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KAY, ROBERT W.
died Thursday, October 22nd, 2020 with his beloved three girls by his side. Born prematurely, he fit in the size of a shoebox and from the beginning he was a fighter. He was the son of Arthur W. and Cecile M. (St. Andre) Kay. Born in Pawtucket, he was 84 years young, just shy of his 85th birthday. Robert, better known as "Bobby Kay" graduated from East High School and Johnson & Wales University.
A proud veteran of the U.S. Air Force, he served in Tripoli, North Africa and Greece. Bobby began his insurance career at Pawtucket Mutual Insurance Company, then with Gardiner and Whiteley, Inc, before he proudly started his own independent agency. Later in his career he worked for the State of Rhode Island in the Real Estate Division until he retired in 2000.
Always willing to say, "yes" when asked to help, his dedication to community service began at an early age. A past president of the Pawtucket Jaycees and the RI Jaycees, Bobby received the award " One of The Three Outstanding Young Men of New England." He continued in his leadership roles serving as a past president and charter member of the Cumberland-Lincoln Rotary Club and a recipient of the Paul Harris Fellow. He also was a member of Mount Moriah Lodge #8, F.&A.M. and he was a 32nd Degree Mason with the Scottish Rite. Bob was the past Commander of the American Legion Post 33 of Lincoln.
Bobby never was shy of politics and taught his daughters at a young age to be a part of the process, no matter what side of the aisle you were on. He held elected offices in the town of Lincoln as a member of the Lincoln Budget Board, 10 years on the Lincoln Water Commission, and serving six years on Lincoln Town Council ending his final term as President. A former chairman of the Lincoln Town Republican Committee, Bobby served as the 1978 alternate delegate to the National Republican Convention. An experience he spoke of often to his family.
A big New England sports fan he was an avid follower and season ticket holder of Providence College Friars for over 40 years taking his children and grandchildren and instilling in them the same enthusiasm. He continued that passion for basketball while coaching the Christ Church Basketball team and the Pawtucket Y Biddy League that won the New England Championship. Bob could also be found refereeing and umpiring throughout the Blackstone Valley for many years. His other love was golf. He was a member of Lincoln Country Club for over 40 years trying to master his infamous swing!
He was an active member of Christ Church in Lonsdale serving as an acolyte in his youth and in later years served on the vestry and as a junior warden.
For all who knew Bob, he loved his family fiercely and never missed a moment to be a part of their daily lives. He instilled in them that the love and commitment to family is greater than anything. They will miss him terribly, but his love will continue to shine through their eyes and how they care for one another.
Bob leaves his loving and devoted wife Jean L. (Mathieson) Kay. Bob and his "Jeannie" were married for 62 years. He is also survived by his much loved and adored daughters, Roberta Kay Mclear, and her husband Mark, of Cumberland and Joanne Kay Jourdan, and her husband Alexander, of Lincoln. He also leaves four treasured grandchildren, Casey R. McLear, and his wife Tayla, of Framingham, Sarah J. Bushy, and her husband Mark, of Lincoln, Barrett A. Jourdan of Boston, and Jacob Robert Jourdan of Lincoln. He also leaves three beloved great grandchildren, Ava and Maddox Bushy and Luke McLear. Bob was the brother of the late Donald Kay of Pawtucket.
He also leaves his sister-in-law, Beverly Kay of Pawtucket, and two loyal and caring nephews, Donald Kay, and his wife Robin, and Michael Kay, both of Cumberland; and many extended family, and especially their dear friends who brought joy and laughter to their lives: The Fletchers, McGuys,MacBeths, Browns, Millers, Cooks and Biziers.
The Kay family are beyond grateful for the amazing care that was given to Bob and would like to thank Hope Hospice and Palliative Care Nurses, CNA's and Social Workers, especially Annie.
Due to Covid restrictions, a private Requiem Eucharist will be livestreamed on Friday, October 30, 2020 at 10:00 a.m. at www.bellowsfuneralchapel.com. Burial with military honors will be in Highland Memorial Park, Johnston. A public celebration of Bob's life will be held at a later date. In lieu of flowers contributions can be made to Hope Alzheimer's Center, HopeHealth Hospice and Palliative Care of R.I. and/or Christ Church in Lonsdale. For online guest book, please visit www.bellowsfuneralchapel.com. Arrangements with Bellows Funeral Chapel, 160 River Road, Lincoln.

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Published in The Providence Journal on Oct. 25, 2020.
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November 1, 2020
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Al and Phyllis Mongeau
October 28, 2020
Our condolences.
If anyone personified family, friendship, and community it was Bob Kay.
If everyone could try, just a little, to live a life similar to Bob's then this place would be pretty nice world.
Bob and Dianne Wotherspoon
Bob and Dianne Wotherspoon
Friend
October 28, 2020
Joanne and Family
Please accept my most sincere condolences. I know how much your Dad meant to you and how your eyes would light up and that big smile on your face when you spoke of him. I know he's still with you in everything you do! Because YOU Joanne are alot like him. May God Bless
Sharlene K BOULAY
October 28, 2020
I am so sorry for the loss of this special and beloved man. He truly lived a meaningful and beautiful life. My deepest sympathies are with you and your families.
Gabriella Halmi
Acquaintance
October 26, 2020
Jean and Family,Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss.
Bryan Pilz
Acquaintance
October 26, 2020
I had the pleasure of meeting this extraordinary man and his lovely wife, Jean, was I was Miss Pawtucket, which was sponsored by the Pawtucket JAYCEES. Throughout my competition in Miss Rhode Island, Bobby was always kind, inspiring, supportive and helpful. My life was wonderfully enhanced by his friendship and tremendous guidance. Sincerest condolences to Jean and his family. May he Rest In Peace.
Marilyn Cocozza Trillo
Friend
October 26, 2020
I had the pleasure of meeting this wonderful man and his lovely wife, Jean, when I was Miss Pawtucket which was sponsored by the Pawtucket JAYCEES. Throughout my competition in Miss Rhode Island pageant, Bobby was supportive, reassuring, kind, and inspiring. My life was tremendously enriched by his guidance and friendship. My heartfelt condolences to Jean and his family. May he Rest In Peace.
Marilyn Cocozza Trillo
Friend
October 25, 2020
My husband and I had the joy of knowing this special man for 35 years. His biggest love in life was his family.

He never approached a person without a smile. He had a way of bringing happiness wherever he went.

We can only imagine the loss you are suffering, please know we send our prayer, condolences and thoughts. May he Rest In Peace. Amen.

Truly, Bill and Cyn McCarthy
Bill McCarthy
Friend
October 25, 2020
The entire Family of The Rhode IslandJAYCEES ( U.S. Junior Chamber-JCI USA) and the Rhode Island JCI(Junior Chamber International) Senate and the JAYCEE Alumni Association, extend their heartfelt condolences and kindly affection and personal affinity, to the families & friends of the late, beloved, ROBERT W. 'BOBBY' KAY.

TheJAYCEESfrom all ages, persuasions and backgrounds, along with their categorical rankings of Alumni, Associate, Ambassador, Honorary, Life,JCISenator, RIJAYCEE Governor and Sustaining Memberships, offer our deepest remembrance and organizational praise to our brethren, 'Bobby Kay' within our rank and file as a remarkable public service citizen.

Hisextensive community service achievements, particularlywithin the realm ofand fortheJAYCEESand, tohold so many business,civic, organizational and governmental positions with such great distinction,is a testament ofconsistentcharter,strong dedication and loyal servicefor all to emulateand admire.

Bobby's lineage of family, service, country and community are totally extraordinary ... as all Rhode Islanders should be so proud of such skillful achievement, volunteer action and community service.
We Prayerfully ask the Blessings of Our True, Risen and Living God be always with "Bobby Kay' and his earthly legacy.

With Eternal and Fraternal Love, We Are, the Rhode Island Junior Chamber ('JAYCEES') & Rhode IslandJCISenate & JAYCEE Alumni Club.
Rhode Island JAYCEES & JCI Senate and Alumni Members
Friend
October 25, 2020
The entire Family of The Rhode IslandJAYCEES ( U.S. Junior Chamber-JCI USA) and the Rhode Island JCI(Junior Chamber International) Senate and the JAYCEE Alumni Association, extend their heartfelt condolences and kindly affection and personal affinity, to the families & friends of the late, beloved, ROBERT W. 'BOBBY' KAY. TheJAYCEESfrom all ages, persuasions and backgrounds, along with their categorical rankings of Alumni, Associate, Ambassador, Honorary, Life,JCISenator, RIJAYCEE Governor and Sustaining Memberships, offer our deepest remembrance and organizational praise to our brethren, 'Bobby Kay' within our rank and file as a remarkable public service citizen. Hisextensive community service achievements, particularlywithin the realm ofand fortheJAYCEESand, tohold so many business,civic, organizational and governmental positions with such great distinction,is a testament ofconsistentcharter,strong dedication and loyal servicefor all to emulateand admire. Bobby's lineage of family, service, country and community are totally extraordinary ... as all Rhode Islanders should be so proud of such skillful achievement, volunteer action and community service. We Prayerfully ask the Blessings of Our True, Risen and Living God be always with "Bobby Kay' and his earthly legacy. With Eternal and Fraternal Love, We Are, the Rhode Island Junior Chamber ('JAYCEES') & Rhode IslandJCISenate & JAYCEE Alumni Club.
Rhode Island JAYCEES, JCI Senate & Alumni Club
Friend
October 25, 2020
Jean & Family,

Deepest sympathy on your loss of Bob. He was a great proponent of water supply locally and state wide. May God bless him and the entire family.
Bill Falcone
Friend
October 25, 2020
So sorry to hear of Bob's passing. Remember him from high school. He was always a ball of energy. My sympathy to all the Kay family.
Barbara J. (Moore) Larkin
Friend
October 25, 2020
Joanne, Alex, Barrett and Jacob,

Peace and love to you and all your family during this sorrowful time.
Wishing you the peace that brings comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts.
Respectfully,
Jerry
Jerry LaPorte
Friend
October 25, 2020
Dear Jean, Roberta, Joanne and family.

So sorry for your loss. Bob was always with a smile on his face when I would see him.
My Thoughts and prayers are with you all

Deb Harrison
Debra Harrison
October 24, 2020
Think of you all. May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. A true gentleman.
Erin Casey
Neighbor
October 25, 2020
Offering our deepest condolences at this difficult time.
The Staff of Bellows-Falso Funeral Home
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