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Toby Susan Strout

Bloomington, Indiana

Nov 29, 1945 – Feb 27, 2017 (Age 71)

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Toby was born on November 29, 1945 and passed away on Monday, February 27, 2017. Toby was a resident of Bloomington, Indiana at the time of her passing. She was married to Bob Arnove. On May 1, 2017 as per Toby's wishes, a ceremony will be held, in her words, 'to celebrate and to activate'. Details as to the venue and time will be announced at a later date. Obituary for toby susan strout Toby S. Strout, age 71 of Bloomington passed away Monday evening February 27, 2017 peacefully and on her own terms in the company of loving family and lifelong friends at the Indiana University Health Bloomington Hospital. She was born in Brooklyn, New York on November 29, 1945 to Irving Schoichet and Goldie Wang Schoichet. Before retiring this past fall she had been the executive director of The Middle Way House for over 30 years, a national model program of the Department of Justice that provided transformative services and resources for the survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Toby's survivors include her loving husband of 29 years Bob Arnove of Bloomington, daughter Anna, son-in-law Jesse, and grandson Banner, the cutest baby in all the world! Also surviving is brother Gary Schoichet and step-son Anthony Arnove. A more comprehensive obituary will follow at a later date. On May 1, 2017 as per Toby's wishes, a ceremony will be held, in her words, 'to celebrate and to activate'. Details as to the venue and time will be announced at a later date. In lieu of flowers memorial contributions may be made to The Toby Strout Voices Fund through the Middle Way House website at www.middlewayhouse.org.

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A long time ago -1969- in a world far, far away -Queens, NY- Toby Strout was my Creative Writing teacher in Junior High School. As I read this today, I was deeply moved by what she became and what she accomplished and in turn saddened by her passing. I am so proud to have known her for the sliver of time she gave to teaching, and for the people she helped for a much longer part of her life. Then again, from what I have read here, perhaps she was always a teacher - guiding, helping,...

I first met Toby a few years ago in one of the Domestic Violence workshops that Middle Way House offers every year. A great voice women and children survivors of domestic and gender violence. My sincere condolences to the family. Blessings.

I only met her once, her husband introduced her to me. But I've known of her since early on in my time in Bloomington. Her look was one of quiet radiance and knowing of her life's work, I could see that she was just the right person for it. I feel certain that she has left behind a strong structure and clear best practices to continue helping the defenseless women who must have a place that is safe.
I will always miss her, because she was and is a huge part of what makes Bloomington so...