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VIOLET, "BOOTSIE" (nee Amodei); October 9, 2014. Beloved wife of Jack. Dear daughter of Stella (nee Rio) and Sam Amodei. Sister of Joyce Amodei (Eric Hildebrandt). Survived by her loving in-laws. Violet was devoted Aunt Bootsie to her many loving nieces and nephews. She will be sadly missed by her many loving friends and family. Relatives and friends are invited to her VIEWING TUESDAY EVENING 5 P.M. until 7 P.M. at The Church of St. Monica, 17th and Ritner Sts. Funeral Mass to begin at 7:30 P.M. There will be a Visitation with her family WEDNESDAY 10 A.M. until 11 A.M. (at the church). Funeral Procession will leave St. Monica's Church at 11 A.M. Int. New St. Mary's Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, family requests contributions be made in her memory to The United Mitochrondrial Disease Foundation (UMDF), 8085 Saltsbury Rd., Suite 201, Pittsburgh, PA 15239 (

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Published in Philadelphia Inquirer/Philadelphia Daily News from Oct. 12 to Oct. 13, 2014.
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October 6, 2019
Hello Jack and Family,
I hope you are doing well with your Family and Violet's Family.
October brings memories to my heart of Violet and her beautiful personality and kindness. I hope the memories she left showers your heart with warmth and love to carry on and live life to its fullest. That is how I try to be when I remember Violet.
With best wishes and warmest greetings,
Meriem Aberra
Meriem Aberra
March 6, 2015

Jack, Stella, Sam, and Joyce,

We wanted to offer our love, prayers and support to all of you during this difficult time.

When I heard about Bootsie's passing, my heart sank. Our families have always had a special bond, and share so many memories.

Bootsie had so much love in her heart, and she touched a lot of people with her kindness. She was truly special, warm and loving. Bootsie will always be remembered that way.

With love,
Joanie and Steve Dellelci
Joanie Dellelci
February 25, 2015
Jack,Stella,Sam and Joyce,

We just heard about Bootsie passing and are in total disbelief. She was very special person and was a positive influence on me.
She also holds a very special spot in both my and John's life with her care and attention during his heart surgery.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you Jack, Stella,Sam and Joyce we will miss her kind and beautiful smile, and are deeply saddened.

Phyllis and John Sica
December 30, 2014
Sam, Stella, Joyce & Jack

I met Joyce today in the store and she told me of Bootsie's passing. I was so shocked and I am deeply saddened to hear of this. I saw Bootsie this past summer in the salon and it was so nice to see her after a long time. She was the nicest & sweetest person and my heart goes out to all of you. You are in my prayers!

Linda Amodei
November 26, 2014
Amodei and McCabe Families, we were shocked and so sorry to hear about Violet. We knew Violet and Jack from Lambert Street, they were our next door neighbors. Jack we are sorry for your loss.
Mary & Steve Oster
November 23, 2014
Ms. Amodei was my teacher at Sacred Heart in 2 nd and 4 th grades. She helped shape the very person I am today and I couldn't be more grateful to her for that. I am saddened to hear of her passing and extend my families most sincere condolences to the Amodei and McCabe families. May she rest in peace.
October 18, 2014
Jack always remember "those who live in the love of the Lord never

see each other for the last time".

Mary Sweeney
October 17, 2014
Jack, Sam, Stella, Joyce, and Eric,
We thank God for the privilege of knowing Bootsie, and we only wish she had been with us longer. She was a kind, caring, human being and a wonderful addition to the McCabe family. The sumptuous feasts that she so carefully prepared for us are now being enjoyed by her fellow angels in heaven.
Grace and peace,
Joe and Lynne McCabe
October 16, 2014
Mr and Mrs Amodei, Joyce, and Sam,
How sad to hear of Bootsie's passing. Mr and Mrs Amodei, you probably don't remember me, but I was friends with Bootsie at K of P. You both were so kind to include me, occasionally, on your trips to your local pool club and to connect me to a tutoring "job" with one of your neighbor's children. I saw Bootsie, often, while we were attending St. Maria Goretti, and then met up with her again at St. Joe's. I then sub'd for Bootsie at Sacred Heart when she had her heart surgery around 1971. I have thought of and spoken of Bootsie so many times since then. She truly was an extraordinary individual, a true light in this world. Please know that I will pray daily for her intercession now that I know she is blessing us from her new home.
Godspeed, Bootsie. You have physically left us, but you will remain, forever, an angel among us.
My prayers and condolences,
Pat Perri Kowalchick
October 16, 2014
Amodei and McCade Families I was shocked and so sorry to hear about Violet. I knew her from school and saw her about 8 years ago at PA hospital. She was a wonderful person and I will always remember her kindness to me. My prayers are with you.
Carmene Wall
October 16, 2014
To all of Bootsie's family and friend, I offer my deepest sympathy. Bootsie and I were friends from our days at King of Peace, and the neighborhood.

Even though I haven't seen her in 45 years, I remember what a great person she was. I have read all of the comments that were posted, and I just know every word written about her is true.

May she now rest in peace.
Joe McDonald
October 16, 2014
I want to express my thanks for the incredible support Sam, Stella, Joyce, Eric and I have received. As she donated to her countless charities, visited sick parents of Sacred Heart students or neighbors and other acts, Bootsie said if you give it will come back to you. She was so right.
The love and caring she gave to all was astounding. Thank You for giving it back to her through us.
Boots, I want to thank you for the best 22+ years ever. Many great memories. Not a bad day. Not an argument that lasted more than 5 minutes and always ended with a kiss and a hug. I did not deserve such an angel. The rest of my life will be lived by me asking ‘what would Bootsie do?'. The answer is give your heart. Love you honey.
Jack McCabe
October 15, 2014
may she rest in peace she is no longer suffering. She will always watch over her friends and family.
Linda Wright
October 15, 2014
My sister,my best friend. I knew she was a very special person, but seeing and reading this outpouring of love and respect is overwhelming. I think you all know with her, the feeling was mutual. Thank all of you again.. My parents and I were blessed, and I will never forget all of this. Joyce Amodei
October 15, 2014
My sister,my best friend. I knew she was a very special person, but seeing the outpouring of love and all of these tributes is overwhelming. Thank you everyone for all of this. I know all of you know that she loved you and truely cared for everyone. My parents and I will never forget all that you have shared with us. Joyce
Joyce Amodei
October 15, 2014
I am sorry to hear of the passing of your loved neighbor told me today.I remember you from school jack so sorry..also as I read the obituary I see that she was the daughter of sam amadei.sam was a very good friend of my dad..It's a shame that after all these years we hear or see about someone we grew up with..hopefully we can see each other and your family are in my prayers..god bless
louis menna
October 14, 2014
Violet lived her life with such spirit of unconditional love, zeal, and dedication to service of making this world a better place...we are all so blessed to have shared a segment of our path in our journeys with her...she was truly a teacher of values, integrity and doing the right thing with a smile. Her boundless energy and can- do spirit will live in my heart forever. Keeping you Jack, and her parents, her sister and your entire family and the numerous lives she touched in my prayers. She was truly an angel on earth...and now, I can only believe she is whispering in Jesus' ear....her caring will never end, she's looking out for all of us...especially you, Jack and her family! Prayers are with you all.
terri ryan
October 14, 2014
Our family has such special memories of Aunt Bootsie from 2 summer trips most recently NYC. She was always so fun, generous, the most amazing hostess! We love you Aunt Bootsie and will miss you terribly. Our prayers are with you Uncle Jack.... We love you! Tom, Maureen, John, Jacob
Maureen Link
October 14, 2014

We were so sorry to hear about the sudden passing of your wonderful wife. Bootsie certainly lit up every room she entered with her unique personality and ever-sunny smile. She touched so many lives in a positive way!

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.


The Fergione's
October 14, 2014
Truly, one of the kindest, sweetest people I've ever had the privilege of knowing and working with. I considered her a friend and she will be greatly missed.
Sherry Berman
October 14, 2014
Violet - my friend - my sister! You were a terrific roommate. I have so many wonderful memories of our time at Sacred Heart and 10th and Tasker. I learned so much from you about teaching and life!
Mary Kay Hepner
October 14, 2014
Your smile wil be sorely missed. You made coming to work more enjoyable. PAH, PCA, and Penn Cardiology will never be the same. We will always love you. RIP
Martin Jimenez
October 14, 2014
with her good friend Mary Terry
Martin Jimenez
October 14, 2014
Bootsie made the world a better place-Compassionate, articulate, joyful,humble a true friend.

Via con Dios Dulce Violet !

An old friend
October 14, 2014
Jack, Mr. and Mrs. Amodei and Joyce,
I was so shocked and sadden to hear that my dearest friend and colleague Violet McCabe passed away. Violet was a remarkable person and she will be greatly missed by me and by everyone who had the pleasure to know her. I had the pleasure to know Violet when we worked side- by -side for several years at Pennsylvania Hospital's Cardiac Catheterization Laboratory in the late 1980s. I will never forget Violet's relentless devotion and commitment to provide high quality and compassionate patient care to all patients. Violet was a giver, kind and she genuinely cared for her co-workers and was always ready to promote positive and caring work environment. She made a difference! She was one of a kind and there was never anyone quite like Violet and never will be again. As you know, I also had the pleasure to know Violet outside work and had the honor and the pleasure to participate on her beautiful wedding day. I regret that I was not able to spend more time with Violet to enjoy her. What an amazing person she was and what a remarkable life she led. I will deeply miss her. May she rest in peace.
I hope, the coming days will bring you hope, give you peace and help you draw strength from the caring hearts around you.
With heartfelt sympathy,
Meriem Aberra & Family
Meriem Aberra
October 14, 2014
You know a person was great when she was your teacher and 30 yrs later you still remember her like it was yesterday...RIP
John Davidson
October 13, 2014
Dear Uncle Jack,
Just to echo the sentiments expressed by Eileen. Thank you for bringing Aunt Bootsie into our lives. She entered all of your nieces and nephews lives with such a zest to get know us and to learn and care about what mattered to us. It was certainly a special relationship to me as I was in those awkward adolescent/teen years. As an adult now that works with new people and families everyday, I can tell you I never met a more authentic, genuinely sweet person. She certainly made an impression on every life she touched. We will forever miss her. Love,
Steve, Tish, Owen and Aislinn
Steve Ward
October 13, 2014
I am deeply sorry to hear about the death of my childhood friend "Bootsie". We were backyard friends, skating buddies and bike riders in our youthful years. Bootsie was always a beautiful and kind friend full of laughter. I ran into her about 6 years ago and recognized her instantly. She had the same youthful face she had as a child and an unmistakable voice. We laughed and shared some experiences in our lives. It was so nice to see her again. Stella, Sam, and Joyce, may your heart and soul find peace and comfort. I'm sure my parents Dee and Al welcomed her to heaven. We shall all meet again as God had promised. Nancy Cosmi Madden
October 13, 2014
November 1958
Nancy Cosmi
October 13, 2014
Spring 1955
Nancy Cosmi
October 13, 2014
Easter Sunday 1961
Nancy Cosmi
October 13, 2014
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of my friend, Violet. She was one of my first brides. I did her wedding flowers years ago. She always had a smile and a good word to say about everyone she knew. When my Mom was in the Pennsylvania Hospital in 2004,05, even though she had nothing to do medically with my Mom, she always overlooked her care and always let me know how Mom was. She was that kind of person...loving and caring. I will never forget her and send my condolences to her beloved husband and her family. RIP my friend. Janet Cedrone Alvarez of Cedrone's Flowers
Janet Alvarez Cedrone's Flowers
October 13, 2014
Rest in peace Ms Amodei What a great teacher at Sacred Heart
October 13, 2014
My deepest condolences on your loss. I worked with Violet at Pennslyvania Hospital. She was a lovely person. I enjoyed our chats at work. We will miss her.
Peg Carroll
October 13, 2014
My deepest sympathies to the Amodei and Violet families.
Steve Avallone
October 13, 2014
Bootsie and I met at my cousin's house in grade school and were homeroom buddies for four years at Goretti, but we really bonded as we backpacked all through Europe in '69 or '70 with our other friends Lynda and Candy. When four girls are sharing one room in tiny hotels in strange cities and know no one else on a far away continent, they learn quickly to get along and depend on each other. Bootsie was the calming force in all of our adventures. She was attentive, compassionate, and loving, always agreeable, happy, and excited about what we were doing or where we were going next. Whenever we've been together through the years, we could immediately go back to that wonderful time in our lives. We had a girls' night at Popi's a few weeks ago--five friends just talking and laughing for hours. Bootsie, ever thoughtful, brought us all Halloween candy. I was so fortunate to see her often at morning mass at St. Monica's Church. I saw her there a few days before her operation. She stayed for the rosary, so I just went over and kissed her good luck. Her smile on that day was as beautiful and welcoming as on every other day of her life. Bootsie was a true and exquisite person and will be greatly missed! Jack, Mr. and Mrs. Amodei and Joyce, I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
Cathi Varano
October 13, 2014
Jack, I am truly sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.
Scott Milstein
October 13, 2014
Joyce-we are so sorry to hear about Bootsie. I first met her at a career day at McCall School. Her enthusiasm was contagious. The kids loved her. We got chatting and your name somehow came up and we realized that you were our common link. We enjoyed getting together with
Bootsie, Jack, Eric and you. You and Jack and your mom and dad are in our prayers
Ray & Mary Jude
October 13, 2014
May the family and friends of Violet be
consoled at this time, and may her soul
rest in peace with God.
Anthony Mangano
October 12, 2014
Bootsie at my engagement party, 1982
I knew Bootsie from Avalon, skiing with SJSC and her friends, back in the late '70's and early 80's. She was just the loveliest person I ever knew. She will be greatly missed by all who knew her. Bert Dawson
Bert Dawson
October 12, 2014
Ms Amodei was my fave teacher. She made elementary school worth all the stress. I am very sad to hear this news.
Liz Hawthorne
October 12, 2014
Jack, you know how we loved her! It's comforting to know that she is in good company and as Jimmy said, "if we are judged by how we love", she has one of the best seats in Heaven! Our Love and Prayers, Jimmy, Roe and family.
October 12, 2014
Ms. Amodei taught me in fifth grade. She loved to teach science and was always excited to share her love of learning with us. Her beauty reached all the way to her soul, and you couldn't find a former student of hers who didn't love and admire her. I offer my heartfelt condolences to her family and friends. She will always be fondly remembered and greatly missed.
Trish Martin Mayro
October 12, 2014
Dear Jack we were totally stunned when you told us the news. It is incredible to think that her smiling and caring face will not be at our usual get togethers. We are both heart broken and pray for you very much and we know that she is with the angels. In Paradisum deducant Te Angeli, Bootsie.
John and Pat O'Neill
October 12, 2014
Ms. Amodei was my 2nd grade teacher and I odored her. One of the nicest teachers I ever had. God Bless her and may she R.I.P. Mary Ellen DeMay (WELCH)
Mary E DeMay
October 12, 2014
Jack, we are so sorry. Bootsie will be missed by all who attend the annual Christmas Eve Brunch. Her smiling, happy face and wonderful, caring personality can never be replaced. Our prayers are with you as you go through this extremely difficult time.
Carl, Irene, Mike and Ang
October 12, 2014
Dear Uncle Jack,

Thank you for bringing Aunt Bootsie into our family! You couldn't have chosen a more thoughtful or generous partner. She had a gift for making others feel so special.

You two created many wonderful memories during your years together and we hope that those memories will bring you much comfort in the days ahead.

With lots of love

Eileen and Ed
Eileen and Ed Michaels
October 12, 2014
Miss Amodei was that one teacher who touched the future by teaching us. Most people when they die are remembered by their family and a few friends, but Miss Amodei will have many hundreds of people who will remember her for the rest of their lives.
Sacred Heart Class of 73
October 12, 2014
Bootsie embraced the McCabe clan and was so much more than an in-law. She was a generous, caring aunt to so many and always remembered and was interested in everyone.
Betty and John Hagerty
October 12, 2014
Dear Jack,
Can,t tell you how sorry I am for you and your family.Please accept my sincerest condolences. Unfortunately because of my teaching schedule I will not be able to attend the funeral for Violet but know that you are in my prayers.
I know that Sue Carroll will be away and will not be able to attend. She also sends her sympathy and prayers.
Maryjane McHugh
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