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Richard Wilbur Obituary

Judge Richard C. Wilbur
December 27, 2020
Sarasota, FL
It is with profound sadness that we announce the passing of our beloved brother, Richard Wilbur, of Sarasota, FL, formerly of Otisville, NY, on December 27, 2020. He passed peacefully at home, surrounded by his books and family he loved so much. Known to his relatives and friends as "Dick," he graduated from Otisville High School where his athletic ability helped the basketball team to three undefeated seasons, earning him a full scholarship to Manhattan College, playing in both the NIT and NCAA March Tournaments. In his senior year, he helped the team win one of the biggest NCAA upsets in college history by holding WV's Jerry West to 11 points. He was admitted to Manhattan College's Athletic Hall of Fame in 2003. While at Manhattan, he developed a passion for books and learning, graduating with honors. He decided to attend Notre Dame Law School, finishing first in the freshman class academically, earning a full scholarship. He graduated third in his class, and was a member of the Law Review. Subsequently, he was a Congressional Fellow for an academic year at the Kennedy School of Government at Harvard University.
Inspired by JFK's 1961 Inaugural Address, A Summons to Service, and the line, "ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country," he accepted a position in Washington, DC in the Chief Counsel's Office of the IRS until 1966. From there he served as Minority Counsel on the Ways and Means Committee in the House of Representatives under Congressman Wilbur Mills until 1974. He worked on major legislation in the areas of Tax, Trade, Social Security, welfare reform, and enactment of Medicare and Medicaid. He was appointed to the U.S. Tax Court by President Nixon in 1974, but severe back problems forced him to retire in 1986 on disability at age 51, halting his long term goal after retirement of returning to Harvard to teach at the law school.
His physical strength diminished over the years, but his strength of character, his humility, his kindness, his generosity, his devotion to helping those in need, his love for family, and learning never diminished. He enjoyed philosophy, politics, DVD courses by The Teaching Company, and he loved poetry. In 2014 he published a book titled, Just below the Surface: Poems Uncovering the Puzzles of Life and Honoring the Joy of Family. In a poem titled "Otisville" he wrote, "Where the young were taught of God above, and lines of class were blurred by love."
He is survived by his devoted wife, Jean; his son, Carl and daughter, Shelley; five grandchildren; his brothers, Darryl and John; and sisters, Sharon, Sheila, Donna, and Jean. Richard will join his parents, Edwin and Rosemary, in heaven. He will also be reunited in heaven with his older brother, Perry, and younger brother, Wayne.
Donations in his memory may be made to Friends of the Otisville School, 21 School Street, Otisville, NY 10963. Due to the Pandemic, a memorial service will be held next summer on a date and place to be announced.

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Published by Times Herald-Record from Jan. 2 to Jan. 3, 2021.

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Dolores Ann Hill

December 28, 2022

Judge Richard C. Wilbur was, and still is, a very special individual who was so loved and thought of by so many people. I can remember so many stories of my secretarial work with him. They are still in my memory. Because of his brilliance and everything he taught me when I was his secretary, the positions I gained after he left the Court were Blessed by all I learned from him.
I have the book he wrote "Just Below the Surface," and read passages from it when I feel I need to put some smiles on my face. "The Joy of Family" is very special in my heart. A sentence written by someone, which appears on the back of his book, gives me so much love. It reads "Wilbur believes poetry is incurably infected with the events of life, and no events are as central to human happiness as love and family." I know that God has always provided us with this happiness.
May the love of God be with his family forever and ever. As Judge Wilbur looks down from heaven, I know that his beautiful smile is there for family and friends.

Dolores Hill

Dolores A Hill

February 22, 2021

I just now learned of the death of former Tax Court Judge Richard C. Wilbur. I was his secretary when he was appointed to the Court. To this day, I have always remembered him as an individual with so much kindness, and a man whose brain was way beyond smart. He was totally respected by every individual on the Court. Everyone felt such a loss when he had to retire because of his medical issues. To Jean, Carl and Shelley, I still remember all of you and I would like to express my sincere sadness to hear of his death. As God will always be with him in heaven, all of us on earth will keep him in our prayers. May God Bless all of you.

Terry Ihnat

January 12, 2021

On behalf of John Francis Clausmans family aka Moke a childhood friend of Dicks our family sends our deepest condolences on the loss of your Husband , father, brother. When our Dad passed away in 1997 Mr. Wilbur wrote the most beautiful article about his friendship with our father. Something we will treasure our whole lives. His words so kind and eloquent. We are hoping they are reunited on a warm basketball court having a one on one. And that together they are once again tearing up that court. Rest In Peace Mr. Wilbur we are sure our Dad met you at the gates. Much love, The Clausman Family

Alan Cathcart

January 5, 2021

I knew Judge Wilbur when he was a new member of the Tax Court and I clerked for another judge. Although we were not close, I had occasion to talk with him about cases, and appreciated his intelligence, his judgment, and his openness. I felt then he was destined to be one of the great judges of the court. I was saddened when he was forced by health issues to retire, but now I am learning about his great success as a writer in "retirement". Life takes strange turns, but I don't doubt that his contribution to society as a poet was at least as great as his contribution as a lawyer and judge. Blessings on him and his family, until we meet again.

Jill Gruber

January 4, 2021

a donation was made to the Friends of Otisville School in Dick's honor. I am Donna Wilbur's sister in law (Jamie's Weiner's sister). My condolences to the entire Wilbur family. I never got to meet Dick but heard so much about him from family members.

Harold Ray Decker

January 4, 2021

1947. I came to Otisville Union Free School from a one room schoolhouse in Greenville. I was in Seventh grade , Dick was still "downstairs", in sixth grade. Among our teachers were his Aunt Ethyl Breen and his Uncle Sherman Wilbur, his success as a scholar had deep roots.
After High School, Dick worked summers with me at Otisville Training School, in the Recreation area. A truck was badly damaged by driving it under a ramp , the next day no one knew anything!
Years later I met Dick at a "Otisville Reunion" in Florida. Our English teacher, Janet Ford, (Miss La Rue), who lived In Clearwater, always knew what Dick was doing, she was very proud of her former student. I never told her who lifted her car up and placed metal milk crates under the axles so the wheels did not reach the pavement. I never knew a teacher used such words!
In Florida, we kept in touch and when I was to attend an Archaeological meeting near Sarasota, Dick invited me to stay at his home. I met Jean and saw how she helped him regain his ability to walk. Dick gave me a copy of his book.
I sent Dick an e mail before Christmas, he answered in kind.
I know this is too long but it has been a long time.
My condolences to Jean and all of the Wilbur family.
I am known as Ray Decker, actually my middle name.

Harold R. Decker

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