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Merril
September 28, 2025
Thinking of Tanny on her birthday. Sleep softly, dearest Pepys.
Merril
September 4, 2025
Thinking of Tanny and her wicked wit. How much of her childhood she spent upside- down doing handstands. The Blackfeet her father worked among called her Princess Proudfoot. The world is a poorer place.
Elaine Maxwell
September 6, 2024
I gifted my audio tapes of West with the Night along with a copy of the book to my grand daughter. I would truly love to have cds of Alexandra's reading. Would the family consider making such cds available for sale?
Merril Stevenson
September 5, 2024
As always, thinking of Tanny/Alex especially at this time of year. Remembering her eyes, which stayed the same right to the end. Large, lovely, level, crystal grey--or so I always thought. "Not a bit of it," said Tanny. "They're green!" Could have fooled me, Pepys.
I've also been remembering our life together at 640 West End Avenue, I struggling to make it as a singer, Tanny already on her feet in the theatre. Not unmitigated harmony, but what a boon to have the chance of living with a sister as grown-ups in a second nest. I'll never forget our efforts to fix up the kitchen; we were unhandy with tools and reduced to moving slabs of wood back and forth over a stationary saw. Don't ask.
Missing you, Tanny and Ian. Anges pures.
Merril Stevenson
September 4, 2023
Me again, Pepys. For the first time in a couple of years this website is letting me post.
I've been sortimg out the library and came across your recordings of "West with the Night' and "Queen's Gambit". These were the only ones you let me keep, except for "Rebecca". i used to play them just to hear your voice but now have no tape-player.
Can you convert these things to CDs?
I miss your wicked sense of humour and your way with words. Sleep with the angels, Peeper.
Merril Stevenson
September 4, 2023
Thinking of you, dearest Pepys.
Love always
Tist
Bill Gilinsky
September 4, 2022
Alex. I miss you. I miss your humor, your wit and your appreciation for my lack of humor and wit. Despite the last few years of Alex's life, I witnessed a friend who never tired of laughing and remembering all the goodness around her. She especially loved her sister and brother and her friends and her husband. I learned so much from Alex. I miss both Alex and Ian very much. God bless you Alex and God bless everyone Alex loved in her life. Bill
Merril Stevenson
September 4, 2022
Thinking of Tanny today, as always. A strong, sharp spirit. Right now I'm remembering how much she liked Gary Cooper, not just Pride of the Yankees (which we watched more than once) but also the one about WWI-- was it Private York? Me, I'm a For Whom the Bell Tolls sort of woman.
It was lovely seeing Brother Bill in New York last month.
Sleep with the angels, Pepys. Your Tist
John Beamish
December 10, 2021
The message by Elaine Maxwell exquisitely captures my feelings about Alexandra. When she is reading "West With the Night", her voice makes it clear she knows the very soul of the book. Her reading is truly special.
Chloe Christopher McCann
September 5, 2021
Still in our hearts.
Xxx
Bill Gilinsky
September 4, 2021
We miss you Alex. This year, Sept. 6th is also the first night of Rosh Hashanah. You are always in my thoughts and my prayers.
Merril Stevenson
October 18, 2020
Elaine, I love her recorded books too, and West with the Night is one of my favourites. Also like Queen's Gambit, about a young chess prodigy, and Rebecca. She was a mesmerising reader, and it is almost like having her sitting next to you. Bestest Merril
Elaine Maxwell
October 17, 2020
I have a beloved audio tape of Beryl Markham' book, West with the Night narrated by Alexandra O'Karma. It is not only my favorite book - it is enhanced by the enchanting voice of Alexandra. Please accept my condolences for your lost of such a dear soul.
Elaine Maxwell
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William David Gilinsky
September 28, 2020
Today is Alex Okarma's birthday. In honor of her
wonderful friendship and love throughout the years, I will remember
Alex today with a smile and a prayer. It happens to also be Yom Kippur. For Jews, this day is the holiest day of the year. It is a day to reflect about those who are no longer here. A time to reflect about the love and friendship we shared with those closest to us, remembering those who enriched our lives and filled our lives with love and friendship. Happy Birthday dear Alex. Love, Bill
Merril
September 6, 2020
Companion of nearly all my days. Beautiful girl, sleep with the angels. Tister
Bill Gilinsky
September 4, 2020
To my dear "adopted" sister Merril & "adopted" brother Al and to all who loved Alex. I miss her beautiful heart, her gentle soul and her abundant amt. of talent, both on and off stage & I miss her presence in my life. To me, she was a constant reminder that EVERY DAY we should continue to cherish those who we love and those who love us. I'll visit with Ian and Alex again this Sunday, Sept. 6th at the cemetery. G-d Bless you Alex and Ian.
Linda Watson Williams
September 4, 2020
I think about you everyday and the days when I was with you...sleep in peace Alex you will always be miss we love you.
Harry Jacobson
January 24, 2020
I knew Tanny in her Swarthmore days. I was surprised and saddened to hear of her passing. Requiescat in pace.
William Gilinsky
January 14, 2020
This past weekend it was 66 degrees here in NYC. I went to the cemetery and said hello to my dear friends Ian and Alex. What a great day it was. When the weather was like this years ago, Ian and I would get our tennis rackets out and head over to NJ to play a few sets. I always made Ian upset because I told him he drives like a cab driver in London. He always hated that. Of course it worked. Every time I insulted him his tennis game suffered. I also hated the fact that he was better than me. Ten years older and still better than me? Boy do I miss him. Alex used to come just to watch us make fools of ourselves. She pissed him off by rooting for me to win, which only made him more upset. Once he threatened to leave us both at the Tennis Courts. Why did I remember that? Who knows. God Bless everyone that knew them and loved them. We are all the better for them being in our lives.
November 4, 2019
Bill, dear brother, it's absolutely fantastic what you have done to get Tanny and Ian's things to where they are most appreciated and needed. And thanks for so much more too, essentially for being the man on the spot for Alex after Ian's death. You couldn't have done more for the two of them, or for Al and me. Thanks again and love.
Merril
William Gilinsky
November 3, 2019
It's hard to believe that we have been without Alex now for close to 2 months. Our lives have certainly changed but our love for her remains strong. Alex and Ian are together again and their works and deeds continue to inspire many young and aspiring actors throughout New York City. Their collection of Plays, pictures, posters and Theatrical Books numbered into the thousands. Hidden away in closets throughout their one bedroom apt were uncovered and donated to the Deborah Kym Studio of New York City. Deborah works with young and often "poor" artists who will now have a chance (thanks to Ian and Alex's collection) to learn their trade without having to purchase the materials, some of which, BTW, have been out of print for years. A very big Thank you goes out to Al and Merril for their generous contribution. I miss the Stuart's but smile when I think of Ian starring in Heaven's new production of
"The Ten Commandments" (move over Charlton Heston). Alex would be right there with him coaching him and telling him to lighten up on the English accent. GOD WAS NOT ENGLISH.
One last donation to an MS patient in Staten Island. It is being arranged for Adult Protective Services of Staten Island to pick up Alex's Scooter and deliver it to a client who can no longer move her legs. She is a client of APS because there is no one to provide her with the services she so desperately needs. We are sprucing up Alex's Scooter and donating it to this MS patient so she can once again be ambulatory. Things happen for a reason I suppose. Al and Merril have allowed all these gifts to make a difference to people who would otherwise have no hope. God Bless Ian and Alex.
Chloe Christopher
November 3, 2019
Rest in peace. Lots of love.
Linda Watson Williams
November 1, 2019
It was a great pleasure to work for Alex. I love and miss you. Sleep in pace Alex.
November 1, 2019
It is Toussaint here in France today. Sleep well, beautiful, complicated girl. You are loved and missed.
Tister
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