Mary Louise Crutsinger Gayle
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Mary Louise "Mary Lou" Crutsinger Gayle, age 65, was tragically killed on May 31, 2019. She was a doting Mother and Grammy who leaves behind son Matthew Gayle and spouse Carrie Gordon, daughter Sarah Leonard and spouse Jeff Leonard, as well as grandchildren Jeffrey and Genevieve. She was a sister to Barbara and spouse Joe Wood, Robert "Bobby" and spouse LaDona Crutsinger, Cathy and spouse Richard LaBranche, and Patricia "Tricia" and spouse Cecil Smith. Mary Lou also leaves behind numerous nieces and nephews. She was a friend to all who knew her. Mary Lou was a graduate of Cox High School Class of 1972, and coordinator of her class reunions. She earned her Bachelor's degree from St. Leo University and a Master's degree in Public Administration from Troy University while working for the City of Virginia Beach. She was a dedicated public servant who worked for the City of Virginia Beach for 24 years, starting as a legal secretary in the Law Department and ultimately advancing to become a highly successful Public Works Right of Way Agent. Mary Lou was slated to be honored as the Regional Professional of the Year by the International Right of Way Association for a region covering eleven states, stretching from Virginia to Maine, at a ceremony scheduled to take place in Portland, Oregon just two weeks after she was killed. Mary Lou was a devout Roman Catholic and taught catechism (religious education) classes for many years at St. John Apostle the Catholic Church. She also participated in a bunko group, enjoyed craft projects including crochet and knitting, and for more than thirty years made gingerbread houses for each household in her extended family every Christmas season. Mary Lou volunteered extensively in the community, including in multiple capacities at Ocean Lakes High School, coaching cheerleading through the Courthouse Recreation Association, and supporting the parish community of St. John the Apostle Catholic Church. Her grandchildren, Jeffrey and Genevieve, were the light of her life. She took tremendous joy from teaching them, sharing new experiences with them, and just snuggling together. She was actively planning and very much looking forward to a trip to take them to Disney World for the first time. The family will receive friends Thursday evening from 6:00 to 8:00 PM at H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts., Laskin Road Chapel. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Friday, June 7 at 11:00 AM at St. John the Apostle Catholic Church, 1968 Sandbridge Road in Virginia Beach. Burial will follow at Princess Anne Memorial Park. H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts., Laskin Road Chapel is handling arrangements and online condolences may be made to the family at hdoliver.com. In lieu of sending flowers, the family would ask you to plant a tree or some flowers and hold dear those you love.

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Published in The Virginian-Pilot from Jun. 4 to Jun. 5, 2019.
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June 14, 2019
My condolences to you and your loving family, on the loss of your dear beloved one.May you find comfort in your wealth of fond memories together. May the hope that God's word gives us for those we lost in death be comforting, faith building and encouraging to you. Colossians 1:11. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
June 14, 2019
Praying that the constant love of caring friends soften your sadness. Hoping that your cherished memories bring you a smile to your face. Knowing that our Heavenly Father who is the God of comfort, is going to grant you lasting peace.
June 14, 2019
Sending prayers and condolences to you in this difficult time.May you find comfort in your wealth of fond memories together. May the hope that God's word gives us for those we lost in death be comforting, faith building and encouraging to you. Job 33:24,25
June 14, 2019
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June 10, 2019
Prayers for the repose of the soul of Mary Lou, the other victims, and their families have been added to our St. Michael's parish prayer list. Take comfort that Mary Lou's love for life is an inspiration to us all and she will be missed by those she knew and worked with.
Melissa Corder
June 8, 2019
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family as you deal with Mary Lou's tragic and senseless death.
Randy and Janet Wykle
June 7, 2019
My deepest sympathy goes out to the entire family. Along with you, my heart is torn in pieces and my mind is in disbelief. I had the pleasure of working with Marylou in the law/public works dept. until I moved but I would always stop by to see her when I would visit VA. She was a phenomenal women inside/out. On April 16th, I shared a picture I had of her grandson, Jeffrey with his legs sticking out of the pumpkin and she loved it. I still make her haystack recipe she shared with me. All of you and the City of VA Beach are in my thoughts and prayers every day for comfort, strength and faith to see all of you through this difficult and unimaginable time. I will cherish the memories we had together always.

Your Friend/Co-worker,
Eilene Johnson
Twentynine Palms, CA
June 7, 2019
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your loved one. My heart goes
out to you and I pray for strength and healing.
C Alexander
June 7, 2019
Truly sorry for your loss of your loved one ,may prayers and memories bring you comfort .
Donna Taylor
June 6, 2019
My sincerest condolences at this sad period of time. Mary Lou was the glue that held things together closely partnered with her father, Bob. She consistently brightened the spirits and demeanor of everyone when she entered a room. Her activities for the good of all around her are legion in number and of utmost effectiveness. I have fond memories of Mary at William E. Wood functions and at Bob and Carol's Fiftieth Wedding Anniversary Party. May she rest in peace as she will be sorely missed by all forever.
Page Bishop
June 6, 2019
Dear Matt & Carrie and Sarah & Jeff and all of Mary Lou's Family,
You are in our prayers and we offer our sincere sympathy.

May God keep you all in his loving care,

The Mullin and Loudenslager Family
Mullin & Loudenslager Family
June 6, 2019
I am so sorry for this devastating loss. I pray
that God will ease your pain and bring you the comfort you seek. I have fond memories of Mary Lou, I am sorry our families haven't done a better job keeping in touch.
Julie Scherrep
Roanoke, VA
June 6, 2019
May God comfort you through the days ahead.
My deepest sympathy to all the family
Kathy Baumgardner
June 5, 2019
My prayers of comfort and strength for your family and love ones.
Sharon Hendrick
June 5, 2019
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family at this terrible time. We are both shocked and saddened by this event and pray that no-one and no family shall have to go thru this again.

God Bless Mary Lou

Chuck and Gina
Chuck / Gina
June 5, 2019
You will always be in my heart. I will always remember the laughs and pictures you shared of your grandson when you came into Risk Management.
Sandy MacKay
June 5, 2019
Sandy MacKay
June 5, 2019
Losing someone that we love never comes easy.
It is truly heartbreaking. May God's promises in
Isaiah 65:17 comfort and help you.
June 5, 2019
What a horrible thing to have happened. Virginia Beach citizens stand with your family during this sad and trying time. Peace and comfort be with you.
Ellen Montemurno
June 5, 2019
Deepest condolences, Carol Schaper Wilson, Class of 71, Cox High School.
Carol Wilson
June 5, 2019
I worked with Mary Lou for many years at the City. She was the most kind, giving, sincere person, and we will miss her terribly. We pray for all of you during this impossibly difficult time.
Chris Boynton
June 5, 2019
I'M A STANGER...UNKNOWN..BUT I'M A NEWPORT RESIDENT..BUT TOGEATHER.WE ALL .PEOPLE..MAY GOD GIVE HER FAMILY.N FRIENDS..COWORKERS..THE PEACE..YOU SEEK..MAY YOU ALWAYS HAVE ..ETERNAL..PEACE.. N MAY YOU CONTUINE..TO SLEEP..PEACE..
D JOHNSON
June 5, 2019
So sorry for your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I did not know Mary Lou that well but from the time I emailed & called her back in February & March about a class for the RIGHT OF WAY I attend in Va Beach in March she was so helpful & a joyful person. I remember her coming into the classroom bringing goodies for the day.
Brandy Mcdonald
June 5, 2019
SANDRA OBRIEN
June 5, 2019
To the family, friends, co workers and everyone whose life she touched, you do not know me and she didn't know me but please know this senseless tragedy is far more widespread than just you, Virginia Beach or Virginia. I mourn with you and my finite mind can never fathom the reasons this happened. Know that you have the support of many many others outside your inner circle. As a native of Portsmouth, born and raised, the city of Virginia Beach is part of home to me, so yes I mourn with you and pray that as the days, weeks, months and years go by that you will be able to find some sense of peace and comfort as you deal with the unexplainable void that you now have in your lives.
Edith Harrison
June 5, 2019
Mary Lou was such a ray of sunshine. I enjoyed working with her and talking to her. Thoughts and prayers go out to the Gayle family. Mary Lou's memory will always be in our hearts.Sincerely,Jim and Beth White
James White
June 4, 2019
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James White
June 4, 2019
Such a loss of words, for my dear friend
Mary Lou, seeing you in the morning, with your happy, sweet smile was taken away from us all! Until we meet again, my sweet dear friend! ......Beverly
Beverly Lorenz
June 4, 2019
May the God of all comfort be with Mary Louise's family. My deepest prayers are with you.
June 4, 2019
Remembering Mary Lou as a college student and best friend of my daughter, Kim. They had so much fun together.
I pray for her children and grandchildren as they mourn her loss. She is remembered fondly.
Dorothy Streit
June 4, 2019
I don't know anyone in your family but I want to let you know we are praying for you all in this time of a tragic loss. Our hearts are sad for you all that are going through this. I live in Smithfield, Va. May God bless each one of her family and friends.
Belinda Mason
June 4, 2019
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June 4, 2019
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June 4, 2019
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Heather Bush
June 4, 2019
So very sorry for your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Michala Smith (a fellow parishioner at St. John the Apostle)
Michala Smith
June 4, 2019
Words can not express the grief we are sharing. As we deal with the loss we must remain strong and find comfort in the memories. Thank God for the time we did have with these amazing people in our lives.

The Family of Bert Snelling
Patricia Mellor
June 4, 2019
My prayers surround your family and friends.
Carol Kinsey
June 4, 2019
Words cannot express the heartache we are feeling. We did not know Mary Lou, but we have known Trish and Cecil and family for many years. Our hearts are breaking.......

Bonnie and Rick Cuthriell
Bonnie and Rick Cuthriell
June 4, 2019
Please accept my sincerest condolences. May God give your family strength and comfort to help you endure this loss. As you remember your loved one, may you find comfort in the memories that you share. 2 Thessalonians 3:16
SD
June 4, 2019
My heart is heavy. We will cherish the fond memories of Mary Lou. Condolences to the family.
Christy Blount(Novotny)
June 4, 2019
Mary Lou and I would share so many wonderful stories about our grandchildren. We could talk about them all day. We talked about life events and encouraged one another. We saw each other almost every day. I will surely miss her. My prayers of comfort and strength are with family members and other friends. Mary Lou was more than a co-worker; she was a friend. To have known her was a blessing. Thank God for the time we shared.
Willamae Johnson
June 4, 2019
I never met Mary Lou but she sounds like a beautiful person who touched many people. My heart grieves with her family and friends. ~RP
June 4, 2019
AnnMarie Nettles
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