Jay, 66, of Kinnelon, NJ, passed away on August 29 following a sudden illness.
Jay was born on March 25, 1949 in Nyack, NY. Following graduation from Nyack High School, Jay earned his B.A. Degree from Yale University and his MBA degree from Harvard University.
Jay is survived by his wife of 37 years, Helen Crispe Hesselgrave of Newfane, VT, 2 sisters, Barbara Wulf of Princeton, NJ and Joan Malcolm and her husband Bryant of Warwick, NY, a brother-in-law Lawrin Crispe and his wife Pam of Brattleboro, VT, two sisters-in-law, Elizabeth Leins of Ossining, NY and Diane Crispe of Whippany, NJ. Jay's extended family includes many nieces, nephews, great-nieces and great-nephews.
He was predeceased by his parents, John and Ruth Mapes Hesselgrave of Nyack, NY.
For the past 20 years Jay has been self employed as a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and Investment Advisor. He was a registered member of the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors. He previously served as Vice President of the B.D. Malcolm Company in Lincoln Park, NJ, plant manager at General Cable in Pownal, VT, and plant manager at Converse in Puerto Rico.
Jay served on many boards including the Interfaith Council for Homeless Families in Morristown, NJ, the Board of Elders of the Community Church of Smoke Rise, and the Friends of the Frelinghuysen Arboretum.
Jay's outside interests were quite diverse. He enjoyed cycling and running and competed in biathlons and triathlons. Jay also enjoyed bicycle touring, especially in Vermont, with family and friends. While at Yale, Jay competed in crew and soccer. Jay enjoyed reading and art, as well as spending time at his home and in his garden. Having spent his early years in Nyack and Saugerties, NY he carried a special fondness for the Hudson River Valley.
One of Jay's proudest accomplishments was being awarded the position of "principal bassoonist" for the Summit, NJ Symphony.
Friends and family are invited to visit on Tuesday, September 8 at the M. John Scanlan Funeral Home in Pompton Plains, NJ between the hours of 2-4 and 7-9 PM. Funeral services will take place on Wednesday, September 9 at 11 AM at the Reformed Church of West New Hempstead on 220 Brick Church Road, Spring Valley, NY.
On Friday, September 11 at 12 noon a graveside service will be held at the Morningside Cemetery in Brattleboro, VT.
Memorials may be made to the Foundation for Morristown Medical Center, 475 South Street, 1st Floor, Morristown, NJ 07960, or Family Promise of Morris County, P.O. Box 1494, Morristown, NJ 07962.
Published in The Record/Herald News on Sep. 2, 2015.