January 20, 1928 - October 24, 2020
Alan Abbott Fleischer, 92, of Darien, CT, and formerly of New Canaan, CT, Pound Ridge, NY, and New York City, passed away on October 24, 2020 after a year-long battle with cancer.
Alan was born on January 20, 1928, to Benjamin and Anna Letzter Fleischer in New York, New York. After graduating from the Franklin School in 1945, he went on to pre-medical studies at Columbia University, from which he was graduated in 1948. He received an M.B.A. from New York University in 1960.
Alan is survived by his beloved wife Martha, his sons Michael (Lindi), Peter, and Ari (Becki), his grandchildren Liz, Asa, Cameron (Hyang Mok), and Keegan, and a great grandchild (Hannah). He is also survived by two nieces Bonnie Hassin (Mark) and Nancy Klein, as well as great and great grand nieces and nephews, the much-loved families of his much-loved siblings.
When he was diagnosed with cancer in February and told he had less than a year to live, he said, "I think the doctor is wrong. I feel like I have more than a year to live." He was the biggest optimist anyone ever met. He never complained. He was a man whose glass was always full. He was kind, sweet, and dedicated to his family.
During his nearly 25 years in New Canaan, he was active on the Board of Directors of the Cobblers' Green Association, participated in other civic groups, and was a regular around town, especially enjoying his regular rounds to the Post Office and Starbucks.
He was a huge Yankees fan and regularly went to games as a boy. He loved taking his three sons to games. He and his boys went to the final game at old Yankee Stadium and the first one at the new Yankee Stadium.
After receiving his undergraduate degree, he landed his first job at Everfast, a textile company, kicking off a lifelong career in textiles and apparel. That career was put on hold when Alan went into the U.S. Army in 1950. Trained as a medic, he served in the 60th Infantry Regiment. On his discharge as a corporal in 1952, he returned to the textile business, in which he would work in a variety of roles of increasing importance for the next 44 years. In 1983, he became a partner in an Executive Search firm, and later he started his own recruiting firm. He described these years as the most satisfying and rewarding of his career.
In 1955, he met his wife Martha at a bridge game. It was love at first hand and they were wed the same year. Alan and Martha celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary at the home of one of their sons in New Canaan on August 23rd, 2020, surrounded by their immediate family, and greeted via videoconference by cousins, nieces, great-nieces and great-nephews, and others from around the country.
Alan and Martha traveled the world. They spent many years working at an archaeological dig in Reggio, Italy, and in their other travels visited most of Europe as well as Mongolia, Siberia, Tibet, China and Africa, among other places. They shared an adventurous and curious spirit. But his favorite destination was the Basin Harbor Club on the shores of Lake Champlain in Vermont. He and Martha started going there in the 1960s and it became a family destination almost every year throughout his life.
Alan was predeceased by his parents, Benjamin and Anna. The death of his father, when Alan was not yet two years old, was a central element in his life. Growing up with a single mother, and with limited male role models, Alan went on to become an exemplary husband and father, but he felt the loss of his father keenly all through his life. One hopes that this man who longed all his life for his father will now rest in the arms of his Father.
The youngest of six children, Alan was predeceased by his siblings and their spouses Miriam Merovitz (Jesse), Bernice Eskin (Sam), Marjorie, Florence Rosenthal (Randy), and Robert. As the youngest child, Alan grew up alongside his own niece and nephew Rona Shays (Charlie) and Howard Eskin (Rosemarie) who were about his age. They, with their spouses, also predeceased him.
The family requests that in lieu of flowers donations be made to the American Museum of Natural History in New York City.
May his lifelong optimism be an inspiration to all, as it has been for his wife and three sons. May his memory be a blessing.