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EUGENE "GENE" on May 13, 2015. Loving husband of Vicki, devoted Pop of Anthony (Zoe), beloved brother of Suzy Costales (Fred), Maggie Jugla (late Charlie), Ray (Janice), Maria, Leona (Lynn), Sonia Breccia (Paul), Joey (Missy); also survived by numerous loving nieces, nephews, his best friend Tom, and his fur babies Willow, Jasper, Sadie, and Tabitha. Relatives, friends, fellow coworkers from Coyne Chemical are invited to gather Sunday 11 A.M. - 1 P.M. at THE SLABINSKI FUNERAL HOME, 2614 Orthodox St., Phila. Funeral Service will begin 1 P.M. Int. private. In lieu of flowers, donations to Leukemia And Lymphoma Society, 100 N. 20th St., 4th Floor, Phila., PA 19103 would be appreciated

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Published in Philadelphia Inquirer/Philadelphia Daily News on May 15, 2015.
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June 8, 2018
Wow, over a year since I have felt the need to write to you. I have done most of my talking through my heart. However, I question if you have heard me. I tried that whole moving on with a relationship thing. Boy, what an epic failure that was. I think I would rather remain alone than deal with the nightmare I encountered with my selection. I am hoping you did not have anything to do with putting this person in my path. Was there some sort of lesson I was supposed to learn? The only good thing that was derived from this experience was helping me to find some faith. Not sure if you know but I have started to attend church and open my heart to our Lord. Boy, I have a lot to learn and a far way to go. I have to say, though, I am quite excited about the journey. I am pretty sure you already know, but I have also opened my heart to a fur baby. I am sure you are getting quite a chuckle over my mistaking her for Jasper. Does Jasper look for me every time I call his name? She has a lot of familiar traits but she seems a bit more chill than Sir Chunks-a-lot. I find it so reassuring how very much she is already attached to me as I am to her. I know I haven't been to the lighthouse in far too long. However, I don't think I would feel you there. I think you are far away from that location chasing the striped bass as they migrate. I keep hoping you will send me one in my dreams. Though I still find myself angrier than I should be, I miss you terribly. Sending love.
March 20, 2017
Why can't you tell me if my time with Jasper is coming to an end? Why do I feel as if I am failing my little chunk-a-monk so very much? I had thought getting him a bath would make him feel a tad bit better. Why does it seem he has faded even more in the past day? I hope I can convince myself to do what is best for him when the time comes. I am fearful that I will overlook his pain and discomfort to hold onto him. I do not want to feel the pain of losing him he is going to break me for a bit. As much as I have loved all my babies, I cannot deny that he holds an extra special place inside me. Maybe it is knowing what he endured before coming home; maybe it is his feistiness that was so obvious in him until recently; maybe it his unwavering devotion; or maybe it is a little of everything. Once again I find I cannot sleep well. Is it because I am already starting to say my good bye to him? This really makes me mad you have three babies with you! Leave him here with me for a bit longer please!!
September 12, 2016
In a few days, it will be the 2nd birthday you will not be here to celebrate. I have been told things would start looking up after going through the firsts - first birthday, first holiday, first anniversary, etc. I find they are wrong on every account. It has not gotten easier; if anything, it has gotten a little worse. It seems as if so many of our friends/family have moved onto other things. At least to me, you are now just a memory - dusted off every so often but put away just as quickly. I find my anger is increasing with each passing day not subsiding like it should. I cannot seem to bury my resentment at you not being here and my being alone. I wonder at my writing these little notes to you. Do you hear me or am I just a memory to you also? I wonder...
I've decided to stay home this weekend. I will do everything in my power to stay busy and not let anyone see my rage. I will put on my front that seems to be my constant anymore. Everyone believes I am doing well so I guess I am getting good at this acting thing. I hope you are happy and well-adjusted wherever that may be. Please know I am missing you always.
September 6, 2016
Three of our four fur babies are now with you. I only have Jasper left of our little family we created. I am trying so hard not to be angry. I am trying to find the blessing in knowing she is not suffering anymore. I am just not capable of doing it yet. I am fuming at the unfairness of watching you then each one of our kids pass. I understand in my brain that you all went peacefully; however, my heart still does not understand. At this point I am not sure I will ever understand who thought I was strong enough to carry this grief. I know it could be worse and there are people dealing with so much more than me. I just want this little bit of time to rage. I will find a way to bury this latest sorrow and move forward. It is all I can do at this point. Could you please find a way to let me keep Jasper for a good long time? Love you a bushel and a peck.
August 26, 2016
Lee Kaminski
August 25, 2016
I have been struggling these past few days without a concrete reason why. You have been in my thoughts and dreams almost on a constant basis. However, they are not truly focused so it leaves me feeling confused. I wonder if you are attempting to tell me something though I have almost come to believe this is not the case. I think I am so desperate for a sign from you that I am creating them. I have been told you will know a sign when you receive it. As I am sure you are aware, I took a ride on a roller coaster with Tara while at Knoebels. When we were standing in line, the train of cars had a malfunction with the brakes, and they locked up. We joked that it was you sending me a sign to not take the ride. However, they fixed the issue and all was fine. Though it was a scary experience, I actually did not hate it totally. As you also know, the situation that arose the other week was resolved without any issues just a hiccup like I had hoped. If you had something to do with this, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I can only hope that you are close by on a regular basis watching over us. I miss you so much it is a physical ache at times. I am still trying to find a way to move on from here. Love you a bushel and a peck.
August 10, 2016
I find, once again, my strength and determination are being tested. This test is one I have gone through before. However, this time I do not have you to stand by me during the procedures. I have some wonderful friends (you know how they are) who have stepped up and are willing to hold my hand. Of course, though, I am being stubborn and starting the process on my own. Actually, I have not told many people at all. I have promised to myself that should it need to progress further, I will reach out for support and guidance. I have to say it is getting more frustrating with each new trial. I just started back on working out. I have to say it feels absolutely wonderful to be moving again. Could you please find a way to make this just a little hiccup? I really do not want to be sedentary again. I hadn't realized it has been so long so I have written to you. A lot has needed to be said but I have said it with my heart. I know you have heard me. I wasn't far from you this past weekend sorry I didn't come down to say hello. I will, however, be down to say hi on your birthday. I am not sure if I will have company. There are still family that is always by my side. I miss you a little more each day. I wish I could just sit and talk with you for a bit. Love you a bushel and a peck.
May 31, 2016
As you already know, you have a new pal to keep you company. I am so thankful that I got to spend some time on Friday evening with him before he started his new journey. It was both an honor and a privilege to talk with him during some of his final hours. My heart breaks for his wife as she begins one of the hardest undertakings of her life. As much joy we used to get out of listening to her yell at him for his quirky habits, it was so painfully obvious how much she adored him. Could you guys please stay close to her during these early days which can be so very dark and discouraging? Love you a bushel and a peck.
April 25, 2016
I saw a picture of your brother from this past weekend. At first glance it took my breath away. He reminded me of you so much. I can't really put my finger on why...maybe it was the expression. This is the very first time I have seen a similarity between the two of you. Maybe it is something I have overlooked before. Could it be I am so lonely and sad without you by my side that I am doing everything in my power to find a piece of you to hold onto? I put this front on for almost everybody to make them think I am doing okay. The truth of the matter is I struggle a bit more every day. I was so angry with you yesterday. I attempted to weed whack the yard for the first time since you left. It was so utterly frustrating. I did not do a good job at all. It truly made me realize how much I took for granted when you were here. There is so much I should have paid more attention to when I had the chance. Now I just try to muddle through the day without losing my composure. Honestly it takes all of me. I am trying to maintain my motivation in so many aspects of my life - this life I am trying to construct without you. Again, I wonder if there is something I am doing wrong or overlooking. I continue to wait for some sign that you are okay with the path I have chosen. I miss you so very much!! Love you a bush and a peck!!
April 19, 2016
I wonder why I haven't cried lately. What kind of wife am I that these milestones are starting to hit fast and furious and I don't weep? At first I had typed mourn but that would be a lie. I do mourn you every single day. I am haunted by the events that transpired one year ago. Each day since April 6th I remember some detail of that journey. Each day my sorrow grows a little more but my eyes stay dry. My heart aches, my mind spins, my arms are empty. I lack the ability to concentrate and think coherently. When I sleep, my dreams are focused on you. I still don't understand why and am no longer sure I will ever have the answers I seek. Earlier I was thinking, today marked one year since I lost you the real you. But I was wrong in that thinking. There were so many other times during that period that we lost each other due to some unforeseen circumstance. It was mind boggling how we needed to adjust our way of thinking and how we reacted. I wonder if I have the strength to live through the memories of our final goodbye. I miss you so very much!! Love you a bushel and a peck!! XXOO
April 14, 2016
This night one year ago we were taking an ambulance ride together to what we hoped would be a miracle - the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania. It was raining that night and Tony was following us in his Challenger. No luxury in that carriage ride huh? I have been assaulted with all sorts of memories tonight - some good, some wonderful while others just rip at my soul. Back around Easter I had said I couldn't remember certain details. The blinders have been ripped down, and things are pouring in to my mind and heart. I keep trying to get back to writing in a journal especially on nights like this - I need some way to exorcise these demons - but I cannot seem to form the words to make things better. I suppose that is the whole point, isn't it? There is no making it better. I am told time is like a buffer and will smooth away the rough edges. I am not sure I am worthy of those edges being polished for me - I deserve to remember bits and pieces of all our years together - I have earned the honor of knowing how I failed. Though I know neither one of us was perfect, I know you always had the very best intentions at heart. I hope you know I did also. Now I can only strive to remember the best of us and hope you feel me somehow. You may receive more messages than usual for a bit - I truly hope you do not mind. Hoping I will get past my writer's block and be able to document my rambles on paper. Though, I suppose you know my thoughts whether I get them out or not. Love you a bushel and a peck. XXOO
March 27, 2016
Happy Easter babe! It's not getting any easier. I wonder sometimes what I've gotten myself into. What are you trying to tell me, what am I not seeing? Please find a way to make your message a tad more clear. Made lasagna for the first time in such a long time. It just felt so wrong. Even now I smell it cooking and wait for you to say how good it smells. As you know I'm going to turn some of your shirts into blankets. Seems I'm a bit stuck getting them ready. So afraid to let them go for the time it'll take to have them finished. Please give me the strength. I know it's asking a lot but if you could add your smell when I get them back, I'd be grateful. I keep trying to remember things but it's like my mind has frozen over on a lot of details. I couldn't remember when Easter was last year. Tara reminded me of the date which was the day before you went into the hospital. I miss you so damn much!! Did you watch our egg hunt this morning? Tara and I make a decent team, but it doesn't compare to the team we made. Love you a bushel and a peck. XXOOXXOO
March 7, 2016
In just a few days you and I started the hardest year of our lives last year. At that time who would have known I would be saying Good Bye to you in just two short months. It has been such a struggle lately. Couldn't put my finger on why - winter blues, house disaster, stress. It finally occurred to me that January and February were extremely hard months during your battle. You always handled your hurdles with such gusto. I suppose I foolishly thought last year would be no different. I still find it incomprehensible that there wasn't a more positive ending to this absolute disaster. Just when I am starting to feel a little more sturdy (if that is even possible), all these one year milestones are starting to happen. In a couple months I will journey down to where we set you free. Please find it in your heart to come say hello if you could. I miss you a little more each day. Love you a bushel and a peck!! XXOO
December 28, 2015
I miss you so much Euge!!!
December 22, 2015
I really missed having you with me this weekend. Santa came around with the fire company. It would have been wonderful if you were there to see my child like glee over this annual visit. We got our first tree without you. I let Tara and Gage pick it out. It is just not the same to pick out our ugly tree - so many good memories with the holidays here. It shatters my heart I am going through this season without you. It really hit home yesterday driving to pick up Tara's gift. Seeing all the houses decked out drove a dagger through my heart. Always thinking and missing you!! I love you bunches!!
November 26, 2015
Happy Thanksgiving Babe!! I'm finding this week to be so very hard. I'm feeling the loss of you in every fiber of my being. Everything feels wrong and out of place. Trying to celebrate my birthday without you was extremely difficult. I'm praying you are at peace. I'm eternally thankful for the years we had together and the joy that we shared. Missing you always. I love you bunches and bunches. What I wouldn't give to have you here with me. XXOOXXOO
Vicki Kaminski
November 10, 2015
It is so hard to believe that in three days you will be gone for six months!! Six months - who would have thought it would ever come to me leaving you messages on your obituary site. There are still times just the thought of never seeing you or hearing your voice again takes my breath away. It is literally a physical pain knowing you are no longer with us. I have opened my eyes to the signs that you give me to let me know you are still with me in spirit. The computer trick is extremely impressive considering how very much you despised them. I will admit the first few times were kind of freaky. Last night when you did it in front of Tara just made me feel so wonderful. It truly means the world to me to have you near still. Please continue to guide me as I negotiate this life without you. At times I am so unsure of myself and wonder if my decisions are the right ones. It looks like in one month Tara, Austin and Gage (your little stinker butt) will be moving in and filling our home with love, laughter and noise. I'd still give anything to spend just a little more time with you. I miss you so very much. I have not found it true that it gets easier with time. Hope you are raising hell and having fun!! Love you bunches and bunches!! XXOO
August 13, 2015
On this day that marks three months since you left us, I feel adrift. Way too many changes since you have been gone - I find it hard to adjust quickly enough. As you know, one of our fur babies is now with you keeping you company. She missed you way too much to stay. To say I miss you would be a huge understatement. Still trying to find myself after so many years of having you by my side. I am hoping you will visit to let me know you are happy and at peace. If there is anyone who deserves peace, it would be you. I am told how strong I am, but it was you that was amazing through your battle. I can only hope I am just a tad bit as strong and durable as you were. Sweetest dreams babe. I miss you but love you even more.
July 22, 2015
Still missing you Euge. Say Hi to Mommy & Daddy. I hope you're soaring with those 2 Angels.
May 16, 2015
Seeing Gene pass before my eyes was very difficult. It was early morning and the sun had just risen. It's was as peaceful as it could have been. He had the chance to relax in his own house, see his fur babies, his truck and be surrounded by loved ones. I wish we spent more time with him while he was healthy. I will always regret that. R.I.P. Gene <3
Melani Bracey
May 16, 2015
I will miss him, I regret not spending more time with the two of you. I will hold you dearly forever in my heart. I will miss his infectious smile. RIP and sleep well. I love you.
Pam & Brian Burkett
May 16, 2015
Prayers to the Kaminski family-
Love Kristina
Kristina Marchuk
May 16, 2015
May you live on in the hearts of everyone who loved and knew you. You will be missed
joshua yoshi
May 16, 2015
Beverly Gordon
May 15, 2015
I am so sorry for your loss. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Love to all the Pahnlick family.
Nicole Pahnlick
May 15, 2015
Our condolences, prayers and love to the Kaminski family.... Gene, may you soar with the Angels, free and at peace, looking over your loved ones,,, Till we meet again old friend,,,
Jim and Patti Steelman
May 15, 2015
Love - Hopey
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