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DiBENEDETTO--Vilma Mary (nee Petacchi), passed away on February 21, 2019. Vilma was born August 18, 1931 in the Bronx, and lived most of her life in New York. She was one of four children of John and Mary Petacchi, and one among countless cousins who loved her and whom she loved. Vilma was married on December 31, 1968 to James Louis DiBenedetto, also of the Bronx, and she had one son, James John DiBenedetto. Vilma worked for over 40 years for I Stern, advancing to the position of Sales Manager, and earning the respect, friendship and love of everyone she worked with. As a sign of how well she was regarded, one of her bosses put her in his will, and another sent Vilma and one of her best friends at the office on a trip to Ireland that was one of the highlights of her life. Outside of work, Vilma loved music, and was fortunate enough to see both Tony Bennett and Frank Sinatra in concert. She also loved to play cards, and was part of a close-knit group of friends in New York who got together every Saturday night for 30 years to play nickel poker, as well as one night a week for a bowling league. She also loved regular visits to Atlantic City and the one dollar slot machines. Vilma is survived by her son James, her daughter-in-law Cathey, her sister Marietna, her nieces Lisa, Amy, Mary, Karen, Erica, Christa, Donna, Ennea, Kathy, and Karen, her nephews Johnny, Edd and Kenny, her cousins Corinne, Nina, Thom and John, and many grand nieces and nephews, as well as her friends, Hilda and James Schiavo, Bonnie Foster and Robert Perri. She was predeceased by her brothers John and Donald, her husband James, and her friends, Betty Giustino, Billy Foster and Theresa Forella.

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Published in New York Times on Feb. 24, 2019.
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February 18, 2021
She is missed by all. When her friends in the Bronx get together, many of the things that she did and was are discussed and is lovingly remembered. Her son James and daughter-in-law Cathey, have visited here in New York with her friends, James & Hilda, Bonnie and Bob and others and we spend time together reminiscing the past and discussing the present. Her son. James has become a writer of books, which is one of the things which we talk about when James and Cathey are here visiting. Time goes bye so quickly and Vilma and her call to play the card games is missed. May she rest in peace!
Robert Perri
February 25, 2019
I'm very sorry to hear of your precious loss. May your memories always bring smiles to your faces and comfort to your hearts. And may the God Of All Comfort help you through this difficult time. Isaiah 61:1,2. May her memory be a blessing.
February 24, 2019
May she rest in peace, and I offer my condolences to the family.
Eugene Demaitre
February 24, 2019
Vilma was a long-time friend of our group. The group was from a bunch of friends who grew up together in the Bronx, NY which included her husband, Jimmy among many others. We enjoyed our card playing Saturdays with her, Jimmy and her son, Jimmy Jr. among our regulars. I won't mention the many other players as we might be leaving out people who were loved too. Our condolences to Jimmy, Jr and his wife Cathey, and the many others who loved her. She will be missed.
Robert Perri
February 24, 2019
May, Vilma's soul rest in peace.
Jack Lillywhite
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