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TERRY K. COCHENOUR
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TERRY K.
Accomplished his journey on Monday, February 1, 2016, at age 61. Preceded in death by parents, Harry and Margaret (Stefan) Cochenour. Sadly missed by wife, Deborah (Peterson). Fondly remembered by brothers, Jack (Lois) and Donald; cousin, Robert (Patricia) Paluf; nieces, nephews, colleagues, friends, caregivers, and beloved cats. He was born in Charleroi, PA, obtained his BSEE at the University of Pittsburgh. He was a Presbyterian Elder and Junior Achievement Advisor, and retired from Astronautics Corp. in Milwaukee, WI. For 26 years, he took diligent care of kidneys donated through another family's loss. Terry loved music, vintage stereos, old movies, photography, and travel. In lieu of gifts, register for organ donation at donatelife.net or send memorials to a local Humane Society on Terry's behalf. A Private Memorial Service will be held at a later date. KRAUSE FUNERAL HOMES, 7001 W. Brown Deer Rd., Milwaukee, WI 53223, 414-354-9400, www.krause funeralhome.com, serving the family.
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Deb Cochenour
April 17, 2019
For this wedding anniversary, I thought about going to one of the places Terry enjoyed watching on a live camera, at a bear sanctuary in Minnesota (a place he could never have walked with me). I added it to a Lake Superior Circle Tour planned for the end of April. Circumstances are compelling me to cut the trip short, and do the bear sanctuary another time. Maybe.
I have more free time since his brother Donald passed away in January. Of course there are other friends and relatives who appreciate seeing me more often, and that's good. But I still miss my guys.
Both of them expected that I would remarry by now. It isn't so simple. As it says in 1 Corinthians 7:40, sometimes widows can be content to remain so. I find myself leaning that way; not to yearn for the past, but to be open to the future. Terry's future is elsewhere now. When I do see him again, he will be a different man, and that's OK too.
Deb Cochenour
March 10, 2017
The first year has passed, and I'm still alive. The heart attack I expected in the following months did not happen. My cancer has not returned. I am eating fairly well (if not very much) and sleeping a little better. I applied for a passport and am now trying to imagine going to fascinating new places without my Terry's happy company. A circle tour of the Great Lakes and through CT to visit Cousin Bob's kids will be near the top on my agenda.
This time last year, I could not bear to unpack Terry's summer clothes. I'm finally making some progress there. I'm narrowing down the choices to send to Lois for a memory quilt. Don took a few, if they were the right size, and I will keep a few for personal reasons. Unfortunately I still have barely touched all Terry's gadgets in the basement. There's no sense of rush. I had planned to put the house up for sale in 2018 but may discover that I can tolerate living here alone. The life insurance that Terry left for me has been a tremendous blessing so that I didn't have to get a job right away.
And this week, I worked in earnest on a small photo collection to give Don, at his new assisted living home. There's a flip-chart album of memories about Terry and our "late" cats. Then there's a miniature history album with both of his parents, his uncles and Aunt Fran, Jack's family and Bob's family. I was a late arrival in that story - but Don might remember that I was the one who snapped most of the recent pictures. Jack already has 2 older family albums. I have Margaret's album of her 2 younger boys, and the video that Jeff made. The rest of Terry's personal photos of people and places I cannot identify will eventually have to be discarded. YUNZ know who YOU are!
Deb Cochenour
October 7, 2016
Thanks from my heart to everyone who met me as I brought Terry's remains home to PA. With such loving friends and family, he had a rich life.
We will get together again under happier circumstances!
Laid to rest in PA next to his mother
Deborah Cochenour
October 7, 2016
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Deborah Cochenour
May 14, 2016
I observed our wedding anniversary by going to our favorite local Greek diner. Terry loved the flaming cheese appetizer, so I had one. Opa! Terry also loved the custard dessert, but I passed. A few more tears, a hug from the waitresses, and I moved on.
With all my heart, I wish I could have brought him back to PA to sit in his favorite Eat-N-Park and joke with the servers there. They would be so pleased.
Opa!
Late autumn 2015
Deborah Cochenour
February 17, 2016
Rick Stoioff and family
February 14, 2016
Dear Jack and Family: I remember climbing the tree in John's yard with Don and Terry. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this difficult and strenuous time. -Rick Stoioff and Family
Hilda Stoioff
February 14, 2016
Dear Jack and Family: Deepest sympathy on your loss.
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