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LAURE DE MONTEBELLO Obituary
Laure Lannes de Montebello, born in 1967 in New York City, died peacefully on March 3rd due to complications from her recently diagnosed pancreatic cancer. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Robert Bernstein, her children Claire and Max, her brothers Marc and Charles, and her parents Edith and Philippe de Montebello. A graduate of Columbia University with a BA in Literature, Laure was also a graduate of the French Culinary Institute and was chef and founder of Sans Souci Gourmet Confections, formerly Claire's Confections, until chronic Lyme disease forced her to alter the course of her life. She was a Masters of Fine Arts candidate in Poetry at Columbia University's Graduate School of the Arts where she continued writing despite being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on February 6, 2018. A fiercely devoted mother and friend, her warmth, her wit, her sharp intellect, and her boundless love will be deeply missed. Laure's life will be celebrated privately with her mourning family. In lieu of flowers, she expressed the wish that her memory be honored by donations to either Lyme research through: LivLymefoundation.org or to givenow.columbia.edu, the Columbia University School of the Arts Student Support Initiative - Writing.
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Pamela
March 9, 2021
My deepest sympathy to Dr Robert Bernstein and family. What a shock. Laure was so beautiful. Beautiful soul. I was Caire's babysitter when she was 4 years old. What a beautiful family. Though my stay was short. It was a privilege to have met Laure. I have no words to express how sorry I am. Once again my deepest sympathy.
Pamela
Kate Hughes
March 3, 2020
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow; Laure will be deeply missed.
Kate Hughes
December 1, 2019
I assisted Laure many years ago in NYC and always loved her sense of humor; She was intelligent, bright, poetic and talented, and I always enjoyed her company. I ordered her truffles and have never had any other that could compare to hers. I think she added a kind of wafer in them to add a crunch, which I loved. Recently, I bought two truffles at a shop and thought I'd look to she what Laure was up to lately, and discovered the sad news. I think she looked for opportunities to grow, so she got the most out of life, and we can admire her. She will indeed be deeply missed.
Pam (Zauderer) (Sakowitz) Bryan
April 24, 2019
Dear Edith and Philippe,
Just received my Brearley Bulletin, and saw that your daughter had passed. I am so sorry for both of you. From all the messages, she sounded like the most
wonderful and accomplished woman. I send my deepest sympathy and prayers for you to heal.
Much love, Pam
Virginie-Alvine Perrette
April 7, 2018
I grew up with Laure and have the most wonderful memories of such a smart, beautiful, strong, creative friend. I am sending all my condolences and love to her whole family.
Maria Mann
April 5, 2018
I had the pleasure and honor of working with Laure in Southampton many years ago. It was just one summer but I never forgot her. She was a special person with great character. I am very sad to hear of her passing and extend my sincerest condolences to her family
Karen and Andrew Culver
March 23, 2018
All of Murray Bay is shaken by the loss of one of our own, a child of beauty and place, as we all are. May peace be upon her loved ones, especially her children, as it surely is upon her.
March 15, 2018
Dear Edie; I am so shocked that your daughter should die in mid life. It is so hard to think of your pain. I know you will be such a help for her husband and your wonderful grandchildren.
Susan Scribner Heitner, Brearley'57
Stephanie Gitlin
March 13, 2018
I am so saddened to hear of Laure's passing. My deepest condolences to Laure's family. Laure and I went to high school together. I feel fortunate to have known her as a friend. We shared many great times together, memories I cherish.
Gina Hartwig
March 12, 2018
Laure and I were friends in high school. I am so sad to hear of her passing. She was so lovely. Beautiful and kind. I send my deepest sympathies to her family, her parents, and brothers Marc and Charles.
Judith Peck
March 12, 2018
Deepest condolence. So young, so beautiful, so talented. How tragic.
Gail Gilroy-Doering
March 11, 2018
I am devastated to hear of Laure's passing. She was a wonderful, kind woman who mentored my daughter years ago when she worked for her at Sans Souci in Port Jefferson. She encouraged her to work hard and pursue her dreams, inspiring her passion. My deepest sympathy to her family, especially her children. She will be fondly remembered always...
Nicholas Christopher
March 11, 2018
My condolences to Laure's husband, Bob, her two children, Claire and Max, and her entire family. It is a terrible shock that she is gone. She was my student at Columbia, and she was a dear friend. A bright light and a wonderful poet. She was much loved, and she will be greatly missed .
Nicholas Christopher (New York, NY)
Rebecca Shalam
March 11, 2018
I am beyond saddened to learn of Laure's passing which was way to early. Claire and my son Coby were classmates at Trinity for many years. Laure was completely devoted to her children.
Pierre Force
March 9, 2018
Laure was my student at Columbia in the early 90s. I remember her wonderful presence in class. Heartfelt condolences to her family.
Diana Strauss
March 9, 2018
I am heartbroken, shocked, saddened to hear this news. Laure was a schoolmate of mine growing up in New York City. My deepest condolences to her family and friends. She will be in my prayers.
JR
March 9, 2018
Sincere condolences are extended to Laure Dr Montebello's family. God is able to strengthen and comfort you at this very sad time. Psalms 5: 1,2.
May the fond memories bring you joy in the future as you celebrate her life.
Patricia M Patterson
March 9, 2018
Terrible news! Laure and my daughter Patricia Barlerin were in the same class at Brearley when they were little girls, and she was at our apartment many times. I remember her as bright, attractive and cheerful. What a shame to lose this outstanding woman. With sympathy, Patricia Patterson
Dawn Simmons
March 9, 2018
I am so shocked and saddened by this! I just received the news about Laure my classmate from grade school. I was in touch with her via Facebook but we hadn't connected to see one another. My heart and condolences go out to her children and family.
Your mom was a wonderful classmate and could play dodgeball in gym like no others. She will be missed.
Ashley Hoppin
March 9, 2018
I am devastated to hear this news. I send my love, thoughts and prayers to the whole family.
March 9, 2018
Please accept my deepest sympathies and condolences for your loss. Michael Batista
Kate Rhodes
March 9, 2018
I am so shocked about this. I knew Laure as a smart, kind, sensitive, lovely jewel of a friend. I am so sorry to her family for the loss. I am thinking of you all in this sad time.
AC
March 9, 2018
In God's hands is the life of every living thing and the spirit of every human. May the words of Job 12:10 bring comfort to the family during this sad and difficult time.
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