passed away, David bought the collection and donated it all to us. We still remember him with such fondness and am so sorry to hear of his death. Accept the condolences of the Bradford Landmark Society.

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