Jay Hesselgrave
1949 - 2015
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Jay, 66, of Kinnelon, NJ, passed away on August 29 following a sudden illness.
Jay was born on March 25, 1949 in Nyack, NY. Following graduation from Nyack High School, Jay earned his B.A. Degree from Yale University and his MBA degree from Harvard University.
Jay is survived by his wife of 37 years, Helen Crispe Hesselgrave of Newfane, VT, 2 sisters, Barbara Wulf of Princeton, NJ and Joan Malcolm and her husband Bryant of Warwick, NY, a brother-in-law Lawrin Crispe and his wife Pam of Brattleboro, VT, two sisters-in-law, Elizabeth Leins of Ossining, NY and Diane Crispe of Whippany, NJ. Jay's extended family includes many nieces, nephews, great-nieces and great-nephews.
He was predeceased by his parents, John and Ruth Mapes Hesselgrave of Nyack, NY.
For the past 20 years Jay has been self employed as a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and Investment Advisor. He was a registered member of the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors. He previously served as Vice President of the B.D. Malcolm Company in Lincoln Park, NJ, plant manager at General Cable in Pownal, VT, and plant manager at Converse in Puerto Rico.
Jay served on many boards including the Interfaith Council for Homeless Families in Morristown, NJ, the Board of Elders of the Community Church of Smoke Rise, and the Friends of the Frelinghuysen Arboretum.
Jay's outside interests were quite diverse. He enjoyed cycling and running and competed in biathlons and triathlons. Jay also enjoyed bicycle touring, especially in Vermont, with family and friends. While at Yale, Jay competed in crew and soccer. Jay enjoyed reading and art, as well as spending time at his home and in his garden. Having spent his early years in Nyack and Saugerties, NY he carried a special fondness for the Hudson River Valley.
One of Jay's proudest accomplishments was being awarded the position of "principal bassoonist" for the Summit, NJ Symphony.
Friends and family are invited to visit on Tuesday, September 8 at the M. John Scanlan Funeral Home in Pompton Plains, NJ between the hours of 2-4 and 7-9 PM. Funeral services will take place on Wednesday, September 9 at 11 AM at the Reformed Church of West New Hempstead on 220 Brick Church Road, Spring Valley, NY.
On Friday, September 11 at 12 noon a graveside service will be held at the Morningside Cemetery in Brattleboro, VT.
Memorials may be made to the Foundation for Morristown Medical Center, 475 South Street, 1st Floor, Morristown, NJ 07960, or Family Promise of Morris County, P.O. Box 1494, Morristown, NJ 07962.

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Published in The Record/Herald News on Sep. 2, 2015.
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February 4, 2016
Dear Helen,
I am so sorry about this. Hoping to connect with you again. If you read this, my email is pareum@gmail.com Patti
September 7, 2015
Im so sorry to hear of Jay's passing. I enjoyed talking with him when came into the pizzeria for lunch several times a week. He will be greatly missed. Thoughts and prayers to his family. Carol Kinnelon Pizza
September 7, 2015
I'm very saddened to hear of Jay's passing.
Stephen Craffen
September 2, 2015
I was saddened to learn of Jay's sudden passing. The loss of his intelligent companionship, lively sense of curiosity, and dry sense of humor leaves a huge void in the lives of his family, friends, and business associates. I am grateful to have been acquainted with Jay...and so sorry not to have been able to get to know both Jay and Helen better. My sincere sympathy to Helen and Jay's family.
Peggy Gulick
September 2, 2015
I'm so sorry to hear of Jay's passing. Jay was a caring person and a wonderful colleague. My thoughts go out to Jay's family.
Eve Kaplan
September 2, 2015
Sincere condolences goes out to the Hesselgrave family for your sad loss.
September 2, 2015
My sincere condolences to the family on the loss of your beloved one. May you find comfort in the God of all comfort. Draw close to him and he will draw close to you.
September 2, 2015
My thoughts & prayers are with you at this time.
Eunice Baptista
September 2, 2015
So sorry to hear such sad news. My thoughts and prayers are with Helen and Jays family.
Dick and Terry Kenneweg
September 2, 2015
Our deepest sympathy to the family. We will miss that sweet Jay so much at family get togethers - his smile - his happy conversation-his friendliness and his enthusiasm - all will be sorely missed. With love and affection , Marty & Gene
September 2, 2015
I am so terribly saddened to hear of Jay's passing. My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to Helen and all of Jay's family.
Mark Texel
September 2, 2015
So sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you in your time of need.
Gail Turner
September 2, 2015
Our heartfelt sympathy to the Hesselgrave Family. Sincerely, Ed & Suzanne Gran
September 2, 2015
Saddened to hear of your sudden loss. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Kathy and Goog Rushworth/Ridlon
September 1, 2015
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. Please accept my sincere sympathy. I have wonderful memories of Jay from the 18 years we spent together at the Malcolm Company. He was truly a wonderful person that enjoyed life. May your beautiful memories bring you peace at this time. Sincerely, Gayle
Gayle Quinn
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