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Jay C. Decker

Wichita, Kansas

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I was saddened to hear of Dr. Decker's passing. I met him in the summer of 1977 when I was a visiting summer term music student considering transferring to WSU. Prior, he had reached out to me via phone and letter encouraging me to visit. I remember my first day asking a friendly man in the hallway if he could point me towards Dr. Decker's office and he smiled at me, saying "you're looking right at him!" He welcomed me warmly. I spent the summer studying cello and conducting with...

Although I was not a musician, Dr. Decker influenced my education at Wichita State greatly when I took one of the core requirements for a liberal arts degree, a music appreciation class. Many will say such courses are blow-off courses; sit in the back, put minimal effort and take your 'C' grade. But Dr. Decker challenged the class to give a greater effort at understanding how music influences culture, and to have fun in doing so. I accepted his challenge and during the semester John Jacob...

Jay was, without question, a musician and conductor of the highest caliber. For that alone we mourn his loss. It was the character of his soul, however, that I will miss the most. He was a gentleman and a gentle man. We were all better people for knowing him and counting him as a friend.

Dana and Dan, can't believe it's been 20 something years since I have seen you at Paddy Ryan's. Your Dad was one of the sweetest people. One of my cousins bought his tin player a year or two ago and believe me I will think of him everytime he plays it. I knew where it came from when he stopped by my house after buying it. Prayers for the whole family in this toughest of times.

I was a young professor at Wichita State University in the late 70's, and Jay was a wonderful guide and friend to me at that time. I wouldn't have made it without him! I'm so sorry for your loss.

Jay was a great friend. We will miss him very much. Love to you Phyllis and the family. Bill and Diana Thomson

Hands down, one of the nicest men I ever met. So very sorry he is no longer with us.

My heart is with you, Phyllis. You were fortunate to have been blessed with many loving family members and good friends!

Dana, Debbie and Dan, sorry to hear of your loss. The music in heaven will no doubt be a little better. Such great memories of swimming and hanging out at your house.

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Dr. Jay C. Decker

 

82, died Monday, July 31, 2017. Jay’s rich legacy depends on how you knew him: as a loving family man, extraordinary musician and teacher, dear friend, avid tennis player and sports fan or inveterate punster and joke-teller....

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