Carl Hungerford
1980 - 2018
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Carl Hungerford

July 27, 1980 - August 8, 2018

Carl Robert Vogt Hungerford, son, brother, husband, and friend, died at the young age of 38. While most of his life was filled with happiness, over the last few months he was suffering and, sadly, on Wednesday, August 8, 2018, Carl ended his life. All who knew Carl remember his brilliant intellect and kind nature. He was admired for his wry sense of humor, infectious laugh, great hair, and twinkling blue eyes. Carl was polite, humble and gracious. His friendships were loyal and solid; his close friends became family.

Carl was born on July 27, 1980, at Marin General Hospital and grew up in Ross, California. When Carl was sixteen months old, his sister, Laura, was born, so Carl learned early to be sweet and gentle, caring and loving, and protective. Carl graduated from Ross School and Branson School and spent his sophomore year at Leys School in Cambridge, England. He was intellectually curious and excelled in all subjects, earning awards in speech and debate tournaments, math competitions, and science. Carl earned his B.A. in Political Science from Yale University and his M.A. in Organizational Behavior from the London School of Economics. Carl was an enthusiastic student of the world and traveled extensively. He was especially interested in global culture, politics, and economics, never afraid of a friendly debate, always pulling from his extensive repertoire of facts.

Carl's earliest career was in alternative energy. Eventually, his interest in helping people more directly inspired Carl to pursue his M.S. in Nursing from Georgetown University. He moved to DC with his partner, Andy, and following graduation he worked in Cardiac Care at Washington Hospital Center. Carl developed an interest in palliative care and returned to the Bay Area where he and Andy were married in 2015. For the last five years Carl worked with Hospice By The Bay. He was highly skilled and dedicated to his profession; his gift was caring ardently about his hospice patients and advocating passionately for their needs and wishes.

Carl was compassionate and thoughtful, witty and humorous, universally respected and trusted. He was nourished by nature. His favorite outings included walking and hiking with friends followed by a meal with lively conversation. Carl was constantly exploring new interests and took cooking classes, earned his bartending license, tutored SAT students, volunteered at Maitri Compassionate Care, and served on the board of his condominium association. In 2008, Carl wrote a book entitled "Finding the Middle, A Comprensive Non-Partisan Guide to American Politics Today". He loved listening to NPR's Fresh Air and Bloggingheads.tv.

Carl treasured every summer in Montana at his family's vacation home on Flathead Lake, swimming, paddle boarding, and exploring Wild Horse Island. He loved driving the boat, picking cherries, wake boarding, and talking late at night under the Big Sky stars with a stick over the bonfire roasting marshmallows for s'mores.

Carl may have left our physical world but will never leave our hearts. He leaves behind husband Andrew Dvorak, devoted rescue jackawawa Pattie, mother Katy and her husband Francis McGovern, sister Laura Hungerford McNealey (Alex), other siblings Henry McGovern (Michelle), Elizabeth Brann (Michael), Clare Lewis (Chris) as well as other loving family. Carl was preceded in death by his father Mark Calvin Hungerford, in 2005.

There will be a private family graveside service at Fernwood Cemetery. September 22 in San Francisco there will be an "Out of the Darkness Walk to Fight Suicide". Friends are invited to join us on September 23 at 2pm at the Marin Art and Garden Center in Ross for a Celebration of Carl's Life. His family is establishing an Endowment in Carl's honor at the Marin Art and Garden Center. If you would like to honor his memory, contributions can be made to the Carl Hungerford Lecture Series at MAGC; the address is Marin Art and Garden Center, Box 437, Ross California 94957.
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Published in San Francisco Chronicle from Aug. 24 to Aug. 26, 2018.
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August 6, 2019
I thought of Carl today, I came here and realized it has been almost a year since his passing. I wanted to let his family and friends know that his light continues on in more hearts than you can likely imagine. For a few years in Cole Valley I lived in the apartment above Carl. It was easy to see he was brilliant, kind, an old soul and a thoughtful person at first glance. He spent more time with my roommates than he did with me, but his presence left a forever imprint on my heart.
Emily J
March 3, 2019
I worked with Carl at Washington Hospital Center. Carl always said that you never knew what you were walking into when you started your shift there, but I always knew when Carl was on the schedule with me, it was going to be a good night. He is absolutely one of my favorite coworkers ever. He had such a beautiful soul, and he was a phenomenal nurse. My heart continues to be broken that his light isn't here to warm us, but I have nothing but fond memories of him.
Jennifer Anderson
September 23, 2018
So sorry to hear of Carl's passing. My thoughts and love go out to the family.
The Leathers Family
Jennifer Leathers
September 13, 2018
Very sorry for your loss and grief; may the promise at John 6:40 give you comfort and peace.
September 1, 2018
I met Carl when I was working at Hospice by the Bay. He was one of my preceptors when I was new to Hospice. We went out together a couple of times. I was impressed with the way Carl interacted with everyone we met. He graciously took me to his home during a workday for a brief visit. I learned a lot about him. He taught me a lot about Hospice Nursing which I will be forever grateful for.I was so sorry to hear he chose to end his life. I lost my father to suicide. My condolences to his family.
August 31, 2018
Carl is never to be forgotten. A beautiful soul.
I didn't know him after reading about him, I wish I did.
Because of what I read about him, I will share my love a little more❤
August 30, 2018
Carl was an amazing person with a heart filled with so much compassion for others. He will be dearly missed. I always admired his passion for his work and his loving relationship that he shared with Andy. There was so much love between them. I am blessed to have known him. Rest peacefully. May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
cindy
August 28, 2018
Carl touched so many lives. He was my
husband's Hospice nurse in 2015. Carl
was always upbeat, caring and informative.

We always looked forward to his visits
and even shared laughs with him at times.

My heart goes out to his loved ones.

Heaven has a new and very special angel.

Beth Kuthe, Novato, CA.
August 28, 2018
Most touching obituary I've ever read. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Joe Azevedo
August 28, 2018
I am heartbroken and along with all of Carl's family, friends, and community, I'm grieving terribly. Carl radiated love and compassion and showed me in many ways, "how" to be in the presence of those that need us most.
Marc North
August 27, 2018
Carl was one of my dearest friends, and I miss him every day, but I'm also grateful to have had such a remarkable person as a friend. He was more than a friend, really; he became like a brother to me. Carl was the type of person who was always so available to people around him - to listen to their stories, to help them through their difficulties. Through our friendship, I believe that I also became a better person, and while Carl is no longer with us, I know his friendship will forever have an impact on me. He was a bright, shining light, providing love and care to all those who crossed his path. He will always be in my heart.
Christina Vo
August 27, 2018
I am absolutely saddened and heartbroken over Carl's passing. We met back in 2004 when he was here in Philadelphia right before he started at Yale. Carl was a great guy and a devoted friend. We kept up our friendship through the years and always found time to catch up no matter the location. I'm in a state of shock and trying to come to terms with his passing. I'm sending condolences to his family and his partner Andrew.
Robert Hartsell
August 27, 2018
Carl and I worked together for a short while several years ago, and I deeply appreciated his thoughtfulness and intellect. I am so very sorry to hear of his passing. I send love and healing thoughts to his family and friends.
Jenna C.
August 27, 2018
With deepest sympathy on loss of your love one. May it bring comfort you to know that he will return to the days of his youthful vigor as promised at Job 33:25.
Melissa Pioneer
August 27, 2018
I only met Carl once or twice but in reading all these wonderful stories about him he sure sounds like someone I wish I had gotten to know better. What an amazing individual. I believe that everyone that was able to have this person in their life even for a short time feels so blessed. His birthday is one day after my own sons birthday.
My heart goes out to his entire family and friends. I am saying prayers for his husband Andy. I don't know what you are going through but I know that this good person will always be near you and I pray that you will always feel his presence. I am sure Carl will do as good in heaven to help people as he did on earth. Another star is shinning bright now.
Terri Pearce
August 26, 2018
As a young boy, Carl once told me that my deceased husband was in the light. Maybe that's because Carl, almost more than anyone I have known, was light, and is light in every way. He brought illumination in the form of his sweet smile, gentle humor, dear heart and bright mind. Mostly he brought it through love. Dear Carl, I hope that your light will always expand, we hold you in our hearts, and I will never forget you, my dear one.
Susan Pascal Beran
August 26, 2018
As Carl's co-worker and fellow Hospice nurse, I was inspired by his kindness, intellect, and compassion. There are not nearly enough adjectives to describe the truly amazing, wonderful human being he was. I hope to honor Carl's life in the way I live mine. My thoughts, love, and prayers go to Andy, Carl's family, friends and co-workers. I miss you so much, Carl.
Vanessa Tompkins
August 26, 2018
Carl was my dads nurse during his hospice. I thought Carl was such a good guy really liked him. I was so grateful how he cared and interacted with my dad and was such a truly giving person. My dad graduated from hospice so we know longer needed his care. My sister knew him better as they live nearby. They are heartbroken.so sorry for his husband and family for their loss. Thank you Carl!
Debbie
August 26, 2018
What a loss of a beautiful human being! I'm so sorry, Katie, Laura, Andrew, and wider family. I didn't know Carl personally, but I'll always remember his receiving the highest honors at the Ross School graduation.
Alison Quoyeser
August 26, 2018
Dear Katy and Family,
I have so many fond memories of a young Carl at Ross School. I marveled to read of his many accomplishments as an adult, but was surprised by none of them. As a young boy, you could already sense the impactful adult he would become. He was a warm and caring friend, a more than capable student, and an absolute joy to have in the classroom! I feel privileged to have played a small part in his life.
My thoughts are with all of Carl's family.
Fondly,
Kathy Frank
Kathy Frank
August 25, 2018
I am so sorry to Carl's friends and family. I met Carl in nursing school.
He was a wonderful person. I hope all who loved him will get through these rough times with an angel on their shoulder.
Barbara Elwell
August 25, 2018
My heart is broken but I know that God is comforting his pains and he is happy. God bless you Carl! My love and prayers go out to Andrew and Carl's family and friends. RIP. Enjoy God's love!
Paolo Vento
August 25, 2018
My heart goes out to all who loved Carl. I only knew him a few years but he touched my heart the minute I met him. To care for hospice patients I knew he had to be loving and kind. When Andy's mom Mary and I stayed with Carl and
Andy I really got to know him well. He would come home from work and we would talk about the kind of work he was doing. I knew he was amazing. My heart is broken. Cry as much as you want to and heal when your heart tells you to. Remember we never lose a loved one... God is keeping him safe until we are together again.
Mary Jo Grossi
August 25, 2018
Hello,

I'm sorry I never met your son but I extend my condolences. My daughter also ended her life in 2012. I am also a member of this
very heartbreaking family of survivors.
The journey you now face is long and hard. Filled with questions, guilt, unresolved issues, etc.

Know this young man was in deep pain... pain no one could fix on this earth. Love his memory
August 25, 2018
I love you and miss you so much, Carl. Thank you for being.
Andrew Dvorak
August 25, 2018
Carl was my father's hospice nurse a few years ago. He was amazingly patient and kind with my very difficult dad in the late stages of Alzheimers. He was critical to helping manage our relationship with an ever-changing staff at dad's assisted living facility. I grew quite fond of him in the short time I knew him and am sorry to hear he has ended his life. My deepest condolences to Carl's family. Kathleen Gaines
Kathleen Gaines
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