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Ralph Perry-Miller
July 13, 2025
I was introduced to Tom through his resurrection of Philo. He wrote to me about my grandfather´s role with Philo and thus began a valued friendship. I learned of his untimely death when I sent an unanswered idea for an essay that only Tom could do justice to. Tom was smart, humorous, self deprecatingly amusing and always a pleasure to talk to.
It took me several weeks to steel myself to read his obituary. I miss him deeply. I suspect that he and other Philos are enthusiastically concocting literary amusement in heaven. The world is less for his absence.
John Tate Libby
January 16, 2022
Tom, the world is not the same without your wit and writing. the years we discussed our writing and the times we would meet up in Garden City. Covid made it so the 2020 visit to Garden City did not happen, making 2019 our last time to visit outside of online Till we meet again and I look forward to what you are writing now in heaven.
Eve Rotman
March 12, 2021
Tom was one of the kindness men that I have ever known. I miss him very, very much. He was like a father to many "geezers" of the Philolexian Society of Columbia University. I used to call him my "Celebrity Friend" (and he'd laugh). My heartfelt condolences to his family and friends.
Linda H. Davis
March 12, 2021
The last time I spoke with Tom, just five days before his death --Tom doing his part at a hundred miles an hour, as usual --about people and work and the absurdity of life, he told me an improbable story about his love life. We both shrieked with laughter. His voice was strong, and I took his word that his ailments weren't too serious.
The following week, still shocked by Tom's death, I saw that Fanne Foxe had died. Though I was deeply sad about Tom, I couldn't help but smile at the thought of what he might have said. "I died the same week as Fanne Foxe? I've got to write this!" he'd say, and rush off the phone. And Tom's obituary would include hilarious coincidences involving the Argentine Firecracker and their shared love of tidal basins, the Mr. Magoo Christmas Carol, Star Trek, and cigars.
Tom's work for the New York Times --hundreds of articles over the years --include some of the funniest and most distinctive pieces I've read there. With his erudition, love of movies, and savant-like fund of arcane information, Tom carved out a niche at the Paper of Record. In his excellent book CAST OF CHARACTERS, he managed to do what few writers could: breathe fresh air into the stories of several well known New Yorker figures. Having written about some of them myself, I was awed by this feat. Familiar as these characters were, I couldn't stop turning the pages.
A writer of crisp prose, a man of great enthusiasms and a loving heart, Tom was a unique presence in my life. I miss him already.
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